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I'm taller than Bob. Neither of us has an issue with this. Tonight some kids got very lippy walking down a deserted street behind us. To the tune "she's too tall", "her legs are too long", "the guy is supposed to be taller".
I turned around and confronted them. The two who answered me seemed embarrassed, and a bit scared by the confrontation.
Bob thinks I was too harsh and should have left them off. They were teenage boys. I have zero sympathy and zero tolerance for gobby boys acting the hard lad. (Yes, I'm cueing the jokes for my hard lad tolerance I know!).
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By *oserMan 28 weeks ago
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"I'm taller than Bob. Neither of us has an issue with this. Tonight some kids got very lippy walking down a deserted street behind us. To the tune "she's too tall", "her legs are too long", "the guy is supposed to be taller".
I turned around and confronted them. The two who answered me seemed embarrassed, and a bit scared by the confrontation.
Bob thinks I was too harsh and should have left them off. They were teenage boys. I have zero sympathy and zero tolerance for gobby boys acting the hard lad. (Yes, I'm cueing the jokes for my hard lad tolerance I know!).
What would you have done in this situation? "
You sound like someone I'd look up to   |
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By *ubDMan 28 weeks ago
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"I'm taller than Bob. Neither of us has an issue with this. Tonight some kids got very lippy walking down a deserted street behind us. To the tune "she's too tall", "her legs are too long", "the guy is supposed to be taller".
I turned around and confronted them. The two who answered me seemed embarrassed, and a bit scared by the confrontation.
Bob thinks I was too harsh and should have left them off. They were teenage boys. I have zero sympathy and zero tolerance for gobby boys acting the hard lad. (Yes, I'm cueing the jokes for my hard lad tolerance I know!).
What would you have done in this situation? "
Well done I say.
Cant be letting them get away with that shit. I know if it was mine I'd want them confronted for their nonsense. Have a bit of respect.
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I'd be wary of the confrontation if you don't know who they, it's a sad reality. It may be that they'd be less likely to kick off at you that your fella but they could be d up and all bets would be off. |
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Interesting to see the different perspectives all, thanks for sharing. I wouldn't change a thing in how i handled it. I won't be intimidated by teenage boys and personally don't think they benefit from being tiptoed around. Each to their own of course! |
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"I'm taller than Bob. Neither of us has an issue with this. Tonight some kids got very lippy walking down a deserted street behind us. To the tune "she's too tall", "her legs are too long", "the guy is supposed to be taller".
I turned around and confronted them. The two who answered me seemed embarrassed, and a bit scared by the confrontation.
Bob thinks I was too harsh and should have left them off. They were teenage boys. I have zero sympathy and zero tolerance for gobby boys acting the hard lad. (Yes, I'm cueing the jokes for my hard lad tolerance I know!).
What would you have done in this situation?
You sound like someone I'd look up to "
@Yoser
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By *acDeMan 28 weeks ago
Castledermot |
You could end up giving teenager a clip on the jaw and next thing you're in a lot of bother. You'd love nothing more than to give them the best kick in the arse they ever got but these little fuckers know the score and would only love watching the guards take you off. World we live in I'm afraid. |
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By *eturning MGMan 28 weeks ago
Mayo, Roscommon, Galway, Leitrim, Sligo....West Of Ireland |
For the sake of a little pride id keep walking. You dont know them or what their capable off. A quite street, late at night, group of young males... how many similar stories have we read in the paper. Like most little scrotes the chances are high one if them is carrying a blade of not more.. And if things do turn violent most of it will be taken out on the male. A lot of similar stories didnt end so well. So personally and sadly in today society id prefer if everyone stays quiet. More important to get home safe. Just my opinion. |
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"For the sake of a little pride id keep walking. You dont know them or what their capable off. A quite street, late at night, group of young males... how many similar stories have we read in the paper. Like most little scrotes the chances are high one if them is carrying a blade of not more.. And if things do turn violent most of it will be taken out on the male. A lot of similar stories didnt end so well. So personally and sadly in today society id prefer if everyone stays quiet. More important to get home safe. Just my opinion."
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I definitely wouldn't take the risk. You can't put manners on dickheads. If their parents couldn't be arsed why should you. |
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By *oserMan 28 weeks ago
where the wild roses grow |
"I'm taller than Bob. Neither of us has an issue with this. Tonight some kids got very lippy walking down a deserted street behind us. To the tune "she's too tall", "her legs are too long", "the guy is supposed to be taller".
I turned around and confronted them. The two who answered me seemed embarrassed, and a bit scared by the confrontation.
Bob thinks I was too harsh and should have left them off. They were teenage boys. I have zero sympathy and zero tolerance for gobby boys acting the hard lad. (Yes, I'm cueing the jokes for my hard lad tolerance I know!).
What would you have done in this situation?
You sound like someone I'd look up to
@Yoser
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You were not all harsh , they were the harsh and stupid ones.
But was it wise to do that depends on situation , teens are sadly u predictable and they sometimes provoke you to react and then makes the all situation violent.
Use to experience it a lot but hands offs to you for standing up ♥️ |
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Has group of lads try embarrassing me by saying one of their friends fancied me. I told them have kids older than them. They got on bus I was getting on and the guy who started it asked if could sit with me. The girls with them said i must be enjoying the attention. I grabbed the young lads face and kissed his cheek and told him to fuck off. Was left alone. But another lad got on the bus and said your kissing kids,all teenagers my reply was he asked for it. But no one bothered me or said anything when I got off at my stop. |
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By (user no longer on site) 28 weeks ago
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Someone once said: Don't take criticism from someone you wouldn't take advice from.
I wouldn't have reacted. I would have kept walking.
But from a personal point of view, I wouldn't want someone fighting a battle for me when I couldn't care less. |
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I see there's some women here that will only meet tall guys, as in 5ft10+.
That's fair enough.
Gladly I don't have that issue.
Everyone has their preference and freedom of choice.
Honestly Op, I wouldn't give a fuck if the lady was taller or care if I was taunted by sneers.
Your the one with the taller lady and she loves you no matter what.
Just my opinion 🤗 |
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I think the setting is important. I would've done the same in my local town, but in Dublin (sorry dubs) I would've kept my mouth shut and kept walking. Could bring on more trouble than it's worth if carrying a blade. In general though too many gobby people and kids getting away insulting people like their commenting on Facebook and actually get quite embarrassed when their behaviour is called out. But as I said, the setting of any confrontation is very important. |
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The jump some people make from slightly mouthy teenagers to physically assaulting them is weird to me.
Teenagers have always had the ability of being loud and obnoxious in groups.
Confronting that with aggression and threats in my experience has never been the right call.
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By *oo32Man 28 weeks ago
tipperary |
You handled it the right way
Not saying anything leads them to believe that it's correct,some of the comments on here saying you don't know what would have happened..she confronted them and they seemed to shut up
They could have gotten jumped
A bit of a stretch...
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By *og-ManMan 28 weeks ago
somewhere |
"You did the right.
You should have kicked them in the balls.
All these teenagers acting the maggots because they know nothing is going to happen to them.
Not many beds in Oberstown."
Give one a kick in the balls and you'll both have the absolute shite kicked out of you ..so what if youre a woman ...just an easier target
Do you not read the newspapers to see what Dublin city center is like
And how many people have been badly injured or even killed by these scumbags
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By *eturning MGMan 28 weeks ago
Mayo, Roscommon, Galway, Leitrim, Sligo....West Of Ireland |
"You handled it the right way
Not saying anything leads them to believe that it's correct,some of the comments on here saying you don't know what would have happened..she confronted them and they seemed to shut up
They could have gotten jumped
A bit of a stretch...
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You think its a streach to say they could have been jumped??....really??? |
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By *oo32Man 28 weeks ago
tipperary |
"You handled it the right way
Not saying anything leads them to believe that it's correct,some of the comments on here saying you don't know what would have happened..she confronted them and they seemed to shut up
They could have gotten jumped
A bit of a stretch...
You think its a streach to say they could have been jumped??....really???"
Absolutely,the post said they were embarrassed even scared when she confronted them
So yes,I think it's a stretch to say they could have been jumped
Had she said they became aggressive when confronted then I would agree they could have been jumped
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By *eturning MGMan 28 weeks ago
Mayo, Roscommon, Galway, Leitrim, Sligo....West Of Ireland |
"You handled it the right way
Not saying anything leads them to believe that it's correct,some of the comments on here saying you don't know what would have happened..she confronted them and they seemed to shut up
They could have gotten jumped
A bit of a stretch...
You think its a streach to say they could have been jumped??....really???
Absolutely,the post said they were embarrassed even scared when she confronted them
So yes,I think it's a stretch to say they could have been jumped
Had she said they became aggressive when confronted then I would agree they could have been jumped
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I think you missing the point. How did she know how they would react?? Unless she has Nostradamus of course. There are countless stories nationwide of similar stories ending in violence and we only hear about the bad ones or fatal ones. Ireland is not the country is once was. Most groups of yound lad are tooled up and again no offence to dublin but how many stories do we hear of people amd tourists badly assaulted. So to think its a stretch is nieve to be honest. |
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"You did the right.
You should have kicked them in the balls.
All these teenagers acting the maggots because they know nothing is going to happen to them.
Not many beds in Oberstown."
We are going around kicking f teenagers in the balls for being a bit rude and making tall jokes?
The adults are suppose to be the mature ones in the situation |
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By *oo32Man 28 weeks ago
tipperary |
"You handled it the right way
Not saying anything leads them to believe that it's correct,some of the comments on here saying you don't know what would have happened..she confronted them and they seemed to shut up
They could have gotten jumped
A bit of a stretch...
You think its a streach to say they could have been jumped??....really???
Absolutely,the post said they were embarrassed even scared when she confronted them
So yes,I think it's a stretch to say they could have been jumped
Had she said they became aggressive when confronted then I would agree they could have been jumped
I think you missing the point. How did she know how they would react?? Unless she has Nostradamus of course. There are countless stories nationwide of similar stories ending in violence and we only hear about the bad ones or fatal ones. Ireland is not the country is once was. Most groups of yound lad are tooled up and again no offence to dublin but how many stories do we hear of people amd tourists badly assaulted. So to think its a stretch is nieve to be honest. "
What point...keep your mouth shut and seem like an easy target??absolutely confront them
Groups of youths with knives etc has def increased...
That doesn't mean every group has bad intentions
shootings beatings and loss of life have increased aswell
So it def isn't the country it once was
But I'd rather speak up and not be seen as an easy target |
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By (user no longer on site) 28 weeks ago
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As a Dub who has grown up in a mixed social class neighbourhood all my life, I've learnt to keep my mouth shut & don't make eye contact. Even in secondary school.
There is no way I would confront anyone like that in the street. You dont know who they are, what weapon they could be carrying. It sounds far fetched but in reality, anything could happen.
I dont feel its up to me to 'educate' ignorant people. I feel sorry for them but I'm not going to potentially put myself at risk for what I say to fall on deaf ears more than likely. |
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By *eturning MGMan 28 weeks ago
Mayo, Roscommon, Galway, Leitrim, Sligo....West Of Ireland |
"You handled it the right way
Not saying anything leads them to believe that it's correct,some of the comments on here saying you don't know what would have happened..she confronted them and they seemed to shut up
They could have gotten jumped
A bit of a stretch...
You think its a streach to say they could have been jumped??....really???
Absolutely,the post said they were embarrassed even scared when she confronted them
So yes,I think it's a stretch to say they could have been jumped
Had she said they became aggressive when confronted then I would agree they could have been jumped
I think you missing the point. How did she know how they would react?? Unless she has Nostradamus of course. There are countless stories nationwide of similar stories ending in violence and we only hear about the bad ones or fatal ones. Ireland is not the country is once was. Most groups of yound lad are tooled up and again no offence to dublin but how many stories do we hear of people amd tourists badly assaulted. So to think its a stretch is nieve to be honest.
What point...keep your mouth shut and seem like an easy target??absolutely confront them
Groups of youths with knives etc has def increased...
That doesn't mean every group has bad intentions
shootings beatings and loss of life have increased aswell
So it def isn't the country it once was
But I'd rather speak up and not be seen as an easy target"
But by walking away you may avoid being a target? By opening your mouth you might make yourself a target. Thats the whole point. Why take the risk. Cos a teenager dented an ego. |
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By *oo32Man 28 weeks ago
tipperary |
"You handled it the right way
Not saying anything leads them to believe that it's correct,some of the comments on here saying you don't know what would have happened..she confronted them and they seemed to shut up
They could have gotten jumped
A bit of a stretch...
You think its a streach to say they could have been jumped??....really???
Absolutely,the post said they were embarrassed even scared when she confronted them
So yes,I think it's a stretch to say they could have been jumped
Had she said they became aggressive when confronted then I would agree they could have been jumped
I think you missing the point. How did she know how they would react?? Unless she has Nostradamus of course. There are countless stories nationwide of similar stories ending in violence and we only hear about the bad ones or fatal ones. Ireland is not the country is once was. Most groups of yound lad are tooled up and again no offence to dublin but how many stories do we hear of people amd tourists badly assaulted. So to think its a stretch is nieve to be honest.
What point...keep your mouth shut and seem like an easy target??absolutely confront them
Groups of youths with knives etc has def increased...
That doesn't mean every group has bad intentions
shootings beatings and loss of life have increased aswell
So it def isn't the country it once was
But I'd rather speak up and not be seen as an easy target
But by walking away you may avoid being a target? By opening your mouth you might make yourself a target. Thats the whole point. Why take the risk. Cos a teenager dented an ego."
Absolutely fair enough |
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Inexperience, would miss out on a lovely girl just because she is taller than me. I'm 6ft2, and still wouldn't turn me off if she was taller. People just like to give opinions on other people's life's, needs to stop. I think you were right to tell them off, pitty you can't give them a slap. People would have a lot more cop on then hahaha. True relationships date out of love, connections, not over status, numbers, finances. |
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"You handled it the right way
Not saying anything leads them to believe that it's correct,some of the comments on here saying you don't know what would have happened..she confronted them and they seemed to shut up
They could have gotten jumped
A bit of a stretch...
You think its a streach to say they could have been jumped??....really???
Absolutely,the post said they were embarrassed even scared when she confronted them
So yes,I think it's a stretch to say they could have been jumped
Had she said they became aggressive when confronted then I would agree they could have been jumped
I think you missing the point. How did she know how they would react?? Unless she has Nostradamus of course. There are countless stories nationwide of similar stories ending in violence and we only hear about the bad ones or fatal ones. Ireland is not the country is once was. Most groups of yound lad are tooled up and again no offence to dublin but how many stories do we hear of people amd tourists badly assaulted. So to think its a stretch is nieve to be honest.
What point...keep your mouth shut and seem like an easy target??absolutely confront them
Groups of youths with knives etc has def increased...
That doesn't mean every group has bad intentions
shootings beatings and loss of life have increased aswell
So it def isn't the country it once was
But I'd rather speak up and not be seen as an easy target"
I didnt expect such a stir from this post! I have to agree with this though & not being seen as an "easy target" as I'm female.
I also don't rely on Bob to defend me, and he doesnt need me to fight his corner either. He didnt even hear what they said!
Kids running lippy online as someone mentioned earlier, may mean they think there is no reprecussion. Young girls could be their next target. Maybe me standing up to them, will make them pause next time.
Just to clarify - Claire here and it was me doing all the talking. I didnt loose my temper and it wasn't in Dublin.
Any time I've had to stand up to lads in the past, they have backed down. I dont believe it's luck. Yes, there are some bad ones out there (girls too), but the majority are just lippy and showing off to others. I'd 100% do the same again.
Thanks for all the insights and opinions guys and girls, very interesting to see the different perspectives!
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"Inexperience, would miss out on a lovely girl just because she is taller than me. I'm 6ft2, and still wouldn't turn me off if she was taller. People just like to give opinions on other people's life's, needs to stop. I think you were right to tell them off, pitty you can't give them a slap. People would have a lot more cop on then hahaha. True relationships date out of love, connections, not over status, numbers, finances. "
Sorry, reading other posts, they are right about walking away, you never know now days which is sad. People don't have empathy anymore. Like that poor young lad in kildare recently. New generation doesn't value life, and it's largely due to their upbringing. Like I said, a slap didn't do me any harm growing up, I learned respect |
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"You did the right.
You should have kicked them in the balls.
All these teenagers acting the maggots because they know nothing is going to happen to them.
Not many beds in Oberstown.
Give one a kick in the balls and you'll both have the absolute shite kicked out of you ..so what if youre a woman ...just an easier target
Do you not read the newspapers to see what Dublin city center is like
And how many people have been badly injured or even killed by these scumbags
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I am well aware what is happening in Dublin or other parts of the country with some teenagers. Perhaps my wording was not the best. I understand how vulnerable ladies are walking home at night. These young teenagers are getting away with murder.
The young girl who was pushed under the Dart. Their solicitor said he would sue if Cie showed the video.
Some of these teenagers are not even suitable for the garda youth divisions programme. The Dept of defence had proposed to set up a similar programme but more on physical exercises etc.
The youth justice workers do great work with these teenagers. There is only so much the YJW can do.
The American tourist who was attacked by 3 lads. Can't recall if they got locked up or not but the minister of justice of the day said Dublin is safe as she walked around with 20 plus guards.
I just think it is terrible what is happening in Dublin with these lads. They go to court and get free legal aid. The courts service closed the children court in Dun laoghaire and Sword and they all are in Children court Smithfield. Sharing info.
I think in some incidents a heavy hand detention, fines that the parents have to pay would wake them up.
My parents are from inner city Dublin. Don't know what causes this covid lack of school attendance, Internet or drug gang paying these lads 500 euros to drop a bag of drugs somewhere.
Maybe if we meet at a social we can chat further about this.
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It's an in the moment thing! I'm shorter than him but i have decades of kick boxing behind me so if needed i can kick a guys ass. I'd probably have to tug him along to not go and flattenen them all. But if they attacked us then I'm not sure either of would hold back at all. |
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"I probably would have turned to Bob given him a big snog and kept walking 😁
That's from another tall girl 😉
B x"
Nice Beija! I like this approach and it's not one that would have struck me, one for me to keep in mind for future! C. Xx |
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"It's an in the moment thing! I'm shorter than him but i have decades of kick boxing behind me so if needed i can kick a guys ass. I'd probably have to tug him along to not go and flattenen them all. But if they attacked us then I'm not sure either of would hold back at all. "
Your confidence shines through this, class to see! We may be cut from similar cloth re kickboxing in the past, I don't have the depth of years you have though, but what a sport for fitness and strength! X |
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"I'm taller than Bob. Neither of us has an issue with this. Tonight some kids got very lippy walking down a deserted street behind us. To the tune "she's too tall", "her legs are too long", "the guy is supposed to be taller".
I turned around and confronted them. The two who answered me seemed embarrassed, and a bit scared by the confrontation.
Bob thinks I was too harsh and should have left them off. They were teenage boys. I have zero sympathy and zero tolerance for gobby boys acting the hard lad. (Yes, I'm cueing the jokes for my hard lad tolerance I know!).
What would you have done in this situation? "
In principle I agree with you however in practice I probably would have ignored them as things could have gotten nasty |
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"I'm taller than Bob. Neither of us has an issue with this. Tonight some kids got very lippy walking down a deserted street behind us. To the tune "she's too tall", "her legs are too long", "the guy is supposed to be taller".
I turned around and confronted them. The two who answered me seemed embarrassed, and a bit scared by the confrontation.
Bob thinks I was too harsh and should have left them off. They were teenage boys. I have zero sympathy and zero tolerance for gobby boys acting the hard lad. (Yes, I'm cueing the jokes for my hard lad tolerance I know!).
What would you have done in this situation?
You sound like someone I'd look up to "
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Yeah, we get strange looks from some ppl when they see us together, but we just giggle.
One of us is a whole person taller than the other!
Yep, she’s tiny, and another plus, she also has tiny hands! (I always wanted a huge cock, now I do!) 🤩 |
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By *ol_ieMan 28 weeks ago
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"Yeah, we get strange looks from some ppl when they see us together, but we just giggle.
One of us is a whole person taller than the other!
Yep, she’s tiny, and another plus, she also has tiny hands! (I always wanted a huge cock, now I do!) 🤩"
She is small but perfectly formed,..
The original pocket rocket |
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I wouldn't engage with them. Strange street, dark, a group of them. And of course ,they might be children, a whole different issue.
I'd choose my battles, but best to walk away from this situation. Glad it worked out ok for you both. |
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"Yeah, we get strange looks from some ppl when they see us together, but we just giggle.
One of us is a whole person taller than the other!
Yep, she’s tiny, and another plus, she also has tiny hands! (I always wanted a huge cock, now I do!) 🤩
She is small but perfectly formed,..
The original pocket rocket "
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