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By (user no longer on site) OP 20 weeks ago
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I'm such an introvert. Getting stuff coming up on my IG for what an introvert really is thinking 😏 I can 100% relate.
Half the time, I'd just rather stay at home than go out and socialise. I find it exhausting.
I have to be on top form to go out and enjoy big group gatherings. Then add my chemo on top of that and it makes the thoughts of going out next to unimaginable 😅
Anyone else an introvert and struggle with the thoughts of actually leaving the house to speak to people?
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By (user no longer on site) OP 20 weeks ago
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"I'm good for about an hour socially then I'm looking for the quietest way to leave, go home and face plant my pillow "
I've done the Irish Goodbye so many times! I literally hit my social capacity then I want to be at home ASAP.
Doesn't help in finding a BF though! It helps to be chatty sometimes 😏
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By (user no longer on site) OP 20 weeks ago
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"Probably part of the reason I'm single haha"
Me too. Its difficult to navigate isnt it? I like quiet people over loud brash people.
For me anyway, its ok if its one on one chat. I find group chat settings tiring. |
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By (user no longer on site) 20 weeks ago
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"Probably part of the reason I'm single haha
Me too. Its difficult to navigate isnt it? I like quiet people over loud brash people.
For me anyway, its ok if its one on one chat. I find group chat settings tiring. "
One on one isn't too bad if its someone quiet or tame haha, if its a group I'm mentally checked out and planning an escape |
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By *oradMan 20 weeks ago
South Central Dublin |
Same. Think Im good company one on one if the person opposite is conversationally minded, but lost in bigger groups.
That odd mix of being happy to speak in front of 200ppl professionally, but quiet ina group of ten. Yet crave social interaction... |
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By *aitlynTSTV/TS 20 weeks ago
Cork city outskirts |
I can absolutely relate to that. Especially bigger gatherings of people at a social event drains my social battery in no time. I very much prefer smaller groups of people where I feel like I can actually contribute to the conversation and not just barely keep up. Being neuro spicy doesn't help that either  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 20 weeks ago
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"How about we start a telegram group for introverts where nobody chats and arrange social events that we all have something on that day and can't attend 🤣"
😂😂 marvellous idea. We will all be secretly delighted when 1 person cancels so we dont have to go out. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 20 weeks ago
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That odd mix of being happy to speak in front of 200ppl professionally, but quiet ina group of ten. Yet crave social interaction..."
Yep. Totally related to that. I do love chatting to people & Im wayyyyy better than I used to be. But I have to be in a certain mood to do it. If I'm not, I wont last long & cursing myself for even going out in the 1st place 🤦♀️
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By (user no longer on site) OP 20 weeks ago
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"I love working weekend shifts so I have a stone wall reason to not go to parties, weddings etc.
I'm so introverted that chat groups overwhelm me  "
Me too. I dont really engage in chat groups. People must think I'm a snotty cow.
I think this is why I have never gotten chatted up much. I feel like I have a resting b!tch face but I am just uncomfortable with chatting & make a complete tit of myself 🤦♀️☺️
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By (user no longer on site) OP 20 weeks ago
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"If you are someone how is comfortable sitting in silence it really shows when others around try fill that silence...
They need to chill "
Each to their own. If they want to jabber away, I'm more than happy to sit in my silence.
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By *rnicaMan 20 weeks ago
Cork, Kerry, Waterford and surrounds |
I'm an Ambivert. I'm neither an introvert nor an extrovert but sit somewhere along the continuum between both extremes. Also neurospicey.
I get really energized in the right company and can enter a kind of flow state socially in the right environment. Love meeting new people but prefer one-on-one or small group settings over huge crowds. If it's not the right company though, I tend to tune out completely and can be mistaken for introverted.
The flip side is I can also feel drained and need to retreat afterward. Not in a self-isolating way though, more spending quality alone time with myself getting out of my brain and back into my body.
It's a bit like having two different batteries, one acid and one alkaline. They both need charging but require separate charges.
Overcharging one will shortcircuit the other!  |
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By (user no longer on site) 20 weeks ago
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"I love working weekend shifts so I have a stone wall reason to not go to parties, weddings etc.
I'm so introverted that chat groups overwhelm me
Me too. I dont really engage in chat groups. People must think I'm a snotty cow.
I think this is why I have never gotten chatted up much. I feel like I have a resting b!tch face but I am just uncomfortable with chatting & make a complete tit of myself 🤦♀️☺️
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Although I'm quite sociable when the time and place is right, I do feel like I have that don't approach me face on when I'm out and about doing things like shopping.
I have a friend who is the same as me. We've been friends since primary school. We've shared things with each other that we've never shared with anyone else. Yet, to this day, if we pass each other on the street we just give each other a nod and go about our business  |
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By *ustBoWoman 20 weeks ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
I am quite introverted and am happy enough in my own company a lot if the time.
I am good in work and can deal with people but outside of work I just prefer peace and quiet.
When I'm comfortable with people I'll chat away, but in a group setting when I don't know people well I tend to just stay quiet. It's probably one of the reasons I don't enjoy large socials. In fact if I hadn't arranged to go with someone I would more than likely stayed at home at times.
It's just the way I am, and I am more than happy being more introverted than being an extrovert especially the older I get. When I was younger I wished I was more outgoing but now I am happy with who I am. |
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By *td123Woman 20 weeks ago
Dublin |
I'm an introvert who is bricking it walking into every single meet and event I go to.
I can be very social if I'm in the right mood and with fun people but then I need to decompress for days.
I am a terrible texter and not great in group chats unless I know a few people personally. I overtook everything! |
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i would probably be considered extroverted. It just depends on the situation. Himself is an introvert and would probably identify with a lot of things highlighted here. Small talk isnt his thing whereas ill chat about pure shite for hours. Large social gatherings are draining for him also. |
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By *hay2000Man 20 weeks ago
Mullingar Longford |
Reading the comments here makes interesting reading. I thought I was the only one that felt that way. Introvert guy here who just likes to keep to himself
Even though I have a busy enough lifestyle. I like to retreat into myself. But seemingly there are plenty out there like me too
Really good thread |
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Yes definitely introver, home bird, prefer my own company and very comfortable with that. Don't like bars, clubs and messy d*unken situations. That probably why I prefer one on one morning time sober coffee meeting or morning intimate playful fun. |
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I definitely wasn't for a very long time. Lived for the weekend and nights out but the older I get the less having to interact with groups of people appeals to me unless everyone there has similar interests. Of course family commitments and other factors change throughout our lives and so too does the importance of socialising. |
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"Thanks for all the replies.
All us introverts should set up a social! Wonder how that would go? 😂
You could do it on Zoom
Camera off, mute on"
😂😂😂
Can't see anyone, can't hear anyone but can feel their presence. |
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Yep I am an introvert too, I do find 1 on 1 but in crowds I just don't seem to fit in or feel comfortable trying to fit in. I have never liked nightclubs, never liked the music but always hated the overcrowding. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 20 weeks ago
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"Me too
No more than 5or6 in a group setting for me .
Don't enjoy party's any more.
But I do like a good natter though
Especially 1to1"
Same as me. Once I am comfortable with someone, could talk for hours. That however is a recipe left up to the God's 😏
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By (user no longer on site) OP 20 weeks ago
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"Reading the comments here makes interesting reading. I thought I was the only one that felt that way. Introvert guy here who just likes to keep to himself
Even though I have a busy enough lifestyle. I like to retreat into myself. But seemingly there are plenty out there like me too
Really good thread "
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By (user no longer on site) OP 20 weeks ago
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I had 2 gal pals over with my this morning for a catch up. I prefer more than just myself and one other person. The 3rd person acts as a buffer for me and I dont have to do all the talking.
Then I went out with my twin sis for a drink or 2.
I'm all talked out today therefore 😅 I mean my twin sis is different to talking to other people naturally. So not as much 'energy' is required to talk to her.
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By (user no longer on site) 20 weeks ago
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Even at work I'd rather do my job than talk to people.. even in a comfortable zone.. there are even times I'd stay silent.. my social meter is always down .. hahah |
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By *eturning MGMan 20 weeks ago
Mayo, Roscommon, Galway, Leitrim, Sligo....West Of Ireland |
Im an introvert/extrovert.
Happy out in my own company, sometimes avoid interaction and delighted to be alone. But then when im out.... im out and will drain every inch of craic out of a night. |
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Reading this and thinking that there's more than me so that's like this. Happy out going out on my own but it's great meeting others and mingling too for a little bit. But definitely can be the silent bob in a group if theres too many around. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 19 weeks ago
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"Im an introvert/extrovert.
Happy out in my own company, sometimes avoid interaction and delighted to be alone. But then when im out.... im out and will drain every inch of craic out of a night. "
I've a friend like that. Even when she was 8mnths pregnant, she was the one wanting to stay out. Mad woman!
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By (user no longer on site) 19 weeks ago
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Crippling introvert, always have been, but definitely gotten significantly worse since COVID. Regressed more and more.
Only go out now for shopping and work.
I know it's not good for me, but can't seem to bring myself to break the cycle. |
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By *dol1Man 19 weeks ago
Gorey |
I’m quite introverted here too. I have my moments where I can be social but it doesn’t last long. The thoughts of mixing socially in a big group can be overwhelming and it’s something I usually avoid. I know it might be enjoyable but I’d still rather avoid. I can be ok in a 1 to 1 situation but can still be a bit awkward, it takes me a while to relax and feel comfortable with someone.
It’s good to know I’m not the only one that feels like this |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 19 weeks ago
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"Crippling introvert, always have been, but definitely gotten significantly worse since COVID. Regressed more and more.
Only go out now for shopping and work.
I know it's not good for me, but can't seem to bring myself to break the cycle."
Have you ever looked into counselling for this? Perhaps over zoom or something??
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By (user no longer on site) OP 19 weeks ago
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"I’m quite introverted here too. I have my moments where I can be social but it doesn’t last long. The thoughts of mixing socially in a big group can be overwhelming and it’s something I usually avoid. I know it might be enjoyable but I’d still rather avoid. I can be ok in a 1 to 1 situation but can still be a bit awkward, it takes me a while to relax and feel comfortable with someone.
It’s good to know I’m not the only one that feels like this"
💓 You are definitely not alone
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"Probably part of the reason I'm single haha
Me too. Its difficult to navigate isnt it? I like quiet people over loud brash people.
For me anyway, its ok if its one on one chat. I find group chat settings tiring. "
Yes totally get this. I could sit and talk about anything for hours one on one but in group settings I’m looking for the smoking area. Smokers are so few and far between now. You be lucky if there’s more than one person there.
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By *dfabMan 19 weeks ago
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"Probably part of the reason I'm single haha
Me too. Its difficult to navigate isnt it? I like quiet people over loud brash people.
For me anyway, its ok if its one on one chat. I find group chat settings tiring.
Yes totally get this. I could sit and talk about anything for hours one on one but in group settings I’m looking for the smoking area. Smokers are so few and far between now. You be lucky if there’s more than one person there.
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I'll likely be out there  |
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I enjoy my own company, probably a bit too much
Therefore I’m much more comfortable with one on one meets than socials, even though it would take a lot of meets to meet everyone I could at a social, it’s just the way I prefer it. I’ll not change now at my age lol |
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By (user no longer on site) 19 weeks ago
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For the longest time I'd embrace my introversion, happy with the quiet solitude. I don't know if it's an age thing that it feels more uncomfortable more often now, with feelings of anxiety and loneliness? |
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The late and great Mick Lally  once said that
"Acting is the shy man's vengeance on the world" and I'd agree.
I am an introvert by nature but when my job involves me talking to a crowd of people, I can do it. So context often determines tendencies towards acting as an introvert or extrovert  |
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Never thought that I would ever be an introvert maybe I was already but work and having to be a single mother I had no choice to make sense of it.
But I don't want anyone to be draining me
My own company is my favorite company
Don't involve myself in situations where I have to talk about shit/answer questions/explain something as I don't have the head time or energy to deal with it
I know that my phone always hops with people looking advice or something that I can do to help out whoever needs it and I will be obligated to help once but I have the same people with the same problem as before and I stop, I don't like pubs or d*unk people I don't know why I just go home after a while to get a sleep or away from the hussles, my friend know that they won't hear from me for a while or more and I am very happy with the silence and recharging my energy, so I was told that I am introvert and maybe I am not, maybe I am not, but I am not going to be different from what I am now as it's been great for the sanity and peace
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