Iv been on here for years and done all the socials, parties and meets..now im sitting back enjoying the forums.
One thing i noticed down the years is the different couple dynamics and just wondering what couples think.
From expierence the male seems to call the shots mostly.
I know a lot of coulples where its ok for for the guy to play solo but not the mrs.
If the mrs likes a guy whos better looking than than the mr he will often veto the meet but not vise versa.
Do couples often wish to go solo but are not let by the other half? Or is their kink playing together.
I know it sounds stupid but of its ok for your other half to be in another room playing while your getting yours is not allowing solo play then not a bit selfish?
Just thinking out loud and would love to heat opinions. Have a nice day.
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I've never seen this but seems bizarre that one could play solo and the other not. You're either equals or you aren't. Surely that's a control/jealousy issue unless one half doesn't want to play, which obviously does happen. |
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That's not my experience.
Certainly when I was here as part of a couple we had equal input. No single one of us called the shots or ran the profile. We discussed and decided together who we wanted to meet, or not. And whilst solo meets weren't primarily our dynamic, it was something we both did occasionally. Neither of us vetoed a solo meet because of the perceived level of attractiveness of the other person.
I'm interested in how you've come to your conclusion though |
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"That's not my experience.
Certainly when I was here as part of a couple we had equal input. No single one of us called the shots or ran the profile. We discussed and decided together who we wanted to meet, or not. And whilst solo meets weren't primarily our dynamic, it was something we both did occasionally. Neither of us vetoed a solo meet because of the perceived level of attractiveness of the other person.
I'm interested in how you've come to your conclusion though"
1st hand expierence. Met couple and had a ball with wife. Hubby said no as he didnt like how well we got on and wife told me. Also i know couples where hubby can play solo but wife cant. I found it mind boggling. Dont think anyone will admit about these as its very controling. |
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"I've never seen this but seems bizarre that one could play solo and the other not. You're either equals or you aren't. Surely that's a control/jealousy issue unless one half doesn't want to play, which obviously does happen. "
Agree with you and unlikely anyone will come forward and admit but iv seen ut 1st hand |
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Our experience on Fab is the absolute polar opposite to this!
If anything, many couples we've seen at events are female led. That's not to say the male is a bystander, they are usually willing participants also.
For some, just one playing is their thing, and if they're happy, then fine.
It's not for us, there is no chance one of us is not taking part in the adventure! |
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Not our experience either. Some couples don't play separately, some do, and the ones that do seem to leave the decision making to the playing partner. Sure, there's generally some communication as in "I'm off to play with xxx" but we have yet to see a veto come out of it.
As for the male driven couples, not our experience either, like at all. They tend to be equal or slightly female led in our experience. |
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By *eturning MGMan 19 weeks ago
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Iv met some amazing couples. Hot ladies and sound lads.But i have to say iv also had similar expierences where the mr has been in charge and made the final calls in relation to who mrs could meet. Also got blocked by a mr for getting along too well with the mrs. Strange old world this fab. |
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"Iv met some amazing couples. Hot ladies and sound lads.But i have to say iv also had similar expierences where the mr has been in charge and made the final calls in relation to who mrs could meet. Also got blocked by a mr for getting along too well with the mrs. Strange old world this fab. "
It's not a free for all, I'm kind of amused/concerned how people would think it is.
Any serious couple will always discuss who is meeting who. If one half doesn't like someone, for whatever reason, that will be respected and they won't meet.
This should be very much expected from anyone meeting couples, or one half of a couple, tbh. |
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