Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. Like expecting replies when you send a straightforward message of introduction. Insane. Expecting anything positive after 5 years. Insane! |
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"Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. Like expecting replies when you send a straightforward message of introduction. Insane. Expecting anything positive after 5 years. Insane!"
I started replying to single men a few weeks ago, 90% were OK and moved on. 10% were annoying, either pushing, or trying to convince us... |
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It's amazing how many lovely, polite, straightforward messages of introduction I get despite not having to look very far to see I'm not currently looking to meet anyone new...
The point I'm making is, I guess, just because you think you're what the other person is looking for, it doesn't mean you actually are.
Perhaps adjusting your expectations might lead to less frustration |
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By *dol1Man 18 weeks ago
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I don’t think it’s too much to expect a reply, otherwise what’s the point in trying to connect through chat on here. I do however, take it that if the reply doesn’t come well then you just move on. I know women can be inundated with messages but if someone goes to the effort of putting together a good introductory message then it’s nice to be nice. |
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"You’re dead right 👍 we’re not serial killers ffs 😂😂
Ye send a message and picture and not even a reply 🤦🏻🤦🏻 even though we’re all here for the same thing and it ain’t to hold hands 🤷🏻🤭😂😂"
It's not to do admin either 🤷 |
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"You’re dead right 👍 we’re not serial killers ffs 😂😂
Ye send a message and picture and not even a reply 🤦🏻🤦🏻 even though we’re all here for the same thing and it ain’t to hold hands 🤷🏻🤭😂😂"
Yep, it’s not to hand hold the- I sent a message I’m owed a reply sense of entitlement.
Such commonly held misconception that it’s actually dealt with in the site FAQs 🤷🏼♀️ |
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"You’re dead right 👍 we’re not serial killers ffs 😂😂
Ye send a message and picture and not even a reply 🤦🏻🤦🏻 even though we’re all here for the same thing and it ain’t to hold hands 🤷🏻🤭😂😂"
Wait... What? I'm here just to hold hands and some dancing... 💃 |
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waaiiiit a second here.. you are supposed to reply to all the messages you receive?  why did no one tell me that  I have been doing this all wrong 
Seriously now, although it seems to have improved lately there are still a lot of people that go into "but..." arguments after a polite "no, we are not interested" . To be fair, they only rarely escalate but that happens as well. and 95% of "introductory messages" ignore our profile and what we are looking for.  Oh and they typically ignore M and only address her.
If they wont take the time to read I wont take the time to reply. Unless they amuse me. Or I am in an exceptionally good mood. Or a exceptionally bad mood.  |
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"You’re dead right 👍 we’re not serial killers ffs 😂😂
Ye send a message and picture and not even a reply 🤦🏻🤦🏻 even though we’re all here for the same thing and it ain’t to hold hands 🤷🏻🤭😂😂"
You ok fella struggling?? |
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If you get a reply, you get a reply, If you don’t, fuck it I wouldn’t care. I’d say females boxes are as hot as fuck with mail and that’s their mailboxes before anyone gets a rush of blood to the head and complains to HR, so they can’t reply to every mail that comes in. No reply is a reply which is banded about a fair bit and if a man’s mail and profile is what the female wants, she’ll reply I’m sure.
The other thing is Albert Einstein quote was to inspire you to change your mindset and habits and you’ll see change. |
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" The other thing is Albert Einstein quote was to inspire you to change your mindset and habits and you’ll see change."
I have actually changed my mindset and am in the process of changing my habits. I'm not going to bother anymore. As you say: change. S I am and I have. |
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" I appreciate you’re having a bit of a rant, but a tad unfair to the people you’ve met, no?"
The people I have met who verified me were at socials. I don't see how my post is unfair to them. Nor to the other people who I had meetings with, which were fleeting. a 30 min coffee or a drink in a pub. I liked several but they not me and several liked me, but I not them. In the 5 years I have been on this site, I'd say I had ten meetings, probably fewer, and achieved one 2-year FWB scenario, with a very attractive woman, who luckily found me attractive too. It petered out naturally last year.
My point is, five years repeating the same process: sending messages to women I was interested in and achieving little response in those 5 years, it seems insane to attempt it for a 6th year, expecting things to suddenly change. I don't expect things to change and I see now (actually not just now but for some time) it's pointless to keep doing the same process.
I get that replying to a message is optional for anyone who receives one. However, when countless messages go unread or if read can then be reset as unread, you do have to wonder. As I said in a previous post, I fully accept I am not everyone's cup of tea and equally, not every woman is my cup of tea. Attraction and connection are relative. My situation is not unique. Seems it's a very common issue for TVs, Couples but especially for single men.
We are all on here for the same reason. To fulfil a basic human need: to connect with other human beings, seeking the same thing. It's in our DNA! It's a natural thing to desire!
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