I understand that women have hundreds of mails on this site,I get that some men might ruin it for the ones that actually send the nice messages to but my god is it hard to get a reply.. you have to send a message at the right time and say the right thing to catch their attention.. any tips? |
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"I understand that women have hundreds of mails on this site,I get that some men might ruin it for the ones that actually send the nice messages to but my god is it hard to get a reply.. you have to send a message at the right time and say the right thing to catch their attention.. any tips? "
Your profile is your shop window.
There is your first problem. |
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By *ustBoWoman 13 weeks ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
You already have a veri so you afe doing better than a lot of men who have only been on here such a short time.
A lot of women look at a profile first before they answer a mail if they don't like.it they wont answer.
As for all women get 100s.of mail well the ones who want 100s of nails do indeed get that many the ones who don't want to be inundated with mails are pro active in making sure they don't get so many. |
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I know we are a couple but we also get lots of messages. Looking at OPs profile, I probably wouldn't reply. The Bio is not sharing anything about their personality, there's a shortage of pics and the deal breaker for us, no published verifications.
To get a verification get to a social (and maybe a newbies specific one) where you will pick up 5 to 15 verifications easily.
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"You already have a veri so you afe doing better than a lot of men who have only been on here such a short time.
A lot of women look at a profile first before they answer a mail if they don't like.it they wont answer.
As for all women get 100s.of mail well the ones who want 100s of nails do indeed get that many the ones who don't want to be inundated with mails are pro active in making sure they don't get so many. "
Their Veri is unpublished and also really old (more than a year) so that would be a no reply for us as well. |
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By *iamo69Man 13 weeks ago
kilkenny, Waterford , Tipperary,southeast |
I have seen a couple of girls inboxs on this
Literally 50 mails a hour of desperate men ..they normally don't even read them
Have a decent profile and they will come to you if they have a interest..possibly wasting your time otherwise |
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By *hane99Man 13 weeks ago
Bettystown/Balbriggan |
Agree with all above. Plus your veris have to be up to date and not web cam ones. Profile is key. Plus you message has to be unique and interesting. I’m on this years and have made a few really good friends on it. Stick with it mate. |
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By *allywallyWoman 13 weeks ago
The Road to Nowhere |
"I understand that women have hundreds of mails on this site,I get that some men might ruin it for the ones that actually send the nice messages to but my god is it hard to get a reply.. you have to send a message at the right time and say the right thing to catch their attention.. any tips? "
Well, the message you sent me wasn't exactly inspiring. You sent me a sentence, nothing really to reply to. Soooo I didn't. Pad out the profile a bit, maybe some more pics. |
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By *eijaWoman 13 weeks ago
City Centre |
I just replied to you 
Take on the advice of this thread.
Display your Veri
Get to a Social
Stop sending one worded messages - show your personality. As a single lady we get hundreds of messages. Put in some effort. Have conversations. Grab attention.
I also think distance might be a problem you are very far away!
If you leave and come back state that. Dont delete your profile if you are taking a break just hide it!
Best of luck OP.
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"Your here 6 weeks did you think you'd be drowning in pussy  "
I def don’t want to nor do I intend to be drowning in pussy 🤣 i am quite picky and selective that being said it’s not my first rodeo here I have been on and off as I take breaks from social media.
I also understand men compete with huge volumes of messages, I think I was more so looking some input but politely haha |
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"You already have a veri so you afe doing better than a lot of men who have only been on here such a short time.
A lot of women look at a profile first before they answer a mail if they don't like.it they wont answer.
As for all women get 100s.of mail well the ones who want 100s of nails do indeed get that many the ones who don't want to be inundated with mails are pro active in making sure they don't get so many. "
I know and that’s the thing, it’s the competition, but what catches your eye when you get a mail? Do you prefer in depth? Short and sweet? Personal info or what type of message will have you think you want to open that one out of the hundreds received? |
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"I understand that women have hundreds of mails on this site,I get that some men might ruin it for the ones that actually send the nice messages to but my god is it hard to get a reply.. you have to send a message at the right time and say the right thing to catch their attention.. any tips?
Well, the message you sent me wasn't exactly inspiring. You sent me a sentence, nothing really to reply to. Soooo I didn't. Pad out the profile a bit, maybe some more pics. "
🙈🙈 yes I just had this conversation with someone where I have gone into depth with messaging and the volume men have to send in order to get a reply, so our messages get shorter and shorter and shorter and we think ok well they won’t open the message anyway and why would i put so much effort into the message for it to be unopened. So yes I agree my messages have 100% become shorter over time but that’s based on the sheer volume and effort men have to put in, in order to get a message opened never mind replied to… |
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"Have photos, have verifications, be able to form semi decent sentences and read to profile to check if they are actually looking for you. "
I won’t lie I do that 90% of the time but there will have been times I’ve maybe not seen something or didn’t get to read it all. However most of the time I do read them.
I don’t think ladies understand how tough it is for men here to actual get a reply either, that’s not a “poor us” as I understand some men ruin it for the ones that are genuine with the messages they send out and then the ladies don’t want to reply. |
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By *affa31Woman 13 weeks ago
Galway |
"Have photos, have verifications, be able to form semi decent sentences and read to profile to check if they are actually looking for you.
I won’t lie I do that 90% of the time but there will have been times I’ve maybe not seen something or didn’t get to read it all. However most of the time I do read them.
I don’t think ladies understand how tough it is for men here to actual get a reply either, that’s not a “poor us” as I understand some men ruin it for the ones that are genuine with the messages they send out and then the ladies don’t want to reply."
You need to ditch the “some men ruin it for us all” attitude.
The interesting, fun men stand out in their messages, their profiles and their forum interactions.
In fact, the doses who ignore your profile, send dick pics as an opening message etc just make it easier for the men who are worth meeting to stand out.
Women will view your profile before we respond to a message. Make us want to respond. |
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By *oserMan 13 weeks ago
where the wild roses grow |
"Have photos, have verifications, be able to form semi decent sentences and read to profile to check if they are actually looking for you.
I won’t lie I do that 90% of the time but there will have been times I’ve maybe not seen something or didn’t get to read it all. However most of the time I do read them.
I don’t think ladies understand how tough it is for men here to actual get a reply either, that’s not a “poor us” as I understand some men ruin it for the ones that are genuine with the messages they send out and then the ladies don’t want to reply.
You need to ditch the “some men ruin it for us all” attitude.
The interesting, fun men stand out in their messages, their profiles and their forum interactions.
In fact, the doses who ignore your profile, send dick pics as an opening message etc just make it easier for the men who are worth meeting to stand out.
Women will view your profile before we respond to a message. Make us want to respond. "
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I don't get huge volumes of mail however, no matter how polite, articulate etc your message might be, I'll probably only reply if you also have a decent bio, good representative recent photos and you're potentially the type of person I'm looking for.
So I'd say that unless what you want is an inbox full of no thanks messages, the secret to getting replies is being what the person you've messaged is looking for. What they're actually looking for, not what you think they're looking for because you saw some boobs and read half of their bio 😉
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"Have photos, have verifications, be able to form semi decent sentences and read to profile to check if they are actually looking for you.
I won’t lie I do that 90% of the time but there will have been times I’ve maybe not seen something or didn’t get to read it all. However most of the time I do read them.
I don’t think ladies understand how tough it is for men here to actual get a reply either, that’s not a “poor us” as I understand some men ruin it for the ones that are genuine with the messages they send out and then the ladies don’t want to reply.
You need to ditch the “some men ruin it for us all” attitude.
The interesting, fun men stand out in their messages, their profiles and their forum interactions.
In fact, the doses who ignore your profile, send dick pics as an opening message etc just make it easier for the men who are worth meeting to stand out.
Women will view your profile before we respond to a message. Make us want to respond. "
Also what Jaffa said  |
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"I don't get huge volumes of mail however, no matter how polite, articulate etc your message might be, I'll probably only reply if you also have a decent bio, good representative recent photos and you're potentially the type of person I'm looking for.
So I'd say that unless what you want is an inbox full of no thanks messages, the secret to getting replies is being what the person you've messaged is looking for. What they're actually looking for, not what you think they're looking for because you saw some boobs and read half of their bio 😉
Ok so if you have time, take a look at my bio and tell me where you think I’m going wrong. If you don’t have time or don’t want to that’s all good also lol
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"I don't get huge volumes of mail however, no matter how polite, articulate etc your message might be, I'll probably only reply if you also have a decent bio, good representative recent photos and you're potentially the type of person I'm looking for.
So I'd say that unless what you want is an inbox full of no thanks messages, the secret to getting replies is being what the person you've messaged is looking for. What they're actually looking for, not what you think they're looking for because you saw some boobs and read half of their bio 😉
Ok so if you have time, take a look at my bio and tell me where you think I’m going wrong. If you don’t have time or don’t want to that’s all good also lol
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Your photos are good imo but maybe some clothed too?
It would be good if your bio had some info on the type of person you're looking for |
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By *ustBoWoman 13 weeks ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
"You already have a veri so you afe doing better than a lot of men who have only been on here such a short time.
A lot of women look at a profile first before they answer a mail if they don't like.it they wont answer.
As for all women get 100s.of mail well the ones who want 100s of nails do indeed get that many the ones who don't want to be inundated with mails are pro active in making sure they don't get so many.
Their Veri is unpublished and also really old (more than a year) so that would be a no reply for us as well. "
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The op has been on here 6 weeks his veri which yes is hidden and that is his choice is 3 weeks old so not long ago at all. |
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By *ustBoWoman 13 weeks ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
"You already have a veri so you afe doing better than a lot of men who have only been on here such a short time.
A lot of women look at a profile first before they answer a mail if they don't like.it they wont answer.
As for all women get 100s.of mail well the ones who want 100s of nails do indeed get that many the ones who don't want to be inundated with mails are pro active in making sure they don't get so many.
I know and that’s the thing, it’s the competition, but what catches your eye when you get a mail? Do you prefer in depth? Short and sweet? Personal info or what type of message will have you think you want to open that one out of the hundreds received?"
I don't get hundreds I have very tight filters. And I'm not meeting at present so very rarely answer any messages unless it is from someone I know. As answering leads to expectations.
When I was it was more what attracted me to their profile would entice me to answer a messages. If I didn't find the profile interesting I didn't answer. The messages as long as they didn't include dick pics, or graphic text when I found the profile enticing I would answer. I have sent plenty of first messages and trying to write something interesting to a complete stranger is not the easiest thing to do. |
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By *affa31Woman 13 weeks ago
Galway |
"Have photos, have verifications, be able to form semi decent sentences and read to profile to check if they are actually looking for you.
I won’t lie I do that 90% of the time but there will have been times I’ve maybe not seen something or didn’t get to read it all. However most of the time I do read them.
I don’t think ladies understand how tough it is for men here to actual get a reply either, that’s not a “poor us” as I understand some men ruin it for the ones that are genuine with the messages they send out and then the ladies don’t want to reply.
You need to ditch the “some men ruin it for us all” attitude.
The interesting, fun men stand out in their messages, their profiles and their forum interactions.
In fact, the doses who ignore your profile, send dick pics as an opening message etc just make it easier for the men who are worth meeting to stand out.
Women will view your profile before we respond to a message. Make us want to respond.
Oi J, faf? "
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All I will say is if you actually see the amount of messages women get in a daily basis only then you will realise why it's highly likely your message gets ignored or get no reply even if they played around with their filters people still find a way around that hurdle the best thing you can do is shoot your shot if she notices and replies happy days if not then don't take it personally be patient |
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