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Disappointed with my own body
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"Anyone else annoyed at letting themselves go...I find my self wanting to send pictures of me from a few years ago because I know they are better. Thankfully started training again so can hopefully pull it back together but it is frustrating." oh yeah I'm same but can't fake it unfortunately lol . Just need get back in shape it's eating that's my problem not training lol | |||
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"Food is the issue , to many people concentrate on exercise and think they have to invest in gym membership, go 5 days a week when it comes to weight loss , when the real fix is free and in your home " When you change your diet/the way you eat to a healthy version it's certainly not 'free'. Generally once you start eating well it means you eat more and that does cost more than the sh!te from before. Plus supplements. Well worth it though. And hey, if you can join a gym or do classes as well, go for it. Whatever works for you and it's certainly not the same for everyone. | |||
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"Food is the issue , to many people concentrate on exercise and think they have to invest in gym membership, go 5 days a week when it comes to weight loss , when the real fix is free and in your home " totally my eating habits are main problem love my food too much lol training no problem | |||
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"We all feel you brother. Dont let it get you down. I’ve had similar experiences. I’ve put on and lost weight, like everyone, as life weighs us all down and we get out of routines. It’s important to be healthy and feel good, but it’s more important to be proud of your body, no matter what shape it is. Fab is a great place but one thing it’s very unhealthy for is body positivity, especially when you see gym bunny hot wives stating preferences for 8 inch plus gym built guys, which let’s face it, is about 5% of the population. And they’re mostly in porn or boring gym dudes with questionable sexual abilities! Start with changing how you feel about yourself first, and the rest will come. " The irony of someone giving advise about changing how you feel about yourself while also having to degrade other people you clearly feel are superior to you with generalisations about their personality and sexual ability based off appearance  | |||
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"Food is the issue , to many people concentrate on exercise and think they have to invest in gym membership, go 5 days a week when it comes to weight loss , when the real fix is free and in your home When you change your diet/the way you eat to a healthy version it's certainly not 'free'. Generally once you start eating well it means you eat more and that does cost more than the sh!te from before. Plus supplements. Well worth it though. And hey, if you can join a gym or do classes as well, go for it. Whatever works for you and it's certainly not the same for everyone." Whatever your doing is definitely working Bo!!! | |||
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"You could’ve responded to me instead of showing off to the class. I was simply trying to offer some lighthearted positive thoughts. You know, humour? And anyway, try reading what I said. It’s not ironic to say that a person looking for a guy who represents about only 5% of the population- muscle guys who are well built well endowed and amazing in bed- is both unrealistic and not something that the average man should concern himself with or compare himself to. Not belittling the muscle guys who may or may not be muscle-bound, James Bond-charm, king-dicks, I’m actually saying looking for unrealistic things will lead you to unrealistic things…but thanks for taking the time to try and make me feel small. Now that’s real irony my man. " What you actually said though: "boring gym dudes with questionable sexual abilities!" 👍 You could have been positive and just encourage people to notncomoare themselves with others, but you didnt. You had to use disparaging remarks about the people that do fit the certain criteria. | |||
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"The point is that no one fits that criteria, and those who claim to are lying both to themselves and us, and probably either grifting, or boring, or both, and a bit self obsessed, which is not something anyone wants to aspire to. And let’s face it, Fab is full of enhanced photos and best sides and shadowed muscles etc etc. Big muscles don’t mean big cock, and definitely doesn’t mean good sexual prowess, experience or technique. You can’t be everything to everyone, so why bother comparing yourself to a curated bluff. Look at the examples from manosphere influencers. It’s a lie they are grifting. I’m old enough to know that this grift goes round all the time, and men are being sold a pup by inauthentic, normally cosmetically and chemically enhanced, guys. Hence the remark about sexual ‘abilities’. So don’t get all uppity with me, Mr ‘Man’. I was positive and the point was not to disparage fakes or those with good physique with their perfect photos fronting on fab etc, (although that’s not at all a biggie for me if I do) it was to be proud of the body you have, not to stop trying to get the one you want, and not to think muscles equal charm or sexual ability. Because they don’t. " Again not what you actually said in your initial post. But even taking this on its own merits, body positivity isnt about generalising people who fit into one or another body type in negative terms. Building up one group of people doesn't require tearing down another. And I agree with the comments about the male influences etc.... But that again isnt what your initial post referenced. | |||
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"Simple ...walk more eat less ." Not about eating less …. Eating better!!! I track my calories and I’ve not lost out on anything | |||
"Simple ...walk more eat less . Not about eating less …. Eating better!!! I track my calories and I’ve not lost out on anything " And doesn't consider psychological issues, hormonal influences, disordered eating, mobility or a raft of other factors that might come into play | |||
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"Simple ...walk more eat less . Not about eating less …. Eating better!!! I track my calories and I’ve not lost out on anything And doesn't consider psychological issues, hormonal influences, disordered eating, mobility or a raft of other factors that might come into play"  Calorie deficit just doesn't work for some women of a certain age | |||
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"Simple ...walk more eat less ." Except it's not simple for many people | |||
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