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"I don’t know. Trust is earned. Women (assuming your intended subject is a woman) have a difficult job in trying to navigate who’s trustworthy and who isn’t and if they don’t feel that sense of trust and ease then I think they’re right to protect themselves. " 100% agree, trust needs to be earned. Im sure for every 10 people they have trusted 9 of them have broken it. Females (again assuming its a female your talking about) have a right to protect themselves in this world. Especially when you hear about the level of abuse some of them face for protecting themselves. | |||
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 followed by rants, is where I draw the line.
No one needs that headache. | |||
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"Trust is a two way street. Demands for face pics from the other party followed by rants, is where I draw the line.
No one needs that headache."I would never expect a woman to meet me without face pics having been exchanged. The level of trust and what’s needed to proceed is 100% set by her. Rants about what though? Did she refuse to meet without the face pic? That’s not a big deal. That’s perfectly understandable. | |||
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"If someone asks me for face pics from the off I just politely refuse and get on with things" 💯 agree if it’s the first question. Though when chatting and for meeting it’s fair to ask/swap pics 😌 | |||
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"If someone asks me for face pics from the off I just politely refuse and get on with things 💯 agree if it’s the first question. Though when chatting and for meeting it’s fair to ask/swap pics 😌" Yeah I think that’s valid | |||
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"These philosophical poor me threads need to stop If you can’t hack it, grab your jacket" Yup 🤝 | |||
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"This is a false equivalency. Women are far more vulnerable in these situations. " Actually men are far more likely to be targeted online for scams and extortion | |||
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"Hmmmmmmmm I wonder if a woman who had "face pics only exchanged when meeting" stated clearly on their profile made a thread about their boundaries being ignored would the response be the same" However if the other person stated equally clearly that they required an exchange of face pics early on, and that was non-negotiable, would it not be slightly churlish to start a thread complaining about something you already knew? I can only speak for myself, but if there was that kind of stalemate, I'd chalk it down to incompatibility and move on. Hypothesising maybe, but that's the problem with only hearing one side of the story | |||
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"Hmmmmmmmm I wonder if a woman who had "face pics only exchanged when meeting" stated clearly on their profile made a thread about their boundaries being ignored would the response be the same However if the other person stated equally clearly that they required an exchange of face pics early on, and that was non-negotiable, would it not be slightly churlish to start a thread complaining about something you already knew? I can only speak for myself, but if there was that kind of stalemate, I'd chalk it down to incompatibility and move on. Hypothesising maybe, but that's the problem with only hearing one side of the story " I agree I dont like any of the rant/airing dirty laundry thread regardless of the person posting. Still though the other side of the story is always assumed very quickly on here depending on the gender of the poster | |||
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"Trust is a two way street. Demands for face pics from the other party followed by rants, is where I draw the line.
No one needs that headache."Are you not going on a rant yourself Its very simple surely If anyone asks for a face picture then you either say yes or no Say yes and risk being told ...not for me ....or blocked as some people find it easier to do or get a meet Say no and you get blocked with no meet | |||
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"Hmmmmmmmm I wonder if a woman who had "face pics only exchanged when meeting" stated clearly on their profile made a thread about their boundaries being ignored would the response be the same However if the other person stated equally clearly that they required an exchange of face pics early on, and that was non-negotiable, would it not be slightly churlish to start a thread complaining about something you already knew? I can only speak for myself, but if there was that kind of stalemate, I'd chalk it down to incompatibility and move on. Hypothesising maybe, but that's the problem with only hearing one side of the story I agree I dont like any of the rant/airing dirty laundry thread regardless of the person posting. Still though the other side of the story is always assumed very quickly on here depending on the gender of the poster" 👏 👏 👏 And that ladies and gents concludes my mini social experiment - the genesis of this idea came from some of the neurodivergent posts I stumbled upon here. I thank each and everyone of you for your contributions. This is a dilemma of everyone at some stage. There are three parts to every story, his part, her part, and the confusion in the middle. Everyone is always quick to jump into keyboard crusade mode. For the ladies, you hold the upper hand, for the gents, it's a cock fest gladiatorial contest where viligence is key - as another poster alluded to, men are sometimes the victim of catfishes but this is a two sided coin that few consider the consequences of on the dopamine highway. | |||
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"Truthfully, I wouldn't get too wound up over Fab interactions. Everyone's wants, needs, requirements and boundaries are valid, but they won't necessarily align. They obviously weren't for you. But perhaps if you find yourself in the same situation repeatedly, as your post I think suggests, it might be time to try a new approach? " THIS 💯 | |||
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"Fuck. I’ve read all these comments twice and I’m still at a loss as to what was asked to begin. Answers by mail toy box please. 🤠" From his most recent comment it would appear it was some sort of personal social experiment and something to do with posts from ND people. Fucking weird really. | |||
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"Fuck. I’ve read all these comments twice and I’m still at a loss as to what was asked to begin. Answers by mail toy box please. 🤠 From his most recent comment it would appear it was some sort of personal social experiment and something to do with posts from ND people. Fucking weird really. " Thank you my little pal. I thought it was a pop at a female about not wanting to send back a photo he’d sent. I just couldn’t work the symantec’s as I’ve just come in from a twelve hour shift and my head is frazzled. | |||
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"Fuck. I’ve read all these comments twice and I’m still at a loss as to what was asked to begin. Answers by mail toy box please. 🤠 From his most recent comment it would appear it was some sort of personal social experiment and something to do with posts from ND people. Fucking weird really. Thank you my little pal. I thought it was a pop at a female about not wanting to send back a photo he’d sent. I just couldn’t work the symantec’s as I’ve just come in from a twelve hour shift and my head is frazzled." Twas him not wanting to send a pic when requested for meeting. Now he says social experiment 🤷🏼♀️ | |||
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"Fuck. I’ve read all these comments twice and I’m still at a loss as to what was asked to begin. Answers by mail toy box please. 🤠 From his most recent comment it would appear it was some sort of personal social experiment and something to do with posts from ND people. Fucking weird really. Thank you my little pal. I thought it was a pop at a female about not wanting to send back a photo he’d sent. I just couldn’t work the symantec’s as I’ve just come in from a twelve hour shift and my head is frazzled. Twas him not wanting to send a pic when requested for meeting. Now he says social experiment 🤷🏼♀️ " 🤷 Two of us Panter | |||
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"Fuck. I’ve read all these comments twice and I’m still at a loss as to what was asked to begin. Answers by mail toy box please. 🤠 From his most recent comment it would appear it was some sort of personal social experiment and something to do with posts from ND people. Fucking weird really. Thank you my little pal. I thought it was a pop at a female about not wanting to send back a photo he’d sent. I just couldn’t work the symantec’s as I’ve just come in from a twelve hour shift and my head is frazzled. Twas him not wanting to send a pic when requested for meeting. Now he says social experiment 🤷🏼♀️ 🤷 Two of us Panther " | |||
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"Hmmmmmmmm I wonder if a woman who had "face pics only exchanged when meeting" stated clearly on their profile made a thread about their boundaries being ignored would the response be the same However if the other person stated equally clearly that they required an exchange of face pics early on, and that was non-negotiable, would it not be slightly churlish to start a thread complaining about something you already knew? I can only speak for myself, but if there was that kind of stalemate, I'd chalk it down to incompatibility and move on. Hypothesising maybe, but that's the problem with only hearing one side of the story I agree I dont like any of the rant/airing dirty laundry thread regardless of the person posting. Still though the other side of the story is always assumed very quickly on here depending on the gender of the poster 👏 👏 👏 And that ladies and gents concludes my mini social experiment - the genesis of this idea came from some of the neurodivergent posts I stumbled upon here. I thank each and everyone of you for your contributions. This is a dilemma of everyone at some stage. There are three parts to every story, his part, her part, and the confusion in the middle. Everyone is always quick to jump into keyboard crusade mode. For the ladies, you hold the upper hand, for the gents, it's a cock fest gladiatorial contest where viligence is key - as another poster alluded to, men are sometimes the victim of catfishes but this is a two sided coin that few consider the consequences of on the dopamine highway. " Was everyone quick to become keyboard warriors or is that what you're choosing to see? It's not that deep man. You exchanged messages with someone where there was no middle ground between your individual needs, expectations and boundaries. It happens. You're within your rights to not send face photos. It's equally valid that she won't meet without one. I say it here often - people can ask for whatever they want. It's not a requirement to comply unless you want to. It's that simple. All the other stuff is just smoke and mirrors and a choice to get all gnarled up and twisted inside over something that never was. | |||
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"Hmmmmmmmm I wonder if a woman who had "face pics only exchanged when meeting" stated clearly on their profile made a thread about their boundaries being ignored would the response be the same However if the other person stated equally clearly that they required an exchange of face pics early on, and that was non-negotiable, would it not be slightly churlish to start a thread complaining about something you already knew? I can only speak for myself, but if there was that kind of stalemate, I'd chalk it down to incompatibility and move on. Hypothesising maybe, but that's the problem with only hearing one side of the story I agree I dont like any of the rant/airing dirty laundry thread regardless of the person posting. Still though the other side of the story is always assumed very quickly on here depending on the gender of the poster 👏 👏 👏 And that ladies and gents concludes my mini social experiment - the genesis of this idea came from some of the neurodivergent posts I stumbled upon here. I thank each and everyone of you for your contributions. This is a dilemma of everyone at some stage. There are three parts to every story, his part, her part, and the confusion in the middle. Everyone is always quick to jump into keyboard crusade mode. For the ladies, you hold the upper hand, for the gents, it's a cock fest gladiatorial contest where viligence is key - as another poster alluded to, men are sometimes the victim of catfishes but this is a two sided coin that few consider the consequences of on the dopamine highway. " You can’t seriously expect anyone to buy this horse s*it? “It was an experiment” is code for “this didn’t go how I wanted to I’m in damage recovery mode”. Rather than reading the pushback and reassessing the situation so you could grow a pair and admit you were in the wrong, you’ve decided to try gaslighting a room full of grown functioning adults. Whoever refused you the pictures had a lucky escape. 🚩 | |||
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" You can’t seriously expect anyone to buy this horse s*it? “It was an experiment” is code for “this didn’t go how I wanted to I’m in damage recovery mode”. Rather than reading the pushback and reassessing the situation so you could grow a pair and admit you were in the wrong, you’ve decided to try gaslighting a room full of grown functioning adults. Whoever refused you the pictures had a lucky escape. 🚩 " I'm not selling anything. If I was, I'd label it as miracle bunkum, guaranteed to spurn growth. Think about this for a second, instead of going into keyboard warrior mode. People are here for different reasons. Some claim it's a "lifestyle" perhaps, but let's unpack this, it maybe a choice.For others it's a trip to the sweetshop who want sex. You can look in the window, stand there all day, try to figure it out and realise, the shop is closed. C'est la vie, but societal norms frown upon it, that us reality and many who really prefer their actual lifestyle as it currently is, do not want to be ruined. Next, no face pic, no reply (I love these) - it's not a rant, but I'll take the back lash. Some might see it as power or a way to screen if the other person is genuine. Reality check, you don't know until you physically see the person and then, you still don't "know" - AI us the game changer, and for the people who are in thr know, this is their superpower. It can be used for "good" or you can turn a couple of quid. I knew someone who ran fowl of it recently, his solution, was a permanent one, rip. ... but let us not forget, how many women are pressurised into situations. It's a double edged sword. Lastly, and I had this (conversation with someone recently) - there are huge issues around mental health that are unchecked. There is a dopamine buzz that we all crave for a greater or lesser extant which can be fueled by risky behaviour. You never see it at the time but adrenaline which fuels the fight or flight side can give people different kicks (In a previous job, I enjoyed the buzz it gave) Let's skip to the different forms of coercive control, we all know about it, but it starts off small and can develop with unsavoury consequences. Pushback comes in all forms and they say, what ever doesn't kill you makes you stronger. The reality is, the mind is a different kettle of fish and once that is damaged, it can go either way. As for gaslighting, there are easier ways to start fires. I was trying to get people to think. If anything, it can show, that if you make say something outlandish, curiousity strikes and there is, "I need to see who this person is momemt" - let's call this the trump factor (although some might say, it isn't going to well for donnie at the moment, it really is for the master of deflection - his Trump University may have been a flop, but he should consider associate diplomas in cute hoorism) Now, back to me, my interests are separate from my work life and I try to maintain a balance. I have stood at the edge and came near to crossing it. As I scroll through these forums, I have come across a number of people in "emotional distress" and reached out on occasion. I know there are similar astutely aware people to me, because many have reached out when they recognised similar. Ladies and gents, FAB is a wild West arena and I'm sure if I ever go back into study mode, it would be interesting to have conversations with you on this (although, I am certain I would find it hard for some one to oversee it) | |||
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" You can’t seriously expect anyone to buy this horse s*it? “It was an experiment” is code for “this didn’t go how I wanted to I’m in damage recovery mode”. Rather than reading the pushback and reassessing the situation so you could grow a pair and admit you were in the wrong, you’ve decided to try gaslighting a room full of grown functioning adults. Whoever refused you the pictures had a lucky escape. 🚩 I'm not selling anything. If I was, I'd label it as miracle bunkum, guaranteed to spurn growth. Think about this for a second, instead of going into keyboard warrior mode. People are here for different reasons. Some claim it's a "lifestyle" perhaps, but let's unpack this, it maybe a choice.For others it's a trip to the sweetshop who want sex. You can look in the window, stand there all day, try to figure it out and realise, the shop is closed. C'est la vie, but societal norms frown upon it, that us reality and many who really prefer their actual lifestyle as it currently is, do not want to be ruined. Next, no face pic, no reply (I love these) - it's not a rant, but I'll take the back lash. Some might see it as power or a way to screen if the other person is genuine. Reality check, you don't know until you physically see the person and then, you still don't "know" - AI us the game changer, and for the people who are in thr know, this is their superpower. It can be used for "good" or you can turn a couple of quid. I knew someone who ran fowl of it recently, his solution, was a permanent one, rip. ... but let us not forget, how many women are pressurised into situations. It's a double edged sword. Lastly, and I had this (conversation with someone recently) - there are huge issues around mental health that are unchecked. There is a dopamine buzz that we all crave for a greater or lesser extant which can be fueled by risky behaviour. You never see it at the time but adrenaline which fuels the fight or flight side can give people different kicks (In a previous job, I enjoyed the buzz it gave) Let's skip to the different forms of coercive control, we all know about it, but it starts off small and can develop with unsavoury consequences. Pushback comes in all forms and they say, what ever doesn't kill you makes you stronger. The reality is, the mind is a different kettle of fish and once that is damaged, it can go either way. As for gaslighting, there are easier ways to start fires. I was trying to get people to think. If anything, it can show, that if you make say something outlandish, curiousity strikes and there is, "I need to see who this person is momemt" - let's call this the trump factor (although some might say, it isn't going to well for donnie at the moment, it really is for the master of deflection - his Trump University may have been a flop, but he should consider associate diplomas in cute hoorism) Now, back to me, my interests are separate from my work life and I try to maintain a balance. I have stood at the edge and came near to crossing it. As I scroll through these forums, I have come across a number of people in "emotional distress" and reached out on occasion. I know there are similar astutely aware people to me, because many have reached out when they recognised similar. Ladies and gents, FAB is a wild West arena and I'm sure if I ever go back into study mode, it would be interesting to have conversations with you on this (although, I am certain I would find it hard for some one to oversee it) " So many words, so little meaning. You thought you’d get sympathy and you didn’t and now you’re trying to waffle your way out of it with this utterly pointless diatribe. And anyone who cites trump as anything but a child r*p*st raises another GIANT red flag. I’m not coming back to this tread again. I value my brain cells too much. | |||
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"So op was asked for face photo or no social meet.....thats it and he said no Is that the correct very brief synopsis " Yup. | |||
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"I fully regret posting anything on this thread "Post on multiple threads and at least it'll be gone from your green arrow  | |||
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Post on multiple threads and at least it'll be gone from your green arrow "Right Smash In | |||
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