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"Do you think you'd like yourself if you met yourself?
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Yup...absolutely....isn't that the thing as regards trying to meet your soul mate ...isn't it trying to meet the person thats on the same wavelength as you ..so if you meet yourself isn't that meeting the exact person youre trying to meet ..if you catch my drift ?? |
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By *heXxX OP Woman 3 weeks ago
Dublin |
When it comes to character, I have no doubt that it is, but... honestly, I’ve never been entirely comfortable with my appearance. Sometimes I even think if I don't like myself why would others think differently? There have always seemed to be more important things to focus on. Right now, I simply don’t feel I have the energy to make changes, even though I know I should.
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"When it comes to character, I have no doubt that it is, but... honestly, I’ve never been entirely comfortable with my appearance. Sometimes I even think if I don't like myself why would others think differently? There have always seemed to be more important things to focus on. Right now, I simply don’t feel I have the energy to make changes, even though I know I should.
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I think in terms of looks and shape we are always our own worst critic, and it holds us back. It appears that people who don't worry about those things have more fun, regardless of how they might look. |
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I never considered the physical side when I answered.
This is me. Take it or leave it. I've made the changes to ensure I'm healthier, happier, and more active. This is the body I'm left with - it's very far from perfect and it bears the visible scars of life and all it's ups and downs, twists and turns. I haven't always been good to it and that shows. Do I love how it looks? Not always. But it's so easy to hone in on the things we're least happy with with rather than taking a holistic view of ourselves as others see us.
If I like a person (beyond just friendship) it's because I like the bigger picture of them and the whole package is attractive to me. So I'd like to think I'd afford myself that same attitude if I met myself |
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Yes I would because that's how I allow people into my circle.
Anyone I feel an affiliation with or form a connection with will more often than not display similar traits to my own.
I'm attracted to good people who are caring, compassionate and inclusive as well as being reliable and supportive so obviously I would like me if I met me.
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"I never considered the physical side when I answered.
This is me. Take it or leave it. I've made the changes to ensure I'm healthier, happier, and more active. This is the body I'm left with - it's very far from perfect and it bears the visible scars of life and all it's ups and downs, twists and turns. I haven't always been good to it and that shows. Do I love how it looks? Not always. But it's so easy to hone in on the things we're least happy with with rather than taking a holistic view of ourselves as others see us.
If I like a person (beyond just friendship) it's because I like the bigger picture of them and the whole package is attractive to me. So I'd like to think I'd afford myself that same attitude if I met myself "
Great attitude. I think most people aren't looking for perfection to begin with, even though we think they are and think they won't like us because of the various imperfections on our bodies when those imperfections are just part of what makes each of us unique. |
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"Do you think you'd like yourself if you met yourself?
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Yes, for the most part. But I know there are times when I annoy myself and I definitely know i wouldn't like myself.
It's a lovely feeling when I meet someone that I click with 💯 and feel a real affinity with. When they say exactly what you are thinking.
Physically I never really thought about it because, like so many I only see the parts of me that I don't like. And really a connection with someone whether that's for friendship or more, is based on more than a physical attraction for me. |
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Would I want to fuck myself? No…I’m straight 🤷🏻♀️
I don’t decide whether I like someone as a whole based on their appearance so when I read the question that didn’t come into it at all for me.
I think I would like me. I’m sure I’d find myself annoying at times but I can’t think of a single person who doesn’t annoy me now and then.
I’m polite, kind, fiercely loyal and protective of my friends and family and obvs funny as fuck so I imagine me and Jaffa 2.0 would have great craic putting the world right. |
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By *enitMan 3 weeks ago
Galway |
"When it comes to character, I have no doubt that it is, but... honestly, I’ve never been entirely comfortable with my appearance. Sometimes I even think if I don't like myself why would others think differently? There have always seemed to be more important things to focus on. Right now, I simply don’t feel I have the energy to make changes, even though I know I should.
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Making small incremental changes would be a plan, as you do them you may get more motivated to continue and the feelings around would definitely be a lift  |
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As a younger me, I was very driven in business/work life. More than likely did upset a good few people. Not afraid to admit I was very arrogant and pushy back then. So if I'm being honest I would have to say no. |
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By *om TangoMan 3 weeks ago
Tedavnet Co.Monaghan |
When it comes to my looks, likely not. As in fun, easy going, not taking myself to seriously, respectful and what you see is what you get than yes. But I’d be an annoying little cunt, kinda annoying cunt that is fun to be around. |
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I think everyone would like to think they would. However if you met yourself, you would also be aware of the worst parts of yourself. Then it depends on your perspective and whether you believe the good parts of you outweigh the negative and whether on balance you're a decent sort.
I'd like to think I am. |
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By *astelloWoman 3 weeks ago
Far far away |
Id like to think lm good company. Tend to be able to converse on lots of things. Probably not going to be attractive to everyone but a 50% rate of mutual attraction is good. Being honest about thar is important too as well. Overall, ld like to think yep shur I'd meet her again. |
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Definitely not, I am attracted to people who are different to me. I like the effect of two different personalities and the compromises that creates.
I'm very outgoing and think competing with myself for airtime would be too challenging 😕
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I would if I took the time to get to know me but first impressions I might seem standoffish and hard work (I actually realised this at a fab event last year) but it’s quite the opposite, just lacking in confidence but hide it well. But I’m a damned good friend and fun too lol. |
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First appearance i(silk) think people find me a bit stand offfish-possibly up my own ass lol but I do have a resting bitch face. But it’s not the case at all, after years in the scene I still get very nervous -whether it’s a one to one meet or a social night. I can be quite shy, even though I might be comfortable in my surroundings I’m not always comfortable in my own skin. Once I relax I could chat to the devil but I find people can take you at first glance. Thankfully, what attracts us to people is more than the physical so no one is safe from us, we will find you and chat the ears of you. So I’m not snotty but I am a dose lol and totally own it. So deep for a Thursday afternoon x |
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"Do you think you'd like yourself if you met yourself?
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Some days I can barely tolerate myself.
Now that I'm older, I'm more of a take me as I am or forget about it. When you reach the point of stopping trying to please others, it possible to feel happier but there is always one asshole who will fuck it up.
The best laid plans are often at the end of a very bumpy road.
As for body, well that is lumps and bumps with the scars of a life. Some can be chosen to be forgotten while the rest awaits.
I'm not perfect but then again, no one is.
Getting to know someone for who they are matters now, while eliminating negativity and saying ta'hell with what can't be fixed  |
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