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Who is actually up for meets?
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Our experience in the last year has left us puzzled.
We have been looking to have meets .
Getting the same
No babysitter
Put diesel in petrol car
Too short notice (2 weeks)
Last min cancel
Would couples and females please post here if yous are genuinely up for a meet , be it social or fun.
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By *1CorkCouple 2 weeks ago
Cork |
The number of couples who are active (have a play meet Veri in last 6 months) is small within a 45 min drive radius (County Cork) for us… then there’s physical attraction for all four individuals to be satisfied- including enough photos of both partners to determine it… then there’s compatibility in sexual expectations and objectives from a meet… there’s differing approaches to meeting to be reconciled - social first/ sharing face pics/ rapport from messaging/ straight to hotel room/ night of drinks & dancing/ etc. … then there’s varying degrees of availability due to personal/ work/ family circumstances that can be a logistical challenge.
So yes, meeting couples in Ireland from fab is very very difficult. It’s the brilliant couples and great experiences that make the effort worthwhile.
Parties and club weekends away are definitely something we need due to the low return from the process of finding local foursomes through the site. You should definitely consider that
OP if you’re getting frustrated. |
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By *rodigal funCouple 2 weeks ago
Antrim Down Derry Tyrone Armagh |
"The number of couples who are active (have a play meet Veri in last 6 months) is small within a 45 min drive radius (County Cork) for us… then there’s physical attraction for all four individuals to be satisfied- including enough photos of both partners to determine it… then
there’s compatibility in sexual expectations and objectives from a meet… there’s differing approaches to meeting to be reconciled - social first/ sharing face pics/ rapport from messaging/ straight to hotel room/ night of drinks & dancing/ etc. … then there’s varying degrees of availability due to personal/ work/ family circumstances that can be a logistical challenge.
So yes, meeting couples in Ireland from fab is very very difficult. It’s the brilliant couples and great experiences that make the effort worthwhile.
Parties and club weekends away are definitely something we need due to the low return from the process of finding local foursomes through the site. You should definitely consider that
OP if you’re getting frustrated."
Agree 100% with this.
There's so many aspects to setting up a meet, when it all falls into place it's fantastic.
When it doesn't you just have to re-adjust your approach and go again. |
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"Our experience in the last year has left us puzzled.
We have been looking to have meets .
Getting the same
No babysitter
Put diesel in petrol car
Too short notice (2 weeks)
Last min cancel
Would couples and females please post here if yous are genuinely up for a meet , be it social or fun.
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Real life gets in the way sometimes even with the best intentions of meeting .for this reason we find Going to a party cuts out a lot of this hassle .
Mr crazy |
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You might be having a great conversation and then suddenly get blocked - I don't take it personal, some do. I have noticed an increase number of spam accounts of late though.
People move on and there are some are here for meetups, others for chatting - there's nothing wrong with checking out the vibe but that can shift (expect the unexplained block)
Most people are busy: arranging socials or coffee meets can take time. The biggest problem is, other commitments might actually need to cone first.
For me, if I'm in the geographic area on a day and it's not out of the way, I've no problem meeting for a chat. |
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"Our experience in the last year has left us puzzled.
We have been looking to have meets .
Getting the same
No babysitter
Put diesel in petrol car
Too short notice (2 weeks)
Last min cancel
Would couples and females please post here if yous are genuinely up for a meet , be it social or fun.
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Everyone knows that life can play its part , of course it does BUT not everytime, there are people here that NEVER have any intention of meeting, the sad part of it all is you have to experience or go through this to realise you ain't gonna meet them simply because they didn't have any intention in the 1st place , can't understand that people would do that to others & waste their time . |
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"We prefer sexy play meets "
We are the same , but its very hard to meet people on here , thats why we just mostly stick to attending parties as no mailing back and forth , every one there is there for the same reason and the social and play in one evening , best of both.
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Thanks for getting involved with experience and thoughts all.
So parties and events are the easiest way to guarantee a meet up with a few of her ?
Agree with that.
But is it not disappointing for yous that you have to pay 150 etc for someone of here to string together a gathering for us .
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It's the same for all on here really. Having been part of a couple it was just as hard to meet the right people for a coffee and a chat. Never mind to play with. I'm a single fella and that's even harder. Don't get me wrong I'm not moaning about it. Parties and socials do appear to be your best bet. At least you can plan ahead knowing that these events will actually take place, unlike getting a last minute cancellation from another person or couple. |
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"Thanks for getting involved with experience and thoughts all.
So parties and events are the easiest way to guarantee a meet up with a few of her ?
Agree with that.
But is it not disappointing for yous that you have to pay 150 etc for someone of here to string together a gathering for us .
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For us , we dont mind paying for these events as most cpls on here cant accom so it be the price of a hotel anyway ,and ur stuck with the cost if they cancel last min too , most parties will have food and bring ur own drink , and u can sleep there too , they have to cover the cost for the rental of the poperty , food , and all the other bits thats needed so we do feel its value for money as everyone there is a swinger too.
If u just decide to meet another cpl from here , you will prob head out for a few drinks and food anyway and taxi , add the cost of that .
Mrs crazy
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If u just decide to meet another cpl from here , you will prob head out for a few drinks and food anyway and taxi , add the cost of that .
Mrs crazy
Fair point
But are there not a good few on here that would be afraid to attend a party where they could know something from vanilla life .
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"If u just decide to meet another cpl from here , you will prob head out for a few drinks and food anyway and taxi , add the cost of that .
Mrs crazy
Fair point
But are there not a good few on here that would be afraid to attend a party where they could know something from vanilla life .
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There will always be a risk u might bump into someone from real life at a party , but everyone is there for the same reasons and they prob wont out ye as they would out themselves too by doing so.
We have met people from vanilla life at parties , some we even ended up have fun with , all was good on either side , so dont let that stop ye from attending parties and socials
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Our past experience is that we always insisted on a Social meet but the amount of last minute cancellations led to a rethink.
Often think the male makes plans without informing his wife/partner, more confusion.
Now we play in PDI or Tenerife and are open to hosting someone who would have similar interests. |
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"If there is no pressure to play and I find them intriguing,I would meet no problems.
If i see that all chat I sex,sex,sex...its a turn off for me personally.
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We never expect anything are be pushy for fun . If things happen we'll and good.
Saying that, if you are on a swing meet , do ya not be more adventurous and open-minded than out on the town for a night out.
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"If there is no pressure to play and I find them intriguing,I would meet no problems.
If i see that all chat I sex,sex,sex...its a turn off for me personally.
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There should never be pressure to play 
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There will always be a risk u might bump into someone from real life at a party , but everyone is there for the same reasons and they prob wont out ye as they would out themselves too by doing so.
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Unfortunately not everyone is discreet. We had it said back to us at work in front of others ...
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"If there is no pressure to play and I find them intriguing,I would meet no problems.
If i see that all chat I sex,sex,sex...its a turn off for me personally.
We never expect anything are be pushy for fun . If things happen we'll and good.
Saying that, if you are on a swing meet , do ya not be more adventurous and open-minded than out on the town for a night out.
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We are all operate differently, and need/want different things.  I like to connect with the person im planning to meet first.My mind needs to be stimulated.  |
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"If there is no pressure to play and I find them intriguing,I would meet no problems.
If i see that all chat I sex,sex,sex...its a turn off for me personally.
There should never be pressure to play
Mindy"
Not everyone can see that...  some think if you met ,you obliged to fuck them  and if you don't, you're waste of time  |
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"Often think the male makes plans without informing his wife/partner, more confusion.
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Definitely chat two both and discuss with everyone's interests and boundaries are. Make sure everyone is on the same page, we do use group telegram |
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Events is where it's at as far as we're concerned. We tried through the site in our early days but it's awkward, it takes ages, and it's rare that it gets anywhere. And if you're trying to avoid chasing a dozen people at the same time, you're going to spend weeks for a failed approach. It's just exhausting.
Socials on the other hand? That's about 50-100 people in the same spot. Everyone there is real and interested in meeting in person, so that's all fake and fantasising profiles out. And you have an entire evening to mingle and see if you find your match, either for the night itself or for a private meet later.
Obviously, there's no guarantees you'll click with anyone, but the chances are a lot better than with a single person/couple. More choice, and you get to see people in person and get a feeling for them with some chatting. And if nothing happens? It still is a lovely night out with a fellow minded crowd in which you'll likely make some friends.
Out of all our adventures so far, only a single meet happened through the site. Everything else was from events. |
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