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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Interesting article I came across. Not being a victim of this myself but having witnessed it at parties . I Thought it was worth sharing here .
A new study explores the phenomenon of “stealthing” ? the purposefully nonconsensual removal of condoms during sex ? and how those who fall victim to the practice can move forward.
The study, written by Alexandra Brodsky for the Columbia Journal of Gender and Law, features interviews with victims of stealthing. Brodsky also does a deep dive into the online world of men who feel entitled to “bareback” sex without their partner’s consent, regardless of that partner’s gender.
http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/us_58f75eb2e4b05b9d613eb997?section=us_women
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thats very disturbing.....
It ultimately feels better and i have often done it with a long term pertners consent while sleeping with eachother but the feel "entitled" and do it secretly is not a good image for men as a whole |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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I had a good few of chancers which is an absolute turn off and disrespectful, but luckily no stealther. However I'm aware of two women this happened to and in my opinion it's a sneaky form of r ape as it happens without consent. It should be reported and legally pursued. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had a good few of chancers which is an absolute turn off and disrespectful, but luckily no stealther. However I'm aware of two women this happened to and in my opinion it's a sneaky form of r ape as it happens without consent. It should be reported and legally pursued. "
That's exactly what it is i.e. in Sweden and will result is same sentencing as other form of that act. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Stealthing...is so wrong on every level.How anybody could stoop so low is beyond me and its only a matter of time before someone will be persued through the legal system and charged with some form non consensual sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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this has happened to me more than once with meets on here, both men tried to laugh it off as if i was making a big deal out of nothing despite me having explained explicitly that a condom be worn at all times . twice caught a meet attempting to sneakily remove condom when things got hotted up . There are men here who do not give a flying fuck for your safe sex concerns and are quite prepared to totally fucking ignore your boundaries . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had a good few of chancers which is an absolute turn off and disrespectful, but luckily no stealther. However I'm aware of two women this happened to and in my opinion it's a sneaky form of r ape as it happens without consent. It should be reported and legally pursued.
That's exactly what it is i.e. in Sweden and will result is same sentencing as other form of that act."
Which is as it should be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its sexual violence/control its really frightening. Its like something from the dark ages....man spreading his seed!"
The name is disgusting as well, like it's nothing big, 'just a bit of stealth is all, nothing to worry about'. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It was a landmark legal case in Switzerland. Following a tinder hook up the rapist removed the condom without consent. Equally disturbing was the sentence ,1 year suspended. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This happened to me with a well verified member of fab. He wasn't sorry at all and just laughed it off. I was totally shocked by his behaviour.
Morning after pill and off sex until I got the all clear from the doctor were the consequences... not to mention what it did to me mentally.
The craziest thing was I met him again a few months later. I think they call it Stockholm syndrome.  |
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By *isstIrlCouple
over a year ago
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"This happened to me with a well verified member of fab. He wasn't sorry at all and just laughed it off. I was totally shocked by his behaviour.
Morning after pill and off sex until I got the all clear from the doctor were the consequences... not to mention what it did to me mentally.
The craziest thing was I met him again a few months later. I think they call it Stockholm syndrome. "
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"This happened to me with a well verified member of fab. He wasn't sorry at all and just laughed it off. I was totally shocked by his behaviour.
Morning after pill and off sex until I got the all clear from the doctor were the consequences... not to mention what it did to me mentally.
The craziest thing was I met him again a few months later. I think they call it Stockholm syndrome. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This happened to me with a well verified member of fab. He wasn't sorry at all and just laughed it off. I was totally shocked by his behaviour.
Morning after pill and off sex until I got the all clear from the doctor were the consequences... not to mention what it did to me mentally.
The craziest thing was I met him again a few months later. I think they call it Stockholm syndrome. omg "
And you met him again
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By *kmanMan
over a year ago
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"this has happened to me more than once with meets on here, both men tried to laugh it off as if i was making a big deal out of nothing despite me having explained explicitly that a condom be worn at all times . twice caught a meet attempting to sneakily remove condom when things got hotted up . There are men here who do not give a flying fuck for your safe sex concerns and are quite prepared to totally fucking ignore your boundaries ."
Scumbags all of them  |
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"this has happened to me more than once with meets on here, both men tried to laugh it off as if i was making a big deal out of nothing despite me having explained explicitly that a condom be worn at all times . twice caught a meet attempting to sneakily remove condom when things got hotted up . There are men here who do not give a flying fuck for your safe sex concerns and are quite prepared to totally fucking ignore your boundaries ."
If somebody did this to me I'd remove his cock |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This happened to me with a well verified member of fab. He wasn't sorry at all and just laughed it off. I was totally shocked by his behaviour.
Morning after pill and off sex until I got the all clear from the doctor were the consequences... not to mention what it did to me mentally.
The craziest thing was I met him again a few months later. I think they call it Stockholm syndrome. "
No, that's for kid-nap victims. What you have is called Russian roulette syndrome...  |
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By *at3232Woman
over a year ago
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"this has happened to me more than once with meets on here, both men tried to laugh it off as if i was making a big deal out of nothing despite me having explained explicitly that a condom be worn at all times . twice caught a meet attempting to sneakily remove condom when things got hotted up . There are men here who do not give a flying fuck for your safe sex concerns and are quite prepared to totally fucking ignore your boundaries .
If somebody did this to me I'd remove his cock "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This happened to me with a well verified member of fab. He wasn't sorry at all and just laughed it off. I was totally shocked by his behaviour.
Morning after pill and off sex until I got the all clear from the doctor were the consequences... not to mention what it did to me mentally.
The craziest thing was I met him again a few months later. I think they call it Stockholm syndrome.
No, that's for kid-nap victims. What you have is called Russian roulette syndrome... "
I seriously don't know what drove me to do that. He seriously messed with my head.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This happened to me with a well verified member of fab. He wasn't sorry at all and just laughed it off. I was totally shocked by his behaviour.
Morning after pill and off sex until I got the all clear from the doctor were the consequences... not to mention what it did to me mentally.
The craziest thing was I met him again a few months later. I think they call it Stockholm syndrome. "
Did he try it again? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This happened to me with a well verified member of fab. He wasn't sorry at all and just laughed it off. I was totally shocked by his behaviour.
Morning after pill and off sex until I got the all clear from the doctor were the consequences... not to mention what it did to me mentally.
The craziest thing was I met him again a few months later. I think they call it Stockholm syndrome.
No, that's for kid-nap victims. What you have is called Russian roulette syndrome...
I seriously don't know what drove me to do that. He seriously messed with my head.
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Please tell us he didn't do it the second time too.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This happened to me with a well verified member of fab. He wasn't sorry at all and just laughed it off. I was totally shocked by his behaviour.
Morning after pill and off sex until I got the all clear from the doctor were the consequences... not to mention what it did to me mentally.
The craziest thing was I met him again a few months later. I think they call it Stockholm syndrome.
Did he try it again?"
No |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This happened to me with a well verified member of fab. He wasn't sorry at all and just laughed it off. I was totally shocked by his behaviour.
Morning after pill and off sex until I got the all clear from the doctor were the consequences... not to mention what it did to me mentally.
The craziest thing was I met him again a few months later. I think they call it Stockholm syndrome.
Did he try it again?
No"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had a good few of chancers which is an absolute turn off and disrespectful, but luckily no stealther. However I'm aware of two women this happened to and in my opinion it's a sneaky form of r ape as it happens without consent. It should be reported and legally pursued.
That's exactly what it is i.e. in Sweden and will result is same sentencing as other form of that act.
Which is as it should be."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyman that tried to do this on site should be banned completely
This is definitely a case for name and shame alot of ladies talk to one another, if I told a member did this id block him.... "
The problem is some girls anf guys like to spread rumours and sometimes it is bit difficult to believe who is telling the truth. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyman that tried to do this on site should be banned completely
This is definitely a case for name and shame alot of ladies talk to one another, if I told a member did this id block him....
The problem is some girls anf guys like to spread rumours and sometimes it is bit difficult to believe who is telling the truth. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"These are the lads that are making it nearly impossible for genuine lads 2 get going on this.
Glad you were able to make this about yourself lol"
A little harsh.. maybe ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyman that tried to do this on site should be banned completely
This is definitely a case for name and shame alot of ladies talk to one another, if I told a member did this id block him....
The problem is some girls anf guys like to spread rumours and sometimes it is bit difficult to believe who is telling the truth. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"These are the lads that are making it nearly impossible for genuine lads 2 get going on this.
Glad you were able to make this about yourself lol"
Not about me I am quite happy with the way this is going for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyman that tried to do this on site should be banned completely
This is definitely a case for name and shame alot of ladies talk to one another, if I told a member did this id block him....
The problem is some girls anf guys like to spread rumours and sometimes it is bit difficult to believe who is telling the truth. "
Yes and some people are just plain malicious.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyman that tried to do this on site should be banned completely
This is definitely a case for name and shame alot of ladies talk to one another, if I told a member did this id block him....
The problem is some girls anf guys like to spread rumours and sometimes it is bit difficult to believe who is telling the truth.
Yes and some people are just plain malicious.... "
Yes!!!!... Tell me about it! |
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By *vpamelaTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Interesting article I came across. Not being a victim of this myself but having witnessed it at parties . I Thought it was worth sharing here .
A new study explores the phenomenon of “stealthing” ? the purposefully nonconsensual removal of condoms during sex ? and how those who fall victim to the practice can move forward.
The study, written by Alexandra Brodsky for the Columbia Journal of Gender and Law, features interviews with victims of stealthing. Brodsky also does a deep dive into the online world of men who feel entitled to “bareback” sex without their partner’s consent, regardless of that partner’s gender.
http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/us_58f75eb2e4b05b9d613eb997?section=us_women
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That is so thoroughly disgusting! Quickest route to castration in my book!  |
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"Stealthing isnt only the removal of a condom during sex. Women are guilty of this too where the condom is pierced with a pin through its wrapper.Its a sneaky way to render them null and void in the attempt of becoming pregnant. 
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Scary huh!.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyman that tried to do this on site should be banned completely
This is definitely a case for name and shame alot of ladies talk to one another, if I told a member did this id block him....
The problem is some girls anf guys like to spread rumours and sometimes it is bit difficult to believe who is telling the truth. "
Very true. Someone takes a dislike to someone and all kinds of shit gets said about people. Three sides to every story. Theirs yours and the truth |
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"Stealthing isnt only the removal of a condom during sex. Women are guilty of this too where the condom is pierced with a pin through its wrapper.Its a sneaky way to render them null and void in the attempt of becoming pregnant. "
I've never heard of that before. The mind boggles. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i dont advocate for naming and shaming , but the fact remains that there are utter scumbags here who do this kind of thing and i for one couldnt give a flying fuck for their "truth" or side of the story . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i dont advocate for naming and shaming , but the fact remains that there are utter scumbags here who do this kind of thing and i for one couldnt give a flying fuck for their "truth" or side of the story . "
And what happens when a woman lies and says he did it, but he didn't? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This happened to me with a well verified member of fab. He wasn't sorry at all and just laughed it off. I was totally shocked by his behaviour.
Morning after pill and off sex until I got the all clear from the doctor were the consequences... not to mention what it did to me mentally.
The craziest thing was I met him again a few months later. I think they call it Stockholm syndrome. "
very scary thank god you are ok horrible thing to do |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i dont advocate for naming and shaming , but the fact remains that there are utter scumbags here who do this kind of thing and i for one couldnt give a flying fuck for their "truth" or side of the story . "
so you have met them 'scumbags' or it's second hand?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i dont advocate for naming and shaming , but the fact remains that there are utter scumbags here who do this kind of thing and i for one couldnt give a flying fuck for their "truth" or side of the story .
so you have met them 'scumbags' or it's second hand?
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you didnt read my first post on this thread . Yes , I met several . |
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I remember as a young lad getting condoms of a fella, now bear in mind I was only 13 or 14 living in the country side and not very street wise and never having seen a condom before we opened the pack as soon as he had left and after inspecting it for a bit and figuring out how these things worked we decided we would blow it up like a balloon, so we blew and blew and blew and it just wouldn't blow up, turns out the sick bollix had pierced it with a pin several times through the seam of the wrapper. This happened approximately 30 years, there were sick bastards then so it's really no surprise there are still some around today. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i dont advocate for naming and shaming , but the fact remains that there are utter scumbags here who do this kind of thing and i for one couldnt give a flying fuck for their "truth" or side of the story .
so you have met them 'scumbags' or it's second hand?
you didnt read my first post on this thread . Yes , I met several ."
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By (user no longer on site)
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Unfortunately I think this is quite a common thing. It happened to me when I was 19 and seeing a much older guy. He said he hadn't had sex for a few years and never had an STI. I only knew he had taken the condom off when I noticed cum leaking out of me. I told him he shouldn't have done it but he laughed it off and I didn't want him to think i was overreacting. We didn't use condoms after that. Really shocking to look back now at how easily I accepted his behaviour. |
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