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Cum quickly- compliment or let down?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Let down.
An early cummer can spoil what should be hours of teasing, flirting, foreplay and finally the grand finale.
Having said that, its a takent timing it so both share that final explosive few mins at same time
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tried to excuse that by thinking of the men didn't have sex in a long time so they can't hold it for long. But its very disappointing. While Im still so horney and have to wait till he gets "in the mood" again. No thanks. |
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"I tried to excuse that by thinking of the men didn't have sex in a long time so they can't hold it for long. But its very disappointing. While Im still so horney and have to wait till he gets "in the mood" again. No thanks."
What if you were to cum first? Would the man you're with be disappointed that he had to get you "in the mood" again? Would you expect to be made to feel bad for your poor performance (because he is skilled at making women cum)?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I tried to excuse that by thinking of the men didn't have sex in a long time so they can't hold it for long. But its very disappointing. While Im still so horney and have to wait till he gets "in the mood" again. No thanks.
What if you were to cum first? Would the man you're with be disappointed that he had to get you "in the mood" again? Would you expect to be made to feel bad for your poor performance (because he is skilled at making women cum)?
#orgasmequality"
Ok theres a big difference here. Women can have several orgasms one after the other....men don't. So if I cum first theres literally nothing to stop him to cum when he is ready, and lets say he's very skilled.. I could cum again...
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Some incorrect assumptions there. SOME women (but not all) can cum more than once. Many cant do it without a significant buildup with the male partner putting work in to get her in the mood and able to have orgasm number 2. Also some men can also cum more than once in fairly quick succession.
In my opinion the sign of a good lover is one who will happily put the work in to make me cum, not the one who can hold out the longest in some not-cumming competition (that doesnt also apply to the female).
In my opinion is not ok for men to bear all the pressure of somehow ruining sex and being a bad lover, if his partner gets him so turned on that he cums before her.
Complaining that you have to work to get him in the mood again is just lazy. Guys do it. You can too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Or both ladies?"
A total let down 
I used to see a guy & everytime I'd bend over for doggy he'd cum within seconds, I even counted the seconds once & he lasted a total of 3secs  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some incorrect assumptions there. SOME women (but not all) can cum more than once. Many cant do it without a significant buildup with the male partner putting work in to get her in the mood and able to have orgasm number 2. Also some men can also cum more than once in fairly quick succession.
In my opinion the sign of a good lover is one who will happily put the work in to make me cum, not the one who can hold out the longest in some not-cumming competition (that doesnt also apply to the female).
In my opinion is not ok for men to bear all the pressure of somehow ruining sex and being a bad lover, if his partner gets him so turned on that he cums before her.
Complaining that you have to work to get him in the mood again is just lazy. Guys do it. You can too."
Incorrect assumptions....I never said ALL women
I never complained about making the effort? but you still call me lazy? Lol. Hey keep it cool. We all have preferences dont we?.... I just answered OP's question. Quickies dont do anything for me and Im sure wouldnt do anything for a man. Loads of considerations in this important topic... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Or both ladies?
A total let down
I used to see a guy & everytime I'd bend over for doggy he'd cum within seconds, I even counted the seconds once & he lasted a total of 3secs "
Oh no disaster. Something like that happened to me also....Its awckward because I wouldnt feel comfortable if he feels embarassed because of that.  |
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Mr can make me cum in seconds and then over and over till im exhausted, he can be relentless and it's mind blowing. On the other hand sometimes I feel bad that I cum so much and he might cum once or not a all but on occasion he cums in a few mins. What matters is we both enjoy and are happy with how things work for us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do u think a woman would ever ask this question?
What would u guys say? "
I think most women would be ready to go again quite soon after, so it wouldn’t really be a problem. Most guys on the other hand, not so much.
I think most guys would take a woman cumming really quickly as a compliment |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Doesnt bother me if he cums quick. Once he then turns his attention to me more so.
MrD will be ready to go again in 10mins anyway. If he is really turned on, sooner. So its just enough time for me to get a vib out & please myself while he recovers. He usually starts playing with my nipple piercing or something to keep me warmed up & horny.
I think you need an attentive lover who may cum quick but entertains you as he gears up again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Or both ladies?
A total let down
I used to see a guy & everytime I'd bend over for doggy he'd cum within seconds, I even counted the seconds once & he lasted a total of 3secs "
To be fair Zara with you bent over it's slot to hold back from cumming  xx |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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I find it utterly frustrating and surely it isn't very promising nor a great motivation to get him and yourself going again for round two.
I can understand that the sheer initial excitement can lead to a quicker peak. However based on my experience the underlying problem is a lack of tuning between body and mind for various reasons.
As for #orgasmequality, where's mine if he goes off like a cheap firecracker?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its almost like different people have different preferences.....
Clear communication and honesty are key.
If you are looking for someone to go and go be clear if your a guy and thats not your style be honest. And visa versa.
There is plenty people who want loads of various things |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"what about cum often ?? lol
Do you mean 10 times 3 minutes? It's a bit like putting the kettle on over and over again for binge drinking on Nescafe.  "
Loving the analogy |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I tried to excuse that by thinking of the men didn't have sex in a long time so they can't hold it for long. But its very disappointing. While Im still so horney and have to wait till he gets "in the mood" again. No thanks.
What if you were to cum first? Would the man you're with be disappointed that he had to get you "in the mood" again? Would you expect to be made to feel bad for your poor performance (because he is skilled at making women cum)?
#orgasmequality
Ok theres a big difference here. Women can have several orgasms one after the other....men don't. So if I cum first theres literally nothing to stop him to cum when he is ready, and lets say he's very skilled.. I could cum again...
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I haven't meet a girl that has cum before me in a long time.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I tried to excuse that by thinking of the men didn't have sex in a long time so they can't hold it for long. But its very disappointing. While Im still so horney and have to wait till he gets "in the mood" again. No thanks.
What if you were to cum first? Would the man you're with be disappointed that he had to get you "in the mood" again? Would you expect to be made to feel bad for your poor performance (because he is skilled at making women cum)?
#orgasmequality
Ok theres a big difference here. Women can have several orgasms one after the other....men don't. So if I cum first theres literally nothing to stop him to cum when he is ready, and lets say he's very skilled.. I could cum again...
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Best to look after her first |
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By *heilsWoman
over a year ago
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All men and women are different...some cum quick and then can cum again, some take alot of build up and "effort" while some may not cum at all during a session. What is important is that both people are satisfied, happy and comfortable. It's not an insult if a guy cums quickly, it's an insult if he then lays back and says "woah...that was good, I don't think I can go again..." and ignores the lady and her needs, and vice versa for a female to do that. Sure I'm done, good luck...see ya! |
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"I tried to excuse that by thinking of the men didn't have sex in a long time so they can't hold it for long. But its very disappointing. While Im still so horney and have to wait till he gets "in the mood" again. No thanks.
What if you were to cum first?
Would the man you're with be disappointed that he had to get you "in the mood" again? Would you expect to be made to feel bad for your poor performance (because he is skilled at making women cum)?
#orgasmequality
Ok theres a big difference here. Women can have several orgasms one after the other....men don't. So if I cum first theres literally nothing to stop him to cum when he is ready, and lets say he's very skilled.. I could cum again...
Best to look after her first"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Doesnt bother me if he cums quick. Once he then turns his attention to me more so.
MrD will be ready to go again in 10mins anyway. If he is really turned on, sooner. So its just enough time for me to get a vib out & please myself while he recovers. He usually starts playing with my nipple piercing or something to keep me warmed up & horny.
I think you need an attentive lover who may cum quick but entertains you as he gears up again. "
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"Are women happy to cum in any way or is it more important/more pleasurable to cum with sex?"
For me, it's not about how I cum but the fact that I like to be fucked for a long time, whether or not I cum! I'm very much all about cock so being stimulated only with fingers or tongue (because my partner has cum quickly) is frustrating for me.
So on the original Q, yes for me it's disappointing when my partner cums quickly. |
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Another point of view.... sometimes I know, no matter what I do, I ain’t gonna cum. I’ve spent so so long pleasuring her, licking her, rimming her , every position going fuckin her, so I’ve lost the plot wen it comes to my Cumming. Normally pull out and wank over her , happens mebbe 1 in 20 times |
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"Some incorrect assumptions there. SOME women (but not all) can cum more than once. Many cant do it without a significant buildup with the male partner putting work in to get her in the mood and able to have orgasm number 2. Also some men can also cum more than once in fairly quick succession.
In my opinion the sign of a good lover is one who will happily put the work in to make me cum, not the one who can hold out the longest in some not-cumming competition (that doesnt also apply to the female).
In my opinion is not ok for men to bear all the pressure of somehow ruining sex and being a bad lover, if his partner gets him so turned on that he cums before her.
Complaining that you have to work to get him in the mood again is just lazy. Guys do it. You can too."
Great attitude |
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By *ORDERMANMan
over a year ago
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Also depends on circumstances.. An ex sometimes liked a quickie and enjoyed that she'd turned me on so much I came quickly..
Other times I'd enjoying savouring the love making for considerably longer.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Complete let down if a partner isn't a repeat performer.
I'm not one for quickies with new people (people I'm familiar with- yes, no problem, if all circumstances are right).
It's extremely deflating building up chemistry and tension and electricity only for a 20 second dip. Yes, I've been there many times. Apparently my vajayjay really tightens when I'm enjoying myself and it makes people cum in no time and be like "whoah, that was out of this world, I can't move my legs" for about an hour. Which is just enough time to kill my mojo |
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By *ubeMan
over a year ago
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It's not all about cumming it's about pleasure for me, I enjoy giving a woman pleasure using everything I got, there is nothing more pleasurable for me than taking a woman to the edge and keeping her there for hours if she comes a few times so be it, as long as we both have a great time, |
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"Or both ladies?
A total let down
I used to see a guy & everytime I'd bend over for doggy he'd cum within seconds, I even counted the seconds once & he lasted a total of 3secs "
Ah now 3 seconds that has to be a joke haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's not all about cumming it's about pleasure for me, I enjoy giving a woman pleasure using everything I got, there is nothing more pleasurable for me than taking a woman to the edge and keeping her there for hours if she comes a few times so be it, as long as we both have a great time,"
agree its all about pleasure ... i think age & the snip had somewhat reduced my ability to cum quickly...but i so love the time we spend enjoying each other...as for the recovery time...a wonderful time to relax together, chat & prefare for the next round |
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"Some incorrect assumptions there. SOME women (but not all) can cum more than once. Many cant do it without a significant buildup with the male partner putting work in to get her in the mood and able to have orgasm number 2. Also some men can also cum more than once in fairly quick succession.
In my opinion the sign of a good lover is one who will happily put the work in to make me cum, not the one who can hold out the longest in some not-cumming competition (that doesnt also apply to the female).
In my opinion is not ok for men to bear all the pressure of somehow ruining sex and being a bad lover, if his partner gets him so turned on that he cums before her.
Complaining that you have to work to get him in the mood again is just lazy. Guys do it. You can too.
Incorrect assumptions....I never said ALL women
I never complained about making the effort? but you still call me lazy? Lol. Hey keep it cool. We all have preferences dont we?.... I just answered OP's question. Quickies dont do anything for me and Im sure wouldnt do anything for a man. Loads of considerations in this important topic..."
The reality is that each situation is different and there are no hard & fast rules (see what I did there) I've been with women that claim they never cum, some that only cum once & others that can't stop Cummings once they've had the first one, ultimately they've all reached the latter stage and it's through practice and relaxation. I've also been in group situations where guys can't cum, cum in seconds or hold off so long it's difficult to cum & yes there's even been repeat loads from guys, the best I've witnessed was 5 loads in an hour(not me) with the same woman. Bottom line is there can be any number of reasons for a quick cummer, if the woman takes it as anything other than a compliment then it's game over. |
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