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By *r Jelabi OP Man
over a year ago
North London |
So guys I’ve been on the scene for a while now, my partner has a feeling I’m into the swinging life but I haven’t totally come clean about it to her.
I wanna get her on board this Wacky ship to see if I we can keep this going together as partners, any ideas how I can bring it forward?...
I’ve started with some threesome porn but how do I get her to be more open about it?
Ladies your views right now would be gold! help me please  |
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I think she will either be into the idea or not. It's that simple really. Out of interest how long have you been together?
Maybe play a game that will encourage talking about fantasies etc so you can raise the topic that you swung before you met her. See what she says and if she seems open to it then suggest a no pressure chat with another couple about it?
Of course reassure her that she comes first and that swinging would just be an addition... |
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By *r Jelabi OP Man
over a year ago
North London |
"I think she will either be into the idea or not. It's that simple really. Out of interest how long have you been together?
Maybe play a game that will encourage talking about fantasies etc so you can raise the topic that you swung before you met her. See what she says and if she seems open to it then suggest a no pressure chat with another couple about it?
Of course reassure her that she comes first and that swinging would just be an addition..."
So we’ve been together since uni so almost 6 years now, she’s happy to talk about fantasies I have raised the topic about swinging but she brushes it off in a way that Im left unsure with what she’d like to do if that makes sense??
The couple idea maybe good but is that too much too soon? |
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By *r Jelabi OP Man
over a year ago
North London |
"Perhaps let her log into your account for a look at fab, get her own account or do a couples one? "
I’ve tried that she’s quite hesistant maybe because she’s never been sexual with someone apart from myself and I also don’t want her to feel like she’s not enough sexually for me but I know she will love this space...
Surely every girl gets bored after getting dicked down by the same cock in the same positions with the same amount of thrust lol |
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By *r Jelabi OP Man
over a year ago
North London |
"So you have been together since uni yet you have been swinging and have had a profile on here with verifications?
This now sounds a bit like cheating to me. "
Nah she knows what I do (she knows I’m on fabs seen my profile and knows what I get upto)... to a certain extent anyways so I wouldn’t say I’m cheating but that’s not even my point to all this
How do I get her to be more involved in this swinging lifestyle I’m not saying I wanna be a cuck and watch her but I’d love her to be more involved |
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By *r Jelabi OP Man
over a year ago
North London |
"Like I said to start with. She will either be into it or not. If she knows what you do and you have been together that long. I would suggest she's not. "
You don’t think those feelings can’t be altered?
Hmm I may have to leave this space if that’s the case as it wouldn’t be fair on her |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
Paisley |
You’ve been together 6 years and on here for 3 years. Something wrong in the relationship already if you’ve looked elsewhere after 3 years together. Is this really the person you see yourself with in 10, 15, 20 years time?
Maybe watch a film or a programme where swinging is involved. Mrs Browns boys has a hilarious episode and see her reaction. |
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By *r Jelabi OP Man
over a year ago
North London |
"You’ve been together 6 years and on here for 3 years. Something wrong in the relationship already if you’ve looked elsewhere after 3 years together. Is this really the person you see yourself with in 10, 15, 20 years time?
Maybe watch a film or a programme where swinging is involved. Mrs Browns boys has a hilarious episode and see her reaction. "
Mrs Browns boys idea sounds like a plan
Also adside from the sexual aspect I can’t see myself being with someone else apart from her we’ve known each other for 10 years and dated for almost 7 so if I didn’t wanna be with her long term or likewise for her, we wouldn’t be together right now.
I honestly think she’s open to the idea of swinging but is shy and confused in how to approach it.. maybe she’s worried she’ll enjoy too much and not want me??
I wish I could read minds this would be a lot simpler |
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By *r Jelabi OP Man
over a year ago
North London |
"I think your projecting your feelings of what you want onto her.
I totally agree with the above poster..."
Possibly, maybe I’m asking too much from her. Maybe I just want more... is that just a guy thing? |
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Honestly I think it's a 'I'm with the wrong girl thing' from what i can see. I used to feel like that and didn't realise at the time I was with the wrong person.
I then met my wife and she feels the same as me on all of this. I think your in a similar situation |
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By *r Jelabi OP Man
over a year ago
North London |
"Honestly I think it's a 'I'm with the wrong girl thing' from what i can see. I used to feel like that and didn't realise at the time I was with the wrong person.
I then met my wife and she feels the same as me on all of this. I think your in a similar situation "
Really.. hmm thank you for the advice I guess I’ve got a lot to think about
Do I leave the swinging scene or her?? |
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