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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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When did you know?
Were you quite young when you found out (like me) or has it come about later in life or through swinging?
Are you open about it and interested in same sex relationships (like me!) or is it just sex and a swinging thing?
Yes I'm nosy.  |
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I had a pretty sheltered upbringing and... couldn't accept my feelings for what they were? So I probably had crushes going back as long as my male crushes, but they didn't register the same way. Women are attracted to men, end of, sort of thing. I figured it out in early adulthood and a whole bunch of weird feelings in my memory suddenly made sense.
My guess is that day to day I "pass" as straight. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I was 11 when I realised. And I go on actual dates with ladies.
I don’t get it being a ‘swinging thing’. Seems bizarre to me xx"
I personally don't get it either. But I have seen people say that it's just their sex life so they don't feel the need to tell other people about. Which I get but that's not me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was 28.
Up until then I had only ever been really been with women.
I'd slept with a few men, mainly to try to "conform".
It took till my late 20's to realise I was attacked to men too.
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
I'll know it when I find it. |
I dated women a good few years before I dated men - what was surprising to me was that I was even attracted to men.
Nowadays I'm quite cockcentric but with the right woman I'd be open to dating or sex. It's not so much about the gender for me, more the feelings they ignite inside. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I dated women a good few years before I dated men - what was surprising to me was that I was even attracted to men.
Nowadays I'm quite cockcentric but with the right woman I'd be open to dating or sex. It's not so much about the gender for me, more the feelings they ignite inside."
Do women who give you good book recommendations ignite feelings too? |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
I'll know it when I find it. |
And I'm not open about it in as far as I'd tell a random person but my family met my girlfriend (she even stayed with us for a couple of weeks) and now I have a fiance who is a man so... I think they know. Maybe. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
I'll know it when I find it. |
"I dated women a good few years before I dated men - what was surprising to me was that I was even attracted to men.
Nowadays I'm quite cockcentric but with the right woman I'd be open to dating or sex. It's not so much about the gender for me, more the feelings they ignite inside.
Do women who give you good book recommendations ignite feelings too?"
100%. Being on the same page as me is a literary delight. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I was younger , us girls like to experiment , but wasn’t until I got into this swinging game at a later date that I went full on with other females. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"And I'm not open about it in as far as I'd tell a random person but my family met my girlfriend (she even stayed with us for a couple of weeks) and now I have a fiance who is a man so... I think they know. Maybe."
To be honest, I never came out. I just got a girlfriend one day and that was that. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I dated women a good few years before I dated men - what was surprising to me was that I was even attracted to men.
Nowadays I'm quite cockcentric but with the right woman I'd be open to dating or sex. It's not so much about the gender for me, more the feelings they ignite inside.
Do women who give you good book recommendations ignite feelings too?
100%. Being on the same page as me is a literary delight."
I see what you did there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And I'm not open about it in as far as I'd tell a random person but my family met my girlfriend (she even stayed with us for a couple of weeks) and now I have a fiance who is a man so... I think they know. Maybe."
This for me too.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I should have realised it at a very young age but I had no concept of what it might be, so lived in denial for 40 years, despite a few experiments along the way. I finally accepted I was bisexual shortly before my 50th birthday. |
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I was well into my 30s before I realised I was bisexual.
Not entirely sure why. I have always found other women attractive, but for whatever reason never put 2 and 2 together. Strangely, I actually got chatted up by women more in vanilla situations, when I thought I was straight. Maybe they knew something I didn't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mustve been 16, stayed with a mate at his grandparents house. We were sitting on the bed watchingb tv, he brushed his hand against my shorts and felt my cock, before too long im giving him a blowjob. From then i never encountered a guy for a few years until i got pulled by a couple in a bar and went back to theirs. After that it just grew and im happy with my choice.
I tend these days to only play bi with couples but if im in the mood i will look for a guy |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
Fabville |
I was about 19 when I started noticing women, had a one night stand. Never really persued it until I got into swinging (not because it's a swinging thing, but because I felt more sexualy liberated).
I initialy put 'strait', then 'bi curious'. Eventualy felt confident enough to say to those who look at my profile (and whoever reads my post) that I am bisexual.  |
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I knew from a young age, although i didn't have a word for it, didn't really think of it as a thing.
While I was married I never had any same-sex experiences, although we had an open marriage, but I started exploring again after that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Early 20s. Got a blowjob from a guy while I was kissing his wife and until that, I was convinced I was 100% straight. "
But that’s just someone putting their mouth round your cock.
I don’t think it makes you bisexual. Personally I think if you look at a man and fancy him, then you’d be bisexual.
That’s just my opinion though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I didn't know I was bisexual as it wasn't something I saw or had heard of (I grew up travelling a lot overseas).
I had lots of female role models from many different medias growing up who I admired, and inspired me to identify the woman I wanted to be.
Those I knew in person I would be very tactile with but it never crossed my mind to think there was a sexual next step. Looking back though there were quite a few of those moments where the air was quite sexually charged.
Its only when I realised that what attracted me to my male sexual partners was exactly the same as to what drew me close to my female 'crushes' and that realisation didn't come until I hit 30.
My bisexuality didn't come about because of swinging, it came about by reflection and understanding what it was that makes me sexually attracted to another individual which I realised had nothing to do with their gender...L xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Early 20s. Got a blowjob from a guy while I was kissing his wife and until that, I was convinced I was 100% straight.
But that’s just someone putting their mouth round your cock.
I don’t think it makes you bisexual. Personally I think if you look at a man and fancy him, then you’d be bisexual.
That’s just my opinion though."
Thanks for your opinion. I didn’t say it made me bisexual. I had a sexual experience with another man and enjoyed it and as a result of that, decided to explore further. I’ve never “fancied” another man but I’ve enjoyed a lot of sexual encounters with them. I’m classing that as bisexual regardless of other people’s opinions. |
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"I was well into my 30s before I realised I was bisexual.
Not entirely sure why. I have always found other women attractive, but for whatever reason never put 2 and 2 together. Strangely, I actually got chatted up by women more in vanilla situations, when I thought I was straight. Maybe they knew something I didn't. "
We actually started swinging initially, so that I could explore my bisexuality. |
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My daughter is 15 in a few weeks. Chatting in the kitchen the other night and she told me she is bi. She said she didn't think but she knows. She says that she is very much attracted to girls as she is boys but says she wouldn't want to be in a long term relationship with a girl as she would a boy. She took offence when I asked if she maybe she was more curious. She knows that I want is her to " live her life" the way she wants and is happy. She has only told me and her friend so far. Turns out her friend (16 ) is also bi. My biggest concern tho is that says she dosnt want to be bi and wishes she didnt like girls. I honestly think I accepted it more than she does herself at the moment. |
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I was 15 when I had my first experience with a girl it didn’t really confuse me as I knew I was also interested in boys ...I met my now husband at 16 and I’ve always been open and honest with him it’s not something I’ve ever felt ashamed of .. |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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"My daughter is 15 in a few weeks. Chatting in the kitchen the other night and she told me she is bi. She said she didn't think but she knows. She says that she is very much attracted to girls as she is boys but says she wouldn't want to be in a long term relationship with a girl as she would a boy. She took offence when I asked if she maybe she was more curious. She knows that I want is her to " live her life" the way she wants and is happy. She has only told me and her friend so far. Turns out her friend (16 ) is also bi. My biggest concern tho is that says she dosnt want to be bi and wishes she didnt like girls. I honestly think I accepted it more than she does herself at the moment. "
Your daughter is lucky to have such an understanding mum. Many don't x |
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"My daughter is 15 in a few weeks. Chatting in the kitchen the other night and she told me she is bi. She said she didn't think but she knows. She says that she is very much attracted to girls as she is boys but says she wouldn't want to be in a long term relationship with a girl as she would a boy. She took offence when I asked if she maybe she was more curious. She knows that I want is her to " live her life" the way she wants and is happy. She has only told me and her friend so far. Turns out her friend (16 ) is also bi. My biggest concern tho is that says she dosnt want to be bi and wishes she didnt like girls. I honestly think I accepted it more than she does herself at the moment.
Your daughter is lucky to have such an understanding mum. Many don't x"
Kind of you to say. X |
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"Early 20s. Got a blowjob from a guy while I was kissing his wife and until that, I was convinced I was 100% straight.
But that’s just someone putting their mouth round your cock.
I don’t think it makes you bisexual. Personally I think if you look at a man and fancy him, then you’d be bisexual.
That’s just my opinion though."
I can't imagine myself wanting a relationship with a man the way I have with a woman. My closest friends have been women, not men.
But I certainly get turned on looking at some men, usually when they are naked or half-naked. |
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I've always been very highly sexed from the age of about 14 years old always looking at porn magazines and wanking and then having some fun with my girlfriend and friends together and I'm now looking for some bi fun |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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I think I always "knew" deep down, going back to a very early age, but didn't act on it through fear, guilt, shame and other factors until a lot more recently - totally accept and embrace it now though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Early 20s. Got a blowjob from a guy while I was kissing his wife and until that, I was convinced I was 100% straight.
But that’s just someone putting their mouth round your cock.
I don’t think it makes you bisexual. Personally I think if you look at a man and fancy him, then you’d be bisexual.
That’s just my opinion though.
Thanks for your opinion. I didn’t say it made me bisexual. I had a sexual experience with another man and enjoyed it and as a result of that, decided to explore further. I’ve never “fancied” another man but I’ve enjoyed a lot of sexual encounters with them. I’m classing that as bisexual regardless of other people’s opinions. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think I've always known. Only since my teens did I realise I was pan, but I didn't know the term for it then. Never popped any cherry until I joined fab though, I'm not lucky in real life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I had a major meltdown 3 year ago..flashbacks to a life of abuse in and outside of the home. Result after a few near terminations was that I found myself...I didnt realise there was a real me...didn t realise why I d been angry and raging at the world. So I took myself off into a woodland and lived there homeless for over two years and determined to self analyse and face myself and the horror that was my childhood....thats when a new me emerged..a calm me, its very summarised but thats when I found I didnt care what gender a person was...if I liked or loved them thats what mattered. Hope this makes sense. Still have stuff to face but I am able to keep it fairly calm and let it process without reacting to it...but the mental side is another story..but yeah thats when I found I was bisexual...sorry if this dampens some peoples mood.  |
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By *ip2Man
over a year ago
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At 16 I had a "thing" with a boy at school. He said he got an erection any time he saw me. I sucked him once. Later he stood in front of my bed (boarding school, two beds in a room) and I wanked him until he came all over the bed - and me.
No more MM encounters after that until more than ten years later I arranged to meet a man at a sauna in London for hand relief, it was all over quite quickly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I had a major meltdown 3 year ago..flashbacks to a life of abuse in and outside of the home. Result after a few near terminations was that I found myself...I didnt realise there was a real me...didn t realise why I d been angry and raging at the world. So I took myself off into a woodland and lived there homeless for over two years and determined to self analyse and face myself and the horror that was my childhood....thats when a new me emerged..a calm me, its very summarised but thats when I found I didnt care what gender a person was...if I liked or loved them thats what mattered. Hope this makes sense. Still have stuff to face but I am able to keep it fairly calm and let it process without reacting to it...but the mental side is another story..but yeah thats when I found I was bisexual...sorry if this dampens some peoples mood. "
It makes perfect sense.Stopping and taking a hard look at yourself is a very brave step to take that most on the reflection/learn/change path fall at, and to share part of that is even harder.
It hasn't dampened my mood, it has been lifted to know that we now live in an environment where this stuff is no longer hidden and can be openly discussed. Thank you for sharing...L xx |
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By *arl17Man
over a year ago
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"I had a major meltdown 3 year ago..flashbacks to a life of abuse in and outside of the home. Result after a few near terminations was that I found myself...I didnt realise there was a real me...didn t realise why I d been angry and raging at the world. So I took myself off into a woodland and lived there homeless for over two years and determined to self analyse and face myself and the horror that was my childhood....thats when a new me emerged..a calm me, its very summarised but thats when I found I didnt care what gender a person was...if I liked or loved them thats what mattered. Hope this makes sense. Still have stuff to face but I am able to keep it fairly calm and let it process without reacting to it...but the mental side is another story..but yeah thats when I found I was bisexual...sorry if this dampens some peoples mood.
It makes perfect sense.Stopping and taking a hard look at yourself is a very brave step to take that most on the reflection/learn/change path fall at, and to share part of that is even harder.
It hasn't dampened my mood, it has been lifted to know that we now live in an environment where this stuff is no longer hidden and can be openly discussed. Thank you for sharing...L xx"
Been through the hard times... roll on the good times  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I had a major meltdown 3 year ago..flashbacks to a life of abuse in and outside of the home. Result after a few near terminations was that I found myself...I didnt realise there was a real me...didn t realise why I d been angry and raging at the world. So I took myself off into a woodland and lived there homeless for over two years and determined to self analyse and face myself and the horror that was my childhood....thats when a new me emerged..a calm me, its very summarised but thats when I found I didnt care what gender a person was...if I liked or loved them thats what mattered. Hope this makes sense. Still have stuff to face but I am able to keep it fairly calm and let it process without reacting to it...but the mental side is another story..but yeah thats when I found I was bisexual...sorry if this dampens some peoples mood.
It makes perfect sense.Stopping and taking a hard look at yourself is a very brave step to take that most on the reflection/learn/change path fall at, and to share part of that is even harder.
It hasn't dampened my mood, it has been lifted to know that we now live in an environment where this stuff is no longer hidden and can be openly discussed. Thank you for sharing...L xx
Been through the hard times... roll on the good times "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I had a major meltdown 3 year ago..flashbacks to a life of abuse in and outside of the home. Result after a few near terminations was that I found myself...I didnt realise there was a real me...didn t realise why I d been angry and raging at the world. So I took myself off into a woodland and lived there homeless for over two years and determined to self analyse and face myself and the horror that was my childhood....thats when a new me emerged..a calm me, its very summarised but thats when I found I didnt care what gender a person was...if I liked or loved them thats what mattered. Hope this makes sense. Still have stuff to face but I am able to keep it fairly calm and let it process without reacting to it...but the mental side is another story..but yeah thats when I found I was bisexual...sorry if this dampens some peoples mood.
It makes perfect sense.Stopping and taking a hard look at yourself is a very brave step to take that most on the reflection/learn/change path fall at, and to share part of that is even harder.
It hasn't dampened my mood, it has been lifted to know that we now live in an environment where this stuff is no longer hidden and can be openly discussed. Thank you for sharing...L xx"
I learned the hard way that boxing it up is a road to self destruction..it needs to be out to cleanse.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I knew I was attracted to girls before I was ever into boys. I knew from when I was really quite young.
I've always been open to relationships with either sex, but since I got into a relationship with, then married my husband it's just about friendships and sex. |
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Mine was around 2 years ago - never really thought about it tbh, I found myself in a 3 way and the guy started playing with me, felt so good that I just went with it.....
I would say that I’m probably more situationally Bi as I wouldn’t consider a relationship with a man or even meet a single guy for fun (outside of club play).
There is something about a woman that is just 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Stayed over night at best friends house in my younger years.
Every visit I Looked forward to wanking off with him on separate beds to women in porn magazines.
But I was also watching him wanking his cock which gave me a bigger turn on.
That developed from wanking apart to joining him on his bed to us both taking hold of one anothers cock and wanking each other.
Over time that developed further as he or I would lie on top of each other and put his or my cock between are thighs, and hump until we shot out our loads.
Sexy times back then... Never knew back then that it was to develop into a liking for frot, and then progressing onto crossdressing. |
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By *abat40xWoman
over a year ago
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"When did you know?
Were you quite young when you found out (like me) or has it come about later in life or through swinging?
Are you open about it and interested in same sex relationships (like me!) or is it just sex and a swinging thing?
Yes I'm nosy. "
In my teens I use to kiss the girl from across the road from there I just knew I liked both, and yes I'd be open to a same sex relationship xx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I was younger (in the 80s) I didn't know about the term BI, I was a girl who liked to kiss other girls. Seemed pretty simple to me.
My first kisses & sexual experiences was with girls.
I've never struggled with my sexuality, I'm very black & white about it. Been on fab doesn't make me more bi but been here has brought more naughty times than the vanilla world haha
Waiting for the moment it's safe to go out and squeeze boobies again, Bliss |
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Had an idea when I was in early teens but an experience with a good friend at age 18 confirmed it.
It’s just a sexual thing and swinging has allowed me to explore it a lot more.
Couldn’t date a guy, were a nightmare to live with..! |
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For me it was experimenting when I was in mid to late teens with a male friend, mainly mutual wanking in our cars to porn, with the odd BJ. I think part of it was not having much luck on the straight dating scene. I did always feel emotionally down or possibly depressed or dirty after I'd cum and feel bad, I put that down to the way that I had been brought up.
Fast forward about 20yrs and with my now wife we both like to play with the same sex and experiment, this has been expanded upon since we started swinging. The idea and feeling after play with another guy either with the wife or on my own those earlier feelings are no longer there.
At times I do feel emotionally attracted to some guys, but I couldn't see myself in a same sex relationship. But I just enjoy playing, which is why I feel more bi curious rather than bi sexual. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I realised in my 20s. Night out with my best friend- slightly worse for wear.... cue the experimentations that happened! Denied my feelings for about 10 years or so, but then it happened again and I started to question myself and my actual nature.
I love the human form, male, female. It’s not about the gender with me, it’s the person, no matter what genitalia they have x |
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Hi, N here (fem half of our couple)
I've always been attracted to women more so than men, but tend to find personality attractive over M or F. It's more about finding people with similar tastes on here but if they can't send a well written message or make us smile then it's unlikely we'd find them attractive for more.. |
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I was 17 when I had my first bi experience with a much older family friend.
I always liked dressing in my sister's knickers.
Had wife and kids upto 10 years ago became single and started dressing again and having bi feelings and meetings. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mr here
It's something I have alway been curious about since a 18.
But I have never wanted a relationship with me, I don't kiss me. I simply enjoy sucking cock and I'm looking to have a real cock inside me very soon.
Also I don't particularly find guys attractive or not. Some you think they are ugly but none are ever wow.
So I don't care if thst makes me bi or not. I know what I enjoy and that makes me happy. X |
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By *ee04Man
over a year ago
Thurrock |
I have to say I’m not physically attracted to men in general although I like to look at a nice cock, this goes back to puberty.
I have been with men, TVs, women and all combinations of the above.
I consider myself as bi because I’m comfortable in sexual situations with male and female people.
Also what gets me excited one day may not work the next, women always get me excited as do TVs/cds but men it’s as the mood takes me.
In a group situation I’m happy with either.
Guess I’m just a fan of sex in its many varied forms. |
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By *igbitsMan
over a year ago
Skipton |
It started when I was very young. My dad often used to walk around naked in our house and his cock was huge. I was fascinated and as I got older I always found myself looking at guys cocks in loos or locker rooms. For years I frequented loos and eventually got into cottaging. The only guys I go with have huge cocks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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""...and you know it clap your hands!"
Is that not what you were expecting too when you opened the thread?? "
Absolutely what i was expecting to read. Haha, made me chuckle x |
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Hi well I've fancied men and women since I was about 21 but put my feelings to the back of my mind until last year wen i just went for it and i loved it I've only been with two fellas but i meet one of them regularly xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me it was such a predominant part of my teenage years, I first figured it out at around 14 years of age, I thought fully grown women figures absolutely beautiful, I never felt the same for the male figure.
However over years the sensualit that comes from a woman has made me learn, that simply the touch form each sex is so different, and I crave both if I’m without eithe one.
Women however I still feel are the most beautiful and sensual of the 2, the touch of and sensation of a woman is simply something else
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"When did you know?
Were you quite young when you found out (like me) or has it come about later in life or through swinging?
Are you open about it and interested in same sex relationships (like me!) or is it just sex and a swinging thing?
Yes I'm nosy. "
Very much just a sex thing. Started very early though. Very.  |
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