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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"Walk away from a fab meet if they turned up looking nothing like their pics?."
I have done! Not in a nasty way, but I did tell him I felt deceived. He wasn't happy, but it was down to him, not me |
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over a year ago
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I have had it happen for better and for worse and on both occasions I gave them my time of day but told them both they did not look like their pics.
Of course the one who looked better got a lot more time and got the face snogged off him.  |
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I once met a guy for a social who was tiny
I sat drank a coffee but from the start I knew it wouldn't work for me, I would have snapped him in half.
I would never just get up and go, I would be polite.
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"Walk away from a fab meet if they turned up looking nothing like their pics?.
I have done! Not in a nasty way, but I did tell him I felt deceived. He wasn't happy, but it was down to him, not me"
Me too. I am not here to be deceived or have my time wasted. I was so angry i boarded the wrong train which cost me more money |
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"I once met a guy for a social who was tiny
I sat drank a coffee but from the start I knew it wouldn't work for me, I would have snapped him in half.
I would never just get up and go, I would be polite.
Jo x "
Oooh I wonder if we met the same guy! This fella was a good head & shoulders shorter than me & his feet didn't touch the floor when he sat down at a booth in a pub where we met for a social.
Such a pity. Nice guy, great personality but it just never would have progressed to a playdate I would have broken him!! Lol |
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"Probably not because there would have been some sort of connection for me to arrange the social so I'd want to see if it was there face to face. "
Even if they were 10years+ older and 6inches shorter? |
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over a year ago
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"Walk away from a fab meet if they turned up looking nothing like their pics?."
I'd probably try and stay a little while,but then would have to be straight with them and do one.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Walk away from a fab meet if they turned up looking nothing like their pics?."
I did. Was chatting to a nice, good looking lady, turns out her pictures were from about 15 years prior, and she had gained a lot of weight since. The funny thing is that I like curvy ladies, so if she had been honest from the start about her looks, we could have had some good fun. The lie made me reconsider taking things further. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No, I'd have a drink with them, ask why the deception and go from there. And I probably would go then yeah."
Something like that. Polite one drink. Polite discussion. And thank you but no thanks. Take care and go. |
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"Probably not because there would have been some sort of connection for me to arrange the social so I'd want to see if it was there face to face. "
This as well.
And  new profile pic !!! |
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I would probably have a drink to drown my sorrow.
Or maybe they would need one after seeing me
I have met someone who wasn't entirely what I was expecting. We had a drink, a chat and I never saw him again but I wished him well.
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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago
a quandary, could you change my mind? |
If they were that different then I probably wouldn't recognise them, so I'd wait a while for the correct person to arrive. It really depends on how different they were, each and every scenario is different.
I'm told I'm different to my pictures, but my height is the same. So would someone walk away ? |
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"I once met a guy for a social who was tiny
I sat drank a coffee but from the start I knew it wouldn't work for me, I would have snapped him in half.
I would never just get up and go, I would be polite.
Jo x
Oooh I wonder if we met the same guy! This fella was a good head & shoulders shorter than me & his feet didn't touch the floor when he sat down at a booth in a pub where we met for a social.
Such a pity. Nice guy, great personality but it just never would have progressed to a playdate I would have broken him!! Lol"
Ha ha
Looking back he never misled on his profile, I never clocked the 5 foot 6, I was wearing mega heels too
He looked bigger in his pictures
Jo x |
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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago
a quandary, could you change my mind? |
"If they were that different then I probably wouldn't recognise them, so I'd wait a while for the correct person to arrive. It really depends on how different they were, each and every scenario is different.
I'm told I'm different to my pictures, but my height is the same. So would someone walk away ? "
Although I believe recognisable from my pictures |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
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Yes. It has happened. I approached it with sensitivity and he was so lovely and we had such a great chat, he cried, we hugged and he went away with new pictures taken by me and a brand new authentic profile  |
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"No, I'd have a drink with them, ask why the deception and go from there. And I probably would go then yeah.
Something like that. Polite one drink. Polite discussion. And thank you but no thanks. Take care and go. "
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"I once met a guy for a social who was tiny
I sat drank a coffee but from the start I knew it wouldn't work for me, I would have snapped him in half.
I would never just get up and go, I would be polite.
Jo x
Oooh I wonder if we met the same guy! This fella was a good head & shoulders shorter than me & his feet didn't touch the floor when he sat down at a booth in a pub where we met for a social.
Such a pity. Nice guy, great personality but it just never would have progressed to a playdate I would have broken him!! Lol
Ha ha
Looking back he never misled on his profile, I never clocked the 5 foot 6, I was wearing mega heels too
He looked bigger in his pictures
Jo x"
I am always polite but he was in the wrong from the start. My profile states what i like and he was the opposite which he knew as he had looked at it loads. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I (mr) had it happen to me years ago from a dating site. I had a drink and made my excuses to leave.
Didn’t have the heart to say what I actually thought.
Then just made excuses not to meet again. |
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I’ve not had it yet, but I’d find it rude to just walk away.
Some people do look different in person from their face pic, hell who looks good in a selfie, I’ve always jokingly asked will I recognise you when I walk in or will I walk straight past you... it helps break the ice and well a chance for them to be honest.
If they were considerably different, I’d share a drink and ask why they felt the need to send a photo that didn’t represent them.
The problem I have is they are always expecting someone taller, maybe I should take photos next to everyday objects so people can realise what 5’1 looks like  |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Probably not because there would have been some sort of connection for me to arrange the social so I'd want to see if it was there face to face. "
My issue with the guy I'm talking about was mainly because he'd been going on and on about how important honesty was to him and then he turned up completely different.
I've had several socials where the guy doesn't look as I expected, but then that's probably true of most of us, as you can't get a complete picture of a person from photos. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes. It has happened. I approached it with sensitivity and he was so lovely and we had such a great chat, he cried, we hugged and he went away with new pictures taken by me and a brand new authentic profile "
Nicely done! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve not had it yet, but I’d find it rude to just walk away.
Some people do look different in person from their face pic, hell who looks good in a selfie, I’ve always jokingly asked will I recognise you when I walk in or will I walk straight past you... it helps break the ice and well a chance for them to be honest.
If they were considerably different, I’d share a drink and ask why they felt the need to send a photo that didn’t represent them.
The problem I have is they are always expecting someone taller, maybe I should take photos next to everyday objects so people can realise what 5’1 looks like "
Just take photos from your chest up and loads of space above your head!  |
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over a year ago
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Yes I would walk away but after I’ve asked them for an explanation. Oh and Spurs? It’ll always be a shock to see you live, doesn’t matter how many times you say you’re a shortie |
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"Probably not because there would have been some sort of connection for me to arrange the social so I'd want to see if it was there face to face.
Even if they were 10years+ older and 6inches shorter?"
The 6 inches shorter would make me pause, but if I'd made the effort to turn up I'd stay for a coffee |
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"I’ve not had it yet, but I’d find it rude to just walk away.
Some people do look different in person from their face pic, hell who looks good in a selfie, I’ve always jokingly asked will I recognise you when I walk in or will I walk straight past you... it helps break the ice and well a chance for them to be honest.
If they were considerably different, I’d share a drink and ask why they felt the need to send a photo that didn’t represent them.
The problem I have is they are always expecting someone taller, maybe I should take photos next to everyday objects so people can realise what 5’1 looks like
Just take photos from your chest up and loads of space above your head! "
That’s there now |
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"Yes I would walk away but after I’ve asked them for an explanation. Oh and Spurs? It’ll always be a shock to see you live, doesn’t matter how many times you say you’re a shortie "
I think I need to learn to walk in platform heeled shoes, I’ll shock you with my 6ft grace as I fall  |
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"Probably not because there would have been some sort of connection for me to arrange the social so I'd want to see if it was there face to face.
Even if they were 10years+ older and 6inches shorter?
The 6 inches shorter would make me pause, but if I'd made the effort to turn up I'd stay for a coffee "
Not me. I had travelled 12miles by train and he had walked round a corner. I was off. |
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"Yes I would walk away but after I’ve asked them for an explanation. Oh and Spurs? It’ll always be a shock to see you live, doesn’t matter how many times you say you’re a shortie
I think I need to learn to walk in platform heeled shoes, I’ll shock you with my 6ft grace as I fall "
11” heels? You’ll fall and kill yourself woman although I’ve seen that before and you survived |
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"I once met a guy for a social who was tiny
I sat drank a coffee but from the start I knew it wouldn't work for me, I would have snapped him in half.
I would never just get up and go, I would be polite.
Jo x
Oooh I wonder if we met the same guy! This fella was a good head & shoulders shorter than me & his feet didn't touch the floor when he sat down at a booth in a pub where we met for a social.
Such a pity. Nice guy, great personality but it just never would have progressed to a playdate I would have broken him!! Lol
Ha ha
Looking back he never misled on his profile, I never clocked the 5 foot 6, I was wearing mega heels too
He looked bigger in his pictures
Jo x
I am always polite but he was in the wrong from the start. My profile states what i like and he was the opposite which he knew as he had looked at it loads."
Out of curiosity did you check his profile after to see if youd missed something in the initial build up.
Also it takes courage to confess to having been deceived so a tip of the hat to show respect for YOUR HONESTY. |
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It's happened. But I'm too polite to walk away like that. I'll be social, drink my coffee and have a natter but unless there's a hell of a lot else going for the guy it will never progress.
I personally would feel crap for days if I walked out without at least being polite and sociable. I would point out the difference tho between the person and their pics. |
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"I’ve not had it yet, but I’d find it rude to just walk away.
Some people do look different in person from their face pic, hell who looks good in a selfie, I’ve always jokingly asked will I recognise you when I walk in or will I walk straight past you... it helps break the ice and well a chance for them to be honest.
If they were considerably different, I’d share a drink and ask why they felt the need to send a photo that didn’t represent them.
The problem I have is they are always expecting someone taller, maybe I should take photos next to everyday objects so people can realise what 5’1 looks like "
Please not the sky remote! |
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"I once met a guy for a social who was tiny
I sat drank a coffee but from the start I knew it wouldn't work for me, I would have snapped him in half.
I would never just get up and go, I would be polite.
Jo x
Oooh I wonder if we met the same guy! This fella was a good head & shoulders shorter than me & his feet didn't touch the floor when he sat down at a booth in a pub where we met for a social.
Such a pity. Nice guy, great personality but it just never would have progressed to a playdate I would have broken him!! Lol
Ha ha
Looking back he never misled on his profile, I never clocked the 5 foot 6, I was wearing mega heels too
He looked bigger in his pictures
Jo x
I am always polite but he was in the wrong from the start. My profile states what i like and he was the opposite which he knew as he had looked at it loads.
Out of curiosity did you check his profile after to see if youd missed something in the initial build up.
Also it takes courage to confess to having been deceived so a tip of the hat to show respect for YOUR HONESTY."
He had been verified by someone i knew so assumed all was ok
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
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"Yes. It has happened. I approached it with sensitivity and he was so lovely and we had such a great chat, he cried, we hugged and he went away with new pictures taken by me and a brand new authentic profile
Nicely done!"
I remember checking in with My self.. was I annoyed with him or did I just see an insecure person who tried to make himself look more desirable? Actually it has happened twice .. once here and once on a vanilla dating site. Same outcome!! I should go into business perhaps |
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"Yes I would walk away but after I’ve asked them for an explanation. Oh and Spurs? It’ll always be a shock to see you live, doesn’t matter how many times you say you’re a shortie
I think I need to learn to walk in platform heeled shoes, I’ll shock you with my 6ft grace as I fall
11” heels? You’ll fall and kill yourself woman although I’ve seen that before and you survived "
True ..... in my defence though it was not a classic fall more a slam dunk |
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" The problem I have is they are always expecting someone taller, maybe I should take photos next to everyday objects so people can realise what 5’1 looks like
Please not the sky remote! "
Well I have a lynx can pick already no sky remote though, maybe my amazon fire stick I’ll look like a giant |
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I had it happen both ways for me, drinks meets, i met a woman through in Edinburgh, and she was absolutely stunning way better looking than her pics, and met a woman, who just looked nothing like her pictures, in fact i don't think the pictures were real, i got totally had, but i had a drink and made my excuses, im too nice just to have just walked right out   |
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"I once met a guy for a social who was tiny
I sat drank a coffee but from the start I knew it wouldn't work for me, I would have snapped him in half.
I would never just get up and go, I would be polite.
Jo x
Oooh I wonder if we met the same guy! This fella was a good head & shoulders shorter than me & his feet didn't touch the floor when he sat down at a booth in a pub where we met for a social.
Such a pity. Nice guy, great personality but it just never would have progressed to a playdate I would have broken him!! Lol
Ha ha
Looking back he never misled on his profile, I never clocked the 5 foot 6, I was wearing mega heels too
He looked bigger in his pictures
Jo x
I am always polite but he was in the wrong from the start. My profile states what i like and he was the opposite which he knew as he had looked at it loads.
Out of curiosity did you check his profile after to see if youd missed something in the initial build up.
Also it takes courage to confess to having been deceived so a tip of the hat to show respect for YOUR HONESTY.
He had been verified by someone i knew so assumed all was ok
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Says a lot about that person in a way...
Sounds like for future meets it might be best to heed the advice of the SPANISH INQUISITION...always expect the unexpected...
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"I once met a guy for a social who was tiny
I sat drank a coffee but from the start I knew it wouldn't work for me, I would have snapped him in half.
I would never just get up and go, I would be polite.
Jo x
Oooh I wonder if we met the same guy! This fella was a good head & shoulders shorter than me & his feet didn't touch the floor when he sat down at a booth in a pub where we met for a social.
Such a pity. Nice guy, great personality but it just never would have progressed to a playdate I would have broken him!! Lol
Ha ha
Looking back he never misled on his profile, I never clocked the 5 foot 6, I was wearing mega heels too
He looked bigger in his pictures
Jo x
I am always polite but he was in the wrong from the start. My profile states what i like and he was the opposite which he knew as he had looked at it loads.
Out of curiosity did you check his profile after to see if youd missed something in the initial build up.
Also it takes courage to confess to having been deceived so a tip of the hat to show respect for YOUR HONESTY.
He had been verified by someone i knew so assumed all was ok
Says a lot about that person in a way...
Sounds like for future meets it might be best to heed the advice of the SPANISH INQUISITION...always expect the unexpected...
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It actually put me off future meets and would now rather stick to folk i know. |
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"I once met a guy for a social who was tiny
I sat drank a coffee but from the start I knew it wouldn't work for me, I would have snapped him in half.
I would never just get up and go, I would be polite.
Jo x
Oooh I wonder if we met the same guy! This fella was a good head & shoulders shorter than me & his feet didn't touch the floor when he sat down at a booth in a pub where we met for a social.
Such a pity. Nice guy, great personality but it just never would have progressed to a playdate I would have broken him!! Lol
Ha ha
Looking back he never misled on his profile, I never clocked the 5 foot 6, I was wearing mega heels too
He looked bigger in his pictures
Jo x
I am always polite but he was in the wrong from the start. My profile states what i like and he was the opposite which he knew as he had looked at it loads.
Out of curiosity did you check his profile after to see if youd missed something in the initial build up.
Also it takes courage to confess to having been deceived so a tip of the hat to show respect for YOUR HONESTY."
Yes I checked, he had listed his height correctly I hadn't noticed but I'm afraid it's an instant turn off if a guy is lots shorter, we all have preferences, he didnt deceive, I just didn't notice before. But it taught me a little lesson.
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If we had reached the point of meeting for a social then that'd be because there had been some sort of connection whilst chatting, personality matters as much as looks. Unless they were completely unrecognisable I think we would probably stay to see if there was still a connection & take it from there. It is interesting to meet new people in life, even if it's just for a drink & chat that doesn't lead to anything more.
We do value honesty though so if we felt we had been deliberately deceived then I'd hope to at least get an explanation as to why they felt the need to be dishonest.
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Think it would depend on the person. If we felt we clicked personality wise and we felt a connection when with them, we could be tempted to stay.
Also would depend on how much different they were to their photo. |
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"I once met a guy for a social who was tiny
I sat drank a coffee but from the start I knew it wouldn't work for me, I would have snapped him in half.
I would never just get up and go, I would be polite.
Jo x
Oooh I wonder if we met the same guy! This fella was a good head & shoulders shorter than me & his feet didn't touch the floor when he sat down at a booth in a pub where we met for a social.
Such a pity. Nice guy, great personality but it just never would have progressed to a playdate I would have broken him!! Lol
Ha ha
Looking back he never misled on his profile, I never clocked the 5 foot 6, I was wearing mega heels too
He looked bigger in his pictures
Jo x
I am always polite but he was in the wrong from the start. My profile states what i like and he was the opposite which he knew as he had looked at it loads.
Out of curiosity did you check his profile after to see if youd missed something in the initial build up.
Also it takes courage to confess to having been deceived so a tip of the hat to show respect for YOUR HONESTY.
He had been verified by someone i knew so assumed all was ok
Says a lot about that person in a way...
Sounds like for future meets it might be best to heed the advice of the SPANISH INQUISITION...always expect the unexpected...
It actually put me off future meets and would now rather stick to folk i know."
That would always be your choice.
But from a personal point of view I'd hope you do consider changing your mind. |
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Everyone changes over time and even uses filters on pics and only post the best sides of themselves so I would expect a bit of difference anyway and if I've taken the time to get to know someone I would at least chat to them in person |
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