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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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interested to know what people think about being called things like babe, hun and sweetie etc especially in messages from people you have yet to meet.
question to both men and women... |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"interested to know what people think about being called things like babe, hun and sweetie etc especially in messages from people you have yet to meet.
question to both men and women..."
doesnt bother me in slightest hun  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"interested to know what people think about being called things like babe, hun and sweetie etc especially in messages from people you have yet to meet.
question to both men and women..."
I hate it... Even more so as it normally means they are addressing the message to me and not us both.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fine if you've been chatting for a while.
A complete no no in a first message and if used the message/wink/friend request will be ignored in my book.
How can you use an endearment for someone you don't even know?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"interested to know what people think about being called things like babe, hun and sweetie etc especially in messages from people you have yet to meet.
question to both men and women...doesnt bother me in slightest hun "
thx for your input sweetie..  |
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"I don't care personally but if i come back with ugly small cocked twat to who calls it me then they best not complain. "
so someone is polite to you and you get offensive, yea...no grounds for complaint there is there  |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"interested to know what people think about being called things like babe, hun and sweetie etc especially in messages from people you have yet to meet.
question to both men and women..."
I am not keen on any of them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't say anything but I'm not overly enthusiastic about it. I call the OH sweetie in texts so I wouldn't say that to a guy on here. He calls me darling and I wouldn't be very happy if he addressed a woman that on here either. Its just a bit personal isn't it.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find the term babe absolutely revolting, incredibly rude when used by someone who I don't know and even worse when they continue to use it when I have told them I don't like it, earns them a block. For me its a term for loving couples to use, especially the 20's age group.
Honey and sweetie are sort of okay but that's it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find it very strange that someone could get annoyed or pisses at being called hun,babe or sweetie I think anyone who gets upset by this needs to get a grip |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends who says it and in what context. Dont really like being called those terms in an initial email - would not go as far as having a paddy over it though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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they're terms of familiarity.. from strangers i assume they can be jarring and mildly patronizing and too informal considering they're unknown parties.
In n.i. the term "mate" and "lad" probably rank up there as being equally irritating . for example a few months ago on another service someone a bit younger than me kept sending messages starting "rite mate" "rite lad" found it odd being called lad a0 by someone younger! and b) "mate" by a complete stranger!
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
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Doesn't bother me at all, and I'm terrible for using terms of endearment to cover up my terrible memory, so often if I call someone chick, sweets, pet, love, sweetcheeks, hun, babe, doll, me duck or darling it's cos the my brain cells are frying themselves trying to work out that person's name....don't mind it from strangers in messages either - as previously said, better than "Oi, twat-face"  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Doesn't bother me in the slightest, I use those terms often myself, even in shops, if the person who served me has been chatty and helpful.. I don't see anything wrong with them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hun ... I have no idea why but I don't like it
What gets my goat is when people do this BBE ... instead of BABE
I care not a jot for either but I don't get why people want to leave out the vowels !!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Would not bother me at all and dont see why they would offend,but each to there own!! Far ruder things out there!!!
Now if you dont say thanks when ive opened a door for you,or give me a polite wave when ive stoppped in my car to let you past,then you`re gonna get it lol,now thats just damn right rude,but hun,sweetie etc....not at all  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"interested to know what people think about being called things like babe, hun and sweetie etc especially in messages from people you have yet to meet.
question to both men and women..."
Delete button immediately pressed.... |
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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago
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thank the lord for the delete button.
anyone who gets offended,by such inoffensive,and generally innocent terms of endearment.
are just a little bit to uptight,and highly strung,to be worth meeting.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"interested to know what people think about being called things like babe, hun and sweetie etc especially in messages from people you have yet to meet.
question to both men and women...
I hate it... Even more so as it normally means they are addressing the message to me and not us both.
Cali "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For the two blokes who think women who don't like these terms need to 'get a grip' etc need to learn some courtesy and respect other's preferences. Disagree by all means but criticise them?
Personally l never use them just in case the people l am addressing don't like it. Hate to be presumptuous and when addressing a cpl it's just discourteous. In spoken conversation l can slip in 'luv' as l have Yorkshire family. |
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"For the two blokes who think women who don't like these terms need to 'get a grip' etc need to learn some courtesy and respect other's preferences. Disagree by all means but criticise them?
Personally l never use them just in case the people l am addressing don't like it. Hate to be presumptuous and when addressing a cpl it's just discourteous. In spoken conversation l can slip in 'luv' as l have Yorkshire family."
ahhhh so its ok if you are from yorkshire then
for me personally there is so much to get wound up over, why let a little word said in a nice way 'hi babe', 'how you doing hun' get you so worked up? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not worked up at all. I was making 2 points. I felt it was wrong to criticise others in derogatory way simply because they have different preferences to the two blokes.
And I did say in 'spoken' conversation l can say 'luv'. Not the same as messaging someone for the first time and being overly familiar surely? |
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"Not worked up at all. I was making 2 points. I felt it was wrong to criticise others in derogatory way simply because they have different preferences to the two blokes.
And I did say in 'spoken' conversation l can say 'luv'. Not the same as messaging someone for the first time and being overly familiar surely?"
think you are worked up a little bit because, apart from my first bit where i quoted about being from yorkshire, my post wasnt aimed at you - i was clarifying my earlier post where i agreed people needed to 'get a grip'
but lets keep this one about you shall we . In the spoken word then, how soon do you slip into the 'luv', how is it not the same as using a term of endearment/local phraseology in the written word...surely its worse, your 'luv' might be an unwelcome comment and could offend more easily when said face to face |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not a message - but I answered a call from a good friend whilst on a social meet once and ended it with "Love you!"
I could instinctively tell from their faces the thoughts that were whirring through their minds - 'Married/attached/girlfriend' - I resisted the temptation to justify myself.
Especially when I realised not everyone had been listening to Scott Mills for as long as I had!
It's always just context - some like the use of such terms - some don't. Top tip is just consider your circumstances and recognise boundaries and reactions - and adjust as required! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"interested to know what people think about being called things like babe, hun and sweetie etc especially in messages from people you have yet to meet.
question to both men and women...
I hate it... Even more so as it normally means they are addressing the message to me and not us both.
Cali "
Totally agree. Nothing more annoying.
And She's no-one's 'Hun' or 'babe' but mine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dont particularly like been addressed as that but the world i loathe...is.....Luv.....loads use it around here,even in shops....i get my snotty head on and tell them sorry but im not your luv...i find it patronising.....and not appropriate when in a supermarket and the cashier goes..."here ya are luv....nooooooooo its just wrong i tell ya wrong....all my friends n family know i dont like that word and giggle loads when.with me shopping etc and someone calls me.luv....... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dont particularly like been addressed as that but the world i loathe...is.....Luv.....loads use it around here,even in shops....i get my snotty head on and tell them sorry but im not your luv...i find it patronising.....and not appropriate when in a supermarket and the cashier goes..."here ya are luv....nooooooooo its just wrong i tell ya wrong....all my friends n family know i dont like that word and giggle loads when.with me shopping etc and someone calls me.luv....... "
I am with you on this one, the problem is that I think, its a normal word for northerners |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dont particularly like been addressed as that but the world i loathe...is.....Luv.....loads use it around here,even in shops....i get my snotty head on and tell them sorry but im not your luv...i find it patronising.....and not appropriate when in a supermarket and the cashier goes..."here ya are luv....nooooooooo its just wrong i tell ya wrong....all my friends n family know i dont like that word and giggle loads when.with me shopping etc and someone calls me.luv.......
I am with you on this one, the problem is that I think, its a normal word for northerners"
Very true ,but not all us northerners use it ..i cringe at the word....never understand why they call you that.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Interesting divide developing on this.
Those who don't find the over familiarity as questioned by the OP as acceptable give reasons and state preferences.
Those who do find it acceptable feel the need to also tell those who don't like it to 'get a grip' or 'get out more'.
Not sure those sort of comments add to the discussion and wonder why some feel the need for it? Just disagree and move on I say. |
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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago
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"Doesn't bother me at all, and I'm terrible for using terms of endearment to cover up my terrible memory, so often if I call someone chick, sweets, pet, love, sweetcheeks, hun, babe, doll, me duck or darling it's cos the my brain cells are frying themselves trying to work out that person's name....don't mind it from strangers in messages either - as previously said, better than "Oi, twat-face" "
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I'm the same, even on the phone when I cant work out who it is at first
It really doesn't bother me when its used as a term of endearment, have been called a lot worse.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Interesting divide developing on this.
Those who don't find the over familiarity as questioned by the OP as acceptable give reasons and state preferences.
Those who do find it acceptable feel the need to also tell those who don't like it to 'get a grip' or 'get out more'.
Not sure those sort of comments add to the discussion and wonder why some feel the need for it? Just disagree and move on I say."
Agree there as some seem to forget its all about choice and preference; what is okay for some really isn't for others |
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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago
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"Interesting divide developing on this.
Those who don't find the over familiarity as questioned by the OP as acceptable give reasons and state preferences.
Those who do find it acceptable feel the need to also tell those who don't like it to 'get a grip' or 'get out more'.
Not sure those sort of comments add to the discussion and wonder why some feel the need for it? Just disagree and move on I say."
grrrrrrr,people giving their opinions in forums,grrrrrr again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"interested to know what people think about being called things like babe, hun and sweetie etc especially in messages from people you have yet to meet.
question to both men and women..."
dont mind it but hate being called love or dear grrrrr |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hate all those so called terms of endearment. It's just used on these sites so you don't have to remember names. Who calls their wife or gf babe or Hun in real life? "
My son and his now ex gf and my daughter and her ex bf so yes people do |
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"I hate all those so called terms of endearment. It's just used on these sites so you don't have to remember names. Who calls their wife or gf babe or Hun in real life? "
People have names on here, real ones??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"thank the lord for the delete button.
anyone who gets offended,by such inoffensive,and generally innocent terms of endearment.
are just a little bit to uptight,and highly strung,to be worth meeting.
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I mean...honestly??  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hate all those so called terms of endearment. It's just used on these sites so you don't have to remember names. Who calls their wife or gf babe or Hun in real life? "
Most people I know call their other half by something like that..
Cali |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"thank the lord for the delete button.
anyone who gets offended,by such inoffensive,and generally innocent terms of endearment.
are just a little bit to uptight,and highly strung,to be worth meeting.
I mean...honestly?? "
. . . I'll just add 'uptight' 'highly strung' and not worth meeting to 'get a grip' and the other unnecessarily personal comments. . .
So without knowing someone you ASSUME it's OK to use certain language with them. And then when they said they didn't like it you would say 'get a grip' or similar? A preference is a preference and should just be accepted without criticism surely?
Just wondering if it was OK for a bloke to shove his cock up someone's arse and when asked not to to say 'get a grip' |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"thank the lord for the delete button.
anyone who gets offended,by such inoffensive,and generally innocent terms of endearment.
are just a little bit to uptight,and highly strung,to be worth meeting.
I mean...honestly??
. . . I'll just add 'uptight' 'highly strung' and not worth meeting to 'get a grip' and the other unnecessarily personal comments. . .
So without knowing someone you ASSUME it's OK to use certain language with them. And then when they said they didn't like it you would say 'get a grip' or similar? A preference is a preference and should just be accepted without criticism surely?
Just wondering if it was OK for a bloke to shove his cock up someone's arse and when asked not to to say 'get a grip' "
Taking that a bit far arent you? |
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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago
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"thank the lord for the delete button.
anyone who gets offended,by such inoffensive,and generally innocent terms of endearment.
are just a little bit to uptight,and highly strung,to be worth meeting.
I mean...honestly??
. . . I'll just add 'uptight' 'highly strung' and not worth meeting to 'get a grip' and the other unnecessarily personal comments. . .
So without knowing someone you ASSUME it's OK to use certain language with them. And then when they said they didn't like it you would say 'get a grip' or similar? A preference is a preference and should just be accepted without criticism surely?
Just wondering if it was OK for a bloke to shove his cock up someone's arse and when asked not to to say 'get a grip' "
would you have to get a grip,when up someones arse,would you not already be well enough attached. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"thank the lord for the delete button.
anyone who gets offended,by such inoffensive,and generally innocent terms of endearment.
are just a little bit to uptight,and highly strung,to be worth meeting.
I mean...honestly??
. . . I'll just add 'uptight' 'highly strung' and not worth meeting to 'get a grip' and the other unnecessarily personal comments. . .
So without knowing someone you ASSUME it's OK to use certain language with them. And then when they said they didn't like it you would say 'get a grip' or similar? A preference is a preference and should just be accepted without criticism surely?
Just wondering if it was OK for a bloke to shove his cock up someone's arse and when asked not to to say 'get a grip'
would you have to get a grip,when up someones arse,would you not already be well enough attached. "
Good to see someone saw the humour |
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