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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Every time I go on a date I'm never sure how to handle the bill and as a result I end up paying the entire bill 
Where do fab folk stand on this delicate topic?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely always go Dutch, or I pay.
Whether it's a date, lunch with a friend/my adult children
It doesn't sit right with me to allow someone else to pay. |
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I never go for a meal that I couldn’t afford the bill for. That being said I would expect the person who extended the invite to take the lead on the bill and I would then offer my share with an expectation that this is accepted. If not I will pay for the second date.
I don’t think men should always be out of pocket.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If the cafe or wherever has a back exit then I'm usually left to pay the bill 
Really though I would always go to pay the bill but anyone I've met from fab has always offered to pay half  |
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"Out come the phone and hit the calculator button
Only messing - happy to pay the bill
I thought it was only groups of women who did that? "
We had a joint company Christmas do a few years ago where 4 companies who worked in the same courtyard all went out together ( it worked as each company only had 2-5 people)
End of the meal the bill came and one of the company owners got the calculator out and broke it down to the fact that his staff had only had soft drinks and one of them had had one and the other had 2, then proceeded to pay their share to the penny not a tip nothing, never been so embarrassed in my life, yet they thought it was perfectly normal  |
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I always approach a first date expecting to pay, (old school  ) but if they offer to pay towards it I’ll accept rather than cause upset.
I find that if they don’t want to meet for a 2nd date they’ll often insist on paying the whole bill, or they’ll happily allow me to pay it all before they politely leg-it.
Definitely if a 2nd date looks likely, I prefer to pay the whole bill, saying ‘You can pay next time’
It usually gets a smile... but it’s worth noting that I’m single, so it hasn’t worked THAT well  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Out come the phone and hit the calculator button
Only messing - happy to pay the bill
I thought it was only groups of women who did that?
We had a joint company Christmas do a few years ago where 4 companies who worked in the same courtyard all went out together ( it worked as each company only had 2-5 people)
End of the meal the bill came and one of the company owners got the calculator out and broke it down to the fact that his staff had only had soft drinks and one of them had had one and the other had 2, then proceeded to pay their share to the penny not a tip nothing, never been so embarrassed in my life, yet they thought it was perfectly normal "
Makes me cringe too.
I often eat out in large groups and always just throw in my money plus at least another £10 so I can leave the others to it when the bill comes in. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"Every time I go on a date I'm never sure how to handle the bill and as a result I end up paying the entire bill
Where do fab folk stand on this delicate topic?
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Don't make it a big deal unless it is a big deal. If you can afford it and want to pay , just pay she will let know if it’s an issue and let her pay half or next time. Or if it’s worrying you, and it sounds like it is, have e a conversation first.
But you say every tine ? So you have lots of one offs? If it’s the sane girl and you are paying every time without her saying anything that’s a bit odd,
It’s also different in different cultures, I asked a Chinese girl to pay half once, purely because I didn't like her, and she told me it was the biggest insult a man can do. Which in that situation , was perfect.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Every time I go on a date I'm never sure how to handle the bill and as a result I end up paying the entire bill
Where do fab folk stand on this delicate topic?
Don't make it a big deal unless it is a big deal. If you can afford it and want to pay , just pay she will let know if it’s an issue and let her pay half or next time. Or if it’s worrying you, and it sounds like it is, have e a conversation first.
But you say every tine ? So you have lots of one offs? If it’s the sane girl and you are paying every time without her saying anything that’s a bit odd,
It’s also different in different cultures, I asked a Chinese girl to pay half once, purely because I didn't like her, and she told me it was the biggest insult a man can do. Which in that situation , was perfect.
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Go on.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Same as a few ladies on here whoever invites pays the first time, I’ll generally offer to go half even though if they’ve invited me
I’ve always preferred one person picking up the bill it’s less complicated and doesn’t spoil the fun
If he pays first time, I’ll pay second... very simple. |
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"Same as a few ladies on here whoever invites pays the first time, I’ll generally offer to go half even though if they’ve invited me
I’ve always preferred one person picking up the bill it’s less complicated and doesn’t spoil the fun
If he pays first time, I’ll pay second... very simple. "
And what if there is no 2nd meet?. That is why i pay half always. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Every time I go on a date I'm never sure how to handle the bill and as a result I end up paying the entire bill
Where do fab folk stand on this delicate topic?
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Personally I think that you should pay the bill.
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"Same as a few ladies on here whoever invites pays the first time, I’ll generally offer to go half even though if they’ve invited me
I’ve always preferred one person picking up the bill it’s less complicated and doesn’t spoil the fun
If he pays first time, I’ll pay second... very simple. "
If someone buys me food I’ll typically sort the tip , as long as it was good |
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Coffee meets, we would pay our own way, play meets, we would book our own room, expect the other couple to do the same. Single guys, would pay for the room, first meet anyway, only because they may be more likely to turn up and especially if they claimed they can accommodate and can't lol. Been stung once, never again. |
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On a first meet/date I've never had a man that hasn't offered to pay, but I will always say "are you sure? I don't mind paying half". I'd never insist and cause a fuss though. With someone that I see regularly we take turns. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always expect to pay my share on a first meet. After that, it's ok to have one pay and the other pay the next time. I'll sometimes joke and say "you can pay for the three course dinners and I'll take us to McD's".
Also, if they're the ones doing the driving, I like to take that into consideration too. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The man should always pay for sex.
Oops typo. 50/50 always.
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I thought men paid with a life time of misery, nagging, gift buying and begging for crumbs from the sexual table.  "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Im happy to pay especially on the first meet, maybe its the way ive been bought up.
i feel so awkward divvying up at the end youve had this ive had that... even when out with friends. Its cringes me out.
I find usually its a case of you get it next time ect on repeat meets. Tbh ive never had a issue when it comes to paying its kinda comes natural take turns my meet last year i got the hotel then she invited me and payed the second time and so on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The man should always pay for sex.
Oops typo. 50/50 always.
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I thought men paid with a life time of misery, nagging, gift buying and begging for crumbs from the sexual table. "
You've met my ex then. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always offer to pay half. Sometimes they insist on paying. If that happens I would insist next time, if there is a next time!"
This is exactly my experience  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always offer to pay but am aware some guys prefer to cover it...Jeff being one, he'd insist on paying.
I won't agree to a social meet unless I'm able to cover the bill tho and prefer to split it.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always offer to pay half. Sometimes they insist on paying. If that happens I would insist next time, if there is a next time!
This is exactly my experience "
Excellent. First meal is on you then |
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"If the cafe or wherever has a back exit then I'm usually left to pay the bill
Really though I would always go to pay the bill but anyone I've met from fab has always offered to pay half "
People meet off of fab? Nah.. Urban myth |
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Different rules for different situations.
On a date if I liked him and he wanted to pay, I’d let him and I’d pay next time. If I had no plans to see him again if insisting on splitting.
For Fab I always go halves. |
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By *lan157Man
over a year ago
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I pay it all and I am glad to unless my date insists she contributes and then she can do so. The operative word however is insists as most dates would offer and I would decline the offer. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I cover the cost. I'm old school in that regard. I was brought up to respect and care for a lady, and that extends to holding out a chair, opening doors, picking up the tab, etc.
Bottom line... I'd never go on a date that I couldn't afford to cover the cost of in full. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I cover the cost. I'm old school in that regard. I was brought up to respect and care for a lady, and that extends to holding out a chair, opening doors, picking up the tab, etc.
Bottom line... I'd never go on a date that I couldn't afford to cover the cost of in full."
I like a gentleman don’t get me wrong, but I don’t like everything being paid for me. I’m not comfortable with it at all. I’m much more comfortable paying half or taking it in turns. |
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