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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I mean a proper broken heart. You can't think about anything/anyone but him/her. You feel physically sick. Stomach pains. Loss of appetite. You keep checking your phone to see if they've messaged you. Everything you do reminds you of them. No motivation to do anything.
I have twice. The first time was just over 12 years ago and she was my first true love. I remember we split up just before Christmas and I was in pieces. I had stomach pains, I didn't want to do anything and I even struggled to go to work a few times. It was awful and back then I felt as though my world had ended lol.
The second time was over 5 years ago (less than a year after I split with my ex wife). I thought I finally met someone who shared my interests and made me laugh. We both knew the other was on the rebound but we just went with the flow. We had fallen in love. We'd only been together for 6 months but things were moving very fast and considering she had just come out of long term relationship (2 weeks before meeting me) and me a three year marriage (I split with my ex wife three months earlier) she felt she needed time to find herself. I was severely heart broken. I'd sit in my lounge most of the day doing nothing. I'd keep checking to see if she had messaged me. I even went to Dubai for a week to see a friend in the hope I could forget about her. It really was awful.
Now the strange thing is, when I split from my ex wife I had no feelings of heartbreak at all. I had about a month to myself to gather my thoughts and have some me time afterwhich I was back out there enjoying life.
Strange how things go. I just thought I'd share my heartbreak experiences as I read something the other day which made me reflect. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s like grief, and you really can’t see past it but experience shows you otherwise so maybe you were prepared this time. When u love someone and for whatever reason it can’t work or they don’t feel the same thats hard too. Iv seen people older couples literally lose the will to live when their life long partner dies. I’d say that’s the equivalent of dying of a broken heart. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Romantically no
In life 2 times, death of people who were my world
My dog was the worst, I literally curled up in a ball and howled "
Every dog I’ve lost the same, even though most had long happy lives. Hugs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is truly the worst. The grief thing is so true but maybe worse on your psyche as you know its from rejection.
I can't really speak in detail about mine but when it happens, there's a void that can't be filled with anything no matter how hard you try.
Even a trip to do the food shopping had me in tears because it was something we'd always done together. The one person who you'd spoken to about everything, who supported you through every tough time was no longer there when you needed them the most.
It's tough and I'll be very careful before I let myself get that involved again  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is truly the worst. The grief thing is so true but maybe worse on your psyche as you know its from rejection.
I can't really speak in detail about mine but when it happens, there's a void that can't be filled with anything no matter how hard you try.
Even a trip to do the food shopping had me in tears because it was something we'd always done together. The one person who you'd spoken to about everything, who supported you through every tough time was no longer there when you needed them the most.
It's tough and I'll be very careful before I let myself get that involved again "
But we should always love like we’ve never been hurt too, it’s hard not to let that pain change you build
Walls etc, but you do find it again when it’s meant xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It is truly the worst. The grief thing is so true but maybe worse on your psyche as you know its from rejection.
I can't really speak in detail about mine but when it happens, there's a void that can't be filled with anything no matter how hard you try.
Even a trip to do the food shopping had me in tears because it was something we'd always done together. The one person who you'd spoken to about everything, who supported you through every tough time was no longer there when you needed them the most.
It's tough and I'll be very careful before I let myself get that involved again
But we should always love like we’ve never been hurt too, it’s hard not to let that pain change you build
Walls etc, but you do find it again when it’s meant xx "
Maybe it'll just take a long time with me (and lots of dates - years of them!!).
I hope you're right, one day I'd love just to have that closeness again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It is truly the worst. The grief thing is so true but maybe worse on your psyche as you know its from rejection.
I can't really speak in detail about mine but when it happens, there's a void that can't be filled with anything no matter how hard you try.
Even a trip to do the food shopping had me in tears because it was something we'd always done together. The one person who you'd spoken to about everything, who supported you through every tough time was no longer there when you needed them the most.
It's tough and I'll be very careful before I let myself get that involved again
But we should always love like we’ve never been hurt too, it’s hard not to let that pain change you build
Walls etc, but you do find it again when it’s meant xx
Maybe it'll just take a long time with me (and lots of dates - years of them!!).
I hope you're right, one day I'd love just to have that closeness again. "
You will x it will happen when it’s right xx |
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"Ad my heart shattered in Oct. Like u couldn't think couldn't eat kept checking my phone .even thought about ending my life .so loved her .she as moved on .I'm not going 2 av another relationship x"
That's awful mate. Sorry to hear that , but I get why you dont want another one . Time is hopefully a healer for you  |
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Yes, a couple of times.
Knowing how hard I took it is a sign of what she meant to me, and that was an amazing place to be.
Getting over it is absolutely shit though 
They say time is a great healer although I’d say it’s mediocre at best as it’s so fucking slow |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes once.
A long time ago - it's like grief mixed with insanity.
But like everything else you get over it.
I was young and fearless then - I booked a round the world trip for a year starting in Fiji which was the furthest point away on earth to go.
It helped a lot  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It is truly the worst. The grief thing is so true but maybe worse on your psyche as you know its from rejection.
I can't really speak in detail about mine but when it happens, there's a void that can't be filled with anything no matter how hard you try.
Even a trip to do the food shopping had me in tears because it was something we'd always done together. The one person who you'd spoken to about everything, who supported you through every tough time was no longer there when you needed them the most.
It's tough and I'll be very careful before I let myself get that involved again
But we should always love like we’ve never been hurt too, it’s hard not to let that pain change you build
Walls etc, but you do find it again when it’s meant xx
Maybe it'll just take a long time with me (and lots of dates - years of them!!).
I hope you're right, one day I'd love just to have that closeness again.
You will x it will happen when it’s right xx "
It's certainly made me stronger because of it and not putting up with any less than I deserve.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It’s like grief, and you really can’t see past it but experience shows you otherwise so maybe you were prepared this time. When u love someone and for whatever reason it can’t work or they don’t feel the same thats hard too. Iv seen people older couples literally lose the will to live when their life long partner dies. I’d say that’s the equivalent of dying of a broken heart. "
My Mum and Dad were married for 66 happy years until my Mum died of cancer. They were devoted and loved each other right to the end. My Dad lived for another 2 years but eventually died as he just didn’t want to live without her - he def died of a broken heart.
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By *1011Woman
over a year ago
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I split from my husband last year but I think it had been long overdue so although it was upsetting I wouldn't say it was heartbreaking.
I think the worst I felt was a miscarriage, I couldn't control my emotions at that point, for months I'd get randomly upset and have little control over it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've not even thought about heartbreak in the sense of loss of life. I was just talking about it in relationship terms. But yes, I can absolutely see heartbreak through losing a partner through illness too.
I'm a electrician and I go to properties where the occupier/owner maybe haven't seen or spoken to anyone for days/weeks so they are looking forward to me going there so they can talk. The amount of elderly customers I've seen who offer me a hot drink and then begin telling me how they lost thier husband/wife a few months earlier. You can just see the heartbreak although they try thier best to put on a brave face. One lady told me she met her husband just after the second World War at a fair and he gave her a trinket of some sort and that she knew he was special so she went home and put it in a keepsake box. They married and were married for 65 years before he passed. She was truly heartbroken, you could see it in her face but she still laughed and smiled while telling me stories. She then showed me the trinket her husband gave her all those years ago. Apparently she hadn't even shown it to her 2 daughters. I'll never forget that lady. |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
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"Ad my heart shattered in Oct. Like u couldn't think couldn't eat kept checking my phone .even thought about ending my life .so loved her .she as moved on .I'm not going 2 av another relationship x"
That’s upsetting to read that you felt that low, you won’t be the only one who’s felt that way after a relationship ends but in time they have been healed to the extent they do go on to have another relationship, if you were once happy before this person you will be again, I’d say don’t close yourself off or you could miss out on the chance of love again x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No thankfully. Well, not romantically. But when I lost my dad I felt broken for a long time and still do some days, especially the last few weeks with some family issues. I just wish he was here so I could talk to him and have some normality. *must not cry*
I'm sorry to anyone who has gone through heartbreak. But in a way it's very beautiful, as it means you shared a part of your life with someone who was very special.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have, it came from nowhere and I thought we were stronger than covid but alas, it wasn’t meant to be.
It is what it is and I’ll get over it x
I think you are amazing. "
How did your experiment go? X |
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I have indeed.
At some point I'm gonna get a tattoo on my inner wrist. I'm not entirely sure what it's gonna say or how to word it, but something like "we don't break promises" to remind myself not to go there again.
Not to allow another person too close.
I broke that promise to myself 2 years ago and it ended very badly.
It confirmed that I was a fucking moron and should have never believed it could have been any different. |
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"I have indeed.
At some point I'm gonna get a tattoo on my inner wrist. I'm not entirely sure what it's gonna say or how to word it, but something like "we don't break promises" to remind myself not to go there again.
Not to allow another person too close.
I broke that promise to myself 2 years ago and it ended very badly.
It confirmed that I was a fucking moron and should have never believed it could have been any different. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes.
It's been two years and I still have days when I struggle - some days I am fine, some days I get angry, some days I get really sad.
I am not really sure if I'll ever love or trust like that again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes and I never thought I'd get over it. Devastation isn't a strong enough word to describe what happened. But I did recover and I'm a better person for having experienced it. |
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Yep, a couple of times in my late teens where I thought the world had ended after being dumped by girlfriends, and another time when I was 26 with a girl I was head over heels in love with and I pined over for a long time afterwards. I feel like I've become much harder/numb with my emotions in the years since and don't think I could ever get heartbroken like that again, at least not over a relationship. There's a lot more raw emotion in young love that is hard to feel again when you get old and jaded. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I have indeed.
At some point I'm gonna get a tattoo on my inner wrist. I'm not entirely sure what it's gonna say or how to word it, but something like "we don't break promises" to remind myself not to go there again.
Not to allow another person too close.
I broke that promise to myself 2 years ago and it ended very badly.
It confirmed that I was a fucking moron and should have never believed it could have been any different. "
I've never had a broken heart, well not in a romantic sense anyway. I think I'm too cautious to allow that to happen. The sadness in this thread is palpable. |
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The most broken I’ve been was when I left my husband. It’s very possible to break your own heart. It’s all a learning curve and you do grow and heal in time. Still saddens me to this day, but there was never a moment or regret or what if. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes.
I had a broken heart even though I ended my marriage.
It was a hard decision and I still loved him but it needed to be done for various reasons.
I lost 5 stone in weight and was sad for a long time |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The most broken I’ve been was when I left my husband. It’s very possible to break your own heart. It’s all a learning curve and you do grow and heal in time. Still saddens me to this day, but there was never a moment or regret or what if. "
It was as if we were both typing the same thing at the same time then  |
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"The most broken I’ve been was when I left my husband. It’s very possible to break your own heart. It’s all a learning curve and you do grow and heal in time. Still saddens me to this day, but there was never a moment or regret or what if.
It was as if we were both typing the same thing at the same time then "
Weird!! |
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"Yep, a couple of times in my late teens where I thought the world had ended after being dumped by girlfriends, and another time when I was 26 with a girl I was head over heels in love with and I pined over for a long time afterwards. I feel like I've become much harder/numb with my emotions in the years since and don't think I could ever get heartbroken like that again, at least not over a relationship. There's a lot more raw emotion in young love that is hard to feel again when you get old and jaded."
I think it can hurt as much as you get older tbh |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I mean a proper broken heart. You can't think about anything/anyone but him/her. You feel physically sick. Stomach pains. Loss of appetite. You keep checking your phone to see if they've messaged you. Everything you do reminds you of them. No motivation to do anything.
I have twice. The first time was just over 12 years ago and she was my first true love. I remember we split up just before Christmas and I was in pieces. I had stomach pains, I didn't want to do anything and I even struggled to go to work a few times. It was awful and back then I felt as though my world had ended lol.
The second time was over 5 years ago (less than a year after I split with my ex wife). I thought I finally met someone who shared my interests and made me laugh. We both knew the other was on the rebound but we just went with the flow. We had fallen in love. We'd only been together for 6 months but things were moving very fast and considering she had just come out of long term relationship (2 weeks before meeting me) and me a three year marriage (I split with my ex wife three months earlier) she felt she needed time to find herself. I was severely heart broken. I'd sit in my lounge most of the day doing nothing. I'd keep checking to see if she had messaged me. I even went to Dubai for a week to see a friend in the hope I could forget about her. It really was awful.
Now the strange thing is, when I split from my ex wife I had no feelings of heartbreak at all. I had about a month to myself to gather my thoughts and have some me time afterwhich I was back out there enjoying life.
Strange how things go. I just thought I'd share my heartbreak experiences as I read something the other day which made me reflect. "
Just once, 2 years ago.
Can't believe I got to 50 before it happened.
It's still as raw as it was 2 years ago. I don't feel like I will ever recover.  |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
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"Lost my dog after 14 wonderful years together 12 months later I still miss him so much my heart is truly broken "
10 years since the loss of mine and still miss him daily, got his ashes in his photo frame and I kiss him morning and night, thought my heart was going to stop along with his |
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"Yep, a couple of times in my late teens where I thought the world had ended after being dumped by girlfriends, and another time when I was 26 with a girl I was head over heels in love with and I pined over for a long time afterwards. I feel like I've become much harder/numb with my emotions in the years since and don't think I could ever get heartbroken like that again, at least not over a relationship. There's a lot more raw emotion in young love that is hard to feel again when you get old and jaded.
I think it can hurt as much as you get older tbh"
But you have your coping mechanisms by then and the life experience to know that you will get over it eventually and life will carry on. When you're younger and it's the first time you've ever felt such intense feelings for someone it absolutely destroys you when it gets snatched away from you, and there's nothing you can do about it because for whatever reason they just don't want you any more. |
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My heart broke at 8.45am 31st October 2015 when my wife at the time woke me up and said “I’m four months pregnant. It’s not yours. I’m off to work now. Chat later. Bye.” |
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"Yep, a couple of times in my late teens where I thought the world had ended after being dumped by girlfriends, and another time when I was 26 with a girl I was head over heels in love with and I pined over for a long time afterwards. I feel like I've become much harder/numb with my emotions in the years since and don't think I could ever get heartbroken like that again, at least not over a relationship. There's a lot more raw emotion in young love that is hard to feel again when you get old and jaded.
I think it can hurt as much as you get older tbh
But you have your coping mechanisms by then and the life experience to know that you will get over it eventually and life will carry on. When you're younger and it's the first time you've ever felt such intense feelings for someone it absolutely destroys you when it gets snatched away from you, and there's nothing you can do about it because for whatever reason they just don't want you any more."
Not if you haven't been taught or been lucky enough to learn "how" to deal with your emotions in a healthy way.
The pain at 42 was no different to the pain in my younger years.
When I was younger I had hope. Hope that things would be different, hope that although I was sad that there are plenty of other people in the world and a lifetime to meet them. Adventures and good times along the way. There's no rush right?!
The older you get that hope diminishes.
You realise that due to nature/nurture you've been predisposed to be drawn to those who are not healthy for you. Your upbringing and life experience has infiltrated your whole being.
I can't teach myself to be attracted in a romantic sense to people I'm not.
So with time comes a greater loss than "just" love. It's a loss of hope too.
You don't just not trust others, you lose trust in yourself to make the right partner choices, coz until now, you've fucking sucked at it and if anything your choices have done bugger all but confirm you're fucked in the emotional department. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My heart broke at 8.45am 31st October 2015 when my wife at the time woke me up and said “I’m four months pregnant. It’s not yours. I’m off to work now. Chat later. Bye.”"
Ouch! Brutal and horrible thing to do |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I watched my husband die. My heart physically ached. That stuff stays with you
Cant imagine how that must have felt. X"
Just utterly horrific. You don’t want to believe what you’re seeing. It’s not like tv show where it’s quick, it took a long time and the doctor told the nurse to turn the sats machine off as we were all glued to it watching his bp and heart rate slowly drop. The noise as they turned off the ventilator and he took two breaths on his own, no words. I’ll never forget that noise as long as I live
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"I watched my husband die. My heart physically ached. That stuff stays with you
Cant imagine how that must have felt. X
Just utterly horrific. You don’t want to believe what you’re seeing. It’s not like tv show where it’s quick, it took a long time and the doctor told the nurse to turn the sats machine off as we were all glued to it watching his bp and heart rate slowly drop. The noise as they turned off the ventilator and he took two breaths on his own, no words. I’ll never forget that noise as long as I live
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Just unimaginable, this is one of those times where you truly have no words that will suffice except sorrow |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I watched my husband die. My heart physically ached. That stuff stays with you
Cant imagine how that must have felt. X
Just utterly horrific. You don’t want to believe what you’re seeing. It’s not like tv show where it’s quick, it took a long time and the doctor told the nurse to turn the sats machine off as we were all glued to it watching his bp and heart rate slowly drop. The noise as they turned off the ventilator and he took two breaths on his own, no words. I’ll never forget that noise as long as I live
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I hope this week wasn't too hard o you thinking of you.. |
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It might help some on this thread if they realise that a 'broken heart', and the feelings around it, can be a real observable physical change in the shape of the heart, called Takotsubo cardiomyopathy.
The left ventricle in your heart temporarily weakens and extends. It is not a heart attack. Noone is sure of the cause, but it is rapid onset and the common trigger is believed to be acute distress or emotional shock.
So next time someone says "it's all in your mind", they may want to think again. Technology now lets us see that it isn't.
British Heart Foundation link
https://www.bhf.org.uk/informationsupport/conditions/cardiomyopathy/takotsubo-cardiomyopathy
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"I watched my husband die. My heart physically ached. That stuff stays with you
Cant imagine how that must have felt. X
Just utterly horrific. You don’t want to believe what you’re seeing. It’s not like tv show where it’s quick, it took a long time and the doctor told the nurse to turn the sats machine off as we were all glued to it watching his bp and heart rate slowly drop. The noise as they turned off the ventilator and he took two breaths on his own, no words. I’ll never forget that noise as long as I live
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I'm so sorry |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I watched my husband die. My heart physically ached. That stuff stays with you
Cant imagine how that must have felt. X
Just utterly horrific. You don’t want to believe what you’re seeing. It’s not like tv show where it’s quick, it took a long time and the doctor told the nurse to turn the sats machine off as we were all glued to it watching his bp and heart rate slowly drop. The noise as they turned off the ventilator and he took two breaths on his own, no words. I’ll never forget that noise as long as I live
I'm so sorry "
I can’t imagine your pain, but I really admire your strength to talk about your loss.
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By (user no longer on site)
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When my dog died that really hurt I felt it for a long time after and even after nearly ten years still have his lead hung on the back of a door
Another was when my uncle died really feeling for my Auntie and cousins it was very painful heartbreaking x |
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"I watched my husband die. My heart physically ached. That stuff stays with you
Cant imagine how that must have felt. X
Just utterly horrific. You don’t want to believe what you’re seeing. It’s not like tv show where it’s quick, it took a long time and the doctor told the nurse to turn the sats machine off as we were all glued to it watching his bp and heart rate slowly drop. The noise as they turned off the ventilator and he took two breaths on his own, no words. I’ll never forget that noise as long as I live
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Such anguish...unbearable and horribly surreal
So sorry for your loss x |
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Once from a relationship, I will never let a man get that close to me ever again and one very personal time that I will never get over, that pain will stay with me until my last breath. My will never be the same again |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks for letting me unload a little you gorgeous people.
Thanks for being honest "
It was the anniversary of his passing a few days ago, so been a rough week for the kids and I
Think I just needed somewhere to let it out a little x |
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By *eliWoman
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"Thanks for letting me unload a little you gorgeous people.
Thanks for being honest
It was the anniversary of his passing a few days ago, so been a rough week for the kids and I
Think I just needed somewhere to let it out a little x "
I can't imagine what you've been through and it won't mean much but sending you a virtual hug. It's good you can let some of it out x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks for letting me unload a little you gorgeous people.
Thanks for being honest
It was the anniversary of his passing a few days ago, so been a rough week for the kids and I
Think I just needed somewhere to let it out a little x
I can't imagine what you've been through and it won't mean much but sending you a virtual hug. It's good you can let some of it out x"
It means a lot so thank you. I just wish the hugs were real x |
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"Thanks for letting me unload a little you gorgeous people.
Thanks for being honest
It was the anniversary of his passing a few days ago, so been a rough week for the kids and I
Think I just needed somewhere to let it out a little x "
That was so sad to read I can’t imagine what you are going through I’m thinking of you xx |
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"Thanks for letting me unload a little you gorgeous people.
Thanks for being honest
It was the anniversary of his passing a few days ago, so been a rough week for the kids and I
Think I just needed somewhere to let it out a little x
That was so sad to read I can’t imagine what you are going through I’m thinking of you xx"
Thanks cutie x |
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Yes, twice and all the physical symptoms you describe come with it ... can’t think straight, can’t sleep, can’t eat, the last time i lost a stone and a half in just over 2 weeks and my appetite didn’t come back properly for a long time , cried non stop for probably a month , normally hunger and dehydration would be triggers for migraines and i kept think “you are going to make yourself sick” but it never came because really your body is already sick and already dealing with that - the emotional side is to be expected but the physical side blows my mind , how your body just wants to shut down
like pinkgenie said i find its alot like grief but in some ways more difficult because they didn’t stop existing, they just stopped existing in your life , the rejection and wondering what path they end up on without you, the feeling of failure from not being able to make it work on top of the grief is difficult
its gets a little better after a while but the depression stayed alot longer, just better hidden. both times if i found occasion to talk about it, it would bring me to tears still up to 2 years later - long after i was over the person and the relationship i wasn’t over the pain or the sense of loss , and i think that part stays with you and makes it harder to let yourself fall in love again
ive been in lust many times, but true love just a few and its the aftermath that confirms that for me
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"Thanks for letting me unload a little you gorgeous people.
Thanks for being honest
It was the anniversary of his passing a few days ago, so been a rough week for the kids and I
Think I just needed somewhere to let it out a little x "
You can always let it out on here or by PM. Massive hugs |
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"Thanks for letting me unload a little you gorgeous people.
Thanks for being honest
It was the anniversary of his passing a few days ago, so been a rough week for the kids and I
Think I just needed somewhere to let it out a little x
I can't imagine what you've been through and it won't mean much but sending you a virtual hug. It's good you can let some of it out x"
sending hugs |
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what also blows my mind is that i am generally quite detached from people in life - not on purpose , it’s just who i am no matter how hard i try, not all that family oriented , never been the best at keeping close friends , i have friends i love but not those people you talk to every day and live in their pockets type thing , and i very rarely get close to men - so can’t fathom why when i do i let them get so far under my skin |
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over a year ago
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"Thanks for letting me unload a little you gorgeous people.
Thanks for being honest
It was the anniversary of his passing a few days ago, so been a rough week for the kids and I
Think I just needed somewhere to let it out a little x "
Sending you virtual hugs |
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"I mean a proper broken heart. You can't think about anything/anyone but him/her. You feel physically sick. Stomach pains. Loss of appetite. You keep checking your phone to see if they've messaged you. Everything you do reminds you of them. No motivation to do anything.
I have twice. The first time was just over 12 years ago and she was my first true love. I remember we split up just before Christmas and I was in pieces. I had stomach pains, I didn't want to do anything and I even struggled to go to work a few times. It was awful and back then I felt as though my world had ended lol.
The second time was over 5 years ago (less than a year after I split with my ex wife). I thought I finally met someone who shared my interests and made me laugh. We both knew the other was on the rebound but we just went with the flow. We had fallen in love. We'd only been together for 6 months but things were moving very fast and considering she had just come out of long term relationship (2 weeks before meeting me) and me a three year marriage (I split with my ex wife three months earlier) she felt she needed time to find herself. I was severely heart broken. I'd sit in my lounge most of the day doing nothing. I'd keep checking to see if she had messaged me. I even went to Dubai for a week to see a friend in the hope I could forget about her. It really was awful.
Now the strange thing is, when I split from my ex wife I had no feelings of heartbreak at all. I had about a month to myself to gather my thoughts and have some me time afterwhich I was back out there enjoying life.
Strange how things go. I just thought I'd share my heartbreak experiences as I read something the other day which made me reflect. "
I was also glad to see the the back of my exwife. I have been fucked over a few times in my life. Some people use you for their own agenda. But karma does get the bastards back on times and i had a few front row seats to view it . In comparison jenny is the love of my life and we share this kinky side of us as we both loved it as singles on here. |
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"Thanks for letting me unload a little you gorgeous people.
Thanks for being honest
It was the anniversary of his passing a few days ago, so been a rough week for the kids and I
Think I just needed somewhere to let it out a little x
I can't imagine what you've been through and it won't mean much but sending you a virtual hug. It's good you can let some of it out x
It means a lot so thank you. I just wish the hugs were real x"
We’re having hugs as soon as we can Mrs xx |
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I’m going through it right now - it’s such a mixture of emotions and hasn’t got any easier for me as I’ve got older.
In fact this is my fifth time of my heart being broken, which makes me feel super unlucky in love  God loves a trier apparently |
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