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Thursday musings...... Another distance question.
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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We all know the curse of fab, especially the forum, is distance. But does it really bother you?
Are you a person who would go as far as needs be to meet the person you've made a connection with?
Are you determined to stay within your local area?
Would you be willing to split the distance for a social or go all the way just for a chat and a brew?
What's the furthest you have travelled just to see someone and would you do it again?
On the flip side, how close is too close? Do you have a minimum safe distance?
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"We flew to Texas last year to stay with a couple we had met previously on holiday. "
Honestly I don't blame you at all for that one. I'd fly to Texas anyway. |
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over a year ago
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Not at all I can’t wait to head north of the wall to meet a gorgeous lady. The planning and countdown is exciting and I’ll be counting down the days and hours until we meet. The chats and plans we are making are adding to the excitement too  |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I have erm... travelled a long way and plan to again quite soon .
And I've played on my doorstep ( after verifying I didn't know them  ) .
So yes to both Posh "
Erm.... doorstep playing..... wasn't that a bit chilly?  |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Not at all I can’t wait to head north of the wall to meet a gorgeous lady. The planning and countdown is exciting and I’ll be counting down the days and hours until we meet. The chats and plans we are making are adding to the excitement too "
I confess Tom..... this is a huge shock to me and no doubt everyone else on the forum.
Y'all are just so subtle 
(Also far too cute.... keep it up!  ) |
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"I have erm... travelled a long way and plan to again quite soon .
And I've played on my doorstep ( after verifying I didn't know them ) .
So yes to both Posh
Erm.... doorstep playing..... wasn't that a bit chilly? "
I have no comment |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
I used to have a minimum distance from my house as there was such a thing as too close.
Furthest distance? Nope! I love driving and thought nothing of a few hours travelling, even just for a coffee and chat.
To me, it’s always been about connections, not convenience. For the right connection, I would happily travel any distance, which is why I’m where I am now! |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Not at all I can’t wait to head north of the wall to meet a gorgeous lady. The planning and countdown is exciting and I’ll be counting down the days and hours until we meet. The chats and plans we are making are adding to the excitement too
I confess Tom..... this is a huge shock to me and no doubt everyone else on the forum.
Y'all are just so subtle
(Also far too cute.... keep it up! )"
It’s one of fabs great mysteries |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I used to have a minimum distance from my house as there was such a thing as too close.
Furthest distance? Nope! I love driving and thought nothing of a few hours travelling, even just for a coffee and chat.
To me, it’s always been about connections, not convenience. For the right connection, I would happily travel any distance, which is why I’m where I am now! "
Exactly how I feel about it.
Too close is just too close.
And you two are inspirational |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I used to say within an hour but it depends on the person. I would have gone anywhere for one person at one stage. It really does depend on a lot of things. "
Jeez Nora.
I know you'd still go anywhere for me  |
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"I used to say within an hour but it depends on the person. I would have gone anywhere for one person at one stage. It really does depend on a lot of things.
Jeez Nora.
I know you'd still go anywhere for me "
I’m coming all the way to Devon for you Posh! |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"If I ever get to meet someone I will be staying in a hotel...even for a social...so any distance is fine x"
That's a sensible way to do it I think...
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I used to say within an hour but it depends on the person. I would have gone anywhere for one person at one stage. It really does depend on a lot of things.
Jeez Nora.
I know you'd still go anywhere for me
I’m coming all the way to Devon for you Posh!"
Again and again! |
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"I used to say within an hour but it depends on the person. I would have gone anywhere for one person at one stage. It really does depend on a lot of things.
Jeez Nora.
I know you'd still go anywhere for me
I’m coming all the way to Devon for you Posh!
Again and again!"
I know! But you’re worth it |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"We have travelled from London to Edinburgh even made arrangements with a Greek guy in Corfu who we visited 4 times  "
So you would definitely do it again! |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Travel isnt a problem for a good party....just as long as there is a great hotel near by! "
Have I mentioned I live in a wonderful tourist area? Great hotels.....  |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I used to say within an hour but it depends on the person. I would have gone anywhere for one person at one stage. It really does depend on a lot of things.
Jeez Nora.
I know you'd still go anywhere for me
I’m coming all the way to Devon for you Posh!
Again and again!
I know! But you’re worth it "
Awwww.... I loves ya too lovely lady xxx |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I used to have a minimum distance from my house as there was such a thing as too close.
Furthest distance? Nope! I love driving and thought nothing of a few hours travelling, even just for a coffee and chat.
To me, it’s always been about connections, not convenience. For the right connection, I would happily travel any distance, which is why I’m where I am now!
Exactly how I feel about it.
Too close is just too close.
And you two are inspirational "
I’ll tell her that you called us that when we’re sitting in bed eating biscuits |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not at all I can’t wait to head north of the wall to meet a gorgeous lady. The planning and countdown is exciting and I’ll be counting down the days and hours until we meet. The chats and plans we are making are adding to the excitement too
I confess Tom..... this is a huge shock to me and no doubt everyone else on the forum.
Y'all are just so subtle
(Also far too cute.... keep it up! )"
I’m shocked lol |
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I'm not too worried about distance.
For regular meets it would need to be within an hours drive, but I wouldn't say no to a distant one of it was someone I liked and an area I wanted to visit. I'd just make a little holiday of it |
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By *aFemmeCoquetteWoman
over a year ago
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"Not at all I can’t wait to head north of the wall to meet a gorgeous lady. The planning and countdown is exciting and I’ll be counting down the days and hours until we meet. The chats and plans we are making are adding to the excitement too
I confess Tom..... this is a huge shock to me and no doubt everyone else on the forum.
Y'all are just so subtle
(Also far too cute.... keep it up! )"
I know I haven't a clue either posh  |
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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago
up a bit, right a bit...that's the spot |
For someone I'd connected with I'd happily travel, I love an adventure, especially if it's somewhere I've never been before ...a social only would be presumed on a first meet, with things only progressing if both of us were happy with that, and I wouldn't be meeting anyone who wouldn't be happy with that presumption.
I've caught a plane before, and had someone drive around 200 miles to see me (probably nearer to 250 after I accidentally gave him the wrong postcode and got him lost  ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We live in a remote area. It's paradise. It's a perfect place to own a home, raise kids. It's got a real community.
But it's swinging kryptonite. We travelled 4 to 5 hours for socials and meets.
Now I'm looking at traveling to the UK to maybe meet some people.
It's insane and it's actually a bit of a bummer. It got me down when we joined first 5 years ago and it's getting me down now again.
Distance is a gift and a curse |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I used to have a minimum distance from my house as there was such a thing as too close.
Furthest distance? Nope! I love driving and thought nothing of a few hours travelling, even just for a coffee and chat.
To me, it’s always been about connections, not convenience. For the right connection, I would happily travel any distance, which is why I’m where I am now!
Exactly how I feel about it.
Too close is just too close.
And you two are inspirational
I’ll tell her that you called us that when we’re sitting in bed eating biscuits "
Do you pull the duvet right up under your chins to avoid the crumbs in bed issue? |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Honestly it doesn't matter to me, if it's workable around my home life and there's a connection there then I'm willing to "
Same here.
I'm so coming to see you. |
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"I have travelled nation wide in the past. Now days truth be told i cant really be bothered to leave my house most days. Is mail order fabites i thing?  "
Haha let me know if it is! This is what I need |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I'm not too worried about distance.
For regular meets it would need to be within an hours drive, but I wouldn't say no to a distant one of it was someone I liked and an area I wanted to visit. I'd just make a little holiday of it "
Good plan there that man! |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Travel is no problem as o love an adventure
The furthest I’ve travelled is a 450 mile round trip
My other half lives 110+ miles away so we split our time between both our locations "
I love an adventure too! Would you do the 450 miles again?
Distance relationships have benefits and drawbacks really, don't they... |
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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago
Secret hideaway in the pennines |
I've never had an issue with travelling for the right person, if it was just for a social, I would try and incorporate it with something else, an event or just a weekend break, likewise for a play meet if it was a long distance
In the past, I've done Manchester to Dundee northwards and to London southwards.
Because of the job I did, I wouldn't play on my own doorstep, plus, they are all a bunch of gossipers |
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By *osco78Man
over a year ago
Sheffield |
I don't mind a bit of distance , truth most of the people I'd want to meet are bloody miles.away anyway , I used to have a reg friend up north when I lived a lot further south and it was god so totally worth the effort ...wierdy one of the worse meets I ever had was 5 mins away.... |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"For someone I'd connected with I'd happily travel, I love an adventure, especially if it's somewhere I've never been before ...a social only would be presumed on a first meet, with things only progressing if both of us were happy with that, and I wouldn't be meeting anyone who wouldn't be happy with that presumption.
I've caught a plane before, and had someone drive around 200 miles to see me (probably nearer to 250 after I accidentally gave him the wrong postcode and got him lost ) "
Oh my goodness! That's both funny and awful lol..... did he forgive you?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not at all I can’t wait to head north of the wall to meet a gorgeous lady. The planning and countdown is exciting and I’ll be counting down the days and hours until we meet. The chats and plans we are making are adding to the excitement too "
My goodness Tom, who is this mysterious lady? She lives in northern China???  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not at all I can’t wait to head north of the wall to meet a gorgeous lady. The planning and countdown is exciting and I’ll be counting down the days and hours until we meet. The chats and plans we are making are adding to the excitement too
My goodness Tom, who is this mysterious lady? She lives in northern China??? "
Damn  |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"We live in a remote area. It's paradise. It's a perfect place to own a home, raise kids. It's got a real community.
But it's swinging kryptonite. We travelled 4 to 5 hours for socials and meets.
Now I'm looking at traveling to the UK to maybe meet some people.
It's insane and it's actually a bit of a bummer. It got me down when we joined first 5 years ago and it's getting me down now again.
Distance is a gift and a curse"
I know the feeling. I live at the edge of the known world (ish) and even the motorway is an hour away. I love it but unless you want to meet people only in the tiny town (awkward) it does have it's drawbacks. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I have travelled nation wide in the past. Now days truth be told i cant really be bothered to leave my house most days. Is mail order fabites i thing? "
Apparently..... especially if you reel them in with offers of cement mixing |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I've never had an issue with travelling for the right person, if it was just for a social, I would try and incorporate it with something else, an event or just a weekend break, likewise for a play meet if it was a long distance
In the past, I've done Manchester to Dundee northwards and to London southwards.
Because of the job I did, I wouldn't play on my own doorstep, plus, they are all a bunch of gossipers"
I hear you on that one! |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I don't mind a bit of distance , truth most of the people I'd want to meet are bloody miles.away anyway , I used to have a reg friend up north when I lived a lot further south and it was god so totally worth the effort ...wierdy one of the worse meets I ever had was 5 mins away...."
Exactly this..... my favourite people are a million miles from me but so worth the trip. |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
Distance is not really a factor for us if the person is someone we want to meet, socially or otherwise.
The furthest so far was a 7 hour trip each way, yes it was worth it and yes we are looking to repeat with them coming to stay with is as well. We have also talked about splitting the travel to meet half way but that is mainly so we can visit clubs and events.
We have also met people who live 10 minutes down the road. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Distance is not really a factor for us if the person is someone we want to meet, socially or otherwise.
The furthest so far was a 7 hour trip each way, yes it was worth it and yes we are looking to repeat with them coming to stay with is as well. We have also talked about splitting the travel to meet half way but that is mainly so we can visit clubs and events.
We have also met people who live 10 minutes down the road."
Splitting the distance and combining with clubs and events is very sensible! |
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I drived to St. Austell was 10h driving in total. I met people just 5 miles away from where i live also and same they have done for me long travel to meet me .
If theres connection chemestry atraction from both sides the distance will never an issue |
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By *osco78Man
over a year ago
Sheffield |
"I don't mind a bit of distance , truth most of the people I'd want to meet are bloody miles.away anyway , I used to have a reg friend up north when I lived a lot further south and it was god so totally worth the effort ...wierdy one of the worse meets I ever had was 5 mins away....
Exactly this..... my favourite people are a million miles from me but so worth the trip."
In addition to this some of my.fav to ERM perve on are also so bloody far away..... |
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over a year ago
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"I have travelled nation wide in the past. Now days truth be told i cant really be bothered to leave my house most days. Is mail order fabites i thing?
Apparently..... especially if you reel them in with offers of cement mixing "
...still standing holding a 40kg patio tile  chop chop missy |
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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago
up a bit, right a bit...that's the spot |
"For someone I'd connected with I'd happily travel, I love an adventure, especially if it's somewhere I've never been before ...a social only would be presumed on a first meet, with things only progressing if both of us were happy with that, and I wouldn't be meeting anyone who wouldn't be happy with that presumption.
I've caught a plane before, and had someone drive around 200 miles to see me (probably nearer to 250 after I accidentally gave him the wrong postcode and got him lost )
Oh my goodness! That's both funny and awful lol..... did he forgive you?
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Thankfully he found it funny that I can be a bit ditsy |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I drived to St. Austell was 10h driving in total. I met people just 5 miles away from where i live also and same they have done for me long travel to meet me .
If theres connection chemestry atraction from both sides the distance will never an issue "
The last time I returned home it ended up a 10 hour drive as well! |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I don't mind a bit of distance , truth most of the people I'd want to meet are bloody miles.away anyway , I used to have a reg friend up north when I lived a lot further south and it was god so totally worth the effort ...wierdy one of the worse meets I ever had was 5 mins away....
Exactly this..... my favourite people are a million miles from me but so worth the trip.
In addition to this some of my.fav to ERM perve on are also so bloody far away....."
Oh God yeah..... I perve from all distances. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I have travelled nation wide in the past. Now days truth be told i cant really be bothered to leave my house most days. Is mail order fabites i thing?
Apparently..... especially if you reel them in with offers of cement mixing
...still standing holding a 40kg patio tile chop chop missy "
I'm still lost..... is it left or right at the end of the road? |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"For someone I'd connected with I'd happily travel, I love an adventure, especially if it's somewhere I've never been before ...a social only would be presumed on a first meet, with things only progressing if both of us were happy with that, and I wouldn't be meeting anyone who wouldn't be happy with that presumption.
I've caught a plane before, and had someone drive around 200 miles to see me (probably nearer to 250 after I accidentally gave him the wrong postcode and got him lost )
Oh my goodness! That's both funny and awful lol..... did he forgive you?
Thankfully he found it funny that I can be a bit ditsy "
That's a relief! |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I'd happily travel quite some distance - I like exploring new locations, my job means I can get very good discounts on stays. My only concern would be people presuming I a) want to have sex with them or b) it could be more than a social. I'd probably avoid anyone too local. The town I live in is essentially a village of gossipy gossips.
If I started talking to someone and the connection was there I'd probably say sod it and go for it. |
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"Not at all I can’t wait to head north of the wall to meet a gorgeous lady. The planning and countdown is exciting and I’ll be counting down the days and hours until we meet. The chats and plans we are making are adding to the excitement too
My goodness Tom, who is this mysterious lady? She lives in northern China???
Damn "
Sorry...I’ve been told it’s the wrong wall I was thinking of.
Congratulations. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I'd happily travel quite some distance - I like exploring new locations, my job means I can get very good discounts on stays. My only concern would be people presuming I a) want to have sex with them or b) it could be more than a social. I'd probably avoid anyone too local. The town I live in is essentially a village of gossipy gossips.
If I started talking to someone and the connection was there I'd probably say sod it and go for it. "
That's just like me. I do that. Eventually lol |
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"We all know the curse of fab, especially the forum, is distance. But does it really bother you?
Are you a person who would go as far as needs be to meet the person you've made a connection with?
Are you determined to stay within your local area?
Would you be willing to split the distance for a social or go all the way just for a chat and a brew?
What's the furthest you have travelled just to see someone and would you do it again?
On the flip side, how close is too close? Do you have a minimum safe distance?
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Furthest I’ve travelled is 160 odd miles. I do have someone special who lives 210 miles away but we’ve met halfway so far.
As for local? No limits. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I honestly can say it depends on who you are talking too, if you click then for me it’s not an obstacle and I would be happy to travel the distance, but then there are others on your doorstep I wouldn’t set outside the front door for. I have been lucky with who I have met and trusted my instincts in doing so.....hoping tomorrow is a Friyay. |
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I have traveled 400+ miles for my now ex gf.. And her likewise to me.. Since then I am still willing to travel any distance for the right person, but would take a lot. As for minimum.. I ain't fussed, as long as it doesn't cause any issues later on.. I really don't mind.
If it boils down to a sex only meet 20mile round trip sounds fair to me.. Even if it means we've split the distance. |
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By *osco78Man
over a year ago
Sheffield |
"I don't mind a bit of distance , truth most of the people I'd want to meet are bloody miles.away anyway , I used to have a reg friend up north when I lived a lot further south and it was god so totally worth the effort ...wierdy one of the worse meets I ever had was 5 mins away....
Exactly this..... my favourite people are a million miles from me but so worth the trip.
In addition to this some of my.fav to ERM perve on are also so bloody far away.....
Oh God yeah..... I perve from all distances."
Me too ,have a few different searches saved
I once drive to meet some one ,and she kissed me as soon as we met ,it was great...sadly the aex wasn't ,but sometimes I do think I would travel to just kiss someone properly again. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"We all know the curse of fab, especially the forum, is distance. But does it really bother you?
Are you a person who would go as far as needs be to meet the person you've made a connection with?
Are you determined to stay within your local area?
Would you be willing to split the distance for a social or go all the way just for a chat and a brew?
What's the furthest you have travelled just to see someone and would you do it again?
On the flip side, how close is too close? Do you have a minimum safe distance?
Furthest I’ve travelled is 160 odd miles. I do have someone special who lives 210 miles away but we’ve met halfway so far.
As for local? No limits. "
No limits? Brave man  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To a certain degree I’m easy travelling but wouldn’t do more than an hour’ish these days.
How fast do you drive?
(My pervert friend wants to know)"
I’m a drive by the seat of my pants kinda guy.
Your pervert friend sounds very pervy! |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I honestly can say it depends on who you are talking too, if you click then for me it’s not an obstacle and I would be happy to travel the distance, but then there are others on your doorstep I wouldn’t set outside the front door for. I have been lucky with who I have met and trusted my instincts in doing so.....hoping tomorrow is a Friyay. "
I'll keep my fingers crossed for you |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I have traveled 400+ miles for my now ex gf.. And her likewise to me.. Since then I am still willing to travel any distance for the right person, but would take a lot. As for minimum.. I ain't fussed, as long as it doesn't cause any issues later on.. I really don't mind.
If it boils down to a sex only meet 20mile round trip sounds fair to me.. Even if it means we've split the distance. "
20 miles does sound good... |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I don't mind a bit of distance , truth most of the people I'd want to meet are bloody miles.away anyway , I used to have a reg friend up north when I lived a lot further south and it was god so totally worth the effort ...wierdy one of the worse meets I ever had was 5 mins away....
Exactly this..... my favourite people are a million miles from me but so worth the trip.
In addition to this some of my.fav to ERM perve on are also so bloody far away.....
Oh God yeah..... I perve from all distances.
Me too ,have a few different searches saved
I once drive to meet some one ,and she kissed me as soon as we met ,it was great...sadly the aex wasn't ,but sometimes I do think I would travel to just kiss someone properly again."
I did that with the last person I met. Hardly said hello. It was so worth it. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I used to have a minimum distance from my house as there was such a thing as too close.
Furthest distance? Nope! I love driving and thought nothing of a few hours travelling, even just for a coffee and chat.
To me, it’s always been about connections, not convenience. For the right connection, I would happily travel any distance, which is why I’m where I am now!
Exactly how I feel about it.
Too close is just too close.
And you two are inspirational
I’ll tell her that you called us that when we’re sitting in bed eating biscuits
Do you pull the duvet right up under your chins to avoid the crumbs in bed issue?"
I just eat them on her side |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"To a certain degree I’m easy travelling but wouldn’t do more than an hour’ish these days.
How fast do you drive?
(My pervert friend wants to know)
I’m a drive by the seat of my pants kinda guy.
Your pervert friend sounds very pervy!"
My pervert friend is very pervy. And she reckons about 180 mph should do it |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I used to have a minimum distance from my house as there was such a thing as too close.
Furthest distance? Nope! I love driving and thought nothing of a few hours travelling, even just for a coffee and chat.
To me, it’s always been about connections, not convenience. For the right connection, I would happily travel any distance, which is why I’m where I am now!
Exactly how I feel about it.
Too close is just too close.
And you two are inspirational
I’ll tell her that you called us that when we’re sitting in bed eating biscuits
Do you pull the duvet right up under your chins to avoid the crumbs in bed issue?
I just eat them on her side"
Awwww..... and she thought you were just being snuggly! |
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By *osco78Man
over a year ago
Sheffield |
"I don't mind a bit of distance , truth most of the people I'd want to meet are bloody miles.away anyway , I used to have a reg friend up north when I lived a lot further south and it was god so totally worth the effort ...wierdy one of the worse meets I ever had was 5 mins away....
Exactly this..... my favourite people are a million miles from me but so worth the trip.
In addition to this some of my.fav to ERM perve on are also so bloody far away.....
Oh God yeah..... I perve from all distances.
Me too ,have a few different searches saved
I once drive to meet some one ,and she kissed me as soon as we met ,it was great...sadly the aex wasn't ,but sometimes I do think I would travel to just kiss someone properly again.
I did that with the last person I met. Hardly said hello. It was so worth it."
I'd kill for a good snog now , fancy a drive haha |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I don't travel for social , 1/2 hour would be about my limit ... once that's out the way , I'm easy . I like driving "
So do I..... once I'm in the car it doesn't make much difference to me really |
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over a year ago
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"We live in a remote area. It's paradise. It's a perfect place to own a home, raise kids. It's got a real community.
But it's swinging kryptonite. We travelled 4 to 5 hours for socials and meets.
Now I'm looking at traveling to the UK to maybe meet some people.
It's insane and it's actually a bit of a bummer. It got me down when we joined first 5 years ago and it's getting me down now again.
Distance is a gift and a curse
I know the feeling. I live at the edge of the known world (ish) and even the motorway is an hour away. I love it but unless you want to meet people only in the tiny town (awkward) it does have it's drawbacks."
our neighbour is my brother in law. We have no privacy that way. He knows every car in the part of the county (he's a little bit rain man esque) and she's a gossip.
But we are heading to the canaries in October and we will meet an old friend while there. It won't be a full swinger week. But we will certainly hang out with some people and see what happens |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I don't mind a bit of distance , truth most of the people I'd want to meet are bloody miles.away anyway , I used to have a reg friend up north when I lived a lot further south and it was god so totally worth the effort ...wierdy one of the worse meets I ever had was 5 mins away....
Exactly this..... my favourite people are a million miles from me but so worth the trip.
In addition to this some of my.fav to ERM perve on are also so bloody far away.....
Oh God yeah..... I perve from all distances.
Me too ,have a few different searches saved
I once drive to meet some one ,and she kissed me as soon as we met ,it was great...sadly the aex wasn't ,but sometimes I do think I would travel to just kiss someone properly again.
I did that with the last person I met. Hardly said hello. It was so worth it.
I'd kill for a good snog now , fancy a drive haha "
I thought you said you would travel! |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"We live in a remote area. It's paradise. It's a perfect place to own a home, raise kids. It's got a real community.
But it's swinging kryptonite. We travelled 4 to 5 hours for socials and meets.
Now I'm looking at traveling to the UK to maybe meet some people.
It's insane and it's actually a bit of a bummer. It got me down when we joined first 5 years ago and it's getting me down now again.
Distance is a gift and a curse
I know the feeling. I live at the edge of the known world (ish) and even the motorway is an hour away. I love it but unless you want to meet people only in the tiny town (awkward) it does have it's drawbacks.
our neighbour is my brother in law. We have no privacy that way. He knows every car in the part of the county (he's a little bit rain man esque) and she's a gossip.
But we are heading to the canaries in October and we will meet an old friend while there. It won't be a full swinger week. But we will certainly hang out with some people and see what happens "
My sister and her family live next door one side and my parents the other. Sort of.
So I feel your pain! |
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By *osco78Man
over a year ago
Sheffield |
"I don't mind a bit of distance , truth most of the people I'd want to meet are bloody miles.away anyway , I used to have a reg friend up north when I lived a lot further south and it was god so totally worth the effort ...wierdy one of the worse meets I ever had was 5 mins away....
Exactly this..... my favourite people are a million miles from me but so worth the trip.
In addition to this some of my.fav to ERM perve on are also so bloody far away.....
Oh God yeah..... I perve from all distances.
Me too ,have a few different searches saved
I once drive to meet some one ,and she kissed me as soon as we met ,it was great...sadly the aex wasn't ,but sometimes I do think I would travel to just kiss someone properly again.
I did that with the last person I met. Hardly said hello. It was so worth it.
I'd kill for a good snog now , fancy a drive haha
I thought you said you would travel! "
Oh I would |
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over a year ago
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I've had a couple of fab adventures when I've had plans to be somewhere for a particular reason anyway
But generally, anything further than around an hour away would be a bit of a faff for me and not something I'd do |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"For me distance is like age parameters it can be moved depending on the person, if I click with someone the distance is irrelevant "
Public service announcement.....
She means me. Not that beardy bloke |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I've had a couple of fab adventures when I've had plans to be somewhere for a particular reason anyway
But generally, anything further than around an hour away would be a bit of a faff for me and not something I'd do"
Combining the necessary travel and the adventure is sensible I suppose.... |
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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago
Stirling |
"For me distance is like age parameters it can be moved depending on the person, if I click with someone the distance is irrelevant
Public service announcement.....
She means me. Not that beardy bloke "
Haha I owe you that cuppa in bed...or maybe we can ditch the cuppa and find something else to do x |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"For me distance is like age parameters it can be moved depending on the person, if I click with someone the distance is irrelevant
Public service announcement.....
She means me. Not that beardy bloke
Haha I owe you that cuppa in bed...or maybe we can ditch the cuppa and find something else to do x"
Let's play it by ear |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"As I like regular, too far just doesn't work especially as I don't accommodate so would be doing the driving.
Too close would be within a few miles as I like my space. "
See.... I thought that regular meant nearer. But it turns out I really like driving lol |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I was working in Stranraer about 10 years ago and caught the ferry to Belfast to spend a weekend with a sexy lady off here "
Good lord man! I hope the crossing was better than when I did that one  |
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over a year ago
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"For that woman....the ends of the earth.
Well I invited you and you haven't rocked up yet!
Oops. Pandemic aside obvs."
She promised cake when I get there. |
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"I was working in Stranraer about 10 years ago and caught the ferry to Belfast to spend a weekend with a sexy lady off here
Good lord man! I hope the crossing was better than when I did that one "
It was kinda rough, but luckily I don't suffer from seasickness |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"For that woman....the ends of the earth.
Well I invited you and you haven't rocked up yet!
Oops. Pandemic aside obvs.
She promised cake when I get there. "
Darn. Knew I should have tried that. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I was working in Stranraer about 10 years ago and caught the ferry to Belfast to spend a weekend with a sexy lady off here
Good lord man! I hope the crossing was better than when I did that one
It was kinda rough, but luckily I don't suffer from seasickness "
I don't either.... usually. |
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We’ve both travelled and also love travelling.
If there’s a connection then we are happy to travel. We can always make a holiday of it too and love exploring new places.
Surprising how many places we’ve not been to in the UK.
K |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"We’ve both travelled and also love travelling.
If there’s a connection then we are happy to travel. We can always make a holiday of it too and love exploring new places.
Surprising how many places we’ve not been to in the UK.
K"
Ahem.
North Devon is lovely. Just so you know |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've had a couple of fab adventures when I've had plans to be somewhere for a particular reason anyway
But generally, anything further than around an hour away would be a bit of a faff for me and not something I'd do
Combining the necessary travel and the adventure is sensible I suppose...."
Does the ellipsis indicate a but? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've had a couple of fab adventures when I've had plans to be somewhere for a particular reason anyway
But generally, anything further than around an hour away would be a bit of a faff for me and not something I'd do
Combining the necessary travel and the adventure is sensible I suppose....
Does the ellipsis indicate a but?"
Gosh, someone’s paying close scrutiny. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Yes I don't speak privately to anyone who isn't based at 3 miles and a half from me.
I use a radius map calculator to be sure "
I don't feel so personally rejected now |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I've had a couple of fab adventures when I've had plans to be somewhere for a particular reason anyway
But generally, anything further than around an hour away would be a bit of a faff for me and not something I'd do
Combining the necessary travel and the adventure is sensible I suppose....
Does the ellipsis indicate a but?"
No but. I've just never been that sensible. |
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over a year ago
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"5 hours and 3 train swaps for a meet a long time ago.. was definitely worth it
I've done that! I'm now just glad I have a car.... it's cheaper lol"
Being a country girl from North Wales big, wide roads scare me.. I get lost anytime I drive out of this beautiful country |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it depends on what you are used to travelling. Getting in the car for 3 or 4 hours was pretty normal for me before lockdown so wouldn't mind a long distance. |
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The person we are most involved with is in Ipswich, about 120 miles away. We accept that a lot of travelling will be involved keeping it going. She'll do some and we'll certainly do our bit too, and there is also somewhere in between.
It would be preferable to be maybe half an hour to an hour away for a meet I think, but life doesn't work around our preferences. We know we are very fortunate to have somebody worth travelling for. |
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over a year ago
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"We all know the curse of fab, especially the forum, is distance. But does it really bother you?
Are you a person who would go as far as needs be to meet the person you've made a connection with?
Are you determined to stay within your local area?
Would you be willing to split the distance for a social or go all the way just for a chat and a brew?
What's the furthest you have travelled just to see someone and would you do it again?
On the flip side, how close is too close? Do you have a minimum safe distance?
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Would definitely travel a fair distance especially if a connection is there
Think I’ve done 100miles to go see someone and yeah I’d do it again
No minimum distance for me |
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I always stayed locally but I have travelled quite a distance too. And will again travel when covid restrictions allow. Travelling isn't always something I can freely do regular which is hard when you really want to see someone on a regular basis |
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