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Don't be disheartened, but too young is an issue for lots of people on here. But there are also people who will have you within their age range. Hang tight and I'm sure you will find someone who is compatible  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Same hear am fifty six so most lady’s after 45-55 so out of age range by a year unfortunately keep on you will find someone eventually fab is like a cooking pot takes time for things to come to the boil  |
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"Hi all, I appreciate the fact I’m young and it’s not for everyone but is it an issue to alot of people, don’t seem to be getting anywhere."
Hey don't be disheartened, Covid had brought a stop to fun for any age, there are some women who do like younger guys, you just have to keep looking Nice pics by the way  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hi all, I appreciate the fact I’m young and it’s not for everyone but is it an issue to alot of people, don’t seem to be getting anywhere.
Hey don't be disheartened, Covid had brought a stop to fun for any age, there are some women who do like younger guys, you just have to keep looking Nice pics by the way "
Yeah I understand its been hard for all, thanks  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hello OP for some people age will be an issue and others it won’t be... I started swinging a couple years older than you and age wasn’t a problem in a club. People were often surprised I was younger if they asked... it’s all about how you act and come across sometimes
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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago
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OP - search out people like me, who you fall within our age requirements. Forget the rest.
And put the last year down to bad luck, as it's prevented interest.
But, having realistic expectations is important, if you're to be content here. It's never quick and easy for single men. And you're now in a queue with a year's worth of people who have been held up in their pursuit of sex.
You need to up your game, so that you're doing as much as you can to optimise your chances. There's good advice on everything from profile content, pics, messaging, using clubs and more in the forum. And setting your expectations appropriately, alongside patience. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont see it being a problem if they show maturity when mailing and meeting . I have my age limit higher because my oldest is 34 . But it wouldnt stop me meeting anyone younger if they showed they were worth it .
Your in botlon get to the gatehouse . Meet folk there alot of fabbers use it .
Young and old . Hope it all works out for you . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I dont see it being a problem if they show maturity when mailing and meeting . I have my age limit higher because my oldest is 34 . But it wouldnt stop me meeting anyone younger if they showed they were worth it .
Your in botlon get to the gatehouse . Meet folk there alot of fabbers use it .
Young and old . Hope it all works out for you . "
Always consider myself to be more mature for my age, but I like to get people to see that for themselves and 9 times out of 10 I get the “ you seem so much older than you are” and I do be glad to hear it, I much prefer an older woman, I feel as if I connect better, so I do be glad when they don’t let age get in the way and let me show what I can offer |
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Hi, it’s great to see young men like yourself on here. Keep persevering and you will meet women that you connect with.
Age is certainly not an issue for many women including myself. I only meet young men in their twenties and like everyone I’m choosy and have quite strict criteria of the type of men that I am attracted to and would enjoy getting intimate with.
You certainly tick a lot of my boxes xx
Starting posts like this is an excellent way to get yourself noticed.
xx
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For many it is an issue.
So what to do about it?
Use the search function to filter and continue relatively blind hitting and hoping and still having not a lot of luck.
Or make the most of catered for events.
If I want a Mcmuffin I ain't gonna get it at Subway so I go where I know they make em. Common sense yeah?
Cougars and cubs night at a club. Yep, there will be events that cater for your specific thang. Of course there's no guarantee you'll get your dick wet but your chances will be greatly improved by going to the mountain instead of hoping that mountain comes to you.
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Age is only a problem as it's generally all we have to guage someone's sexual experience.
I find it odd that people say they won't meet a 25 year old because they are too young to fuck but they will meet a 46 year old without any indication and every assumption that he's been knee deep in pussy for the past 30 years. It's possible he's a single almost virgin.
There are 25 year olds and younger policing the streets, working in politics, practising medicine, teaching in classrooms..........
There's also an unreasonable notion that people in their 20's are inexperienced in life ..... maybe that's true in terms of house owning, bills, maintenance and raising kids but no one is interested in that for a casual sex meet.
We'd expect them to fight in a war and pay their taxes surely a fuck isn't out of the question ?
Isn't an intelligent 25 year old who is loving life and has some sexual experience under his belt a better bet for a meet than a middle aged bloke with scant experience in sex save the few times he had sex in his long boring marriage which recently ended in divorce?
Age shouldn't come into a decision regarding sex once they are in their 20's ....
Lot's of other things would stop me meeting someone but generally - not their age. |
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"For many it is an issue.
So what to do about it?
Use the search function to filter and continue relatively blind hitting and hoping and still having not a lot of luck.
Or make the most of catered for events.
If I want a Mcmuffin I ain't gonna get it at Subway so I go where I know they make em. Common sense yeah?
Cougars and cubs night at a club. Yep, there will be events that cater for your specific thang. Of course there's no guarantee you'll get your dick wet but your chances will be greatly improved by going to the mountain instead of hoping that mountain comes to you.
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I increasingly dislike the 'cougar' title. It's just 'sexual predator' dressed up.
Do we have a cosy little label for blokes that like younger women? I don't think so.
I don't prefer younger men but if I fancy him and he's intelligent adult company then I would I don't have to be an 'anything' to fancy a man.
I couldn't have a life long relationship with one but a couple of hours is just fine. ( to be fair these days im not up to his speed so it's all a pipe dream )
I rather like sensual leisure times these days. It's less wham bam and more astronaut.. chortle. |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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For me it is not the biological age as much as the question of how much I have in common with the person.
It is unlikely, albeit not impossible, to share similar views and values for sure. That said a man in his twenties will not have had the life experience of or example raising teenagers, to name but one. And no, I would not meet to discuss my experience as a mother of teenage children but there is the less tangible "general background of experience" that
makes a conversation flow and lead to other things.
I have met very mature, witty and genuine 20 year olds and rather immature, egocentric disingenuous guys in their 50ies.
A meeting that has the potential of leading to physical (and some emotional) intimacy requires a broadly similar background of experience. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"For me it is not the biological age as much as the question of how much I have in common with the person.
It is unlikely, albeit not impossible, to share similar views and values for sure. That said a man in his twenties will not have had the life experience of or example raising teenagers, to name but one. And no, I would not meet to discuss my experience as a mother of teenage children but there is the less tangible "general background of experience" that
makes a conversation flow and lead to other things.
I have met very mature, witty and genuine 20 year olds and rather immature, egocentric disingenuous guys in their 50ies.
A meeting that has the potential of leading to physical (and some emotional) intimacy requires a broadly similar background of experience. "
Definitely, can always seem to me as though people feel as i’m only 21 I’m immature and in it for one thing however i want to enjoy and get into the scene myself |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dude. I’m almost twice your age and I still get told I’m too young by some people. The real kick in the teeth is that I’m also old enough to be called too old by others! Enjoy your youth while you have it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Dude. I’m almost twice your age and I still get told I’m too young by some people. The real kick in the teeth is that I’m also old enough to be called too old by others! Enjoy your youth while you have it "
Difficult isn’t it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"For the vast majority of women, it's about basic attraction.
All sorts of preferences come after that, age is only one of them. Be you, it will work in the end."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How do you know it's an age issue OP? Very few people have been meeting over the last 14 months or so. "
This is just a general response i receive, most reply that i’m to young, nothing to do with meets |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Once socials are allowed to resume get yourself to those. They are a great way to get to know people x"
Always feel like it’d be awkward as a first time solo male? Especially at my age x |
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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago
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"How do you know it's an age issue OP? Very few people have been meeting over the last 14 months or so.
This is just a general response i receive, most reply that i’m to young, nothing to do with meets"
it also applies at the other end of the age spectrum, it is what it though |
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"Once socials are allowed to resume get yourself to those. They are a great way to get to know people x
Always feel like it’d be awkward as a first time solo male? Especially at my age x"
I'd take you as a plus one x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"How do you know it's an age issue OP? Very few people have been meeting over the last 14 months or so.
This is just a general response i receive, most reply that i’m to young, nothing to do with meets it also applies at the other end of the age spectrum, it is what it though "
Oh yeah definitely! Just however it seems that youth can be a real issue |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Once socials are allowed to resume get yourself to those. They are a great way to get to know people x
Always feel like it’d be awkward as a first time solo male? Especially at my age x
I'd take you as a plus one x"
Would definitely appreciate it! Only in leeds not far at all x |
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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago
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"How do you know it's an age issue OP? Very few people have been meeting over the last 14 months or so.
This is just a general response i receive, most reply that i’m to young, nothing to do with meets it also applies at the other end of the age spectrum, it is what it though
Oh yeah definitely! Just however it seems that youth can be a real issue"
Make the most of it my friend |
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"Once socials are allowed to resume get yourself to those. They are a great way to get to know people x
Always feel like it’d be awkward as a first time solo male? Especially at my age x
I'd take you as a plus one x
Would definitely appreciate it! Only in leeds not far at all x"
It isn't and like I said, it's a great way to get to know people x |
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"Hi all, I appreciate the fact I’m young and it’s not for everyone but is it an issue to alot of people, don’t seem to be getting anywhere."
Try to put yourself in other people's situation. Many women just don't like the idea of sleeping with men who are younger than their children. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hi all, I appreciate the fact I’m young and it’s not for everyone but is it an issue to alot of people, don’t seem to be getting anywhere.
Try to put yourself in other people's situation. Many women just don't like the idea of sleeping with men who are younger than their children. "
Yeah Thats been said a couple times which is absolutely understandable |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hi all, I appreciate the fact I’m young and it’s not for everyone but is it an issue to alot of people, don’t seem to be getting anywhere.
Try to put yourself in other people's situation. Many women just don't like the idea of sleeping with men who are younger than their children. "
Yeah Thats been said a couple times which is absolutely understandable |
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By *rMrs84Couple
over a year ago
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"Yeah most older women have kids your age.. try not to take it personal!  "
haha I had a younger member approach us, now she is just a number but damn they looked it too.
Couldn’t help but think I have shirts older than them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dude. I’m almost twice your age and I still get told I’m too young by some people. The real kick in the teeth is that I’m also old enough to be called too old by others! Enjoy your youth while you have it
Difficult isn’t it"
It doesn’t bother me so much. If I’m not for someone, c’est la vie. I’d much rather put the effort in with someone who I fit their bill rather than waste time chasing someone who has no interest. Look at it as a good thing. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Yeah most older women have kids your age.. try not to take it personal! haha I had a younger member approach us, now she is just a number but damn they looked it too.
Couldn’t help but think I have shirts older than them. "
I mean i guess I don’t look that young however hahaha |
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