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By *annaBeStrong OP Man over a year ago

Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body?

Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt.

But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings?

In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated

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By *etcplCouple over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I do it all the time to myself.

When clothed I think I look alright, then I get naked and look like a sack of shit with toothpicks for arms and legs!

Filters, angles, how you turn the body, shadows etc.

We see it all the time now a days, and thats not counting the obvious photo shops!

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By *uriousscouserWoman over a year ago

Wirral

In a previous job I lusted after a mechanic, but I'd only ever seen him in a boilersuit with a hard hat and safety glasses.

He came into the offices and took off the glasses. Meh. Then he took off the hard hat. Even more meh (Sarah, what were you thinking?). Then he sent an email in which he misspelled "our" as "are" so he was dead to me from that point anyway.

As a rule though if I'm interested enough in someone to remove their clothes I'm not going to be put off by anything other than an extreme issue they haven't made me aware of (like they're covered in green scales or they gave up washing a decade ago - I am genuinely talking something really extreme).

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body?

Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt.

But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings?

In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated "

Tell them you like to fuck them whilst they are clothed, then lift up skirt and poke it in...

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By *annaBeStrong OP Man over a year ago

"I do it all the time to myself.

When clothed I think I look alright, then I get naked and look like a sack of shit with toothpicks for arms and legs!

Filters, angles, how you turn the body, shadows etc.

We see it all the time now a days, and thats not counting the obvious photo shops!"

I don’t think there’s an issue with trying to look your best! All the more power to you. I just recently had it come up where I was quite attracted to her with her cloths on and now they’ve come off I’m quite not attracted to her

She’s lovely, so I don’t want to hurt her feelings

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

There is no way to say you prefer how someone looks dressed. When someone is naked they are at their most vulnerable and telling by them they look better with their clothes on has got to hurt

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body?

Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt.

But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings?

In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated "

Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked”

Ultimately I think you aren’t attracted enough to this woman so, maybe rethink and politely decline without going there and say.. “I’m sorry but I don’t find your body attractive when it’s naked?”

I don’t know.

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By *dwalu2Couple over a year ago

Bristol

"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body?

Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt.

But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings?

In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated

Tell them you like to fuck them whilst they are clothed, then lift up skirt and poke it in..."

They may not be quite so keen when you’ve asked them to put their clothes back on first!

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By *annaBeStrong OP Man over a year ago

"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body?

Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt.

But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings?

In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated

Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked”

I don’t know. "

Sadly we had sex twice in a dimly lighted room, 3rd time was with lights on and I couldn’t finish. It’s just not for me, but she’s so lovely, I just don’t wanna hurt her

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body?

Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt.

But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings?

In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated

Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked”

I don’t know.

Sadly we had sex twice in a dimly lighted room, 3rd time was with lights on and I couldn’t finish. It’s just not for me, but she’s so lovely, I just don’t wanna hurt her "

Then you kind of answered yourself, just politely and gently tell her you don’t think it can go further and to remain friendly x

I’d try avoid tho the … because I realise I don’t find you attractive enough when lights are on and clothes are off.

That can hurt her confidence if she doesn’t have much x

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body?

Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt.

But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings?

In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated

Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked”

I don’t know.

Sadly we had sex twice in a dimly lighted room, 3rd time was with lights on and I couldn’t finish. It’s just not for me, but she’s so lovely, I just don’t wanna hurt her "

What's wrong with just saying you don't want to see her again. There's absolutely no need to tell her why

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By *adyBugsWoman over a year ago

cognito

"I do it all the time to myself.

When clothed I think I look alright, then I get naked and look like a sack of shit with toothpicks for arms and legs!

Filters, angles, how you turn the body, shadows etc.

We see it all the time now a days, and thats not counting the obvious photo shops!

She’s lovely, so I don’t want to hurt her feelings "

Just be honest and say you don’t feel a connection now. It happens sometimes. I’d rather hear that than be ghosted and block like I was a couple of weeks ago.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

One off the reason why I only meet bi guys as when things get hot and heavy the glits and glam fade away

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is society today....searching for perfection whilst people undergo procedures to fit in with the expectation... I prefer to find someone attractive as a whole

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body?

Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt.

But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings?

In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated

Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked”

I don’t know.

Sadly we had sex twice in a dimly lighted room, 3rd time was with lights on and I couldn’t finish. It’s just not for me, but she’s so lovely, I just don’t wanna hurt her

Then you kind of answered yourself, just politely and gently tell her you don’t think it can go further and to remain friendly x

I’d try avoid tho the … because I realise I don’t find you attractive enough when lights are on and clothes are off.

That can hurt her confidence if she doesn’t have much x "

Christ that would hurt the confidence of most people

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body?

Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt.

But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings?

In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated

Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked”

I don’t know.

Sadly we had sex twice in a dimly lighted room, 3rd time was with lights on and I couldn’t finish. It’s just not for me, but she’s so lovely, I just don’t wanna hurt her "

Well if she's on this site, you may already have.

If not, then I may I just suggest phasing the visits out. There's probably no way of saying what's on your mind without it hurting her.

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By *dwalu2Couple over a year ago

Bristol

Just end it politely, there’s no need to be hurtful of someone’s feelings into the bargain.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I do it all the time to myself.

When clothed I think I look alright, then I get naked and look like a sack of shit with toothpicks for arms and legs!

Filters, angles, how you turn the body, shadows etc.

We see it all the time now a days, and thats not counting the obvious photo shops!

She’s lovely, so I don’t want to hurt her feelings

Just be honest and say you don’t feel a connection now. It happens sometimes. I’d rather hear that than be ghosted and block like I was a couple of weeks ago. "

This! She will get over it and she doesn’t need to know the true reason of why u don’t find her physically attractive. X x

Like I’d never tell a guy… oh i dont think we can sleep together again because I find out ur dick is small. Because he might be self conscious and I think it’s better not to be brutal with people x

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By *annaBeStrong OP Man over a year ago

"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body?

Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt.

But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings?

In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated

Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked”

I don’t know.

Sadly we had sex twice in a dimly lighted room, 3rd time was with lights on and I couldn’t finish. It’s just not for me, but she’s so lovely, I just don’t wanna hurt her

What's wrong with just saying you don't want to see her again. There's absolutely no need to tell her why"

Because we had an absolute blast together, she’s so sweet, she was very vulnerable with me, and we had good sex twice, and to just randomly end it.

Am I being too soft? I just really don’t wanna hurt her, but at the same time I guess I gotta look after myself

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

I can't say I have been because although clothes are flattering, they've never been catfishing to me.

Why not just say you're no longer feeling a connection? It's blunt, kind of harsh but it would be kinder than saying, actually I prefer you clothed to naked. I'd agree with the poster above, being naked with someone can make someone feel exposed and vulnerable without being told negative things that can really damage someone's confidence. Or do the slow fade.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You can be honest without being brutal. Just say things have run their course and you’re finishing it.

Or ….

Say your a reservist and have been called up for a 12 month tour and you’ll be in touch when you get back.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body?

Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt.

But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings?

In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated

Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked”

I don’t know.

Sadly we had sex twice in a dimly lighted room, 3rd time was with lights on and I couldn’t finish. It’s just not for me, but she’s so lovely, I just don’t wanna hurt her "

Maybe just tell her that you think she's a lovely person but you have realised that the chemistry isn't there and you would rather not continue?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is society today....searching for perfection whilst people undergo procedures to fit in with the expectation... I prefer to find someone attractive as a whole

Where everything is about visual 24/7, I think it’s being ingrained in us (we all know it’s not right) from a very young age … sadly I guess. But it’s the harsh reality

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I really hope she isn't on fab OP. If she is, this is just cruel.

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By *annaBeStrong OP Man over a year ago

"I do it all the time to myself.

When clothed I think I look alright, then I get naked and look like a sack of shit with toothpicks for arms and legs!

Filters, angles, how you turn the body, shadows etc.

We see it all the time now a days, and thats not counting the obvious photo shops!

She’s lovely, so I don’t want to hurt her feelings

Just be honest and say you don’t feel a connection now. It happens sometimes. I’d rather hear that than be ghosted and block like I was a couple of weeks ago.

This! She will get over it and she doesn’t need to know the true reason of why u don’t find her physically attractive. X x

Ok that seems fair. I was kinda thinking 2 more dates, and end of the 2nd one just say that she’s great, sex is great, very physically attracted etc, but there’s just not that spark. Nothing specific. And hopefully she’s ok

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body?

Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt.

But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings?

In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated

Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked”

I don’t know.

Sadly we had sex twice in a dimly lighted room, 3rd time was with lights on and I couldn’t finish. It’s just not for me, but she’s so lovely, I just don’t wanna hurt her

What's wrong with just saying you don't want to see her again. There's absolutely no need to tell her why"

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

if shes on here, reading your post you may well not have to do anything, she'll have taken the decision for you...

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By *uriousscouserWoman over a year ago

Wirral

"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body?

Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt.

But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings?

In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated

Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked”

I don’t know.

Sadly we had sex twice in a dimly lighted room, 3rd time was with lights on and I couldn’t finish. It’s just not for me, but she’s so lovely, I just don’t wanna hurt her

What's wrong with just saying you don't want to see her again. There's absolutely no need to tell her why

Because we had an absolute blast together, she’s so sweet, she was very vulnerable with me, and we had good sex twice, and to just randomly end it.

Am I being too soft? I just really don’t wanna hurt her, but at the same time I guess I gotta look after myself "

You're going to hurt her either way but please don't tell her it's because you don't like her naked body when there's a light on.

At least let the poor girl keep a bit of dignity.

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By *annaBeStrong OP Man over a year ago

"I really hope she isn't on fab OP. If she is, this is just cruel."

Obviously not, Christ

Never meet off here for relationship stuff.

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Charmer you

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By *dwalu2Couple over a year ago

Bristol

The tone of this thread is a bit weird...how was the woman concerned ‘catfishing’? What it comes down to is the OP doesn’t fancy her, she hasn’t set out to mislead him.

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"The tone of this thread is a bit weird...how was the woman concerned ‘catfishing’? What it comes down to is the OP doesn’t fancy her, she hasn’t set out to mislead him."

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body?

Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt.

But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings?

In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated

Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked”

I don’t know.

Sadly we had sex twice in a dimly lighted room, 3rd time was with lights on and I couldn’t finish. It’s just not for me, but she’s so lovely, I just don’t wanna hurt her

What's wrong with just saying you don't want to see her again. There's absolutely no need to tell her why

Because we had an absolute blast together, she’s so sweet, she was very vulnerable with me, and we had good sex twice, and to just randomly end it.

Am I being too soft? I just really don’t wanna hurt her, but at the same time I guess I gotta look after myself "

Soft?

You're trying to avoid being the bad guy in my opinion. There is no way to tell someone you don't want to have sex with them again without at least making them feel a bit fed up. Telling a woman or a man that you've had sex with three times that you find them unnatractive naked to the extent that you couldn't finish the last time is a not a nice thing to do even if it's true.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've never once thought someone was catfishing by wearing clothes. I think you're being a bit unreasonable there. You're creating your own image in your head of what her body looks like underneath, so that is completely on you. I'd only see your point if she was wearing extreme shapewear, padded pants, padded bra etc.

If it's such a big issue then ask for a nude pic or even just one in lingerie. If she doesn't give it to you, forget about her and move on.

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By *adyBugsWoman over a year ago

cognito

"I do it all the time to myself.

When clothed I think I look alright, then I get naked and look like a sack of shit with toothpicks for arms and legs!

Filters, angles, how you turn the body, shadows etc.

We see it all the time now a days, and thats not counting the obvious photo shops!

She’s lovely, so I don’t want to hurt her feelings

Just be honest and say you don’t feel a connection now. It happens sometimes. I’d rather hear that than be ghosted and block like I was a couple of weeks ago.

This! She will get over it and she doesn’t need to know the true reason of why u don’t find her physically attractive. X x

I wouldn’t drag it out with more dates unless you actually feel a connection. Dragging it out will just make it harder on her. But I’m just talking from personal experiences and everyone is different.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Charmer you

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I really hope she isn't on fab OP. If she is, this is just cruel.

Obviously not, Christ

Never meet off here for relationship stuff."

In that case that's a relief.

The best thing you can do is just tell her you think she is lovely but it isn't working for you. Or something similar.

Honestly, if she has confidence issues then no matter what you say it'll hurt that part of her. But a clean break is always preferable to dragging it out and honestly, as long as you aren't nasty or hurtful to her it's better for you both to cut off.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Also I admit I wouldn’t do the 2 more dates thing if u are quite set in ur mind that u don’t see it happening. Why drag our a shit show?

Especially if it’s already in the back of your mind! X

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

I'm pretty confident about my body, the exception being my feet

but if someone had sex with me three times then said they didn't realise I was plug ugly until the lights went on I'd have a moment or two of doubt.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I do it all the time to myself.

When clothed I think I look alright, then I get naked and look like a sack of shit with toothpicks for arms and legs!

Filters, angles, how you turn the body, shadows etc.

We see it all the time now a days, and thats not counting the obvious photo shops!

She’s lovely, so I don’t want to hurt her feelings

Just be honest and say you don’t feel a connection now. It happens sometimes. I’d rather hear that than be ghosted and block like I was a couple of weeks ago.

This! She will get over it and she doesn’t need to know the true reason of why u don’t find her physically attractive. X x

This. The more you date the more she might also feel attached to you, making it harder for her when u lay her down “gently” x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body?

Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt.

But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings?

In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated

Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked”

I don’t know.

Sadly we had sex twice in a dimly lighted room, 3rd time was with lights on and I couldn’t finish. It’s just not for me, but she’s so lovely, I just don’t wanna hurt her "

You can't be that blind surely?

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By *annaBeStrong OP Man over a year ago

Is anything in my post giving the impression that I don’t wanna let her down gently?

I thought it was clear. The reason I’m struggling is because I don’t want her to feel bad in the slightest.

If I didn’t care, I wouldn’t have made the post. I would have just txt “not interested anymore”

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Is anything in my post giving the impression that I don’t wanna let her down gently?

I thought it was clear. The reason I’m struggling is because I don’t want her to feel bad in the slightest.

If I didn’t care, I wouldn’t have made the post. I would have just txt “not interested anymore”"

So discuss it with her like

A gentleman

Instead of using a

Fog horn

Over the

Internet

She might not like parts of you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can't get my head around how if you like someone clothed and the shape of thier body why you wouldn't also like them naked?

I can work out what would be so different you can go from lights low good sex twice to not liking it the 3rd time with the light on. Are we talking major scars? Or something ridiculous (as in it shouldn't make any difference) like a mum tum or similar? Genuinely curious OP.

Also agree telling anyone you liked them with clothes but not make its be hi and cruel please for heavens sake don't do that.

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By *annaBeStrong OP Man over a year ago

"Is anything in my post giving the impression that I don’t wanna let her down gently?

I thought it was clear. The reason I’m struggling is because I don’t want her to feel bad in the slightest.

If I didn’t care, I wouldn’t have made the post. I would have just txt “not interested anymore”

So discuss it with her like

A gentleman

Instead of using a

Fog horn

Over the

Internet

She might not like parts of you."

I hope she doesn’t maybe she’ll do the job for me

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Is anything in my post giving the impression that I don’t wanna let her down gently?

I thought it was clear. The reason I’m struggling is because I don’t want her to feel bad in the slightest.

If I didn’t care, I wouldn’t have made the post. I would have just txt “not interested anymore”"

She is probably more resilient than you realise. Don't do two more dates that's patronising just tell her you've had a great time and want to move on, no hard feelings etc etc.

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Is anything in my post giving the impression that I don’t wanna let her down gently?

I thought it was clear. The reason I’m struggling is because I don’t want her to feel bad in the slightest.

If I didn’t care, I wouldn’t have made the post. I would have just txt “not interested anymore”"

She's going to feel bad. There I nothing you can do about that. Unless rejection is like water off a duck's back to her, which is unlikely, there will be some hurt.

Not telling her that it's a lack of physical attraction, and making it absolutely clear that it is done, are the best things to do.

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Is anything in my post giving the impression that I don’t wanna let her down gently?

I thought it was clear. The reason I’m struggling is because I don’t want her to feel bad in the slightest.

If I didn’t care, I wouldn’t have made the post. I would have just txt “not interested anymore”

So discuss it with her like

A gentleman

Instead of using a

Fog horn

Over the

Internet

She might not like parts of you.

I hope she doesn’t maybe she’ll do the job for me

Discuss it with her we all have

Flaws no one is perfect

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By *annaBeStrong OP Man over a year ago

"Is anything in my post giving the impression that I don’t wanna let her down gently?

I thought it was clear. The reason I’m struggling is because I don’t want her to feel bad in the slightest.

If I didn’t care, I wouldn’t have made the post. I would have just txt “not interested anymore”

She is probably more resilient than you realise. Don't do two more dates that's patronising just tell her you've had a great time and want to move on, no hard feelings etc etc.

In person? Phone call? Obviously not just a txt?

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Is anything in my post giving the impression that I don’t wanna let her down gently?

I thought it was clear. The reason I’m struggling is because I don’t want her to feel bad in the slightest.

If I didn’t care, I wouldn’t have made the post. I would have just txt “not interested anymore”

She is probably more resilient than you realise. Don't do two more dates that's patronising just tell her you've had a great time and want to move on, no hard feelings etc etc.

In person? Phone call? Obviously not just a txt?"

Person

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

I can't get my head around how if you like someone clothed and the shape of thier body why you wouldn't also like them naked?

Also agree telling anyone you liked them with clothes but not make its be hi and cruel please for heavens sake don't do that.

KJ"

I look a bit different naked. A good bra does wonders at my age

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

I can't get my head around how if you like someone clothed and the shape of thier body why you wouldn't also like them naked?

Also agree telling anyone you liked them with clothes but not make its be hi and cruel please for heavens sake don't do that.

I look a bit different naked. A good bra does wonders at my age

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Never in a text

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

I can't get my head around how if you like someone clothed and the shape of thier body why you wouldn't also like them naked?

Also agree telling anyone you liked them with clothes but not make its be hi and cruel please for heavens sake don't do that.

I look a bit different naked. A good bra does wonders at my age

Saves tucking them in my belt

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can't get my head around how if you like someone clothed and the shape of thier body why you wouldn't also like them naked?

Also agree telling anyone you liked them with clothes but not make its be hi and cruel please for heavens sake don't do that.

I look a bit different naked. A good bra does wonders at my age

Lol same here

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By *adyBugsWoman over a year ago

cognito

"Is anything in my post giving the impression that I don’t wanna let her down gently?

I thought it was clear. The reason I’m struggling is because I don’t want her to feel bad in the slightest.

If I didn’t care, I wouldn’t have made the post. I would have just txt “not interested anymore”

She is probably more resilient than you realise. Don't do two more dates that's patronising just tell her you've had a great time and want to move on, no hard feelings etc etc.

In person? Phone call? Obviously not just a txt?"

I sent my reply suggestions to you in a private reply. In person is best but neutral location. Definitely not your place or hers & not somewhere super busy in case she needs to compose herself

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By *annaBeStrong OP Man over a year ago

"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body?

Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt.

But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings?

In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated

Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked”

I don’t know.

Sadly we had sex twice in a dimly lighted room, 3rd time was with lights on and I couldn’t finish. It’s just not for me, but she’s so lovely, I just don’t wanna hurt her

You can't be that blind surely? "

That’s why I call it cat fishing.

Some women can work absolute magic with the right cloths and shape wear

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is anything in my post giving the impression that I don’t wanna let her down gently?

I thought it was clear. The reason I’m struggling is because I don’t want her to feel bad in the slightest.

If I didn’t care, I wouldn’t have made the post. I would have just txt “not interested anymore”

She is probably more resilient than you realise. Don't do two more dates that's patronising just tell her you've had a great time and want to move on, no hard feelings etc etc.

In person? Phone call? Obviously not just a txt?"

Either. No text tho! That’s fuck boi-sh

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If the lady in question is on Fab then you have just told her anyway by putting this post up.

Clothes are only thin material layers and as you have seen her in person you must of had some idea of her shape underneath them.

Having sex in a darkened room also makes no difference in my mind either. You have hands to feel your way around someone's body so you surely would of had some idea what they were like naked shape wise before full on sex had started.

I sure the woman in question is beautiful in her own way and just not for you OP , but many other men will probably love her figure and personality.

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

I can't get my head around how if you like someone clothed and the shape of thier body why you wouldn't also like them naked?

Also agree telling anyone you liked them with clothes but not make its be hi and cruel please for heavens sake don't do that.

I look a bit different naked. A good bra does wonders at my age

Saves tucking them in my belt

Hahaha

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By *annaBeStrong OP Man over a year ago

"If the lady in question is on Fab then you have just told her anyway by putting this post up.

Clothes are only thin material layers and as you have seen her in person you must of had some idea of her shape underneath them.

I sure the woman in question is beautiful in her own way and just not for you OP , but many other men will probably love her figure and personality.

I’d agree, but it doesn’t really help my situation

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"If the lady in question is on Fab then you have just told her anyway by putting this post up.

Clothes are only thin material layers and as you have seen her in person you must of had some idea of her shape underneath them.

I sure the woman in question is beautiful in her own way and just not for you OP , but many other men will probably love her figure and personality.

I’d agree, but it doesn’t really help my situation

I'm getting you dont fancy

Her

Tell her

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By *annaBeStrong OP Man over a year ago

"Is anything in my post giving the impression that I don’t wanna let her down gently?

I thought it was clear. The reason I’m struggling is because I don’t want her to feel bad in the slightest.

If I didn’t care, I wouldn’t have made the post. I would have just txt “not interested anymore”

She is probably more resilient than you realise. Don't do two more dates that's patronising just tell her you've had a great time and want to move on, no hard feelings etc etc.

In person? Phone call? Obviously not just a txt?

Either. No text tho! That’s fuck boi-sh"

Yeah txt is a no, I would do a phone call but she’s a great girl, so I think I’ll do it in person. She deserves that at least

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By *mma29Couple over a year ago

wirral

"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body?

Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt.

But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings?

In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated

Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked”

I don’t know.

Sadly we had sex twice in a dimly lighted room, 3rd time was with lights on and I couldn’t finish. It’s just not for me, but she’s so lovely, I just don’t wanna hurt her

What's wrong with just saying you don't want to see her again. There's absolutely no need to tell her why

Because we had an absolute blast together, she’s so sweet, she was very vulnerable with me, and we had good sex twice, and to just randomly end it.

Am I being too soft? I just really don’t wanna hurt her, but at the same time I guess I gotta look after myself "

What is the actual issue? Can it be fixed with exercise?

Or is it something that you just cant deal with.?

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By *annaBeStrong OP Man over a year ago

"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body?

Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt.

But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings?

In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated

Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked”

I don’t know.

Sadly we had sex twice in a dimly lighted room, 3rd time was with lights on and I couldn’t finish. It’s just not for me, but she’s so lovely, I just don’t wanna hurt her

What's wrong with just saying you don't want to see her again. There's absolutely no need to tell her why

Because we had an absolute blast together, she’s so sweet, she was very vulnerable with me, and we had good sex twice, and to just randomly end it.

Am I being too soft? I just really don’t wanna hurt her, but at the same time I guess I gotta look after myself

What is the actual issue? Can it be fixed with exercise?

Or is it something that you just cant deal with.? "

I’d never ask or suggest a woman changes for me.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

Ann Summers do an add a cup size or two bra. That must be quite an eye opener when it comes off

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By *atnip make me purrWoman over a year ago

Reading

Man how shallow. Yeah just go with the whole didn't feel a connection. You don't deserve her.

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body?

Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt.

But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings?

In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated

Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked”

I don’t know.

Sadly we had sex twice in a dimly lighted room, 3rd time was with lights on and I couldn’t finish. It’s just not for me, but she’s so lovely, I just don’t wanna hurt her

What's wrong with just saying you don't want to see her again. There's absolutely no need to tell her why

Because we had an absolute blast together, she’s so sweet, she was very vulnerable with me, and we had good sex twice, and to just randomly end it.

Am I being too soft? I just really don’t wanna hurt her, but at the same time I guess I gotta look after myself

What is the actual issue? Can it be fixed with exercise?

Or is it something that you just cant deal with.?

I’d never ask or suggest a woman changes for me. "

I can change my knickers if you want had em on for month's

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What a dickish post.

I’m not a snowflake but as a curvier lady this really got to me. We all post our best pics here and yes we all know how to use flattering angles etc but if you have been talking to someone and have slept with them once then there has to be some level of attraction. This poor lass probably feels like crap now. I know I would.

Its why I have my disclaimer on my profile.

I hope she doesn’t take offence and it doesn’t end badly but I must say I empathise with the lass. It’s hard to get confident to get naked in front of someone these days as it is without feeling judged.

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By *annaBeStrong OP Man over a year ago

"Man how shallow. Yeah just go with the whole didn't feel a connection. You don't deserve her. "

God forbid someone have a physical preference for a life partner

Never mind everyone, threads over. Just gonna date and marry someone I’m not physically attracted to so I don’t look shallow

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Man how shallow. Yeah just go with the whole didn't feel a connection. You don't deserve her.

God forbid someone have a physical preference for a life partner

Never mind everyone, threads over. Just gonna date and marry someone I’m not physically attracted to so I don’t look shallow "

I'm free

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If the lady in question is on Fab then you have just told her anyway by putting this post up.

Clothes are only thin material layers and as you have seen her in person you must of had some idea of her shape underneath them.

I sure the woman in question is beautiful in her own way and just not for you OP , but many other men will probably love her figure and personality.

I’d agree, but it doesn’t really help my situation

I think you should man up a bit and give it a chance.

You like her enough as you keep saying above, so why not keep chatting for now and leave the sex stuff to one side and then in the future see if it leads you back to the bedroom. You never know you may actually enjoy it further down the line.

I believe you do fancy her , she's just maybe isnt what you have had previously but tastes change over time

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By *annaBeStrong OP Man over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I blame those low energy bulbs

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"I blame those low energy bulbs

You would

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By *annaBeStrong OP Man over a year ago

"If the lady in question is on Fab then you have just told her anyway by putting this post up.

Clothes are only thin material layers and as you have seen her in person you must of had some idea of her shape underneath them.

I sure the woman in question is beautiful in her own way and just not for you OP , but many other men will probably love her figure and personality.

I’d agree, but it doesn’t really help my situation

I think you should man up a bit and give it a chance.

I believe you do fancy her , she's just maybe isnt what you have had previously but tastes change over time

Sorry not gonna settle for someone I’m not 100% smitten over

And the fact some women in this thread are offended at having a preference and think I should just settle says more about them and their standards than myself

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I blame those low energy bulbs

Smokes and mirrors

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By *annaBeStrong OP Man over a year ago

"I blame those low energy bulbs

Dimmers mate. Never trust a dimmed room!

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

That’s why I call it cat fishing.

Some women can work absolute magic with the right cloths and shape wear "

I'm sorry, OP. But you had sex with her twice and unless she was still wearing the shapewear, in which case she probably was dying from not being able to breathe and dehydration from sweating so much, you would have been able to feel and see enough.

A guy once talked me into bed by explaining in detail exactly what my body would be like under the clothes I was wearing. And he started off by saying "Men aren't actually all stupid. We have seen enough naked women to know roughly what you're going to look like under the clothes."

Really did stick with me. Because real life encounters aren't like fab etc where you rely entirely on a carefully angled, potentially lighting impressive still picture or several.

You met this woman, and there is no way you didn't have a good idea, especially by the third shag, of what her body was like.

It's not catfishing at all. It's you changing your mind for some reason. Just own it.

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"If the lady in question is on Fab then you have just told her anyway by putting this post up.

Clothes are only thin material layers and as you have seen her in person you must of had some idea of her shape underneath them.

I sure the woman in question is beautiful in her own way and just not for you OP , but many other men will probably love her figure and personality.

I’d agree, but it doesn’t really help my situation

I think you should man up a bit and give it a chance.

I believe you do fancy her , she's just maybe isnt what you have had previously but tastes change over time

Sorry not gonna settle for someone I’m not 100% smitten over

And the fact some women in this thread are offended at having a preference and think I should just settle says more about them and their standards than myself "

Here is your answer

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If the lady in question is on Fab then you have just told her anyway by putting this post up.

Clothes are only thin material layers and as you have seen her in person you must of had some idea of her shape underneath them.

I sure the woman in question is beautiful in her own way and just not for you OP , but many other men will probably love her figure and personality.

I’d agree, but it doesn’t really help my situation

I think you should man up a bit and give it a chance.

I believe you do fancy her , she's just maybe isnt what you have had previously but tastes change over time

Sorry not gonna settle for someone I’m not 100% smitten over

And the fact some women in this thread are offended at having a preference and think I should just settle says more about them and their standards than myself "

I never said settle for at all, I said you should give it another try. You clearly like her.

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By *annaBeStrong OP Man over a year ago

"If the lady in question is on Fab then you have just told her anyway by putting this post up.

Clothes are only thin material layers and as you have seen her in person you must of had some idea of her shape underneath them.

I sure the woman in question is beautiful in her own way and just not for you OP , but many other men will probably love her figure and personality.

I’d agree, but it doesn’t really help my situation

I think you should man up a bit and give it a chance.

I believe you do fancy her , she's just maybe isnt what you have had previously but tastes change over time

Sorry not gonna settle for someone I’m not 100% smitten over

And the fact some women in this thread are offended at having a preference and think I should just settle says more about them and their standards than myself

I never said settle for at all, I said you should give it another try. You clearly like her.

Woukd you settle for a guy that was just less than ok about her body?

Does she deserve that?

You think your doing her a favour?

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Man how shallow. Yeah just go with the whole didn't feel a connection. You don't deserve her.

God forbid someone have a physical preference for a life partner

Never mind everyone, threads over. Just gonna date and marry someone I’m not physically attracted to so I don’t look shallow "

don't get passive aggressive. You will get that kind of response.

For what it's worth I think you have every right to find a person unnatractive once you see them naked. I find the same thing with men. A suit cut by a good tailor and a fitted shirt can give an impression that is not representative of naked reality.

I think in an attempt to avoid hurting this woman you're over thinking things. Any relationship break is best handled quickly and unambiguously. It is never kind only kinder.

Speak to her tonight, get it done. You'll feel immense relief

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

She’s got off lightly IMO.

Girl if you see this, we got you. You’re perfect for someone and I’m sorry that this happened to you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

yet to experience anything like this i like to think that i can pick someone for fun from my preferences but everything aside and for what ever reason if im at a point of you know what this aint working i will just shut it down for whatever reason in a polite manner

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body?

Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt.

But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings?

In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated

Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked”

I don’t know.

Sadly we had sex twice in a dimly lighted room, 3rd time was with lights on and I couldn’t finish. It’s just not for me, but she’s so lovely, I just don’t wanna hurt her

You can't be that blind surely?

That’s why I call it cat fishing.

Some women can work absolute magic with the right cloths and shape wear "

Think of all the women you could be missing out on, who wear baggy clothes, but have toned or the 'right body' underneath it all....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" Because real life encounters aren't like fab etc where you rely entirely on a carefully angled, potentially lighting impressive still picture or several.

You met this woman, and there is no way you didn't have a good idea, especially by the third shag, of what her body was like.

It's not catfishing at all. It's you changing your mind for some reason. Just own it."

If her body was that awful he wouldn't have even posted this as he would never have got that far. I think he's had his fun and a bit of post nut clarity.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Man how shallow. Yeah just go with the whole didn't feel a connection. You don't deserve her.

God forbid someone have a physical preference for a life partner

Never mind everyone, threads over. Just gonna date and marry someone I’m not physically attracted to so I don’t look shallow

don't get passive aggressive. You will get that kind of response.

I think in an attempt to avoid hurting this woman you're over thinking things. Any relationship break is best handled quickly and unambiguously. It is never kind only kinder.

Speak to her tonight, get it done. You'll feel immense relief"

I’m backing this up 1000% percent! X amazing advice x

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By *annaBeStrong OP Man over a year ago

"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body?

Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt.

But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings?

In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated

Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked”

I don’t know.

Sadly we had sex twice in a dimly lighted room, 3rd time was with lights on and I couldn’t finish. It’s just not for me, but she’s so lovely, I just don’t wanna hurt her

You can't be that blind surely?

That’s why I call it cat fishing.

Some women can work absolute magic with the right cloths and shape wear

Think of all the women you could be missing out on, who wear baggy clothes, but have toned or the 'right body' underneath it all....

There a TikTok tread, wear baggy cloths then show what’s underneath it.

Cloths can make a crazy difference

But despite most of the replies being somewhat nasty and dick-ish that god forbid a guy doesn’t just roll over and accept whatever a woman gives him

There has been a few good ones and a fair few good private messages too. So I think I’ll plan a little public date this week and just end it as nicely as possible and keep it as vague as possible. So I really appreciate those replies that helped

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By *adyBugsWoman over a year ago

cognito

"Man how shallow. Yeah just go with the whole didn't feel a connection. You don't deserve her.

God forbid someone have a physical preference for a life partner

Never mind everyone, threads over. Just gonna date and marry someone I’m not physically attracted to so I don’t look shallow

don't get passive aggressive. You will get that kind of response.

I think in an attempt to avoid hurting this woman you're over thinking things. Any relationship break is best handled quickly and unambiguously. It is never kind only kinder.

Speak to her tonight, get it done. You'll feel immense relief"

Agreed and she will feel relieved too somehow at some point without even realising why.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If the lady in question is on Fab then you have just told her anyway by putting this post up.

Clothes are only thin material layers and as you have seen her in person you must of had some idea of her shape underneath them.

I sure the woman in question is beautiful in her own way and just not for you OP , but many other men will probably love her figure and personality.

I’d agree, but it doesn’t really help my situation

I think you should man up a bit and give it a chance.

I believe you do fancy her , she's just maybe isnt what you have had previously but tastes change over time

Sorry not gonna settle for someone I’m not 100% smitten over

And the fact some women in this thread are offended at having a preference and think I should just settle says more about them and their standards than myself

I never said settle for at all, I said you should give it another try. You clearly like her.

*not enough tho. I don’t think there’s enough spark physically for Op.

Which is far. Why be with someone u know u ain’t gonna be attracted to in the long run

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By *riar BelisseWoman over a year ago

Holibobs

No I am quite tactile and like to feel all of him so lumps and bumps are never a surprise when he's strolling naked to the loo in the morning

Just tell her in person that you don't want to be sexual partners anymore. don't drag it out, let her find someone who is compatible with her

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

After reading the post and reading bween the lines smh op I know what you did

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By *nabelle21Woman over a year ago

B38

"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body?

Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt.

But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings?

In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated

Tell them you like to fuck them whilst they are clothed, then lift up skirt and poke it in..."

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By *idsCouple1Couple over a year ago

Tamworth

Wow.. this right here, is why I struggled for so long to enter this scene. Covered in stretch marks, jiggly bits, boobs that don’t sit where they’re supposed to! Reading something like this from a guy I’d slept with would destroy me.

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By *ister-mischiefMan over a year ago

Trafford

We "think" it's happened to the Mrs before, however there has been no explanation, she's just been ghosted. I know she would prefer to hear that the connection is not there as it was before. As she always says honesty is best.

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"She’s got off lightly IMO.

Girl if you see this, we got you. You’re perfect for someone and I’m sorry that this happened to you. "

Xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We "think" it's happened to the Mrs before, however there has been no explanation, she's just been ghosted. I know she would prefer to hear that the connection is not there as it was before. As she always says honesty is best."

But the connection thing is just a white lie really x x tho it’s must better than the option 1) ghosting

Options 2) being brutal by honestly saying I don’t find u aesthetically attractive enough

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body?

Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt.

But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings?

In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated

Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked”

I don’t know.

Sadly we had sex twice in a dimly lighted room, 3rd time was with lights on and I couldn’t finish. It’s just not for me, but she’s so lovely, I just don’t wanna hurt her

You can't be that blind surely?

That’s why I call it cat fishing.

Some women can work absolute magic with the right cloths and shape wear

Think of all the women you could be missing out on, who wear baggy clothes, but have toned or the 'right body' underneath it all....

There a TikTok tread, wear baggy cloths then show what’s underneath it.

Cloths can make a crazy difference

But despite most of the replies being somewhat nasty and dick-ish that god forbid a guy doesn’t just roll over and accept whatever a woman gives him

Yeah good idea sweet

Make sure she gets home ok, either by you or you paying for a cab. Decent ending then.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Man how shallow. Yeah just go with the whole didn't feel a connection. You don't deserve her.

God forbid someone have a physical preference for a life partner

Never mind everyone, threads over. Just gonna date and marry someone I’m not physically attracted to so I don’t look shallow

I'm free"

yas you kill me

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By *annaBeStrong OP Man over a year ago

"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body?

Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt.

But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings?

In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated

Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked”

I don’t know.

Sadly we had sex twice in a dimly lighted room, 3rd time was with lights on and I couldn’t finish. It’s just not for me, but she’s so lovely, I just don’t wanna hurt her

You can't be that blind surely?

That’s why I call it cat fishing.

Some women can work absolute magic with the right cloths and shape wear

Think of all the women you could be missing out on, who wear baggy clothes, but have toned or the 'right body' underneath it all....

There a TikTok tread, wear baggy cloths then show what’s underneath it.

Cloths can make a crazy difference

But despite most of the replies being somewhat nasty and dick-ish that god forbid a guy doesn’t just roll over and accept whatever a woman gives him

Yeah good idea sweet

Make sure she gets home ok, either by you or you paying for a cab. Decent ending then.

Good idea, I’ll organise it so it’s closer to hers so she is only a very short Uber ride home and order her one. She really was very sweet and deserves someone great, and maybe it is shallow of me,but I actually think it’s nastier long term to stay with someone your not absolutely into in every way

Imagine being in a long term relationship and marriage and finding out after all those years that he knew from the start you didn’t tick all the boxes. That he just settled for you.

If I girl told me she wasn’t that keen on my body but I was a nice guy I’d end it myself.

We all deserve to have someone that ticks all our boxes

We also all deserve to be the person that ticks someone else’s boxes

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I wouldn’t call that cat fishing!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body?

Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt.

But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings?

In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated

Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked”

I don’t know.

Sadly we had sex twice in a dimly lighted room, 3rd time was with lights on and I couldn’t finish. It’s just not for me, but she’s so lovely, I just don’t wanna hurt her

You can't be that blind surely?

That’s why I call it cat fishing.

Some women can work absolute magic with the right cloths and shape wear "

So you mean this was intentional? Catfishing? Wearing clothes to make her look better? And you had sex and it was great twice? She felt great but third time you saw her naked and it was then catfishing? Oh please..... maybe she was catfished into believing you were a nice guy when actually in the daylight you arent

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By *arty84Man over a year ago

Orpington

"Wow.. this right here, is why I struggled for so long to enter this scene. Covered in stretch marks, jiggly bits, boobs that don’t sit where they’re supposed to! Reading something like this from a guy I’d slept with would destroy me. "

To be honest Lincoln, you look fantastic so don't let those notions eat at you!

As for the OP, no bodies perfect and it's a horribly shallow way of thinking. Just imagine whats going to happen when you get older, when your body starts to let you down and other people have the same reaction to you, hopefully your attitude won't be the same by then or your in for a lonely future, which I wouldn't want to wish on anyone.

But what's even worse is you have slept with this woman twice before coming to this conclusion? That's horrible! "Thanks for the sex, but I don't find you attractive," not cool and then you feel a need to make a topic about it saying you've been body cat fished! Get a grip!

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body?

Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt.

But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings?

In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated

Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked”

I don’t know.

Sadly we had sex twice in a dimly lighted room, 3rd time was with lights on and I couldn’t finish. It’s just not for me, but she’s so lovely, I just don’t wanna hurt her

You can't be that blind surely?

That’s why I call it cat fishing.

Some women can work absolute magic with the right cloths and shape wear

Think of all the women you could be missing out on, who wear baggy clothes, but have toned or the 'right body' underneath it all....

There a TikTok tread, wear baggy cloths then show what’s underneath it.

Cloths can make a crazy difference

But despite most of the replies being somewhat nasty and dick-ish that god forbid a guy doesn’t just roll over and accept whatever a woman gives him

Yeah good idea sweet

Make sure she gets home ok, either by you or you paying for a cab. Decent ending then.

Imagine being in a long term relationship and marriage and finding out after all those years that he knew from the start you didn’t tick all the boxes. That he just settled for you.

If I girl told me she wasn’t that keen on my body but I was a nice guy I’d end it myself.

We all deserve to have someone that ticks all our boxes

We also all deserve to be the person that ticks someone else’s boxes "

We absolutely do. And OP, if you thought at any point I was being an arsehole, I apologise. I wasn't intending to have a go at you and i do think you are just struggling with how to do this right. I hope what has been said has helped. It seems so.

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By *annaBeStrong OP Man over a year ago

"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body?

Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt.

But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings?

In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated

Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked”

I don’t know.

Sadly we had sex twice in a dimly lighted room, 3rd time was with lights on and I couldn’t finish. It’s just not for me, but she’s so lovely, I just don’t wanna hurt her

You can't be that blind surely?

That’s why I call it cat fishing.

Some women can work absolute magic with the right cloths and shape wear

Think of all the women you could be missing out on, who wear baggy clothes, but have toned or the 'right body' underneath it all....

There a TikTok tread, wear baggy cloths then show what’s underneath it.

Cloths can make a crazy difference

But despite most of the replies being somewhat nasty and dick-ish that god forbid a guy doesn’t just roll over and accept whatever a woman gives him

Yeah good idea sweet

Make sure she gets home ok, either by you or you paying for a cab. Decent ending then.

Imagine being in a long term relationship and marriage and finding out after all those years that he knew from the start you didn’t tick all the boxes. That he just settled for you.

If I girl told me she wasn’t that keen on my body but I was a nice guy I’d end it myself.

We all deserve to have someone that ticks all our boxes

We also all deserve to be the person that ticks someone else’s boxes

I never read who actually typed what so I have no idea, I’m sure if your intention was to help it came through in your posts.

I think I just hit a few nerves of woman that hand maybe faced this and they decided to let everyone know.

But if not settling for whatever a woman gives me makes me shallow or nasty in their eyes, nothing to me is lost, because they obviously hold a sexist double standard that guys can have preferences when it comes to choosing a live partner. So all the more power to them

I really appreciate the people that gave me solid advice, both on here and the many private messages I got.

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Man how shallow. Yeah just go with the whole didn't feel a connection. You don't deserve her.

God forbid someone have a physical preference for a life partner

Never mind everyone, threads over. Just gonna date and marry someone I’m not physically attracted to so I don’t look shallow

I'm free

yas you kill me "

Well I was but washing me bum now

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But what's even worse is you have slept with this woman twice before coming to this conclusion? That's horrible! "Thanks for the sex, but I don't find you attractive," not cool and then you feel a need to make a topic about it saying you've been body cat fished! Get a grip! "

Someone’s on the right track with what went down read bween the lines off the post

Op went on the date wanted his hole bamed her up sleep with her had his fun and now look to Pam her off and posted on her for valdsoin to do so shame on anyone who can’t see right though this post

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Taking her out for a couple more dates to let her down gently...

Would never date anyone from this site

Catfished by clothes

Am gonna leave this thread before I loose my eyeballs.

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Taking her out for a couple more dates to let her down gently...

Would never date anyone from this site

Catfished by clothes

Am gonna leave this thread before I loose my eyeballs.

Stay we need you x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Taking her out for a couple more dates to let her down gently...

Would never date anyone from this site

Catfished by clothes

Am gonna leave this thread before I loose my eyeballs.

You missed off his going to order two Uber Cars for afterwards because his a nice person

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Taking her out for a couple more dates to let her down gently...

Would never date anyone from this site

Catfished by clothes

Am gonna leave this thread before I loose my eyeballs.

You missed off his going to order two Uber Cars for afterwards because his a nice person

No limousine??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We all come in different shapes and sizes and I have read all the comments being male myself I think that this is the type of thing which gives a man a bad name you had sex 3 times before you decide this and like some comments have said your hands can give you a good indication what a person's body is like ,I feel for this women I just hope you give her the respect she deserves and let her walk away with her self respect intact.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I do it all the time to myself.

When clothed I think I look alright, then I get naked and look like a sack of shit with toothpicks for arms and legs!

Filters, angles, how you turn the body, shadows etc.

We see it all the time now a days, and thats not counting the obvious photo shops!

She’s lovely, so I don’t want to hurt her feelings

Just be honest and say you don’t feel a connection now. It happens sometimes. I’d rather hear that than be ghosted and block like I was a couple of weeks ago.

This! She will get over it and she doesn’t need to know the true reason of why u don’t find her physically attractive. X x

I wouldn’t recommend going on two more dates with her if you know you’re going to call it a day. That’s two more opportunities for her feelings to develop which is only going to leave her more hurt.

Do not tell her that her body is the reason you’re ending things, if it’s not something she can change in 5 minutes then it’s something she will dwell on for a while, she can’t change the way she looks she just needs to find the right man that will appreciate her for who she is.

Just drop her a line, tell her you haven’t felt as much of a spark as you wanted to and that you hope she finds what she’s looking for!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body?

Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt.

But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings?

In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated

Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked”

I don’t know.

Sadly we had sex twice in a dimly lighted room, 3rd time was with lights on and I couldn’t finish. It’s just not for me, but she’s so lovely, I just don’t wanna hurt her

You can't be that blind surely?

That’s why I call it cat fishing.

Some women can work absolute magic with the right cloths and shape wear

Think of all the women you could be missing out on, who wear baggy clothes, but have toned or the 'right body' underneath it all....

There a TikTok tread, wear baggy cloths then show what’s underneath it.

Cloths can make a crazy difference

But despite most of the replies being somewhat nasty and dick-ish that god forbid a guy doesn’t just roll over and accept whatever a woman gives him

Yeah good idea sweet

Make sure she gets home ok, either by you or you paying for a cab. Decent ending then.

Imagine being in a long term relationship and marriage and finding out after all those years that he knew from the start you didn’t tick all the boxes. That he just settled for you.

If I girl told me she wasn’t that keen on my body but I was a nice guy I’d end it myself.

We all deserve to have someone that ticks all our boxes

We also all deserve to be the person that ticks someone else’s boxes "

Self love ! It really saves you from bigger problems in the future x

Agree 100% with the last sentence!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body?

Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt.

But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings?

In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated "

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

The moral of this story

Tell her

I wish you the

Best

And my pet

Says hi

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Omg same!!

I always tell guys I meet that my body is not necessarily like my pics. I obviously post the best ones but I know I have shit boobs and a mum tum. Posts like these make me super paranoid

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By *annaBeStrong OP Man over a year ago

"OP

The moral of this story

Tell her

I wish you the

Best

And my pet

Says hi"

The moral of the story is don’t ask advice on here if it’s anything to do with possibly rejecting a woman or having a preference or any level of standards when choosing a life partner. Just take what your given

The old saying rings true, nothing like a woman scorned

Next time I’ll just PM you and ask for the turtles advice

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"OP

The moral of this story

Tell her

I wish you the

Best

And my pet

Says hi

The old saying rings true, nothing like a woman scorned

Next time I’ll just PM you and ask for the turtles advice "

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

Everyone is assuming that this woman is a vulnerable being who needs careful handling or her delicate feelings will be hurt.

She may well be or she might be resilient with good self esteem who is able to handle the end of a short relationship in an adult and mature manner

Women are tougher than they're made out to be. We don't need protecting by kind words and euphemisms we just need basic respect.

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"OP

The moral of this story

Tell her

I wish you the

Best

And my pet

Says hi

The old saying rings true, nothing like a woman scorned

Next time I’ll just PM you and ask for the turtles advice "

Humour

I love it

The

Is bust racing

But my

Will help

Xcc

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"OP

The moral of this story

Tell her

I wish you the

Best

And my pet

Says hi

The old saying rings true, nothing like a woman scorned

Next time I’ll just PM you and ask for the turtles advice

Humour

I love it

The

Is bust racing

But my

Will help

Xcc"

Busy ***

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Still cracking the whip on this thread

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We all come in different shapes and sizes but we all hold our own beauty, i see beauty in everyone and i will focus on that beauty...its nice to make someone feel good. Dont just make it self gratification...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP

The moral of this story

Tell her

I wish you the

Best

And my pet

Says hi

The old saying rings true, nothing like a woman scorned

Next time I’ll just PM you and ask for the turtles advice "

Honestly OP, I think sometimes u may come across with a blunt way of saying things (I know from past posts we haven’t necessarily agreed or u gave me advice about) so maybe that’s why some might find u triggering but don’t go all turtle and retract yourself, if you need advice. Ask away , and maybe just maybe work a tiny bit on how u project what goes on in ur mind xx

(I think u did try to explain it all in the best way possible as u commented further btw!) x

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"OP

The moral of this story

Tell her

I wish you the

Best

And my pet

Says hi

The old saying rings true, nothing like a woman scorned

Next time I’ll just PM you and ask for the turtles advice

(I think u did try to explain it all in the best way possible as u commented further btw!) x

Leave my

Alone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Only three shags!

What happens if you meet someone for longer - put a ring on it?

As the majority have mentioned it's the title that's hung the OP.

He'll think about the 'delivery' next time....haha

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

The

Has

Spoken

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

I don't really see the dilema here to be honest. You've been on a few dates and she's not your type, end of. Seems like you're making more of a drama than it needs to be.

Her making herself look good is not catfishing. She's the same person underneath the clothing. Funnily enough my boobs sag once not in a bra, it's not rocket science to know it's the scaffolding keeping the girls up.

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By * and R cple4Couple over a year ago

swansea

It’s definitely not catfishing.Regardless of how bad the lighting is I don’t get how you can have sex with someone more than once and not realise her body type unless you were blindfolded and tied up.

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Only three shags!

What happens if you meet someone for longer - put a ring on it?

As the majority have mentioned it's the title that's hung the OP.

He'll think about the 'delivery' next time....haha

Agreed xxx

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By *ed VoluptaWoman over a year ago

Wirral.

"Everyone is assuming that this woman is a vulnerable being who needs careful handling or her delicate feelings will be hurt.

She may well be or she might be resilient with good self esteem who is able to handle the end of a short relationship in an adult and mature manner

Women are tougher than they're made out to be. We don't need protecting by kind words and euphemisms we just need basic respect.

In a nutshell!

Respect is the key word here.

Hopefully, she'll choose better next time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I look way better with my clothes on!

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn’t call it cat fishing in the slightest.

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By *phroditeWoman over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Ghosting would be the worst I think as it means the person gets no closure, goes from what she believes a good time with a new fella to nothing after three dates and not the foggiest why this was so.

Best way in my view is to own it, rather than saying "you" are not my cup of tea or whatever, I suggest as some others have before me "It is not something you have done/ not done, only that I just do not feel the chemistry (anymore?)"

It is honest, does not beat about the bush and should not undermine her confidence as you are owning the statement. The sooner the better tbh

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Man how shallow. Yeah just go with the whole didn't feel a connection. You don't deserve her.

God forbid someone have a physical preference for a life partner

Never mind everyone, threads over. Just gonna date and marry someone I’m not physically attracted to so I don’t look shallow

I'm free"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What a thread!

My first piece of advice is, if you want balanced response, don't use a trolling subject title. Clothes hide things. As does poor light, make up, and for me, a beard. How the poor lass can be accessed of cat fishing you when you've had sex naked is just bizarre.

My advice on the situation is simply tell her that youre not feeling the chemistry. Tell her that (if true) that you feel a bit of a dick for realising this after having sex a few times. If she asks try and keep generic... Tej sexual connection wasn't quite there.

Super cheeky move is to suggest she may also feel it to. Gives her an out. "I suspeft you know this but are also finding it hard to say .... But"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Has someone seen you in the flesh with your clothes off OP and had a change of heart?

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By *annaBeStrong OP Man over a year ago

"Has someone seen you in the flesh with your clothes off OP and had a change of heart?

Never but I have been told I look better from behind

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dont think its what I wear that puts people off lol unless it was a balaclava lol

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By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

If someone's body put me off that I was attracted to enough to want sex with I would question my integrity.

I don't see a dressed person man and assume underneath he has a 6 pack, if he's a bit plump.

I'm wondering what you were expecting once the clothes come off. Does she wear stuffed bras or a corset? Are her boobs smaller than you expected? Stretch marks? Scars? Worse than expecting an 8 inch cock and getting only 5?

I would message her now and say it was lovely seeing her but it's not working for you, and don't mention her body.

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By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

"What a thread!

Super cheeky move is to suggest she may also feel it to. Gives her an out. "I suspeft you know this but are also finding it hard to say .... But""

A buddy of mine undressed and had several deep scars on his stomach. He covered them with his hands and apologised for them.

I laid him down and kissed all of them. If I like someone enough to have sex with them how their body looks isn't important.

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By *a LunaWoman over a year ago

Wherever the wind takes me

Not read all the thread but if you’re not interested in her with her clothes off then why not just say you’re not interested? No need to mention why.

Or do you want to let her know you don’t find her physically attractive? Because there really is no need for that.

Just say you’re a nice lass but on reflection I don’t think we will work out.

Job done.

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By *uriousscouserWoman over a year ago

Wirral

"Everyone is assuming that this woman is a vulnerable being who needs careful handling or her delicate feelings will be hurt.

She may well be or she might be resilient with good self esteem who is able to handle the end of a short relationship in an adult and mature manner

Women are tougher than they're made out to be. We don't need protecting by kind words and euphemisms we just need basic respect.

Very good point. If I'd had sex with someone twice and third time he didn't finish, I wouldn't be breaking my heart at a polite "you're a lovely person but not right for me".

I'm not sure I would walk away with the same equanimity if the message was "your dress made you look prettier but seen in good lighting... *shudder*" though.

OP nobody, even in the most dickish of dickish responses, really thinks you should carry on with someone you aren't attracted to. Nobody should have to settle for someone they only find unattractive in the dark.

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By *iamondCougarWoman over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"I really hope she isn't on fab OP. If she is, this is just cruel."

I was thinking that as I was scrolling through the thread

this has to be one of the cruelest threads Ive read for ages. If she is reading this thread then I hope she throws you for shaming her on a public forum

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body?

Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt.

But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings?

In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated "

I'm speechless and find it rather shallow. I know we have preferences but still.

I hope to god to stop seeing her and don't for the love of god say why.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body?

Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt.

But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings?

In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated "

That sounds shallow as f*ck to be honest. If you've been getting on with someone so well when they're clothed that you've got to the stripping off stage what should a few bits matter? It's like grow up a bit eh?...

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By *annaBeStrong OP Man over a year ago

"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body?

Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt.

But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings?

In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated

Grow up amd just settle for someone your not absolutely into?

Is just settling for what you can get what you call “growing up”?

If your ok just settling for someone that’s up to you and your low standards. Not everyone has such low standards themselves

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body?

Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt.

But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings?

In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated

Grow up amd just settle for someone your not absolutely into?

Is just settling for what you can get what you call “growing up”?

If your ok just settling for someone that’s up to you and your low standards. Not everyone has such low standards themselves "

Nah just grow up in general. You're not so hot yourself. You look like a plate of sausages!

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By *annaBeStrong OP Man over a year ago

"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body?

Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt.

But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings?

In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated

Grow up amd just settle for someone your not absolutely into?

Is just settling for what you can get what you call “growing up”?

If your ok just settling for someone that’s up to you and your low standards. Not everyone has such low standards themselves

Nah just grow up in general. You're not so hot yourself. You look like a plate of sausages!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body?

Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt.

But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings?

In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated

Grow up amd just settle for someone your not absolutely into?

Is just settling for what you can get what you call “growing up”?

If your ok just settling for someone that’s up to you and your low standards. Not everyone has such low standards themselves "

Sorry I meant to say "uncooked sausages"

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By *atnip make me purrWoman over a year ago

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"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body?

Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt.

But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings?

In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated

Grow up amd just settle for someone your not absolutely into?

Is just settling for what you can get what you call “growing up”?

If your ok just settling for someone that’s up to you and your low standards. Not everyone has such low standards themselves "

The trouble with setting very exact standards for how someone looks is no one stays the same. They put on weight or lose weight, get wrinkles, start having to wear glasses etc. What will you do then? What will they do if they have also selected you on how your body looks now?

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

How exactly can someone you say is lovely and you have a good laugh with and you were clearly attracted to change so much minus clothes OP?

I mean body size and shape aren't vastly changed by clothes in my experience, especially if you have been naked with her.

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By *annaBeStrong OP Man over a year ago

"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body?

Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt.

But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings?

In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated

Grow up amd just settle for someone your not absolutely into?

Is just settling for what you can get what you call “growing up”?

If your ok just settling for someone that’s up to you and your low standards. Not everyone has such low standards themselves

I hope they do pick me for how my body look. I want someone that’s attracted to my body, not settling for it.

As for getting older, that’s fine, but I’m not gonna start a relationship off with someone that I’m not fully into.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There’s no great mystery here. You fucked her because you wanted to fuck, as men often do, but you’re not actually physically attracted to her. She probably would have made a good friend but now it’s gone too far. Time to be a man and let her know That as lovely as she is it’s not working out romantically for you and you’d like to remain friends. No need to delve deeper than that.

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By *annaBeStrong OP Man over a year ago

"How exactly can someone you say is lovely and you have a good laugh with and you were clearly attracted to change so much minus clothes OP?

I mean body size and shape aren't vastly changed by clothes in my experience, especially if you have been naked with her. "

I did a very bad job explaining it, I didn’t actually mean the thread to be so specifically targeted at my situation exactky. Just to generally be about the topic. It’s more than just her cloths coming off, but it’s too deep to explain that and I’ve already gotten the great advice I needed

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By *idsCouple1Couple over a year ago

Tamworth

I can’t stop thinking about this thread.. it’s really bugging me.

Please, please do not go and tell that gorgeous girl the reason you don’t want to hook up any more.

You can dress it up however you like, as soon as the words leave your mouth that it’s because you don’t find her attractive with her clothes off, you can’t take them back.

Take it from someone with not the best self esteem due to hurtful comments in the past.. no good comes from it!

You don’t need to state a reason.. just say you no longer want to and leave it at that!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why have sex with her twice, and try a third if you’re not feeling it, when surely the first time you saw her naked?

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By *EAT..85Woman over a year ago

Nottingham

There has got to be genuine attraction.

Wind it down but definately don't dishearten her with the genuine reason. Life is cruel sometimes. I find fab tough, chatting away with ppl then them sending a face pic and there is just no attraction whatsoever. Or the opposite of attraction!

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By *annaBeStrong OP Man over a year ago

"I can’t stop thinking about this thread.. it’s really bugging me.

Please, please do not go and tell that gorgeous girl the reason you don’t want to hook up any more.

You can dress it up however you like, as soon as the words leave your mouth that it’s because you don’t find her attractive with her clothes off, you can’t take them back.

Take it from someone with not the best self esteem due to hurtful comments in the past.. no good comes from it!

You don’t need to state a reason.. just say you no longer want to and leave it at that!

If you can’t stop thinking about it I’d take the time to read it and realise there’s been great advice given by a few that I’ll be following to spare her feelings as much as possible

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

"How exactly can someone you say is lovely and you have a good laugh with and you were clearly attracted to change so much minus clothes OP?

I mean body size and shape aren't vastly changed by clothes in my experience, especially if you have been naked with her.

I'm very confused now, so it's not due to the way she looks that you don't now find her attractive?

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By *iBBWLondonWoman over a year ago

London

"What a thread!

Super cheeky move is to suggest she may also feel it to. Gives her an out. "I suspeft you know this but are also finding it hard to say .... But"

A buddy of mine undressed and had several deep scars on his stomach. He covered them with his hands and apologised for them.

I laid him down and kissed all of them. If I like someone enough to have sex with them how their body looks isn't important.

This ^^

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By *annaBeStrong OP Man over a year ago

"How exactly can someone you say is lovely and you have a good laugh with and you were clearly attracted to change so much minus clothes OP?

I mean body size and shape aren't vastly changed by clothes in my experience, especially if you have been naked with her.

I'm very confused now, so it's not due to the way she looks that you don't now find her attractive? "

It’s not just that, there’s other physical stuff, but like I said, I didn’t think the thread would come to discuss my situation specifically

The main issue for me was that we got along so well, I didn’t think I could just say there was “no chemistry” when there clearly was. I was hoping for more advice on how I could do it and skate her feelings. I’ve kinda learned that I can’t. I just need to be vague, kind, and swift so she can move on ASAP

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By *idsCouple1Couple over a year ago

Tamworth

"I can’t stop thinking about this thread.. it’s really bugging me.

Please, please do not go and tell that gorgeous girl the reason you don’t want to hook up any more.

You can dress it up however you like, as soon as the words leave your mouth that it’s because you don’t find her attractive with her clothes off, you can’t take them back.

Take it from someone with not the best self esteem due to hurtful comments in the past.. no good comes from it!

You don’t need to state a reason.. just say you no longer want to and leave it at that!

If you can’t stop thinking about it I’d take the time to read it and realise there’s been great advice given by a few that I’ll be following to spare her feelings as much as possible "

I have read the post and the replies. It can still bug me and make me feel like I need to give my opinion on the situation.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In a previous job I lusted after a mechanic, but I'd only ever seen him in a boilersuit with a hard hat and safety glasses.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I body catfish. My close cropped pics look great... The look of utter horror in their eyes when I get my kit off is horny as fuck.

They just have to carry on and try to fuck me anyway. Would be rude not to.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You don't have to say you don't like her naked. Just politely say I'm sorry I don't feel a connection or something along those lines. No need to be an arse about it. I do hope she's not on the site and able to see this.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I do it all the time to myself.

When clothed I think I look alright, then I get naked and look like a sack of shit with toothpicks for arms and legs!

Filters, angles, how you turn the body, shadows etc.

We see it all the time now a days, and thats not counting the obvious photo shops!

She’s lovely, so I don’t want to hurt her feelings "

Am couldn't you just tell her to leave her clothes on...

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By *onb21Woman over a year ago

Cardiff

I had this once with a very furry man. I still shagged him.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I do it all the time to myself.

When clothed I think I look alright, then I get naked and look like a sack of shit with toothpicks for arms and legs!

Filters, angles, how you turn the body, shadows etc.

We see it all the time now a days, and thats not counting the obvious photo shops!

She’s lovely, so I don’t want to hurt her feelings

Am couldn't you just tell her to leave her clothes on...

How does she look so different without clothes? Flabby is it or cellulite or what... I can't understand how someone could look that different without clothes...so she looked really hot dressed & not hot at all undressed... I'm kinda baffled ha...hope you explain op...I'd appreciate it

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By *ld StrumpetWoman over a year ago

Telford

They say the camera adds ten pounds to how you look…..well darlings when I take my pics it’s clear I’m either real or have the entire crew from epic action blockbuster on me when I get naked

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