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How well do you take nice things being said about you?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Maybe it's just me but often I second guess when someone says something nice about me, which I know could be seen as a bit rude but don't mean it that way.
For example I am due to be meeting some one I was in uni with for the first time in 20 years and I was surprised when they said it would be great to catch up.
Do you handle nice things said well? |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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It depends on why they are said really. I tend to take them in the good natured way they are intended most of the time - maybe people genuinely mean/believe what they are saying and I should just allow myself to enjoy that without overthinking. |
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I take compliments on here wuth a pinch of salt.
In real life I have learnt to accept them gracefully and try to return the compliment.
In fact I will often tell people if I like something they are wearing or their new hairstyle. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not particularly well unless it’s people I know very well.. I question people’s motivations more than their words."
Snap, i never take it as i was ment to, probaly just me over thinking.
Who am i kidding i dont even remember the last one i had  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If someone gives me a compliment it all depends on who it's from. If it's a total stranger the first I think is "what does he want?". Sometimes I take them well, sometimes I don't. Just a minute ago, someone called me a babe and whilst it's a compliment, I really don't like the word babe x |
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It depends on who is saying the nice things and why. From people who don't know me that well, it's always nice to know that people like me, but from certain people especially locally, the first thing that I wonder is, what are you after, and what's your angle???
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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago
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I tend to respond with honest thanks. I think it helps feeling less suspicious of the other person's sincerity to show appreciation.
However, quite often I can also feel like an imposter. It depends on how unexpected the compliments are or if they seem disproportionate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It depends on who is saying the nice things and why. From people who don't know me that well, it's always nice to know that people like me, but from certain people especially locally, the first thing that I wonder is, what are you after, and what's your angle???
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This! x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It depends on why they are said really. I tend to take them in the good natured way they are intended most of the time - maybe people genuinely mean/believe what they are saying and I should just allow myself to enjoy that without overthinking."
You should ..
Ps you are soooo hot |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I secretly love to get compliments but never know how to outwardly respond or react, so end up trying to return a clumsy compliment.
I think some people fish for them though while others just have some physical or personal quality that deserves recognition.
But the trick for all of this is to determine if the source of the compliment was being sincere.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends if they are genuine and sound genuine x
I do appreciate compliments from men (but I get a bit uncomfortable if it’s a compliment after the other…)
X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Appreciate there are many factors that will determine how people react
In the case I quoted, initial thought was why did they not make more effort to keep in touch if it would be so great to catch up. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"It depends on why they are said really. I tend to take them in the good natured way they are intended most of the time - maybe people genuinely mean/believe what they are saying and I should just allow myself to enjoy that without overthinking.
You should ..
Ps you are soooo hot"
Thank you Smudge, I'll take that in the well intended, penis activated way it was meant.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I usually brush over them with an awkward thanks and change the subject. They make me uncomfortable but I do appreciate genuine one's from people in real life, not strangers who want to bang me on the internet. |
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I take nice things being said about me well. I smile and thank the person. There was one exception where a colleague went over board and I asked her to stop because it embarrassed me.
I'm pretty good at sussing out the bs from the genuine too. I "know* I'm not the hottest woman on fab for instance  |
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By *arty84Man
over a year ago
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Growing up as an ethnic minority in a predominantly white region, has always been a bit of a struggle for myself. Girls would always pass me over, for all my other friends (who were mostly white), so it was always a bit of a confidence destroyer for me that I wasn't good enough for anyone in school, college and uni.
Even though I was great at making friends with almost everyone, I could never quite get anyone to see me as anything more than a friend. So yeah I rarely ever got compliments growing up, but a lot of insults about my looks, appearance or skin colour from bullies, thankfully that sort of thing stopped when I moved off to Uni.
So whenever I get a compliment now, I'm not sure if they are being genuine or sarcastic, really I should just accept them, but a life time of not receiving them has left me somewhat skeptical. 
Most people on here seem genuine, so just accept it if someone throws it your way op. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends, my mum said recently that no one was more suprised than her when I turned out to be a good mother!! I mean, how Do you take something like that?? |
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"Depends, my mum said recently that no one was more suprised than her when I turned out to be a good mother!! I mean, how Do you take something like that??"
 blimey. Did you reply "I learned how not to do it from you?" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never reject compliments. Someone is choosing to say something nice about you and you should accept it with grace. You never know when it might stop.
I understand people wonder what people’s motives are at times but that’s none of your business if they want to be scheming |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I only ever compliment people if I genuinely mean it. Is it worth bothering as so many people seem not to believe compliments? "
Definitely worth doing as can often brighten up someone's day |
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I tend to assume that people are making meaningless mouth-noises purely because our society runs on bullshit and deceit.
At best, it's someone saying something they don't believe because they feel sorry for me.
When the person who paid me the compliment is actually having sex with me, *then* I might start to believe they meant it. |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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I'm learning to say thank you when someone says something nice.
But it takes a long time and a lot of effort on another person's part to convince me they mean it. And I'm not really worth the effort to convince. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never reject compliments. Someone is choosing to say something nice about you and you should accept it with grace. You never know when it might stop.
I understand people wonder what people’s motives are at times but that’s none of your business if they want to be scheming"
I think it absolutely my business to be concerned with someone's motives if they're towards me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe it's just me but often I second guess when someone says something nice about me, which I know could be seen as a bit rude but don't mean it that way.
Do you handle nice things said well? "
Happens so rarely, like Yourself OP,I second guess it thinking I misheard/misread or the message wasn't for me |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I've lost 6 stone recently and people seeing me constantly comment. I get embarrassed.
It's all honest compliments... "
On reading it at first I was going to say well done but I don't want to embarrass you. I think people try and be kind and sometimes get it wrong. |
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