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Do You Take Your Own Advice ?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I see lots of great advice on Forum, practical and emotional, so there are some wise heads here.
But do you always follow the good advice you give to others ?
Or is it easier to sort out other peoples problems than your own ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see lots of great advice on Forum, practical and emotional, so there are some wise heads here.
But do you always follow the good advice you give to others ?
Or is it easier to sort out other peoples problems than your own ?"
No and yes   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I see lots of great advice on Forum, practical and emotional, so there are some wise heads here.
But do you always follow the good advice you give to others ?
Or is it easier to sort out other peoples problems than your own ?
No and yes "
Me too, and that's been my experience with most people. It's so much harder to be objective about ourselves, I think. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I see lots of great advice on Forum, practical and emotional, so there are some wise heads here.
But do you always follow the good advice you give to others ?
Or is it easier to sort out other peoples problems than your own ?
No and yes
Me too, and that's been my experience with most people. It's so much harder to be objective about ourselves, I think."
Yes definitely.
My advice normally comes from what I should’ve or could’ve done differently and helps me reflect on things that have happened in life, but totally agree about the objectivity |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My advice usually revolves around mental health and taking time out for self care. I try as much as possible to cater for myself when I need it but sometimes it's not always feasible! Walking is my medicine but unfortunately I don't have the time or childcare to get out every day which is frustrating. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My advice usually revolves around mental health and taking time out for self care. I try as much as possible to cater for myself when I need it but sometimes it's not always feasible! Walking is my medicine but unfortunately I don't have the time or childcare to get out every day which is frustrating."
Very good point. Sometimes it's just practical issues rather than lack of will which stop us. |
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"I see lots of great advice on Forum, practical and emotional, so there are some wise heads here.
But do you always follow the good advice you give to others ?
Or is it easier to sort out other peoples problems than your own ?"
I never ever take my own advice.. or others  |
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Helping others is easier than dealing with yourself, a distraction from your own things.
As with all advice given or received, unless the individual is ready to make that change it is just words, only the individual can take the step forward.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Helping others is easier than dealing with yourself, a distraction from your own things.
As with all advice given or received, unless the individual is ready to make that change it is just words, only the individual can take the step forward.
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I have noticed that people who go out of their way to advise others often have unresolved issues of their own.
Physician heal thyself ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It’s harder for me to take my own advice as it’s often given from experience but I do have to give myself a talk occasionally"
I find it helps to write down the self-advice rather than keep it all upstairs. Gives some distance maybe. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Fuck no! Why on Earth would I do that??
Heh PD, haven't seen you for a while.
Hey man, had to retreat to the shadows for a bit. You good?"
Top,thank you. An occasional break is always a good idea. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hell no
You're really owning that contradiction ! "
Christ imagine what i would have achieved if i listened to myself
... Stop procrastinating Midnight, step away from the crisps, get your arse off sofa... Just do it
... I could be PM by now lol... If only I'd listened to myself |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Fuck no! Why on Earth would I do that??
Heh PD, haven't seen you for a while.
Hey man, had to retreat to the shadows for a bit. You good?
Top,thank you. An occasional break is always a good idea."
Now watch me ignore that advice. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If i wouldn't do it myself i wouldn't advise others to do so. "
Is there a difference though between knowing it is good advice and actually following that advice ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I see lots of great advice on Forum, practical and emotional, so there are some wise heads here.
But do you always follow the good advice you give to others ?
Or is it easier to sort out other peoples problems than your own ?"
NEVER 
And the worst thing is that I’m super conscious that I’m heading for a car crash but I’m just watching it happen, with my eyes wide open while eating popcorns …  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Great at sorting other peoples lives out, straight in. When it comes to sorting myself out I'm rubbish
Have you thought much about why that is ?"
Because I am shit lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The best advice I gave myself was tomorrow is not guaranteed and I'm making the rest of my life the best of my life.really helped me get out of a dark place.depression and anxiety.now,I've stopped worrying,life's too short,and yeah I'm a great listener,there's a world of difference between hearing and listening. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Easier to deal with everyone else's problems first and sort them out as I don't get enough time in the day to worry about my own.  "
That sounds like you're good at helping others. Hope you do find the time eventually for self care, you might be good at it too. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I see lots of great advice on Forum, practical and emotional, so there are some wise heads here.
But do you always follow the good advice you give to others ?
Or is it easier to sort out other peoples problems than your own ?
NEVER
And the worst thing is that I’m super conscious that I’m heading for a car crash but I’m just watching it happen, with my eyes wide open while eating popcorns … "
That's a strong description. Sometimes it's like a film where we know the ending already. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The best advice I gave myself was tomorrow is not guaranteed and I'm making the rest of my life the best of my life.really helped me get out of a dark place.depression and anxiety.now,I've stopped worrying,life's too short,and yeah I'm a great listener,there's a world of difference between hearing and listening."
Hearing and listening...important distinction. Very pleased you've found a better place for yourself. |
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Helping others has always been much easier for me. Too easy in fact which is why I tend to avoid giving advice anymore or carrying the weight of other people's problems.
That's exactly what I've done all my life and as a direct result haven't lived my own life.
I often advised people to be a little more selfish and do things for themselves but I could never do it myself until a few years ago.
It's not in my nature to turn my back on others so it is always a conscious decision not to not offer advice.
It almost broke me and I advise myself now to focus more on me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I dont really, no. Were would be the fun in that. It's easy to know what to do, not so easy to do it. Which is why I am very sympathetic, I realise how impossible some things can be even when it shouldn't be so of we just listen to the words we say rather than consider putting them into practise. |
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"Helping others has always been much easier for me. Too easy in fact which is why I tend to avoid giving advice anymore or carrying the weight of other people's problems.
That's exactly what I've done all my life and as a direct result haven't lived my own life.
I often advised people to be a little more selfish and do things for themselves but I could never do it myself until a few years ago.
It's not in my nature to turn my back on others so it is always a conscious decision not to not offer advice.
It almost broke me and I advise myself now to focus more on me. "
...it is always a conscious decision now to not offer advice |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Fuck no! Why on Earth would I do that??
Heh PD, haven't seen you for a while.
Hey man, had to retreat to the shadows for a bit. You good?
Top,thank you. An occasional break is always a good idea.
Now watch me ignore that advice. "
HAHAHAHA! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Helping others has always been much easier for me. Too easy in fact which is why I tend to avoid giving advice anymore or carrying the weight of other people's problems.
That's exactly what I've done all my life and as a direct result haven't lived my own life.
I often advised people to be a little more selfish and do things for themselves but I could never do it myself until a few years ago.
It's not in my nature to turn my back on others so it is always a conscious decision not to not offer advice.
It almost broke me and I advise myself now to focus more on me. "
It's definitely a paradox, advising people to be more selfish when the selfish (or self-first) thing would be to not give advice.  |
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