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I posted a week ago about having the courage to finally post a photo of myself showing parts of my body I’ve hidden away since being here (mum tum, stretch marks etc) and the response was amazing! So many of you were positive and it helped me so much.
However, I had a few derogatory comments that stung and led me to hide the photo mentioned above.. I’ve also just been ghosted by a guy I’ve spent 5 weeks talking to and getting to know. We added each other elsewhere to chat too and I suddenly can’t message him and he’s blocked me on here. I showed him my body.. and that was the response. It hurts but he has every right to decide I’m not what he’s looking for, I will try to just rise above it.
It did get me thinking about others on here that may have had the same response and it makes me sad. The media are constantly showcasing people with ‘perfect bodies’.. full of filters, great lighting and angles and peoples perceptions of others have become so critical! It blows my mind.
My body has been through a lot. I had two children very close together, then I went through hell for years with medical issues and almost died on a procedure table. It sent me to a dark place and I didn’t look after myself.
Still.. I came out the other side and I’m in a much better place. However, even though I’m trying to make changes to myself in a positive way now, my body really took a beating and is far from the insta perfect models you see in all the media.
I’ve uploaded a photo of myself captioned ‘Normalise normal bodies’ where my mum tum, stretch marks and wobbly thighs are there for all to see.
If you’re reading this and you’re conscious of your body and of what people may think, please know that those who are worth it won’t mind! I think you are beautiful and perfect just the way you are!
Be proud of what you have and if you can, follow my lead and show everyone just how gorgeous you are!
Let’s normalise normal bodies!
- L x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A real lady born out of real life experiences.
We should just accept each other for who we are and what we represent.
I remember being a twenty year old and looking nothing like these guys you see on love island etc. i don’t look like them now either.
Sometimes it makes me conscious but you know what my life has been one mad adventure so take me for who I am |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You are gorg!! Also don’t forget a lot of the times that with pics, they can really magnify things that in person, as a whole, most people wouldn’t care about as they see you as a person and not a 2D image!! And If they do care in person, then u are associating with the wrong people
In counter balance …
Like in my last pic, I’ve definitely sucked in my tummy and arched my back dramatically x to appear more feminine and slimmer
I don’t know what my point is, except the fact try not to focus on the imperfections as a lot of the times, the neggy shit thoughts are in our head x |
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I love your positivity and strength in sticking to your guns about what normal bodies are and can be. We are all different and all just as valid and wonderous in our various forms and there is real beauty to be found in all of us.
Your story of how your body came to be the way it is is a hard one but far from unusual sadly. What a fantastic body it is to have done the things it has done and still enable you to live the life you want to.
Enjoy your body, celebrate it and take happiness from it that its so called imperfections are little remembrances of how amazing it really is.
Also take note that there will be hoardes of people who will find your body captivating and exhilarating and would love nothing more than to share in its beauty with you.
These words are for all of us who forget to see the beauty in ourselves each day, take a look in a mirror sometime, a real good look and see the achievements your body has made and not the things that insta etc show you it should be (often photoshopped anyway) x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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One of the most attractive things about a woman for me is everything you have just shared. I’m attracted to people who have lived a life, that have scars to show for it, that are incredible human beings for all that they are.
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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago
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It was because of your thread that I dared to post my latest photo. No filters, no nothing. It is clear that I have put on weight from my first photo to this most recent one, but I am showing people who I am right now. Like it or lump it ... 
You inspired me and like me, I am sure many more people! Don’t pay attention to idiotic comments... x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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After 5 weeks of getting to know, is suddenly forgotten after seeing a body in its true form.
Even if it's his choice, in my mind it's a strange one! 
All the best OP X |
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OP, you look amazing!
Sorry about the medical issues - it's shit, isn't it? Took my health for granted as a young 'un. Not now.
And sorry that that fuckwit decided to ghost you. If it WAS to do with seeing your body, he's a total tosser & not worth your time.
There will be plenty of lovely guys who will look at you & go "wow!"
You bloody go, girl!  x
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"Thank you so much all of you.
Such lovely comments and they are really appreciated
You’re all gorgeous!! x"
Although we all have a “type” I am regularly reminded that visible aesthetic isn’t the be-all, end-all of that. Mindset has a huge amount to do with it. My go to answer for any “what’s your ideal woman” is always 90% comprised of emotional and intellectual properties, and only 10% massive bum.
The ability to be in touch with your own body, your own sexuality, in spite of any deficiencies you see in yourself? That trait is so damn rare I’d describe it as bloody priceless! |
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OP you look absolutely stunning!! Beautiful and sexy and womanly!!
It’s so hard to ignore hurtful comments. I’ve gone out of my way to fat shame myself so that other peoples opinions and words hurt less. Really puts me off meeting people, fear of rejection is huge!!
Your photo is gorgeous and your attempt to help others is just lovely xxx |
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I'm very self critical of my saggy boobs, saggy/apron-y tummy and entire body of stretch marks. However, like you, I've started to find some sort of cathartic feeling in sharing pics that don't omit the shit bits.
I say that you look fabulous and sexy, OP! |
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I hate my tummy so much, I cry when I catch it in the mirror. I know I should love it, it has housed 3 beautiful children, the last one only 4 months ago. But it still makes me so sad.
Ive had it before where I’ve been convinced to send a full body shot then I’m blocked. Really knocks you for six. Ive only very recently plucked the courage to post more candid type photos that shows the parts I dislike. And nothing negative has been said. I’m proud of what my body can do, not quite of how it looks |
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"OP you look absolutely stunning!! Beautiful and sexy and womanly!!
It’s so hard to ignore hurtful comments. I’ve gone out of my way to fat shame myself so that other peoples opinions and words hurt less. Really puts me off meeting people, fear of rejection is huge!!
Your photo is gorgeous and your attempt to help others is just lovely xxx"
Self deprication and laughing about it is better than it coming from someone else innit?
I think your pic is hot. SO there |
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"OP you look absolutely stunning!! Beautiful and sexy and womanly!!
It’s so hard to ignore hurtful comments. I’ve gone out of my way to fat shame myself so that other peoples opinions and words hurt less. Really puts me off meeting people, fear of rejection is huge!!
Your photo is gorgeous and your attempt to help others is just lovely xxx
Self deprication and laughing about it is better than it coming from someone else innit?
I think your pic is hot. SO there "
Ha, thanks!!
If I own the negative then it’s less likely to hurt/embarrass! Plus…if you have a different type then that’s ok! We can’t all look or like the same. Just cause no damage on your way out!! X |
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"I hate my tummy so much, I cry when I catch it in the mirror. I know I should love it, it has housed 3 beautiful children, the last one only 4 months ago. But it still makes me so sad.
Ive had it before where I’ve been convinced to send a full body shot then I’m blocked. Really knocks you for six. Ive only very recently plucked the courage to post more candid type photos that shows the parts I dislike. And nothing negative has been said. I’m proud of what my body can do, not quite of how it looks"
Your tummy is amazing! I would pay that tummy a lot of attention!
In a non creepy way that is. |
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Good for you, I love this! I think you - and the others here who have done the same - look amazing and I welcome the message!
I still need to work on myself (psychologically!) some more before I can join in with this but there’s a time when I’d have cringed rather than genuinely cheer you on due to the messages I grew up with, so the progress is there. One of the things I hate the most is when somebody compliments me on my body based on my pics on here, I feel like such a fraud.
Anyway, onwards and upwards! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP you look absolutely stunning!! Beautiful and sexy and womanly!!
It’s so hard to ignore hurtful comments. I’ve gone out of my way to fat shame myself so that other peoples opinions and words hurt less. Really puts me off meeting people, fear of rejection is huge!!
Your photo is gorgeous and your attempt to help others is just lovely xxx
Self deprication and laughing about it is better than it coming from someone else innit?
I think your pic is hot. SO there
Ha, thanks!!
If I own the negative then it’s less likely to hurt/embarrass! Plus…if you have a different type then that’s ok! We can’t all look or like the same. Just cause no damage on your way out!! X"
Yeah I get that. I agree too, hurtful comments say more about the offender but still get to you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry you had to endure that!
So many of us have “imperfections” as they like to call it. I hated mine for years, still not fully confident but I’ve gone past caring.
I think if someone likes you, they like you no matter what.
You look stunning! |
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I remember your thread and your photo. It was beautiful. I agree with the comments that the ghosting says more about the guy than it does you.
I’m feeling self-conscious at the moment too after being stood up for a meet at the weekend, and it makes things hard sometimes. We definitely need to normalise ‘normal’ bodies in the media, especially when newspapers and magazines who condemn body shaming are also some of the worst offenders. It’s OK if it’s not someone’s preference but that’s no reason for them to be an asshole about it.
I’m changing my profile pic to a full body pic. It makes me nervous but I’m going to try and be positive! |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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If I had a wish it would be that we could rid the world of the types of behaviour that lead to body dysmorphia, body phobias, body image pressures etc. and allow us all to accept us for who we are.
It is easy to get caught up in the beautiful people lie, the perils of instagram and photo filters, where we now seem to expect a level of perfection that does not exist outside of a manipulated image.
It may be cliche but real beauty is from within, and your images - both of them - should be an inspiration to everyone. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
Most people fall into the average category, be it facial looks and physique and that's perfectly fine 
Some will be attracted to us and others won't and that's fine too.
We're our own worst critics and often feel there's some room for improvement, somewhere and that's actually a good thing that compels us to better ourselves.
I applaud you Op for the positive attitude you're showing. People need more of that methinks |
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"I remember your thread and your photo. It was beautiful. I agree with the comments that the ghosting says more about the guy than it does you.
I’m feeling self-conscious at the moment too after being stood up for a meet at the weekend, and it makes things hard sometimes. We definitely need to normalise ‘normal’ bodies in the media, especially when newspapers and magazines who condemn body shaming are also some of the worst offenders. It’s OK if it’s not someone’s preference but that’s no reason for them to be an asshole about it.
I’m changing my profile pic to a full body pic. It makes me nervous but I’m going to try and be positive!"
Nice one man!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I absolutely hate my body right now and hate getting naked but it's the only one I have. I do need to learn how to embrace it but it's so hard x
P.s OP it says a lot more about the guy than you xx"
The irony is that if I embraced your body it would be so hard too.
It is how you view yourself though innit? Thats the hard bit. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I loved your post and you look absolutely fantastic!
The guy who ghosted you is a twat, and this would have become apparent in due course anyway.
Best of luck to you x |
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By *asha86Couple
over a year ago
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Fair play to you! You will never be everyones cup of tea but there are certainly people out there that dont care about mom tums! and for us its never based entirely on looks You have to have the conversation to back it up too!
I get why some people dont like their mom tums but for me its part of the person im attracted to and it makes no difference to me at all if they have one or not! |
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"I absolutely hate my body right now and hate getting naked but it's the only one I have. I do need to learn how to embrace it but it's so hard x
P.s OP it says a lot more about the guy than you xx
The irony is that if I embraced your body it would be so hard too.
It is how you view yourself though innit? Thats the hard bit. "
Very hard x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Op there is nothing whatsoever wrong with your body... your body is your life's book and yours looks like a bloody good read xxx
Keep your chin up and ignore the haters ... they aren't worth your time xx |
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"I posted a week ago about having the courage to finally post a photo of myself showing parts of my body I’ve hidden away since being here (mum tum, stretch marks etc) and the response was amazing! So many of you were positive and it helped me so much.
However, I had a few derogatory comments that stung and led me to hide the photo mentioned above.. I’ve also just been ghosted by a guy I’ve spent 5 weeks talking to and getting to know. We added each other elsewhere to chat too and I suddenly can’t message him and he’s blocked me on here. I showed him my body.. and that was the response. It hurts but he has every right to decide I’m not what he’s looking for, I will try to just rise above it.
It did get me thinking about others on here that may have had the same response and it makes me sad. The media are constantly showcasing people with ‘perfect bodies’.. full of filters, great lighting and angles and peoples perceptions of others have become so critical! It blows my mind.
My body has been through a lot. I had two children very close together, then I went through hell for years with medical issues and almost died on a procedure table. It sent me to a dark place and I didn’t look after myself.
Still.. I came out the other side and I’m in a much better place. However, even though I’m trying to make changes to myself in a positive way now, my body really took a beating and is far from the insta perfect models you see in all the media.
I’ve uploaded a photo of myself captioned ‘Normalise normal bodies’ where my mum tum, stretch marks and wobbly thighs are there for all to see.
If you’re reading this and you’re conscious of your body and of what people may think, please know that those who are worth it won’t mind! I think you are beautiful and perfect just the way you are!
Be proud of what you have and if you can, follow my lead and show everyone just how gorgeous you are!
Let’s normalise normal bodies!
- L x
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I think I love you x you're amazing and bloody beautiful x I just wanna squish my fave in those boobs and tummy x her x x x |
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"I absolutely hate my body right now and hate getting naked but it's the only one I have. I do need to learn how to embrace it but it's so hard x
P.s OP it says a lot more about the guy than you xx"
Wanna swap bodies??? Dan you'd have my hubby drooling..... And me tbf... Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m with you here!
I’ve carried and birthed two babies, breastfed said two children and definitely have wobbly bits and stretch marks. I’m no model but you have to love the skin your in and That’s what I do  |
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To misquote Forest Gump
Happy is as happy does.
If you can be happy with yourself it’s amazing that two things happen.
Firstly you care less what others think.
Secondly and this is the amazing thing, others will see you in a brighter light.
Win win.
Big up to all of you embracing yourselves. |
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There are so many beautiful women on this thread, I look at the profiles and think girls you must be crazy I'd die for a body like yours but that doesn't help as it all comes from how you see yourselves x
I can't quote everyone but holy hell x
Just know you're beautiful and amazing x
I'd do you all x her x  |
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"There are so many beautiful women on this thread, I look at the profiles and think girls you must be crazy I'd die for a body like yours but that doesn't help as it all comes from how you see yourselves x
I can't quote everyone but holy hell x
Just know you're beautiful and amazing x
I'd do you all x her x "
Behave - you have a beautiful body. I would spend hours massaging and caressing you. Xx |
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You look gorgeous! The pic was lush!
I put a pic on showing my hips and tum after two kids the other day. I had a message that just said no thanks. I called him out and he apologised and said he was being a dick.
Just no need x |
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"There are so many beautiful women on this thread, I look at the profiles and think girls you must be crazy I'd die for a body like yours but that doesn't help as it all comes from how you see yourselves x
I can't quote everyone but holy hell x
Just know you're beautiful and amazing x
I'd do you all x her x
Behave - you have a beautiful body. I would spend hours massaging and caressing you. Xx"
Aw thank you |
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"You look gorgeous! The pic was lush!
I put a pic on showing my hips and tum after two kids the other day. I had a message that just said no thanks. I called him out and he apologised and said he was being a dick.
Just no need x "
Awww thanks.  |
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"You look gorgeous! The pic was lush!
I put a pic on showing my hips and tum after two kids the other day. I had a message that just said no thanks. I called him out and he apologised and said he was being a dick.
Just no need x "
Hmmmm, can you send me the pic so I can form my own opinion? |
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"I absolutely hate my body right now and hate getting naked but it's the only one I have. I do need to learn how to embrace it but it's so hard x
P.s OP it says a lot more about the guy than you xx"
I know what you mean and sometimes I feel the same about my body, especially if I’m having a shower and catch a view of myself in the mirror at the wrong angle. For what it’s worth I think you look amazing clothed and unclothed. I know that doesn’t magically fix body image issues, but hopefully it helps a little bit |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I often worry about my body and the way it looks - fella is what you would call "Gym fit" and I worry that people would question why he is with me. However as the years have gone by I have realised how lucky I am to have a body that has carried me through an awful lot
Its hard In todays day and age to see what actual bodies look like because of filters etc I agree with that . I take most bodies on here with a pinch of salt
You are gorgeous by the way - I hate a sneak peak
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am no way fit or slim but what you see is me no editing or filters if you dont like move on if you feel you need to insult me go ahead i am thick skinned.
So all you who doubt your bodies please be proud of it and flaunt it. |
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By *S2004Man
over a year ago
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I have to say you have fantastic pics. I can’t stand mine either but do get compliments sometime and then assume that people are lying.
None of us are ‘perfect’ and that’s why we are all unique |
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By *r-OreoMan
over a year ago
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Okay how do I say this now without sounding rude.
I've been on fabs for years and as far as I'm concerned on fabs every woman is beautiful and every woman I've come across have told me that they recieve over 100s of messages and no disrespect to them, I don't think they'd recieve that kind of attention anywhere else.
Now back to my point, I don't know whether you were just feeling down and needed your spirit uplifted or whether you're just an attention seeker, but you had recent verifications from guys and it seemed they would defo wanna meet you again, and I can bet my life there's least 10 guys on your messages right now simping to you.
Yea not everyone likes stretch marks, personally I don't but that's me. Not everyone likes big women, personally I don't but again that's me. But with what i know on fabs you're defo the choice of Most of the men on here. You don't have to be everyone's choice(you cant) even model looking size 8 women aren't everyone's choice coz I can guarantee you I have friends that would choose you anyday over a lady like beyonce (I know it's crazy but they prefer curvier women) just be happy with being someone's choice.
In that note I rest my case Hope I didn't sound rude  |
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"Let’s normalise normal bodies"
This is such a wonderful ideal. We all have unique bodies (and indeed minds), it is our uniqueness that makes the world so much more interesting. It is a shame some people, like the guy you were chatting with, cannot see past their own narrow mindedness.
Personally I love all of your pictures, indeed most of the fabbers have great pictures (except maybe the ones with 20 cock or pussy pics), that show off their wonderful unique bodies.
I quite like the idea of having a "normalise normal bodies" challenge day, where we post "normal" pictures of ourselves, with no breathing in (guilty) or hiding the bits we don't like (also guilty)
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We all have hang ups with our bodies, pictures can be very miss leading…we tend to take pics as they have been taken and don’t look for that perfect angle…it’s his loss and your gain…learn from it and grow from it…flaunt what you got, don’t hide it away |
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"Let’s normalise normal bodies
This is such a wonderful ideal. We all have unique bodies (and indeed minds), it is our uniqueness that makes the world so much more interesting. It is a shame some people, like the guy you were chatting with, cannot see past their own narrow mindedness.
Personally I love all of your pictures, indeed most of the fabbers have great pictures (except maybe the ones with 20 cock or pussy pics), that show off their wonderful unique bodies.
I quite like the idea of having a "normalise normal bodies" challenge day, where we post "normal" pictures of ourselves, with no breathing in (guilty) or hiding the bits we don't like (also guilty)
(raindow) "
Great idea x |
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I don't know whether you were just feeling down and needed your spirit uplifted or whether you're just an attention seeker
I can guarantee you I have friends that would choose you anyday over a lady like beyonce (I know it's crazy but they prefer curvier women) just be happy with being someone's choice.
I agreed with you until these 2 points then lost all respect.
Why does she have to be an attention seeker to raise a valid point?
And why is it "crazy" someone would prefer a curvy lady over bloody Beyonce????????  |
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Quoting Mr oreo....
" I don't know whether you were just feeling down and needed your spirit uplifted or whether you're just an attention seeker
I can guarantee you I have friends that would choose you anyday over a lady like beyonce (I know it's crazy but they prefer curvier women) just be happy with being someone's choice.
I agreed with you until these 2 points then lost all respect.
Why does she have to be an attention seeker to raise a valid point?
And why is it "crazy" someone would prefer a curvy lady over bloody Beyonce???????? "
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"I absolutely hate my body right now and hate getting naked but it's the only one I have. I do need to learn how to embrace it but it's so hard x
P.s OP it says a lot more about the guy than you xx
I know what you mean and sometimes I feel the same about my body, especially if I’m having a shower and catch a view of myself in the mirror at the wrong angle. For what it’s worth I think you look amazing clothed and unclothed. I know that doesn’t magically fix body image issues, but hopefully it helps a little bit "
You have a lovely smile and your cock holds up a towel.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Okay how do I say this now without sounding rude.
I've been on fabs for years and as far as I'm concerned on fabs every woman is beautiful and every woman I've come across have told me that they recieve over 100s of messages and no disrespect to them, I don't think they'd recieve that kind of attention anywhere else.
Now back to my point, I don't know whether you were just feeling down and needed your spirit uplifted or whether you're just an attention seeker, but you had recent verifications from guys and it seemed they would defo wanna meet you again, and I can bet my life there's least 10 guys on your messages right now simping to you.
Yea not everyone likes stretch marks, personally I don't but that's me. Not everyone likes big women, personally I don't but again that's me. But with what i know on fabs you're defo the choice of Most of the men on here. You don't have to be everyone's choice(you cant) even model looking size 8 women aren't everyone's choice coz I can guarantee you I have friends that would choose you anyday over a lady like beyonce (I know it's crazy but they prefer curvier women) just be happy with being someone's choice.
In that note I rest my case Hope I didn't sound rude "
You did sound rude. You also managed in the process to call people crazy for being attracted to the body they are, if it doesn’t fit in with what you are attracted too.
For some of us ‘crazy’ folk the body type isn’t nearly as important as the person inside the body |
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"Okay how do I say this now without sounding rude.
I've been on fabs for years and as far as I'm concerned on fabs every woman is beautiful and every woman I've come across have told me that they recieve over 100s of messages and no disrespect to them, I don't think they'd recieve that kind of attention anywhere else.
Now back to my point, I don't know whether you were just feeling down and needed your spirit uplifted or whether you're just an attention seeker, but you had recent verifications from guys and it seemed they would defo wanna meet you again, and I can bet my life there's least 10 guys on your messages right now simping to you.
Yea not everyone likes stretch marks, personally I don't but that's me. Not everyone likes big women, personally I don't but again that's me. But with what i know on fabs you're defo the choice of Most of the men on here. You don't have to be everyone's choice(you cant) even model looking size 8 women aren't everyone's choice coz I can guarantee you I have friends that would choose you anyday over a lady like beyonce (I know it's crazy but they prefer curvier women) just be happy with being someone's choice.
In that note I rest my case Hope I didn't sound rude
You did sound rude. You also managed in the process to call people crazy for being attracted to the body they are, if it doesn’t fit in with what you are attracted too.
For some of us ‘crazy’ folk the body type isn’t nearly as important as the person inside the body"
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I think it would be nice if people took time off from focusing on/talking about their bodies ...especially being apologetic about them, and just enjoyed 'being '. |
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"I absolutely hate my body right now and hate getting naked but it's the only one I have. I do need to learn how to embrace it but it's so hard x
P.s OP it says a lot more about the guy than you xx
I know what you mean and sometimes I feel the same about my body, especially if I’m having a shower and catch a view of myself in the mirror at the wrong angle. For what it’s worth I think you look amazing clothed and unclothed. I know that doesn’t magically fix body image issues, but hopefully it helps a little bit
You have a lovely smile and your cock holds up a towel. "
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"I think it would be nice if people took time off from focusing on/talking about their bodies ...especially being apologetic about them, and just enjoyed 'being '."
That's a really good point |
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"Okay how do I say this now without sounding rude.
I've been on fabs for years and as far as I'm concerned on fabs every woman is beautiful and every woman I've come across have told me that they recieve over 100s of messages and no disrespect to them, I don't think they'd recieve that kind of attention anywhere else.
Now back to my point, I don't know whether you were just feeling down and needed your spirit uplifted or whether you're just an attention seeker, but you had recent verifications from guys and it seemed they would defo wanna meet you again, and I can bet my life there's least 10 guys on your messages right now simping to you.
Yea not everyone likes stretch marks, personally I don't but that's me. Not everyone likes big women, personally I don't but again that's me. But with what i know on fabs you're defo the choice of Most of the men on here. You don't have to be everyone's choice(you cant) even model looking size 8 women aren't everyone's choice coz I can guarantee you I have friends that would choose you anyday over a lady like beyonce (I know it's crazy but they prefer curvier women) just be happy with being someone's choice.
In that note I rest my case Hope I didn't sound rude
You did sound rude. You also managed in the process to call people crazy for being attracted to the body they are, if it doesn’t fit in with what you are attracted too.
For some of us ‘crazy’ folk the body type isn’t nearly as important as the person inside the body"
Exactly what I meant! X |
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The most fabbed pic on my profile is my naked full body pic. It surprised me that it was so popular because I think it's a terrible pic and it was very hard for me to post it. I have hidden my body away all my life and sometimes turned down meets because I was scared that my body wouldn't live up to slimmer expectations. But one day I decided to just go for it and bare all, and it felt very empowering! It also made me realise that just because I don't find myself attractive, doesn't mean others don't. I'm overweight, have stretch marks, rolls and a belly that I have to lift to shave my lady bits, but it's me, I own it and I don't try and hide it anymore. I get more messages and compliments since I posted that picture than I ever had before. And I'm not half as nervous meeting anyone new because I have nothing to hide anymore. And if people don't like what they see on my profile then I'm presuming they just don't message me, cutting out what OP went through, which has also happened to me a few times pre full body pic, so I can empathise. I don't know whether it's an age thing but I am so much more comfortable with myself and my body now I'm heading towards 50 (next month  ) |
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"Okay how do I say this now without sounding rude.
I've been on fabs for years and as far as I'm concerned on fabs every woman is beautiful and every woman I've come across have told me that they recieve over 100s of messages and no disrespect to them, I don't think they'd recieve that kind of attention anywhere else.
Now back to my point, I don't know whether you were just feeling down and needed your spirit uplifted or whether you're just an attention seeker, but you had recent verifications from guys and it seemed they would defo wanna meet you again, and I can bet my life there's least 10 guys on your messages right now simping to you.
Yea not everyone likes stretch marks, personally I don't but that's me. Not everyone likes big women, personally I don't but again that's me. But with what i know on fabs you're defo the choice of Most of the men on here. You don't have to be everyone's choice(you cant) even model looking size 8 women aren't everyone's choice coz I can guarantee you I have friends that would choose you anyday over a lady like beyonce (I know it's crazy but they prefer curvier women) just be happy with being someone's choice.
In that note I rest my case Hope I didn't sound rude
You did sound rude. You also managed in the process to call people crazy for being attracted to the body they are, if it doesn’t fit in with what you are attracted too.
For some of us ‘crazy’ folk the body type isn’t nearly as important as the person inside the body
Exactly what I meant! X "
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"I hate my tummy so much, I cry when I catch it in the mirror. I know I should love it, it has housed 3 beautiful children, the last one only 4 months ago. But it still makes me so sad.
Ive had it before where I’ve been convinced to send a full body shot then I’m blocked. Really knocks you for six. Ive only very recently plucked the courage to post more candid type photos that shows the parts I dislike. And nothing negative has been said. I’m proud of what my body can do, not quite of how it looks
Your tummy is amazing! I would pay that tummy a lot of attention!
In a non creepy way that is. "
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"I posted a week ago about having the courage to finally post a photo of myself showing parts of my body I’ve hidden away since being here (mum tum, stretch marks etc) and the response was amazing! So many of you were positive and it helped me so much.
However, I had a few derogatory comments that stung and led me to hide the photo mentioned above.. I’ve also just been ghosted by a guy I’ve spent 5 weeks talking to and getting to know. We added each other elsewhere to chat too and I suddenly can’t message him and he’s blocked me on here. I showed him my body.. and that was the response. It hurts but he has every right to decide I’m not what he’s looking for, I will try to just rise above it.
It did get me thinking about others on here that may have had the same response and it makes me sad. The media are constantly showcasing people with ‘perfect bodies’.. full of filters, great lighting and angles and peoples perceptions of others have become so critical! It blows my mind.
My body has been through a lot. I had two children very close together, then I went through hell for years with medical issues and almost died on a procedure table. It sent me to a dark place and I didn’t look after myself.
Still.. I came out the other side and I’m in a much better place. However, even though I’m trying to make changes to myself in a positive way now, my body really took a beating and is far from the insta perfect models you see in all the media.
I’ve uploaded a photo of myself captioned ‘Normalise normal bodies’ where my mum tum, stretch marks and wobbly thighs are there for all to see.
If you’re reading this and you’re conscious of your body and of what people may think, please know that those who are worth it won’t mind! I think you are beautiful and perfect just the way you are!
Be proud of what you have and if you can, follow my lead and show everyone just how gorgeous you are!
Let’s normalise normal bodies!
- L x
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Just forget about the dickhead who ghosted you - there are a large percentage of guys on Fab that just want the thrill of chatting and never meet. I’m sure it wasn’t in response to you sending him pics but he may just be a picture collector for his wank bank. I don’t send pictures now - men have to be satisfied with just the few for friends on my profile.
Many men feel the same about their bodies so just spend time with people who make you feel happy and you’ll soon relax and enjoy their company. |
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"Okay how do I say this now without sounding rude.
I've been on fabs for years and as far as I'm concerned on fabs every woman is beautiful and every woman I've come across have told me that they recieve over 100s of messages and no disrespect to them, I don't think they'd recieve that kind of attention anywhere else.
Now back to my point, I don't know whether you were just feeling down and needed your spirit uplifted or whether you're just an attention seeker, but you had recent verifications from guys and it seemed they would defo wanna meet you again, and I can bet my life there's least 10 guys on your messages right now simping to you.
Yea not everyone likes stretch marks, personally I don't but that's me. Not everyone likes big women, personally I don't but again that's me. But with what i know on fabs you're defo the choice of Most of the men on here. You don't have to be everyone's choice(you cant) even model looking size 8 women aren't everyone's choice coz I can guarantee you I have friends that would choose you anyday over a lady like beyonce (I know it's crazy but they prefer curvier women) just be happy with being someone's choice.
In that note I rest my case Hope I didn't sound rude "
No you just sound a dick |
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"Okay how do I say this now without sounding rude.
I've been on fabs for years and as far as I'm concerned on fabs every woman is beautiful and every woman I've come across have told me that they recieve over 100s of messages and no disrespect to them, I don't think they'd recieve that kind of attention anywhere else.
Now back to my point, I don't know whether you were just feeling down and needed your spirit uplifted or whether you're just an attention seeker, but you had recent verifications from guys and it seemed they would defo wanna meet you again, and I can bet my life there's least 10 guys on your messages right now simping to you.
Yea not everyone likes stretch marks, personally I don't but that's me. Not everyone likes big women, personally I don't but again that's me. But with what i know on fabs you're defo the choice of Most of the men on here. You don't have to be everyone's choice(you cant) even model looking size 8 women aren't everyone's choice coz I can guarantee you I have friends that would choose you anyday over a lady like beyonce (I know it's crazy but they prefer curvier women) just be happy with being someone's choice.
In that note I rest my case Hope I didn't sound rude "
Let’s just say you didn’t have the “Oreo affect “ on me …… and you didn’t pull off not sounding rude. |
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Kudos to you. You are on a path to liberating yourself from conformative consumerist behaviour, driven heavily by advertising and underpinned by creating self-doubt in people's minds.
That's actually quite a rebellious act.
Your beauty and affirmation is not dependent on what society tells you it should be, unless of course you want to be a product of society.
I think however, you'd rather just be yourself. And you are doing fine.
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