I'm pretty sure this may have been spoken about but I've not really been active in the forum.
Question, to both ladies and gents. When you start dating and it becomes serious. Do you be honest about the times you have been involved on this site and the " life " ...
Or do you date people from here so it's less judgemental and both are understanding.
Just intrigued as I get told I'm a little strange I'm wanting to be involved in this kind of site |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would be honest from the start as want someone to accept me for what I am. If they do not like it then they are not for me."
Think you could be telling me you was the love child of Mrs Thatcher and arthur Scargill and be too busy looking at you to even care |
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It depends whether you want them to join in or not
Since I don’t, I don’t talk much about my swinging lifestyle because that’s private. I’d also like her to not be too vocal about the d*unk gangbsng she had in university, because that’s private too
If you both talk and decide to get into that stuff, fine. But I’d avoid telling her unless she really asks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dated after I meet someone not from fabs in the out side World and was up front told him about I was on fabs he ended the Relationship so now when I come off the site meet a boyfriend I don't tell but I wish I could find someone like me for clubs but got a friend with benefits but he's really not in to clubs. |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
I've tried dating in Vanilla Land and planned to discuss my Swinging lifestyle once we were thinking about being intimate, but it's never got to that stage.
I've had 2 relationships with people I met on the site and so the conversation wasn't needed. We had time for us to establish what we wanted and then took it from there.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've dated from Tinder and told people about Fab, a couple of them joined but i don't hide parts of who I am or how I live my life so if I start seeing someone and they don't like it then we aren't compatible. |
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Because I'm older I expect my partners to have a prior sexual history
I met my husband 15yrs ago & we discussed threesomes & moresomes on our first date, the sooner these things are out in the open the easier the conversation
I think people are becoming more sexually adventurous/open so it often won't be the shock you expect it to be, honesty is always the best policy |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
Edmonton |
I wouldn’t mention until I know where the relationship is going.I am currently exchanging messages with a Facebook friend who has told me about relationships she has been in and I feel she could be up for adult fun but I intend to get to know her and take it step by step |
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There's some fantastic answers. I'm pretty up front with most things but in the past I've mentioned it and it's not worked out as the other person feels she's not good enough ...I'd never want anyone to feel that way |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think if it's something you want in a future relationship then definitely be open and honest about it.
The amount of men in relationships on here who cheat and say they wish they could be open and honest with their partners is unreal so better to just be upfront about it. |
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"I would be honest from the start as want someone to accept me for what I am. If they do not like it then they are not for me."
Surely this should be the answer for everyone. You shouldn't have to change who you really are and stop doing what you enjoy to be with someone else. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hmm depends on the relationship I suppose and the level of commitment being offered but I would honestly answer if asked about it cause the right person for you always knows. |
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Find yourself a little Pocket Rocket, and all your dreams will become a reality 
I was here as a single guy, some years back. I dated/had relationships that were vanilla, following on from then.
I introduced PR to Fab a couple of years into our relationship, and she soon got the bug, we love the scene here as a couple. There's something quite empowering, and satisfying about being able to enjoy the sexual company of others, and then chatting the next day like kids at Christmas, who've just had the toy at the top their list, and can't wait to tell their friends as soon as they get back through the school gates.
Discussion is key, be open about your sexual past, be receptive to new ideas, but most importantly, there has to be trust.
Highly recommended!
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By *eisty LadyWoman
over a year ago
Count Your Blessings Cottage, Gratitude Grove |
I don’t date men off here
A few men I’ve dated in ‘real life’ have not been into sex or couldn’t get an erection (medical reasons), that’s not an issue for me if the guy is compatible as there’s alternatives to penetrative sex.
I wouldn’t cheat on them though
However if I’m not dating someone I scratch my itch on here until I’m seeing someone again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've (male) been here before in a previous relationship.
Being open about my past, this side of things being part of it led us here.
That and Mrs was also open about her past.
I was quite happy and expecting a vanilla relationship, but after chatting, we soon ended up here
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We met on here and I love the being able to talk about our fantasies without judgement.
However I'd be happy to be in a vanilla relationship too if that was what he wanted but I wouldn't hide this side of my life in a new relationship, it's part of who I am.
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Once one has immersed oneself in the world of swinging and enjoyed it there is no going back.
Meeting s person as a potential partner but who is not able to share this aspect of their sexual like is unlikely to work. That old itch will return.
Best to be open from the outset and even better if one meets via a swinging site or club and enjoys the lifestyle together. |
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