My oldest daughter is obese. I’m over weight & her mother is overweight.
I recognise there is an issue but her mother won’t even say the words “ she’s overweight”
Statistically we are the problem I.e the parents.
I’m 3-4 stone over weight & here mother is 5-6 stone overweight (after surgery)
Has anyone any tips to help her lose weight?
I know I need to lead by example |
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"My oldest daughter is obese. I’m over weight & her mother is overweight.
I recognise there is an issue but her mother won’t even say the words “ she’s overweight”
Statistically we are the problem I.e the parents.
I’m 3-4 stone over weight & here mother is 5-6 stone overweight (after surgery)
Has anyone any tips to help her lose weight?
I know I need to lead by example "
Lead by example, kids generally want to do what their parents do. If you want her to be healthy then show her how to.
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It’s really hard losing weight, but walking, drinking plenty of water and trying to eat healthy/not overloading try dinner plate. Maybe calorie counting. We are currently doing meal replacement shakes and the pounds are dropping very slowly.
Wishing you all the best |
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over a year ago
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"My oldest daughter is obese. I’m over weight & her mother is overweight.
I recognise there is an issue but her mother won’t even say the words “ she’s overweight”
Statistically we are the problem I.e the parents.
I’m 3-4 stone over weight & here mother is 5-6 stone overweight (after surgery)
Has anyone any tips to help her lose weight?
I know I need to lead by example "
Surely you mean "curvy"  |
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I'm sorry if this upsetting you or your daughter, mate.
I'm no expert, and know it's obvious to say, but she'll only lose weight by burning off more calories than she puts in, so just keeping a rough eye on that will help, without making a big deal out of it, so as not to cause any body confidence issues.
Perhaps find activities you can all do together - swimming, cycling? Or if she doesn't like "exercise" find something she loves that is fun but will still help her burn off some calories - trampolining? Dancing? Good luck OP! |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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Don't talk about weight loss, or her being overweight. It causes stress, which leads to eating and retaining weight. Do encourage them to talk about everything, including weight, and how they are feeling.
Talk about everyone getting healthier, and you all have to adopt the same behaviours. No blaming each other if you slip.
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20mins plus family walk around the neighbourhood at least once a walk and chat, track your progress and make a year commitment. Also cut back on bakery or fast carbs replace with fruits and slow carbs |
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Don't talk in terms of going on a diet just make small, gradual and incremental changes to your lifestyle and eating habits. Dessert only at weekends for instance, go for walks together, don't buy crisps sweets etc.
Your GP surgery might have access to a nurse with experience in this too.
Good luck to you all  |
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Hey folks!
Thank you all so much.
Aye exercises ok. Ish.
She just eats big. Recently she’s been lying about eating. Hiding food etc.
I was an overweight child but good at sports so I was the fat skilful kid.
I just don’t want her to suffer. But I know I have to lead by example.
Thank you xx |
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Crash diets/fad diets are next to useless for maintaining weight loss long term and the only real and proper way to do it is hard work and commitment..eat less, exercise more
That really is all there is to it
Summer is around the corner..invest a push bike for you all of money isn’t too much of an issue and get out and enjoy the weather together when you can..it’s a start
Good luck to anyway x |
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Stope eating what supermarkets call 'food' and eat real food.
You are probably doing nothing wrong. The junk is poisoning you all.
Do not make an issue about it, that makes it worse because unnecessary guilt creeps in  |
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"Can you try to get her involved in meal planning and cooking?
As a family, you could pass it off as a money saving strategy to cook from scratch and cut out processed foods "
Great lots of vegetables excuse |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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My tip would be cut or at least reduce one or two things from your everyday diet. By reducing, it will likely stick better rather than it be a haphazard diet fad.
Things start to taste differently and over time you'll either change habits or not like how you old diet tasted.
I recently had a gut issue so had to cut a lot of different foodstuffs. One was sugar, I found by reducing to 1tsp then a 1/2 tsp, then 1/4, then a literal end of a tsp I cut sugar considerably. This then extends to fizzy drinks, extends to biscuits, cakes, chocolate even tomato sauce.
I do have cakes, junk food etc every so often but they act more as a reminder of how poor they taste and how expensive they are.
Eating just cook veg with any meal is healthier and will fill you up more than anything else - fruit as a snack instead of regular go to's |
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"Exercise is not the answer to the bloat that is from rubbish food.
Calories in vs calories out is old school rubbish now too."
You're right exercise isn't the key to weightloss, but it does help. More importantly though it can be a major part of being healthy and goes hand in hand with a change of mindset.
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By *inx.x3Woman
over a year ago
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Can she do after school club a couple of times a week?
My daughter does a couple to keep fit.
Can she join a out of school club she likes? That’s active.
Go swimming on the weekend or trampolining? Fun but also a good work out.
Restrict her eating to a snack after school, her tea (big portion of healthy food if she needs it) and then a pudding of her choice…. After that if she’s hungry then fruit only? |
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"Can she do after school club a couple of times a week?
My daughter does a couple to keep fit.
Can she join a out of school club she likes? That’s active.
Go swimming on the weekend or trampolining? Fun but also a good work out.
Restrict her eating to a snack after school, her tea (big portion of healthy food if she needs it) and then a pudding of her choice…. After that if she’s hungry then fruit only? "
She is active. The issue is portions |
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"Can she do after school club a couple of times a week?
My daughter does a couple to keep fit.
Can she join a out of school club she likes? That’s active.
Go swimming on the weekend or trampolining? Fun but also a good work out.
Restrict her eating to a snack after school, her tea (big portion of healthy food if she needs it) and then a pudding of her choice…. After that if she’s hungry then fruit only?
She is active. The issue is portions "
Who puts the food on her plate? |
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"Can she do after school club a couple of times a week?
My daughter does a couple to keep fit.
Can she join a out of school club she likes? That’s active.
Go swimming on the weekend or trampolining? Fun but also a good work out.
Restrict her eating to a snack after school, her tea (big portion of healthy food if she needs it) and then a pudding of her choice…. After that if she’s hungry then fruit only?
She is active. The issue is portions
Who puts the food on her plate?"
Her mum &
I Seperated. We are both guilty of ovefeeding her |
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"Same issue here, we don't mention the F or D word, she's active and eats lots of fruit and veg but is also a snacker and sneaks food when I'm not looking "
Mine eats loads of fruit.
She eat my bloody lunch on Sunday night for Monday ( left over spag Bol)
Not all off it.
She denied it. But the garlic breath and reduced food portion told it all |
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"Can she do after school club a couple of times a week?
My daughter does a couple to keep fit.
Can she join a out of school club she likes? That’s active.
Go swimming on the weekend or trampolining? Fun but also a good work out.
Restrict her eating to a snack after school, her tea (big portion of healthy food if she needs it) and then a pudding of her choice…. After that if she’s hungry then fruit only?
She is active. The issue is portions
Who puts the food on her plate?
Her mum &
I Seperated. We are both guilty of ovefeeding her "
Ok.
You have an element of control over her food portions then. It's easy for us to sit here and say you need to do x, y and z but in practice it's not straightforward as any of us who've brought up children know (I had the opposite problem one of mine barely ate). However if the food isn't on her plate she can't eat it. You've acknowledged that there's a problem can you get advice from a professional without involving your daughter? |
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