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how many times have you been in love?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe twice but I'm not sure. Not certain I've ever been in love.
Lust, yes. Infatuation, yes. And I've loved being in a relationship, twice. I'm not convinced I was actually in love with the people themselves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i have never been in love
I got married because i became pregnant not because i loved him, i never loved my hubby infact i spent many years resenting him for wasting my life
We did split in the end, it was never going to last forever, but now i feel its to late, im pushing 40 and i have 3 kids so i dont think love will ever be on the cards for me, noone going to take on 4 lots of PMT lets be honest lol
not that im bothered to be honest, you dont miss what you have never had and ive never been happier being on my own i think single life suits me much better |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"2.5 times precisely.....dont ask!  "
Femme loved a midget, Femme loved a midget, Femme loved a midget, Femme loved a midget, Femme loved a midget, Femme loved a midget, Femme loved a midget, Femme loved a midget  |
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"i have never been in love
I got married because i became pregnant not because i loved him, i never loved my hubby infact i spent many years resenting him for wasting my life
We did split in the end, it was never going to last forever, but now i feel its to late, im pushing 40 and i have 3 kids so i dont think love will ever be on the cards for me, noone going to take on 4 lots of PMT lets be honest lol
not that im bothered to be honest, you dont miss what you have never had and ive never been happier being on my own i think single life suits me much better "
Yeah, we both only have another 40 years left so what are the chances, lol? Being single is great I agree, but I still hope to experience being in love if there really is such a thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only once felt true thunderbolt of love, when my son was born. I'm 42 now and still hopeful that one day I will feel that thunderbolt with a genuine, decent, honest, sexy, lovely man. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'll let you know moments before I die when I look back on my life and the person I think I love is still there as I go. That's the only time I'll ever really know for sure. Certainly nobody from my past. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'll let you know moments before I die when I look back on my life and the person I think I love is still there as I go. That's the only time I'll ever really know for sure. Certainly nobody from my past."
You're a toughie you are |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I want to experience love so I have kids and someone I can call my best friend..  "
i dont class the way i feel about my kids as being in love
i love my kids with all my heart but im not in love with them  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'll let you know moments before I die when I look back on my life and the person I think I love is still there as I go. That's the only time I'll ever really know for sure. Certainly nobody from my past.
You're a toughie you are "
Not as tough as I appear. There was a girl once, many years ago, and it hurt when we split and I thought I loved her but I now know looking back that it wasn't really love. I'm a firm believer in love that is unquestioned, it's just there, always, but you can only know that right at the end. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'll let you know moments before I die when I look back on my life and the person I think I love is still there as I go. That's the only time I'll ever really know for sure. Certainly nobody from my past.
You're a toughie you are
Not as tough as I appear. There was a girl once, many years ago, and it hurt when we split and I thought I loved her but I now know looking back that it wasn't really love. I'm a firm believer in love that is unquestioned, it's just there, always, but you can only know that right at the end. "
In a strange way I actually inderstand where you're coming from |
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I feel bad now.. but realise im twice as old as most of you..
first love 17 lasted 3 years ..
second love OH lasted 30 years dissipated into a friendship 41 years total ..spose its still there really . 3rd..probably lust.. but no its lasted too long for that most likely 5/6th me and 1/6th him.
Oh well. |
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
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I really can't believe all these people saying only two or three times! Unless that is, they never "fell in love" when they were teenagers! Surely, whether you now think it was "real" love or not, at the time it was the be-all and end-all...
I have loved every girl I went out with! Not every girl I have had sex with or were mates with, just those who I had a romantic relationship with or I wouldn't have formed that relationship with them!
I can now see that it wasn't like the feelings I have with the lovely Innuendo, but it was love non the less.. I don't have to wait around till the end of my life to know if I am in love, I know it now. Whether she is with me at the end or not, I still love her with a passion... And I hope she continues to love me in the same way xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have been married 3 times, but not sure I loved my second wife. So reckon its 4 times for me "
Apart from "thinking" your in love..and its not...
I can say its only been twice.
and NEVER ever again
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had 2 long term relationships - 8 years and 7 years. I probably loved them to start with but both times we grew apart rather than together.
It's going to take someone very, very special for me to want another relationship, and it would have to be open rather than monogamous. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think I thought I was with my ex, but I know that's not true now. So still looking for that special one, and I know when I do it will be so obvious, and will feel so good. I look forward to that time, and all my past experiences will have led me to it. So I dont feel bad for what is and what has been... (Olly + several pints and a few shorts ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think I thought I was with my ex, but I know that's not true now. So still looking for that special one, and I know when I do it will be so obvious, and will feel so good. I look forward to that time, and all my past experiences will have led me to it. So I dont feel bad for what is and what has been... (Olly + several pints and a few shorts )"
awwww bless! Your only 28 hun, you've got loads of time! |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
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"I think I thought I was with my ex, but I know that's not true now. So still looking for that special one, and I know when I do it will be so obvious, and will feel so good. I look forward to that time, and all my past experiences will have led me to it. So I dont feel bad for what is and what has been... (Olly + several pints and a few shorts )"
Awwww Ive got a lump in my throat  |
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"I think I thought I was with my ex, but I know that's not true now. So still looking for that special one, and I know when I do it will be so obvious, and will feel so good. I look forward to that time, and all my past experiences will have led me to it. So I dont feel bad for what is and what has been... (Olly + several pints and a few shorts )"
Like your attitude Olly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Once.. wasnt even dating the guy. 4 years id have done anything for him then when i found something inside me to move on thats when he realized he loved me but by then i had detatched myself from him..
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think I thought I was with my ex, but I know that's not true now. So still looking for that special one, and I know when I do it will be so obvious, and will feel so good. I look forward to that time, and all my past experiences will have led me to it. So I dont feel bad for what is and what has been... (Olly + several pints and a few shorts )"
to be honest, even tho i have spent my life either alone or in unhappy marrage, i dont regret a min of it, what happens to us in our lifes shape us and make us who we are today, plus without my ex i wouldnt have my kids and they are worth every unhappy year i spent with him
im just being careful about any future decisions lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Im happier now ive given up "looking for the one" and now just enjoy peoples company ..I can love someone but not be "in love" and i much prefer that than the other if im honest.
No pain and heartache, just nice friends |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I want to experience love so I have kids and someone I can call my best friend..
i dont class the way i feel about my kids as being in love
i love my kids with all my heart but im not in love with them "
same here  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honestly for me it's once. I was convinced I never could. Yet when I found it my whole world moved.
Lost that now and honestly not sure I'll ever have that again.
Cali |
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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago
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why are people so coy about love.
i have only been in love once,i'm still in love,no matter what happens in the future,i will always know i have had love.
love is not optional,love is not a tick chart,love is not an opinion,love is not a fashion,love should not be denied.
love doesnt come a long often,sometimes you've got to take a chance.;-) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i have never been in love
I got married because i became pregnant not because i loved him, i never loved my hubby infact i spent many years resenting him for wasting my life
We did split in the end, it was never going to last forever, but now i feel its to late, im pushing 40 and i have 3 kids so i dont think love will ever be on the cards for me, noone going to take on 4 lots of PMT lets be honest lol
not that im bothered to be honest, you dont miss what you have never had and ive never been happier being on my own i think single life suits me much better "
My thoughts exactly, your life mirrors mine |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i have never been in love
I got married because i became pregnant not because i loved him, i never loved my hubby infact i spent many years resenting him for wasting my life
We did split in the end, it was never going to last forever, but now i feel its to late, im pushing 40 and i have 3 kids so i dont think love will ever be on the cards for me, noone going to take on 4 lots of PMT lets be honest lol
not that im bothered to be honest, you dont miss what you have never had and ive never been happier being on my own i think single life suits me much better "
Very similar story to mine although i found love after i left my ex husband, then had my heart ripped out. It would take someone very very special to steal my heart again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think I thought I was with my ex, but I know that's not true now. So still looking for that special one, and I know when I do it will be so obvious, and will feel so good. I look forward to that time, and all my past experiences will have led me to it. So I dont feel bad for what is and what has been... (Olly + several pints and a few shorts )
to be honest, even tho i have spent my life either alone or in unhappy marrage, i dont regret a min of it, what happens to us in our lifes shape us and make us who we are today, plus without my ex i wouldnt have my kids and they are worth every unhappy year i spent with him
im just being careful about any future decisions lol"
Likewise, and thankyou to the other responses, that is the most replies I have had to one post since I was on here 4 years ago 
I know I'm only 28, so plenty of time to find 'the one'. I do hope it happens before my mid 30's though, and that the 6 years I spent before won't hold me back in future, it was somewhat of a kick in the teeth! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have loved 3 men in my life, lost any respect for my ex husband which ended my marriage, but I cannot change the fact I loved him.
My lovely who made me see how marvelous being totally in love with one another can be.
And one other. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hmmm twice I think, once in my early twenties and was devastated when we broke up. Had other relationships before i got married at 30. Strangely me ex wife of 12 years I don't feel I ever loved, I was a sperm donor and a pay cheque, but will never regret my two amazing children.
I have recently fallen in love with someone I shouldn't have. I don't believe you can control love or choose it is either there or not. Feel like a 16 year old again all lust and passion and wanting to be with that person 24 hours a day - makes me feel alive.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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i met a man and my heart stopped ..literally , I adored him and him me except for one small thing .... he was married to someone else .. he disappeared ... i was numb , devestated and heartbroken ..i had to pick myself up and brush myself down i spent months crying in my sleep and felt ill ... then i discovered i was pregnant .. alone .. scared .. i decided to go ahead and have the baby alone ..he is the light of my life . fast forward a year and i discover my beautiful man had had a devastating illness which robbed him of his brilliant mind and his memory and that hed been in rehab all this time , when he finally remembered me , he came looking for me , and found me , with our 2 month old son . Love might be a fairytale to some , but for me it was unconditional , I was happy to have had the opportunity to love and wouldnt change a thing . |
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My parents were very strict so we weren't allowed boyfriends. I met my husband whilst walking down the road. It was love at first sight for him...he grew on me.
I'm 52 and only ever been in love once, with my husband.
I truly hope to fall in love again...best feeling in the world to love and be loved. |
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The more i think about it the more i think this is the first time. I aways say the first guy i lived with cause i was so young and heady but he was an evil bastard. Years passing takes away some of the memories and with him being dead you forget what it was really like.
My ex husband i call it a Surface love, it was a form of love but it never altered just stayed at one level.
With jay i love him more and more each day, sometimes i pine for him, we look so mismatched. But he has completely changed my life around, i also feel so protective of him. Now weve been together 6 years and we still say we are in the honeymoon period, its such a contented feeling |
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By *hynottsCouple
over a year ago
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"I really can't believe all these people saying only two or three times! Unless that is, they never "fell in love" when they were teenagers! Surely, whether you now think it was "real" love or not, at the time it was the be-all and end-all...
I have loved every girl I went out with! Not every girl I have had sex with or were mates with, just those who I had a romantic relationship with or I wouldn't have formed that relationship with them!
I can now see that it wasn't like the feelings I have with the lovely Innuendo, but it was love non the less.. I don't have to wait around till the end of my life to know if I am in love, I know it now. Whether she is with me at the end or not, I still love her with a passion... And I hope she continues to love me in the same way xx"
well with me sue was my first and only love never been with a girl till i met her so yes she was and is my first love and still is not once have i ever wanted to change her im very lucky man  never been with another woman till we got in to swinging |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have never been in love  and don't think I ever will be, I've kind of given up on that idea now, I think I'm destined to stay single and be in lust every other week when my daughter is at her dads haha |
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"i met a man and my heart stopped ..literally , I adored him and him me except for one small thing .... he was married to someone else .. he disappeared ... i was numb , devestated and heartbroken ..i had to pick myself up and brush myself down i spent months crying in my sleep and felt ill ... then i discovered i was pregnant .. alone .. scared .. i decided to go ahead and have the baby alone ..he is the light of my life . fast forward a year and i discover my beautiful man had had a devastating illness which robbed him of his brilliant mind and his memory and that hed been in rehab all this time , when he finally remembered me , he came looking for me , and found me , with our 2 month old son . Love might be a fairytale to some , but for me it was unconditional , I was happy to have had the opportunity to love and wouldnt change a thing . "
very touching
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I can honestly say I don't think I have ever truely been loved.. I have been in love twice in my life.. though I think back and think they really never truely loved me.. I know because one told me he never loved me....It would be a great feeling to be in love again but to know I am loved back will be an even greater feeling for me... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Been in four long term relationships
Two including marriage
Only one with a non swinger ( my daughters mum)
Been head over heels truly in love only twice
My relationship days are now done thou lol
Toooo fookin complicated for an old un now xx |
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