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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What do you think of men getting emotional?!
Like crying and shit at TV.
I don't know What has gotten into me lately but for the last year or so I have found I can get teary so much more easier than I used to.
Recent examples - I watched Wildcat on Amazon Prime (watch it!) And Last Of Us episode 3. Both times in the last week i welled the fuck up.
What's your thoughts? Nice for men to do that? Or not 'manly'? |
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"What do you think of men getting emotional?!
Like crying and shit at TV.
I don't know What has gotten into me lately but for the last year or so I have found I can get teary so much more easier than I used to.
Recent examples - I watched Wildcat on Amazon Prime (watch it!) And Last Of Us episode 3. Both times in the last week i welled the fuck up.
What's your thoughts? Nice for men to do that? Or not 'manly'?"
Sure. Do it. Emotions are sexy.
Let it out. It makes you so much stronger on the long run. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What do you think of men getting emotional?!
Like crying and shit at TV.
I don't know What has gotten into me lately but for the last year or so I have found I can get teary so much more easier than I used to.
Recent examples - I watched Wildcat on Amazon Prime (watch it!) And Last Of Us episode 3. Both times in the last week i welled the fuck up.
What's your thoughts? Nice for men to do that? Or not 'manly'?"
Nothing wrong with a man being on touch with their emotions, acknowledge them, talk them and display, I see many men get emotionally vnuerable..
Long gone are those belief systems that men, don't talk about or display feelings....there is freedom in emotional honesty |
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By (user no longer on site)
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All for men showing their emotions to help with MH, but it would be a huge turn off for me if a man started crying watching TV. I'd find it emasculating. |
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"All for men showing their emotions to help with MH, but it would be a huge turn off for me if a man started crying watching TV. I'd find it emasculating."
Quite right - as soon as bambis mother dies id be on you like a rutting stag showing how I deal with tragic and senseless loss!!   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Lol don't come to my house on veterans day or memorial day you will think someone set off a CS grenade. They toast remember cry and hug. So yes it's ok to cry.
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I can be a bit weird about it, and that bothers me.
It never used to be an issue, but I'm far too wary of it being deliberate emotional manipulation. And I know I shouldn't think that. But sometimes it's like my gut just freezes and I don't know how to process it. The way the L word can get used almost as a call and response to try and coerce someone into saying it back, the crying because they're upset that they hurt you so that the hurtful thing is less relevant than them being upset about it somehow, I can't quite reconcile it right in my head yet.
So, for now, I struggle to see people be emotional if I'm not prepared for it. I know it's a me problem, I am in therapy still and working on it. No-one should have to hide genuine emotion from me, and I hate that I react the way I do these days. Sometimes I have to walk away for a bit to clear my head and recognise the person for who they are and not the person that played those games. But I do come back to try and help once I've got through that. And I will get better, it's just going to take time to heal. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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its good to show emotions ive always told my boys its ok to cry and to be angry /upset and to ask for help if its needed so many men struggle and pretend they are ok and often get to no point of no return so many men have cs cos they couldnt cope |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can be a bit weird about it, and that bothers me.
It never used to be an issue, but I'm far too wary of it being deliberate emotional manipulation. And I know I shouldn't think that. But sometimes it's like my gut just freezes and I don't know how to process it. The way the L word can get used almost as a call and response to try and coerce someone into saying it back, the crying because they're upset that they hurt you so that the hurtful thing is less relevant than them being upset about it somehow, I can't quite reconcile it right in my head yet.
So, for now, I struggle to see people be emotional if I'm not prepared for it. I know it's a me problem, I am in therapy still and working on it. No-one should have to hide genuine emotion from me, and I hate that I react the way I do these days. Sometimes I have to walk away for a bit to clear my head and recognise the person for who they are and not the person that played those games. But I do come back to try and help once I've got through that. And I will get better, it's just going to take time to heal."
i understand that i still have barriers up and cautious because of a past relationship - be kind to you its baby steps xx |
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I'm perfectly happy for men to express their emotions, eg crying, whether on TV or in real life.
There's an honesty and sincerity in that, because we're conditioned not to. So anyone who goes against that grain is showing you a sincerity and truth they've probably fought for years not to show and keep repressed.
You know the saying, the beer goes in and the truth comes out ? I believe it's the same with men crying. If you see us cry you can pretty much guarantee we're not acting. It's the most vulnerable side of us we are exposing and whilst some of those tears are likely to be our own shame at exposing our weakness, many will be for the subject at hand too.
I rarely cry, but sometimes something in a film will catch me. Tonight was a good example. I was watching Vikings:Valhalla and Freydis just returned to the camp to collect her child. She was almost half dead, and about to walk in to certain doom (no spoilers). I found that willingness to sacrifice everything immensely moving and I misted up a bit. (I do get invested in characters if they are acted well and I'm engaged with the story).
(I did wonder why she didn't having a training montage and get her strength back before going for the End Boss. Or sneak in to the camp and catch him alone, preferably asleep, but I suppose the latter wasn't honourable in their culture. Then again, taking a child isn't honourable either, so I'd have said all bets are off and offed him in his sleep. Loki would have approved  |
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I'm conflicted. But that's because I don't show vulnerable emotion unless I'm alone (learned behaviour from historical abuse)
So if he was over sensitive with crying it would annoy me, but that's my issue not his |
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I despise the term 'man up' 
Men and boys are so much more vulnerable than women/girls because of this so-called societal norm.
I find men in tune with their emotions very sexy and self-confessed 'Alpha males' a total turn-off Mrs. |
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"I despise the term 'man up'
Men and boys are so much more vulnerable than women/girls because of this so-called societal norm.
I find men in tune with their emotions very sexy and self-confessed 'Alpha males' a total turn-off Mrs."
Anyone who calls themself an alpha male - isnt and is also suspiciously twatlike! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Having just recently finally sought help for mental health my new outlook says why are we even asking this.
We are humans we have emotions why stifle them
This is coming from an ex soldier who lived on bravado and bullsh't |
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"I despise the term 'man up'
Men and boys are so much more vulnerable than women/girls because of this so-called societal norm.
I find men in tune with their emotions very sexy and self-confessed 'Alpha males' a total turn-off Mrs."
Totally agree |
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"I despise the term 'man up'
Men and boys are so much more vulnerable than women/girls because of this so-called societal norm.
I find men in tune with their emotions very sexy and self-confessed 'Alpha males' a total turn-off Mrs.
Anyone who calls themself an alpha male - isnt and is also suspiciously twatlike! "
We call them "Eejits" in Ireland |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I despise the term 'man up'
Men and boys are so much more vulnerable than women/girls because of this so-called societal norm.
I find men in tune with their emotions very sexy and self-confessed 'Alpha males' a total turn-off Mrs.
Totally agree "
Alpha male can be used in a way that downdraft take the user of the term a d'ck but it most cases not lol |
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"I despise the term 'man up'
Men and boys are so much more vulnerable than women/girls because of this so-called societal norm.
I find men in tune with their emotions very sexy and self-confessed 'Alpha males' a total turn-off Mrs.
Anyone who calls themself an alpha male - isnt and is also suspiciously twatlike!
We call them "Eejits" in Ireland "
Yes - Liverpool its Bell end!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I despise the term 'man up'
Men and boys are so much more vulnerable than women/girls because of this so-called societal norm.
I find men in tune with their emotions very sexy and self-confessed 'Alpha males' a total turn-off Mrs.
Anyone who calls themself an alpha male - isnt and is also suspiciously twatlike!
We call them "Eejits" in Ireland
Yes - Liverpool its Bell end!! "
Generally - Twat |
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"I despise the term 'man up'
Men and boys are so much more vulnerable than women/girls because of this so-called societal norm.
I find men in tune with their emotions very sexy and self-confessed 'Alpha males' a total turn-off Mrs.
Anyone who calls themself an alpha male - isnt and is also suspiciously twatlike!
We call them "Eejits" in Ireland
Yes - Liverpool its Bell end!! "
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