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Many people look at profiles before deciding whether to read messages. Are you giving your best impression? There's also a message preview and I know I use it to decide if I'm going to open a message |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yay 
I love these ones!! First!
Right op, here’s the thing. I’ve not even looked at your profile so I’m gonna whop out some bland advice and hope it fits.
Your profile is your advertisement for yourself. What does it show? Are your pics good? Is there eleventy billion cock pics? Is your text eye catching? Have you sold yourself in a true and accurate representation of who you are and what you want? Have you avoided cliches?
Most people will look at the profile before the decide to open the message, if it doesn’t grab their attention they won’t open the message much less reply.
What does your message contain? Is it a one word waste of time? Is it a 5000 word essay detailing your darkest fantasy while also being littered with poor spelling and quite clearly a copy and paste job? Did you look at the profile you’re messaging and see what they’re looking for? Some want face pics, others don’t want dick pics.
Last of all, don’t lose faith! There’s someone out there for everyone and you’ll find them eventually! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Putting some effort into a profile, always helps matters.
This is the long and short of it, your a single male floating in a sea of cock. If you have expectations and any entitlement those need to go..
Look at other males profiles, who do get somewhere on here, gauge what they have done with their profiles.
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I note your height. Women can be fussy about height (I have received messages just because of mine), so make sure you are messaging those that are shorter than you.
Your profile could be a lot more insightful. A lot |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yay
I love these ones!! First!
Right op, here’s the thing. I’ve not even looked at your profile so I’m gonna whop out some bland advice and hope it fits.
Your profile is your advertisement for yourself. What does it show? Are your pics good? Is there eleventy billion cock pics? Is your text eye catching? Have you sold yourself in a true and accurate representation of who you are and what you want? Have you avoided cliches?
Most people will look at the profile before the decide to open the message, if it doesn’t grab their attention they won’t open the message much less reply.
What does your message contain? Is it a one word waste of time? Is it a 5000 word essay detailing your darkest fantasy while also being littered with poor spelling and quite clearly a copy and paste job? Did you look at the profile you’re messaging and see what they’re looking for? Some want face pics, others don’t want dick pics.
Last of all, don’t lose faith! There’s someone out there for everyone and you’ll find them eventually! "
Well said. You get “very sensible of Tunbridge Wells”! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yay
I love these ones!! First!
Right op, here’s the thing. I’ve not even looked at your profile so I’m gonna whop out some bland advice and hope it fits.
Your profile is your advertisement for yourself. What does it show? Are your pics good? Is there eleventy billion cock pics? Is your text eye catching? Have you sold yourself in a true and accurate representation of who you are and what you want? Have you avoided cliches?
Most people will look at the profile before the decide to open the message, if it doesn’t grab their attention they won’t open the message much less reply.
What does your message contain? Is it a one word waste of time? Is it a 5000 word essay detailing your darkest fantasy while also being littered with poor spelling and quite clearly a copy and paste job? Did you look at the profile you’re messaging and see what they’re looking for? Some want face pics, others don’t want dick pics.
Last of all, don’t lose faith! There’s someone out there for everyone and you’ll find them eventually!
Well said. You get “very sensible of Tunbridge Wells”!"
Yay |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Welcome to fab!!
It really is difficult unfortunately, the single guy to woman and couples is just crazy
There's probably
80% single guys
10% couples
10% women
So you really do need to make some effort in your message,that being said it still doesn't mean they will open your message or even reply if they do read it
I send lots of very polite messages and still after a year or more find it incredibly hard to try and get a meet
Just keep trying OP |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP, your profile screams “I’m married and/or attached and cheating”, coupled with spelling/grammar issues and randomness!
Doomed, in a sea of doom  "
Very upbeat, love the positivity... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just relax OP take a step back and breathe. Spend time getting to know people maybe right here in the forums, let your personality come through although being negative and doing threads like this won’t help, obviously the right potential meet has surfaced yet but that doesn’t mean they won’t, would you even want a message from somebody who doesn’t want to get to know you … personally I’d rather get no messages than pointless ones.
My main advice would be put some real effort in reading profiles and finding others with a similar mind set and outlook then relate to that with a well constructed message that will stand out, imagine how much junk mail they’ve got through previously before reaching yours.
Good luck |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
Patience
Effort
Conversational skills
Having low expectations of replies
Accepting that it won't be easy
Realising that it's not instashag
Good photos
Engaging on the forums
Going to clubs (optional)
Going to organised socials (optional)
Not thinking with your dick
Not lowering your standards
Talking to people as if they were humans and not a hole
Looking at Fab as just a means to make contact rather than some kind of service
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*the above is a shopping list. Pick and choose what you will but all will help |
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I think it's also important to add that not everyone is looking for new people at that specific time (unless maybe they are exceptionally matched to the their desires). Many of us have busy life's and not much time for swinging and it's associated admin. So a lot of people won't reply. And an unsolicited message is not owed a reply. This happens for couples and single ladies too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's hard for most single men to get a meet let alone a message OP, I been here for 8 months and met nobody. Hopefully you meet someone eventually, good luck |
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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago
Bedford... (or anywhere beginning with B..!?) |
"Does anyone who asks for help even take the help offered?
No. No they don’t  "
Definitely copy your earlier message FC and can paste it out liberally when these threads rock up ...maybe one day, just one will take the advice  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Op enjoy it for what it is , I've been on here about a year now and chatted to a few people who are all mouth and nothing else , just accept it for the shits and giggles and go from there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Here’s my honest thoughts on all of these posts.
Be yourself
Why ask for profile advice of others as then it’s not your profile but someone else’s and doesn’t represent the real you but just what people think you should say
If you want dick pics on your profile. Have them. Have as many as you want. I have seen many women’s and couples profiles where there are multiple parts of the anatomy on display but they don’t get the same distain
Don’t have a scatter gun approach. Read a profile and see if something resonates to you
Remember everyone is showing you the perception they want you to see. Be that in their photos or their profile or how they interact on here. Perception can sometimes be very different to real life out of here
And lastly don’t let the place drag you in and question who or what you are. There truly is someone for everyone. You just have to find them
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"Ffs took so long typing that I’m not first anymore 
Do you not have it saved on your phone to copy and paste??  "
I have my little set of templates for messages on my phone.
One day no doubt I’ll copy and paste one to my solicitor or something  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fella,
A few things to note being a single guy on here;
1 - the odds are stacked against you, greatly
2 - 90% of single blokes on here are chancers & grifters and they ruin things for the rest of us.
3 - a good & thorough profile goes a long way, recent pics too.
4 - just socialise and the rest will come in time.
5 - manage expectations accordingly, no one owes anything to anyone.
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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago
Bedford... (or anywhere beginning with B..!?) |
"Don't show dick pics. Don't limit upper age because not all over 50s are old or not attractive anymore. Just be honest and polite. "
 we become unattractive when we hit 50!?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You cannot accommodate that would put a lot of women off.
How and why?
Do women imagine going to a guys house?
Serious question.  "
Hell.
No.
Hotel only, I don't want dodgy bed sheets thanks. |
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"You cannot accommodate that would put a lot of women off.
How and why?
Do women imagine going to a guys house?
Serious question. "
Depending on the rest of the profile it is often a clue that they're not actually single. So it puts people off.
But hotel or club all the way unless you get to know someone well enough.
J |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Swanage |
"Don't show dick pics. Don't limit upper age because not all over 50s are old or not attractive anymore. Just be honest and polite.
we become unattractive when we hit 50!?? "
Really well youve a few years to go better make the most of them |
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By *heelerMan
over a year ago
Northants |
"Distance puts folk off it sucks op. It is what it is.
Hang in there... Perseverance, endurance, patience.
Best wishes op"
I agree the distance factor the ones i seem to be getting on with live miles away.Ive been on that journey drove quite a way then they got cold feet and left me drinking a coffee on me own. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does anyone who asks for help even take the help offered? "
I’ve never seen anyone take up a single shred of advice. Asking for help is step 3 in a constant cycle. Plan-do-check-act.
Guys seem to get to the check stage but there is no action on the feedback, no iteration of the plan, no change. |
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"Don't show dick pics. Don't limit upper age because not all over 50s are old or not attractive anymore. Just be honest and polite. "
"Not all over 50s are old or not attractive".
Awesome Compliment!! |
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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago
Derry |
"Don't show dick pics. Don't limit upper age because not all over 50s are old or not attractive anymore. Just be honest and polite.
"Not all over 50s are old or not attractive".
Awesome Compliment!! "
Fuck it, I'll take it if you don't want it. It's been a pretty thin week. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You cannot accommodate that would put a lot of women off.
How and why?
Do women imagine going to a guys house?
Serious question.
Hell.
No.
Hotel only, I don't want dodgy bed sheets thanks. "
Crusty bed sheets not doing it for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’d say work on you’re p e..the needing to be discreet bit would put us off.
Sorry but if you messged me I’d look at you’re pe first then not open your message with how it is.
Good luck |
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You have to have a well written, kind of detailed profile, a good variety of photos, taking part in forum challenges does help out with this.
Your messages should be well written, personal to the profile you are sending, not just copy and paste. The message is like Goldilocks, it shouldn't be too long or too short.
And then even then, if you do all that, don't be expecting shit loads of replies!
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By *dy-ukTV/TS
over a year ago
Alcester |
I've met loads of people who are on here, only I didn't meet any of them on here. I met them by going out to clubs, events and socials, making friends and finding out they were on here too. |
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"I’d say work on you’re pe..the needing to be discreet bit would put us off.
Sorry but if you messged me I’d look at you’re pe first then not open your message with how it is.
Good luck "
Can I just say it brings me so much joy that the little "" smiley pops up when you guys type profile  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Any single guy should not get worked up over the fact that most ..if not all... Depends really..of his messages may go unopened or read and not replied to , there is something that the other person isn't interested in ...it's really that simple. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s just because no one opens the msgs "
Absolutely no one I mean no one, owes you anything. If they don't open your message, then there is a really loud message in the silence..
I know what that would mean to me, repeatly message and send more dick pics |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What would make u read it
Op, I'll put it to you this way, what would you like to see in a message if a lady messaged you first.
Easy. Big tits  "
Not everyone is as blessed as you though Rex are they |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"Many people look at profiles before deciding whether to read messages. Are you giving your best impression? There's also a message preview and I know I use it to decide if I'm going to open a message "
Very clever.
On what’s app if you’re still unsure you can turn your phone sideways and see a few more words |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What would make u read it
Op, I'll put it to you this way, what would you like to see in a message if a lady messaged you first.
Easy. Big tits
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Bless  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can we keep replies in the forum please
No I'm sliding in now, in fact I'm coming at you from all angles "
Nigel we’ve talked about this. My ear is out of bounds. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can we keep replies in the forum please
No I'm sliding in now, in fact I'm coming at you from all angles
Nigel we’ve talked about this. My ear is out of bounds. "
Flo we've spoken about boundaries, and there being none |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can we keep replies in the forum please
No I'm sliding in now, in fact I'm coming at you from all angles
Nigel we’ve talked about this. My ear is out of bounds.
Flo we've spoken about boundaries, and there being none "
Fine. Bed over then |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can we keep replies in the forum please
No I'm sliding in now, in fact I'm coming at you from all angles
Nigel we’ve talked about this. My ear is out of bounds.
Flo we've spoken about boundaries, and there being none
Fine. Bed over then "
No lube this time, i wanna feel it ripping |
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"It’s just because no one opens the msgs "
Your profile is boring. You have two pics and not even a paragraph of written text. You have a lot of competitors and a half covered up bicep pic and a hooded 6" cock is not going to have the women of fab filling up your inbox. I hope my advise isn't harsh but I'd rather tell you the truth than BS.
Read the description on the person you are contacting and cater your response accordingly.
Add a few more photos not just of your cock. Add more to your bio, let the person who reads your profile want to know more. Add vids, make your profile entertaining.
Hope my advise helps if you want any help pm me
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hmmmmm.
Weird. My profile is boring, I.have zero pics public, they're all shite anyway. Yet funnily enough I 'survive' just fine....crazy world I guess.
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OP don't rely on this site solely go to the events with 0 expectations except being able to meet friendly down to earth people have a laugh enjoy some music and if anything more happens it's just a bonus
That's the best way to gain a connection with others or you will be feeling deflated and miserable by trying on here.
People play all sorts behind a screen proof is in the pudding when your face to face with people . all the best happy fabbing xx |
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Your profile is no different than 10,000 other guys - a standard cock pic and a t-shirt pic holding your phone, whilst in the mirror.
And what little you’ve put suggests you aren’t single.
It would be a delete from us.
K |
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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago
Bedford... (or anywhere beginning with B..!?) |
"Don't show dick pics. Don't limit upper age because not all over 50s are old or not attractive anymore. Just be honest and polite.
we become unattractive when we hit 50!?? Really well youve a few years to go better make the most of them "
Every minute counts then! |
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"OP, your profile screams “I’m married and/or attached and cheating”, coupled with spelling/grammar issues and randomness!
Doomed, in a sea of doom
Very upbeat, love the positivity..."
Absolutely nothing positive about OP’s profile 
Don’t blame the owl |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You cannot accommodate that would put a lot of women off.
How and why?
Do women imagine going to a guys house?
Serious question.
Hell.
No.
Hotel only, I don't want dodgy bed sheets thanks. "
I have lovely bedsheets.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You cannot accommodate that would put a lot of women off.
How and why?
Do women imagine going to a guys house?
Serious question.
Depending on the rest of the profile it is often a clue that they're not actually single. So it puts people off.
But hotel or club all the way unless you get to know someone well enough.
J"
Hotels ARE perfect. I can leave the room for someone else to put back together. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You cannot accommodate that would put a lot of women off.
How and why?
Do women imagine going to a guys house?
Serious question.
Hell.
No.
Hotel only, I don't want dodgy bed sheets thanks.
I have lovely bedsheets. "
Are they plain white cotton ones? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You cannot accommodate that would put a lot of women off.
How and why?
Do women imagine going to a guys house?
Serious question.
Hell.
No.
Hotel only, I don't want dodgy bed sheets thanks.
I have lovely bedsheets.
Are they plain white cotton ones? "
….. yes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s just because no one opens the msgs "
A lot of patience is required, try and make the message interesting and funny and not just crude. Don't send a dick pic unless asked. But patience is really the key, different people are attracted to different things... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP, your profile screams “I’m married and/or attached and cheating”, coupled with spelling/grammar issues and randomness!
Doomed, in a sea of doom
Very upbeat, love the positivity...
Absolutely nothing positive about OP’s profile
Don’t blame the owl "
He wasn't asking for advice on his profile though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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1, don't beg
2, don't expect a reply just cause this is a sex site, also don't just hand out dick pics like smarties
3, be genuine people can smell bs a mile away
Only been on for few weeks personally but I can see a pattern of people complaining, getting involved on the forums definitely helps have had quite a few decent chats on there |
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