It's only something I'd do with my partner, not with anyone from here.
If others what to do it, that's their choice, I presume they have weighed up the risks.
At least if they're upfront about it, you can avoid people who do want bareback if it's not for you.
When I was single I used to get men who would try for bare and say oh I'd only meet you. Not a chance mate, if you do it with me, you'd do it with other people. |
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"It's only something I'd do with my partner, not with anyone from here.
If others what to do it, that's their choice, I presume they have weighed up the risks.
At least if they're upfront about it, you can avoid people who do want bareback if it's not for you.
When I was single I used to get men who would try for bare and say oh I'd only meet you. Not a chance mate, if you do it with me, you'd do it with other people. "
It is our preference but we also play safe to respect the ones we play with, it’s not a must  |
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By *hoirCouple 2 weeks ago
Bury St Edmunds/Clacton |
"Having a search for people that do bareback and obviously tested, let’s see what people think of bareback "
Barebsck is for us and us alone. We have debated it if we had a third though but only if certain criteria was met.
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"Our preference if everyone happy and always happy to test in advance of any possible meets if been pre arranged
That’s kind of how we feel about it, as long as everyone is happy  "
That’s the main thing  |
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By *dc1Man 2 weeks ago
essex and all over the south |
The test is only as good as the day the test was carried out. Who knows who that person was with the next day and if they had something. If so its being passed on with a negative test result. Nope its not for me |
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So do folk carry around their certificates that give them the all clear? Do they present their all clear text from the GUM clinic before shagging? How long after the date of the certificate/text is it acceptable to shag? How do they prove they've had no sexual contact between the date of said certificate/text and you? So many questions... |
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"Bareback for us is only between us. Some things we don't want to share and bareback is one of the ways we reclaim.
But if anyone prefers bareback with others then that's cool too  "
we are the same. Although will tend to avoid those that do bare with others a lot regularly...more as we guess we won't be compatible...
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"Having a search for people that do bareback and obviously tested, let’s see what people think of bareback "
Bareback plus PrEP & regular testing works for many. It’s safe.
I’m belt & braces, so I trust to PrEP & condoms.
Have to rely on regular testing for the oral STIs (syphilis, gonorrhoea, etc.) as (almost) no one uses condoms and dams for oral.
We can get syph from kissing (if there’s a mouth chancre), so it’s all risk, of course.
Everyone on here should be testing, but there is such a thing as lower risk bareback, thanks to PrEP. |
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With each other, yes!
With people from here? No chance.
We get messages on a daily basis from ‘straight’ single males who are really bi but don’t want to put people off, the risk is not worth it. What else are they lying about?
Fair play to you if you want to take that risk but not for us. |
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lol
When you talk to many on here and other sites they all say Safe only on their profiles but then it comes out the do plenty of Bareback.
I'm divorced now but the Ex and I always did BB. Both lived full lives and experienced so many ups and downs so when we decided swinging was something we wanted to go along with we decided life deserves the best. So BB was the best thing for us. At first always with couples only and then went in for only men due to many different reasons. In all the time we played around we only ever got Chlamydia and found very quickly it was with a couple we had met a few times who insisted on only going with couples and females. After that we pretty much always did single or more preferably married men. The fact that we only ever got Chlamydia was probably more to do with luck but such is most things in life. Spoken to many who use condoms all the time and noted many got all sorts of STI's. Condoms don't keep you safe lol just safer and the best sex is always without wrapped cocks. |
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"The test is only as good as the day the test was carried out. Who knows who that person was with the next day and if they had something. If so its being passed on with a negative test result. Nope its not for me"
Not strictly true, a full screen is good, but some infections such as syphilis and HIV can have a 3 week to a 3 month incubation period, so a negative test is only 100% reliable for 3 months prior to a negative test |
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By *-ChelmoMan 2 weeks ago
Chelmsford/Edmonton |
Enjoyable when it’s with your SO. Have always been a bit cautious with it with couples I’ve played with but have in the past. No qualms about joining a bareback couple but me playing safe. Only fair after all to respect others wishes/health. |
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By *ee04Man 2 weeks ago
Thurrock |
I think we all would prefare bareback, we all know it feels better.
However would I do it no, it’s not worth the risk.
I have been to events were I have seen people men and woman bounce from one to the other not knowing or asking who’s been tested.
After seeing what I’ve seen it’s not for me. |
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Loving all the replies and it’s good to hear all the different opinions.
We completely understand all the concerns and they are all valid
Ourselves have only played BB once since we have joins the swinging world and that was with tests before, and knowing the couple |
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By *amesnplanesMan 2 weeks ago
North Dublin, Leeds, Brighton |
There's more to worry about in life than the ins and outs of this.
I'd prefer to meet with folks who play bare compared to others with a substance interest!
It's all about making informed choices and mitigating the risk |
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By *bi HaiveMan 2 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Having a search for people that do bareback and obviously tested, let’s see what people think of bareback
Bareback plus PrEP & regular testing works for many. It’s safe.
I’m belt & braces, so I trust to PrEP & condoms.
Have to rely on regular testing for the oral STIs (syphilis, gonorrhoea, etc.) as (almost) no one uses condoms and dams for oral.
We can get syph from kissing (if there’s a mouth chancre), so it’s all risk, of course.
Everyone on here should be testing, but there is such a thing as lower risk bareback, thanks to PrEP. "
How many of the 30 odd STD's out there does PrEP work against?  |
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“Better safe than sorry” if you have multiple meets the chance if becoming a super spreader becomes more mathematically problematic
If you are a trusted FWB and you have a trusted dialogue then the real deal is always better
If in doubt wear a condom
*Good facts are given on here too, in this thread above.
In my view, |
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By *exbecs12Woman 2 weeks ago
Land of roman gods |
"Having a search for people that do bareback and obviously tested, let’s see what people think of bareback
Bareback plus PrEP & regular testing works for many. It’s safe.
I’m belt & braces, so I trust to PrEP & condoms.
Have to rely on regular testing for the oral STIs (syphilis, gonorrhoea, etc.) as (almost) no one uses condoms and dams for oral.
We can get syph from kissing (if there’s a mouth chancre), so it’s all risk, of course.
Everyone on here should be testing, but there is such a thing as lower risk bareback, thanks to PrEP.
How many of the 30 odd STD's out there does PrEP work against? "
Maybe Sydney uni knows |
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