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By *amhorniest OP   Man  over a year ago

Surrey

Have you ever made the first move and approached a single male on here?

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple  over a year ago

The bottom of the River Ankh

Nope... nor would I.... can't be doing with the whole rejection thing lol

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman  over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Yup.

Sometimes it works out. Sometimes I get rejected.

It's rare I do see someone and reach out. But it does happen

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By *mmaleiaWoman  over a year ago

Trowbridge


"Have you ever made the first move and approached a single male on here?"

All.the.time

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

That's how I prefer to do it. Filters up, send the messages, plenty of calamine lotion on hand for the sting of rejection.

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By *ustBoWoman  over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Yes I have.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman  over a year ago

Reading

No

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Nope... nor would I.... can't be doing with the whole rejection thing lol"

Oh er, I was lucky then, cos I got a wink

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By *eliWoman  over a year ago

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Yep. I don't approach it as anything but a "you seem cool, fancy chatting" message and I've not... not had a reply. Works for me.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Why wouldn’t you message a guy on here first?

My hunch is that most women are bombed out by messages and can even login with out 69 messages jamming there inbox up.

Probably don’t even get time to search profiles and send the first message.

I stand to be corrected on this issue

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman  over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"Why wouldn’t you message a guy on here first?

My hunch is that most women are bombed out by messages and can even login with out 69 messages jamming there inbox up.

Probably don’t even get time to search profiles and send the first message.

I stand to be corrected on this issue "

Several just block single men from messaging to avoid that kind of burnout.

If they send someone a message, the site whitelists that person from the single male block.

It works for people

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Why wouldn’t you message a guy on here first?

My hunch is that most women are bombed out by messages and can even login with out 69 messages jamming there inbox up.

Probably don’t even get time to search profiles and send the first message.

I stand to be corrected on this issue

Several just block single men from messaging to avoid that kind of burnout.

If they send someone a message, the site whitelists that person from the single male block.

It works for people "

What Prey said.

The only downside to this approach is that you will never look cool on the "how many views..." threads.

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By *parkle1974Woman  over a year ago

Leeds

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Why wouldn’t you message a guy on here first?

My hunch is that most women are bombed out by messages and can even login with out 69 messages jamming there inbox up.

Probably don’t even get time to search profiles and send the first message.

I stand to be corrected on this issue

Several just block single men from messaging to avoid that kind of burnout.

If they send someone a message, the site whitelists that person from the single male block.

It works for people

What Prey said.

The only downside to this approach is that you will never look cool on the "how many views..." threads."

Oh yes I get that the other downside is single guys can not wink or appear on who’s looked at you tab

Have i got that right?

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By *ivemealadybonerWoman  over a year ago

somewhere

God no! Are you mad OP?!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Er yes. That way I don't need to whine and moan about the crap messages in my inbox as I can ignore them and concentrate on those I like. Works for me.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman  over a year ago

London

Yes, especially on the back of the forum games threads. Works for me.

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By *orphnStormMan  over a year ago

Pontypridd

Yes, quite a few times. If someone interests me, then why not.

I've also taken men out on a first date, and paid the bill.

Invited Storm to dinner a few weeks back actually at a very nice local Italian restaurant.

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By *weetiepie99Woman  over a year ago

cardiff

No

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Have you ever made the first move and approached a single male on here?"

Yes

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By *EAT..85Woman  over a year ago

Nottingham

Yes, plenty of times. With mixed responses as I'm not everyone's cup of tea. This place would go a lot smoother if women grew a back bone and hunted for themselves rather than unhappily trolling through the dross that fills their inboxes.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Yes, plenty of times. With mixed responses as I'm not everyone's cup of tea. This place would go a lot smoother if women grew a back bone and hunted for themselves rather than unhappily trolling through the dross that fills their inboxes. "

100% agreed but why don’t they do that?

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By *exyScientistsCouple  over a year ago

Castlebar

Lots of times...wink, fab, message...

Even if it just leads to a quick flirt and a chat

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Yes I have xx

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Yes it's easier that way

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By *abonTedCouple  over a year ago

Midlands & Cheltenham

I did a fair bit when I just had my single profile…but I mainly kept the filters closed so it was that or nothing

It’s a lot different/simpler on a couples profile, in terms of volume and approach.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I don't meet men but I would send a message to a woman if I was interested.

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By *ornycougaWoman  over a year ago

WHEREVER I LAY MY HAT

It's rare. But yes I have on a number of occasions

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Yes and it was worth it

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By *luebell888Woman  over a year ago

Glasgowish


"Have you ever made the first move and approached a single male on here?"

Of course I have. Life's too short to sit on the fence.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Yes, those I’ve messaged first haven’t led to disappointment so far.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple  over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

For sure.

Mrs TMN x

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By *iss DevilWoman  over a year ago

Bedford

Yes, ended up in an open relationship with them, 5.5 years now and counting

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By *aizyWoman  over a year ago

west midlands

Yep

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By *mf123Man  over a year ago

with one foot out the door

These birds get a lot of questions its far better to be the answer

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By *ophieslutTV/TS  over a year ago

Central

A lot

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman  over a year ago

Basingstoke

Yes, reasonably often.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

No

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple  over a year ago

The bottom of the River Ankh


"Nope... nor would I.... can't be doing with the whole rejection thing lol

Oh er, I was lucky then, cos I got a wink "

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By *y AmoreMan  over a year ago

london

All these yes’ one day I hope to get one

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By *nytime2023Couple  over a year ago

Gloucestershire

When we are seeking single guys, I will often send messages first. Sometimes I get responses and sometimes I don’t. K xx

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman  over a year ago

your head

Yep!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Yes, I went for it and kissed him after a group social night out. Fully expected him to run away, but he didn't and still doesn't to this day!

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By *luehairedcumslutCouple  over a year ago

St Neots

Not yet...being a newbie the inbox is pretty full so don't need to. But I would

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By *naswingdressWoman  over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yes. Some of my best and most disastrous meets have been a result of me messaging first.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Yes. Some of my best and most disastrous meets have been a result of me messaging first."

Imagining best and most disastrous being in the same meet - so for example, an amazing romp but broke the bed in the process

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By *naswingdressWoman  over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Yes. Some of my best and most disastrous meets have been a result of me messaging first.

Imagining best and most disastrous being in the same meet - so for example, an amazing romp but broke the bed in the process "

lol. I'm thinking of multiple people

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By *ansoffateMan  over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Oh they like to think they made the first move, but it's all in the

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By *9 Love-To-TryCouple  over a year ago

East Anglia

I asked my boss to take me to bed

Does that count

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By *hloe577Woman  over a year ago

glasgow

I do occasionally, but yes generally the ladies are bombarded with messages so usually easier just to filter those and find fun, my location is the biggest annoyance when looking for hotties

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By *inger_SnapWoman  over a year ago

Hampshire

Very occasionally... Usually in response to a status, but usually only if they've got a fave pic up.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I do occasionally, but yes generally the ladies are bombarded with messages so usually easier just to filter those and find fun, my location is the biggest annoyance when looking for hotties"

Oh my goodness that is a tough place to find yourself a 3sum

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I have although i get nervous x

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By *amhorniest OP   Man  over a year ago

Surrey


"God no! Are you mad OP?!"

Maybe lol

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Certainly did, 4 years later and I still get the butterflies

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By *uri00620Woman  over a year ago

Croydon

With a couple's profile i sent messages to single women moreso. I have sent to men before, infrequently though.

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By *ittlebirdWoman  over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"Have you ever made the first move and approached a single male on here?"

Yep

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By *uenevereWoman  over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Not on Fab, as I'm not looking to meet single guys.

If I was I would and in real life I've made the first move.

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By *elightfulDuo01Couple  over a year ago

Bristol

Yes, and have had some amazing meets with them

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By *inxy777Woman  over a year ago

essex

Nope never!! I know I’d be ignored! X

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By *riel13Woman  over a year ago

Northampton

Of course

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Ladies feel free to approach me lol

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By *lue NotebooksCouple  over a year ago

Merseyside

Yes I have a few times to those who have caught my eye been lucky enough to receive replies from one or two legends

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By *ed VoluptaWoman  over a year ago

Wirral.

Very very rarely, with 50% success rate.

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By *rinnyKCouple  over a year ago

Near Mansfield

I have messaged first a few times but usually send a wink tbh

Prinny x

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By *ealitybitesMan  over a year ago

Belfast

The last time I sent a first contact message was in January 2020.

Every conversation I've had in the last 4½ years has been started by women making the first move and contacting me.

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By *cLovin2Man  over a year ago

London


"Yes"

I'm kinda shocked that you managed that.

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By *1newfunWoman  over a year ago

Eastleigh

I haven’t yet. I had to ask husband where the message instigation button was, for future reference!

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By *exySiren01Woman  over a year ago

RCT

Yes all the time I don't hesitate if someone catches my eye

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By *hoirCouple  over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

Not once, not looking for single guys though. If we were looking I can think of a couple of forumites I'd happily invite

P

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Have you ever made the first move and approached a single male on here?"

Often and regularly x

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