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Hi everyone, so it seems to be getting very difficult on here to have a conversation with a woman let alone anything else.
Demands seem to be getting more and more and the do's and don'ts are making it very difficult to approach a woman.
I know the men far out weigh the ladies on here but it's getting near on impossible to get a meet.
What is a man meant to do and how to approach such demands?
Is there just a handful of guys getting all the attention?
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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One woman's demands is another woman's 'preferences'. There is a pattern of women behaving on here opposite to how they would in the real world and they only make these demands because men allow them too. Quite frankly, they expect the world from guys without really giving anything in return. Let me say it's not all women but a lot of them need to calm their ego and have a reality check.
From my side personally, the only the 3 C's that I need from a play partner.. communication, consistency and cock. |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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Women can be very picky because their inboxes are filled to overflowing with horny men. Given that ratio they'll say and do whatever they want knowing they'll have their pick when the mood takes them.
I've realised that FAB is not the place for the average single man to meet a woman of a similar mind so I don't both trying. I (was) just here for the banter and chat in the forums but even that's a prickly affair (from both women and men). I find the block feature is probably the most common thing I use on here. If the site supporter fee wasn't so low and easy to pay then I wouldn't bother.
I've had a good couple of socials in the real world through local clubs and that's much more friendly towards the single guy but even then you have to jump through hoops which make you feel like you have to apologise for the behaviour of others.
But like anything, it depends what you want as to whether FAB is the place to find it.  |
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By *mmaleiaWoman 25 weeks ago
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"You could always ask your wife for advice?
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Ooof!✋🏻
I’m looking for physical traits I like about a man, after all, ‘it’s a sex site’ and I’m looking for just that for now, so I guess read profiles & you’ll have a better understanding? |
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By *bi HaiveMan 25 weeks ago
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"Hi everyone, so it seems to be getting very difficult on here to have a conversation with a woman let alone anything else.
Demands seem to be getting more and more and the do's and don'ts are making it very difficult to approach a woman.
I know the men far out weigh the ladies on here but it's getting near on impossible to get a meet.
What is a man meant to do and how to approach such demands?
Is there just a handful of guys getting all the attention?
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'Demands' are often just preferences and desires. It's how you establish compatibility.
If you don't match what someone is looking for then it's pretty pointless messaging them.
I like it when people have a 'list' as it helps me work out if I might be what they're looking for and equally if they're someone I'd be interested in. Far better than a vague profile that tells nothing.
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"One woman's demands is another woman's 'preferences'. There is a pattern of women behaving on here opposite to how they would in the real world and they only make these demands because men allow them too. Quite frankly, they expect the world from guys without really giving anything in return. Let me say it's not all women but a lot of them need to calm their ego and have a reality check.
From my side personally, the only the 3 C's that I need from a play partner.. communication, consistency and cock. "
This is refreshing to read but I have to say it's the minority of the vocal women on here.
Just like the bad behaviour of previous single men have ruined the experience for all single men, in my eyes at least, the behaviour of the few women you describe has ruined the experience for me. |
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What are you trying to have conversations about?
If someone seems demanding and difficult to approach, why do you want to approach them at all?
People who read profiles and only message people they think are actually compatible are likely having more positive interactions than those who just fling dick pics 💜 |
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"This HAS to be a wind up thread. If not I think we all need to chip in for the LEAST SELF AWARE AWARD on the planet, let alone the site.
It deserves a response of some description."
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There are plenty of cogs ⚙️ and wheels and pulleys in this thread, Grånny. And you control this Fab apparatus. ❤️ |
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"You could always ask your wife for advice?
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Ooof!✋🏻
I’m looking for physical traits I like about a man, after all, ‘it’s a sex site’ and I’m looking for just that for now, so I guess read profiles & you’ll have a better understanding?"
Exactly this.
I will only meet men I am attracted to, so- no matter what anyone else does, they won’t get to meet me if I am not physically attracted to them.
And I think I offer a pretty good package to make all the bloody demands I want 😛 |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"This HAS to be a wind up thread. If not I think we all need to chip in for the LEAST SELF AWARE AWARD on the planet, let alone the site.
It deserves a response of some description."
And you wonder why men don't talk or open up... A man voices an opinion to talk about something that's on his mind and gets rounded on by MEN AND WOMEN who don't like what he said, or how he said it.
Imagine if it was a woman that shared "her feelings" about the men she's encountering. We all now what warm cossetting cuddles she'd get. |
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It’s very simple, if you feel someone’s “demands” are unreasonable, or you don’t meet their “preferences” then just don’t bother reaching out to them.
A lot of men on here put women on some kind of pedestal, blowing up smoke up their arses in the first message and what not without even getting to know them… The moment you stop doing that & look at women as human beings instead of some kind of prize, the better things will be. |
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"The ability to self reflect, to self assess. If the majority of men had this ability we'd see less of these posts."
Exactly. 🪞
A good look in the mirror would give them a lot of insight…. or maybe not. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 25 weeks ago
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"This HAS to be a wind up thread. If not I think we all need to chip in for the LEAST SELF AWARE AWARD on the planet, let alone the site.
It deserves a response of some description.
And you wonder why men don't talk or open up... A man voices an opinion to talk about something that's on his mind and gets rounded on by MEN AND WOMEN who don't like what he said, or how he said it.
Imagine if it was a woman that shared "her feelings" about the men she's encountering. We all now what warm cossetting cuddles she'd get."
Nope. I'd give the same advice to a woman, couple or guy, and have.
There's been plenty of threads started by women and couples on the same subject where I've seen the same responses. It's not a 'guy thing'.
The difference being some men will hop on any thread with an 'I'm not like them, I'm different' response in the hope of currying favour, and women are less likely to do so.
You (generic you, not you personally) can blame the ratios. You can claim women and couples have some kind of advantage on site and rule the roost. You can claim life isn't fair and equal for men. None of those are usually true or at fault for any lack of responses or interactons.
People often say they have 'no luck' on site. It's not about luck. It's about effort, expectancy, patience and realising that much as in vanilla life we're unlikely to be compatible with a high percentage of other people here. 🤷♂️ |
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"A lot of men on here put women on some kind of pedestal..."
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They're doing it all wrong. They should be putting them on marble plinths, neoclassical columns and bronze platforms. These women have never had it so good. |
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"I know what you mean. I was recently asked to stand on one leg in the corner wanking and aim it into her mouth while she sat on the bed blocking men and FAB.
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May I request an introduction, she sounds like my kind of woman. Aloof, precise and demanding. |
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"A lot of men on here put women on some kind of pedestal...
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They're doing it all wrong. They should be putting them on marble plinths, neoclassical columns and bronze platforms. These women have never had it so good."
Orrrrrr… let’s just give everyone the same energy and keep things on an equal playing field…
But I appreciate your comment was one in jest 😂 |
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By *bi HaiveMan 25 weeks ago
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"It’s very simple, if you feel someone’s “demands” are unreasonable, or you don’t meet their “preferences” then just don’t bother reaching out to them.
A lot of men on here put women on some kind of pedestal, blowing up smoke up their arses in the first message and what not without even getting to know them… The moment you stop doing that & look at women as human beings instead of some kind of prize, the better things will be. "
100% this.👌👌👌
And the same is just as true in clubs. Talk to people. Stop seeing them as just someone to fuck. |
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"This HAS to be a wind up thread. If not I think we all need to chip in for the LEAST SELF AWARE AWARD on the planet, let alone the site.
It deserves a response of some description.
And you wonder why men don't talk or open up... A man voices an opinion to talk about something that's on his mind and gets rounded on by MEN AND WOMEN who don't like what he said, or how he said it.
Imagine if it was a woman that shared "her feelings" about the men she's encountering. We all now what warm cossetting cuddles she'd get."
When you say , 'and you wonder' , by you do you mean me ? I'd like to know before I reply. Or by you do you mean YOU in which case it should be 'I' as if you are going to own what you have just said and then there's no need for me to reply ?
Thanks. Just asking because 'I' as in me which would be you to you doesn't wonder about it...... thanks again. |
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"It’s very simple, if you feel someone’s “demands” are unreasonable, or you don’t meet their “preferences” then just don’t bother reaching out to them.
A lot of men on here put women on some kind of pedestal, blowing up smoke up their arses in the first message and what not without even getting to know them… The moment you stop doing that & look at women as human beings instead of some kind of prize, the better things will be.
100% this.👌👌👌
And the same is just as true in clubs. Talk to people. Stop seeing them as just someone to fuck. "
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"What is a man meant to do and how to approach such demands?
Send them a dick, pico."
Be original, use a can of fancy deodorant, not Lynx Africa! (And remember - Lynx Africa is for life, not just for Xmas!) |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"People often say they have 'no luck' on site. It's not about luck. It's about effort, expectancy, patience and realising that much as in vanilla life we're unlikely to be compatible with a high percentage of other people here. 🤷♂️"
Absolutely agree there!
I used to be one of the Bad Luck Crew, until I changed the way I think and interact with online dating/casual places.
Man, I'd get so upset about not getting any attention, regardless of what online service I was using. Frustrated and even slightly angry, to a certain extent.
Funny thing is, a lot of that sexual frustration can be solved by just doing it yourself. Clear your mind and start over. We all want to fuck, it's part of life. But sitting around hoping and expecting it to happen here really doesn't help at all.
Care less, expect less, make some effort and try to enjoy yourself. It's as simple as that.
The last one is paramount. If it's not fun, leave. Either take a break or try somewhere else. Sites and apps are everywhere these days.
I've been here before, for around 6 months (I think, I don't have a concept of time, but that's what it felt like lol) and didn't get one match. Only responses were "No thank you" so I deleted my profile and occupied my mind with other things for a while.
I don't believe that staying on any site or app, for any period of time without at least a short break, is good for a person's mental health.
Look after you first. No potential sex is worth destroying yourself over (although I know some will likely make daft comments about that and I wouldn't expect any less lol).
The more upset and frustrated you are, the less likely you will appeal to another. If a potential meets see you complaining all the time in posts and statuses about "how bad things are" then you're kinda shooting yourself in the foot.
Care less.
Expect less.
Make some effort.
Enjoy yourself. 😉 |
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"What women want 😂 that's different from woman to woman, I want women.
There's tons of men to every woman/couple, I never understand why guys join a swingers site and expect easy sex?
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you mean we actually need to put some effort into an interaction with other human beings and can't just receive immediate gratification? I did not see this in the terms and conditions when I signed up- god damn you Sydney University!!!! |
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Get noticed through chat. Join in with the forum topics can cam room discussions. Have fun and make friends. Anything else is a bonus. Regarding looks, women usually have a "type" (no matter what is said here) so make it a challenge to get past that and help them stray from it! |
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Women are individuals op, so they're not all after the same thing.
Read their bios and it will often tell you what they look for though, that's where many go wrong.
You won't appeal to some ladies because you're married though and that will reduce your chances. |
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By *enelope2UWoman 25 weeks ago
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I don't "meet" anyone that can't communicate and who use vague overused words like "play" fun" "discreet" "meet".
If he can't read a profile, understand location, and compose an introduction message that shows at least he's compatible in an initial conversation it's not going to go past reading.
Hi, love your profile and pictures. The one in the red stockings do you wear that one often? you looked nice in them definitely my favourite. I'm about 15 minutes from your general area. I see you don't like a coffee meet so how about a game of darts. Maybe I will be a bullseye and at worst maybe a target you might have just a laugh with on a night out. Hopefully you're interested, if not cheers and take care.
See it's not hard to READ And address something specific to a person and profile. Not all of us on here are desperate.
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The status. The two pictures. The lack of info on a bio. That ridiculous fake legal point people put on their bio is the majority of it. You're married, that removes you from 95% of women and couples on fab. The other 4.9% is everything else I said above it.
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"The status. The two pictures. The lack of info on a bio. That ridiculous fake legal point people put on their bio is the majority of it. You're married, that removes you from 95% of women and couples on fab. The other 4.9% is everything else I said above it.
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👆this
Dont blame women and change your profile status first |
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I know that being married puts 95% of ladies off which I completely understand.
I have tried different approaches in both messages and profile.
I've now opted a straight to the point approach.
And people's comments about ask your wife etc your entitled to your opinion but you don't know my circumstances. |
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I wouldn't say I'm picky but I know what works and what rushy. Local men are more likely to become regular fwbs. So that's what I ask for. If you are not compatible with a profile it saves you wasting your time messaging. |
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By *vaRoseWoman 25 weeks ago
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Everyone has preferences OP, you need to accept that and if you see a profile that indicates you’re outside of their preferences move on to the next.
When I receive a message I look at the profile. Is it engaging? Detailed in their wants and needs? Or is it a long legal disclaimer with some gumph about me needing to contact them for the bare basics info… essentially leaving me to do all the legwork and waste both our times when we realise our wants do not match.
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"That's the thing I read all the info etc and message if I fit the criteria and what they are looking for. Not as if I'm not reading what they want"
Fitting the criteria of a profile doesn't mean that that elusive element of mutual attraction will be there. Attraction is so much more than a set of requirements.
It's similar to buying a house. The description on line sounds great, just what you're after, it had everything you want but although you can appreciate that it looks nice in the photos is just not quite what you're after. |
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"Hi everyone, so it seems to be getting very difficult on here to have a conversation with a woman let alone anything else.
Demands seem to be getting more and more and the do's and don'ts are making it very difficult to approach a woman.
I know the men far out weigh the ladies on here but it's getting near on impossible to get a meet.
What is a man meant to do and how to approach such demands?
Is there just a handful of guys getting all the attention?
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Women want Cake  |
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"Hi everyone, so it seems to be getting very difficult on here to have a conversation with a woman let alone anything else.
Demands seem to be getting more and more and the do's and don'ts are making it very difficult to approach a woman.
I know the men far out weigh the ladies on here but it's getting near on impossible to get a meet.
What is a man meant to do and how to approach such demands?
Is there just a handful of guys getting all the attention?
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The fact that you're married might put some women off. It definitely does me. |
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"Listing your married and cannot accommodate screams cheater. And alot of women don't want that"
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Listing that he's married simply tells us that he's...married.
The fact that he's unwilling to accommodate tells us...nothing whatsoever. |
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"Listing your married and cannot accommodate screams cheater. And alot of women don't want that
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Listing that he's married simply tells us that he's...married.
The fact that he's unwilling to accommodate tells us...nothing whatsoever."
I tend to agree Nero.
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"So what if I didn't say I was married on my profile?
I like the married ones, they aren't overly needy and don't message you constantly.
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what if one was married, but can't find their wife for 14 years now,? Last one heard she was living in Turkey,,?? How would one put that Shite on ones Profile  |
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I found that going to clubs and events was invaluable. It helped with my confidence and understanding and improved my profile and messaging.
I've had some good exchanges with couples and ppl have said how refreshing it is to be sent a face pic instead of 'yet another cock'
In the end though I got lucky and was messaged first, I now have a regular FWB.
Women get hundreds of messages. Whilst men get very few replies. I found sadly that as you can't beat them, I had to join them, by messaging a lot of women at once. However I always read their profile and try to find where we have something in common. And I make sure to personalise each message rather than simply saying 'hi there'.
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