Going on from and not wanting to highjack Mr Pickles post on “fat men”, so a question for all
If you’re talking to someone and check their verifications and notice that they are successfully verified by someone who is the total opposite or partial opposite to you in looks or body shape does that put you off from messaging them?
When I say verified I mean not only verifications where it says or implies that something sexual happened but also just in general? |
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It wouldn’t put me off. But it might make me less likely to anticipate a reply if, for example, all their veris were from gym fit people. I’d only actually be put off if they explicitly specified a particular preference.
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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I understand how this is a factor and was talking to my fiancé about it.
I don’t check verifications really so no it doesn’t factor in for me. But I think if I found out someone was never around people like me or sexually with people like me, I’d feel weird about it. But it wouldn’t out be off.
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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No, I’m not put off.
I’ll ask anyone I like the look of to check me out.
Whether I get a response or not is a different matter, but fuck it….i’ll take my shot.
I married the complete opposite of me, in terms of size and stature, thanks to taking that shot. |
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I get it, we're larger people and people have winked us, messaged us who verifications have no one like us on there or themselves nothing like us in shape/size. Also we've had some really hot times with single men, ladies and couples who when we've looked on the their profile after haven't got anyone like us shape/size wise in there verifications.
What we've learnt is often for a lot of people character and chemistry seem to be key components to attraction. However obviously there is a element of physical attraction even if we've not their "traditional type". Which is logical really when we look at ourselves. We like the larger figure however a lot of the people we've found chemistry with and played with have been all different shapes/sizes and sometimes the complete opposite to us. I think getting to experience a variety of different people is one of great things about the lifestyle. |
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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No, never.
I like various different body types myself, so it would be odd to assume other people only have very limited and specific tastes. Maybe some people do, but I won't find out until I message them. |
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"I don’t read them anymore it’s all bollox from group socials, piss taking or graphic details of sex.
I would rather figure someone out myself without nonesense from others distracting me "
This is true, most of them are bollocjs. The sarcastic ones put me off haha  |
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By *oxy-RedWoman 24 weeks ago
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Well it would make me think if all the guys verrie where from slim ladies but the biggest turn off would be if the verries where graphic, we all know what fab is so in my opinion we don't need graphic verries |
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"Well it would make me think if all the guys verrie where from slim ladies but the biggest turn off would be if the verries where graphic, we all know what fab is so in my opinion we don't need graphic verries"
I agree graphic version just make me cringe |
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There have been occasions where I have noticed that a persons verifications are made up of a very specific type and I have not messaged because I do not fall into that type.
There have also been occasions where initially I thought that bit after reading their profile my decision has changed and I have messaged.
I think it all depends on a profile as a whole but type in verifications has certainly influenced me. |
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By *a LunaWoman 24 weeks ago
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Yes, if they meet folk who have toned physiques and look “glam” then I realise I probably won’t be for them as I’m more akin to a squishy overly plump sofa that has seen a lot of action.
Not THAT kind of action!
Sadly!
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By *HUSH-Man 24 weeks ago
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Verifications to me are just confirmations from others that the person is real. I don’t always read them though.
A bio is the most important thing to me on here. What are they looking for? What are they like?
It’s a great filter. |
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By *HUSH-Man 24 weeks ago
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I didn’t answer your question 🤦
No it wouldn’t put me off. People can like all different types.
I personally can’t give an answer as to what I’m attracted to. I either feel attraction or I don’t. |
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By *vaRoseWoman 24 weeks ago
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I tend not to read them, but if their profile states a specific preference for a body type other than mine I wouldn’t bother messaging or replying. Being an exception their rule isn’t a compliment |
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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I do feel a little intimidated if they only meet people who are gym fit and aesthetically, body perfect. I do wonder why they message me, when all I bring is the jelly. 😆
I would probably feel like a compromise. 😊 |
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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"I assume I'm nobody's type anyway so I wouldn't make things harder for myself by scrutinising their verifications!! 
How can you believe you're nobody's type???"
You haven’t seen her face |
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If they have described someone who looks very different to me as their ideal woman or words that imply that I would feel that I was like an understudy. So yeah, it would put me off.
If all the people they'd met were much younger it would put me off too.
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I wouldn't say it puts me off but it makes me think twice. The verifications are invaluable to me because it gives me an insight to what type of men that woman has met and whether if there's anything above and beyond that I can offer.
I rarely message and therefore it's a moot point...but if I've come across a woman whose profile is majestic in every way but her verifications are exclusively (and intentionally) from tall men or black men, then I become extremely reticent in engaging with her. I don't represent her demographic. |
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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"It’s all about their body’s not who they’ve met to which I don’t even bother to read veri’s "
I'm a little different, although I do not find bigger ladies to my liking and my wife is petite as is my GF/fb one of my clients was a married lady with zero confidence at size 22, we got on so well and I did find her attractive and after only a few training sessions ...very unprofessional of me...we just couldn't resist each other and became lovers.
I think the chemistry between two is far more important than body types.
I don't chat that often on here and never read verifications.
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Unless they've expressed a taste for fat birds in their profile I probably wouldn't message first if all their veris were from very fit, very attractive ladies.
If they've messaged me, the physiques of the people in their veris is unlikely to stop me responding. I have some very clear photos showing my size - if they're messaging me I figure they've seen them and know what they're doing! |
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I can be put off more by sexual remarks that makes me think maybe we aren't compatible, as for body size if someone had only ever met size 8 women or size 22 women I'd probably wonder if I was their type, but then again we wouldn't be chatting if I wasn't.
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