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By (user no longer on site) OP 23 weeks ago
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When you’re naked for the first time in front of them or when you first tell them how you feel or when you ask for help with something.
When you’re vulnerable with someone, how does it make you feel afterwards? |
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Depends if they're vulnerable back/it goes well or whether they might laugh at me or cancel or run away or something.
If there's genuine mutual attraction and it's all hunky dory, then I feel a million dollars, tbh. |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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I hate being vulnerable.
I am finding it happens quite a lot on here though. We are being pushed outside our normal comfort zones and exploring new ones.
The way it has made me feel really all depends how the other person has reacted.
If I have been vulnerable with someone though they have earnt it.
If they then act like a dick then they will never darken our door again.
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I don’t like the feeling of vulnerability… but we all have to be sometimes
With one of my last relationships he asked me to dress up… specific kind of outfit, heels, Stockings… all of it… when I did, he laughed… he said it was cos he was so shocked… but damage done and letting myself be that little bit vulnerable left my confidence destroyed…
Recently I met a guy who loves the kinkier side with outfits etc… I let myself be vulnerable again…. And it felt fucking amazing… never felt as sexy…
So long winded way of saying it’s so dependent on how the person you’re vulnerable to takes the gift you’re giving them. |
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"Asking for help always me feel vulnerable and I hate it, which is why I hardly ever ask for help"
Totally understand this feeling. I'm having to work through/round it because otherwise, right now, I'd be absolutely ballsed. I'd not be able to get washed or dressed properly  |
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Very much depends on their response. Over the years I've had a whole host of reactions to my vulnerability from support to being told how it could be worse. Or the best one I don't want to know.
When it goes right it's the best feeling ever, finding someone who'll listen and try to understand. When it goes wrong it's heartbreaking. |
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Being naked with someone for the first time is an incredibly vulnerable moment for me because I'm convinced the person I'm with will take one look and change their mind, get dressed and scarper.
Once I'm past that I never feel that way again with that person and will happily wander round in the nip without embarrassment, but that first moment is a terrifying one.
In terms of how I feel afterwards, I don't really feel anything as at that point I'm usually more focused on the lust than on other feelings.
I'm a simple creature. |
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I don’t feel vulnerable when I’m naked with people, and I have no problems admitting I don’t know or can’t do something and asking for help. I have felt vulnerable on the few occasions when I’ve confided in people about the things that have happened to me in the past. It took a lot of talking and closeness for me to reach that level of trust. The last time, the individual ghosted me (and us) on the anniversary of our daughter’s funeral. They also turned some other friends against me (and us) and so we were ghosted on multiple fronts at the same time. I’ve never allowed myself to be that vulnerable with anyone again, and I probably never will (Ailsa excluded of course). |
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"When you’re naked for the first time in front of them or when you first tell them how you feel or when you ask for help with something.
When you’re vulnerable with someone, how does it make you feel afterwards? "
I remember a previous FWB I had, the first time we had sex he was feeling vulnerable and awkward. To break the tension he goes "so this is my penis" and we both started laughing. Still makes me chuckle now.
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I don’t feel vulnerable being naked - it’s just me without clothes. I do appreciate others might not feel the same way so I will always try to make them feel comfortable - whatever they feel happy with is good for me. |
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I'm pretty much an open book from the outset in terms of openness vulnerability.
There's definitely a point where I decide that this is one of my people and drop those last few guards, but it's not much different to before that point. I prefer to be open and feel vulnerable for it than silently neglect what I want and what I am.
Actual nudity is a one for me. But by the time I decide I'm going to drop the fishnets and all my little distractions and covers for the parts of me I don't find aesthetically pleasing, I don't feel vulnerable by showing all my flaws to that person. |
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I'm only vulnerable with my closest friends and I like being able to let ALL of my guards down, with trustworthy loved ones.
The liberation feeling is very soul soothing, as it doesn't happen very often due to busy lives.
My worst trait is distrust and I'm a hard nut to crack. |
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Depends on the situation.
It's the male half here.
Being vulnerable in front of people that look up to me in a vanilla or family setting feels awful.
Being vulnerable in an erotic encounter or BDSM situation is a powerful and heady experience, especially the first time. Or every time if limits are being explored. |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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It depends on the situation and who the other person is. I've never found being naked or telling someone how I feel an uncomfortable experience.
Asking people for help is another matter. I'm shit at it and I'm not sure why. |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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It always depends how they respond...
I find it difficult to be vulnerable for the usual blokey reasons. I'm the one people rely on, I'm the one that provides. I'm the rock solid one that just gets shit done.
Unfortunately, last time I showed a vulnerability it was weaponised in subsequent rows so I guess it's not something I'll do again. |
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