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Age gap, is it frowned upon?
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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You'll find some to frown on anything on this site. Yes, some will see it as a problem, others won't. Just find your people and enjoy.
Also, I tip hat to you sir. I'm not looking for an LTR but do like the energy younger ladies bring to relationships. |
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"When it looks like you're shagging your son/daughter or dad/mum then yes, age gap relationships are frowned upon by the swinging and non swinging community."
I don't think it is, it happens every day in the clubs and I've never heard anyone make a comment on age difference
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"When it looks like you're shagging your son/daughter or dad/mum then yes, age gap relationships are frowned upon by the swinging and non swinging community. I don't think it is, it happens every day in the clubs and I've never heard anyone make a comment on age difference "
Totally agree |
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It's not frowned on, unless under age, but it won't be for all.
It may be easier if you create a couple profile and add pics of you both there.
Most won't entertain a single male profile asking for someone to join him and another lady. |
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14 years between us and we've been together for 30 years now ( most gave us 2 weeks or a tad longer) but think some people think the older male some how influences etc etc the younger female ? and so yes some do have a problem with it ? but more insulting to the younger person if you think about be they male or female ?  |
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"When it looks like you're shagging your son/daughter or dad/mum then yes, age gap relationships are frowned upon by the swinging and non swinging community.
I don't think it is, it happens every day in the clubs and I've never heard anyone make a comment on age difference "
That's because people don't make public comment and it's more acceptable in clubs, but in general it is frowned upon and just because some don't think it isn't doesn't make it so.
Those of a more predatory* disposition will obviously go on about age only being a number and meaning nothing but obviously it does.
*not all, but some. |
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It will be a problem for some.
I'd imagine the bigger barrier is that you have a single male profile claiming to have a girlfriend who wants to be involved, with no evidence that she exists or, if she does exist, that she consents |
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By *urge72Man 25 weeks ago
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First off I think it is important to make the distinction between play and relationships.
If you meet someone in a club that is of a significantly different age and both parties want to play, then I can see no problem. Everybody has their own taste, and let's be honest, there are plenty of us guys when we were younger who were totally smitten by older experienced ladies. I am in no doubt that there are young ladies (not all) in their 20's who have a desire to experiment with an older experienced guy..
If both parties are consenting and wish to play, then why not. Clubs are typically safe environments and as long as everyone is responsible and respectful then I see no issue.
When it comes to relationships, it can be a bit more challenging as you will be seen by others outside of the swinger world and you will face scruitiny and maybe disdain, but as long as you are both open to it and there is no coercive behaviour or pressure from either party, it can work. It will just likely take more effort then a relationship where the age difference is less significant. At the end of the day it is each persons free choice. |
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Thank you all for your comments, very interesting to read. We will make a couples profile in the next day or two. She’s does exist lol it’s working in retail on the run up to Christmas has been manic for Sophie. I’m relaxing on the other hand as I’ve finished 😂😂 |
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There is way too many chancers on here where it's a single man profile but has got "gf/wife/FWB/FB" looking to join him to meet ladies or couples. Best to set up couple's profile when you can, OP. |
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It depends on their age for me personally.
When I was 17 I lost my plates to a 37 year old.
The biggest gap younger than me was a 29 year old I was seeing a few months back.
I’ve had a few ladies between 21-23 proposition me for a D/S dynamic over the last month or so which is quite common in that dynamic.
Normally it would be a strong no from me but 1 of them explained her reasons in a way that really made sense so I’m more open to it now.
I’d have to meet them in person first though as realistically I don’t know how comfortable I would be. |
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I had guy who was 18 and I was 57, we remained lovers for 2 years and even now we chat and exchange Xmas greetings last week but sadly no longer lovers. He developed a lot of skills in his time with me 🤪🤪 |
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Someone put a rule in a post while back, I can't remember now, but it seemed similar to the conversion from Fahrenheit to Celsius.
Maths is always right, so there's no need to consider any other factors. |
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By *JandCMCouple 25 weeks ago
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We have had guys join us for meets who are well over 25 years younger.
We find there ok for one off meets, but as for conversation or long term relationship find it quite hard as their a completely different generation to us. |
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I love relationships with younger women, the energy & attitudes, but I’d be cautious of NSA for say under 25 , I expect that’s what’s happening with you it’s not frowned upon so much as maybe unwise,22 is extremely young to be introduced to others |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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I was 18 and meeting a women 48 on my weekends off from the navy. Best thing I ever did as for 9 months had the biggest smile on my face and learnt a lot of lessons lol |
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Age preference is for everyone a personal preference we have our low end set at 25 because we have a 22 year old child and neither of us would take a chance that we might be talking to someone in her possible friends group if you understand what we mean. I'm sure there are lots 9f lovely people under 25 but it's just our preference that we don't want to meet them |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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"I love relationships with younger women, the energy & attitudes, but I’d be cautious of NSA for say under 25 , I expect that’s what’s happening with you it’s not frowned upon so much as maybe unwise,22 is extremely young to be introduced to others "
I was 22 and in an age-gap relationship when I started swinging so I'm not sure I'd agree that it's very young. |
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Firstly... Legerrrrrrrrnd!
Secondly, and to be honest, I think it's frowned upon in general society and you will get a lot of judgement because it's generally not a done thing. There's more tolerance towards it on here but people will judge regardless because even though you're two consenting adults, there's always the question of the power dynamic in that situation. |
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"Hello All, I’m 46 and straight, my GF is 22 bisexual. She’s wanting a couple or female to join us, it’s hard work! Is the age difference frowned upon? "
Who cares what people think. You’re not living your life for them. Would they care for your opinion on them? Do what is right for you! |
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Last gf was 20 years younger than me, and before that I hooked up with someone almost 30 years younger than me.
If anyone makes it an issue, then great - it just proves I'm important enough for them to care. 😉 |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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"When it looks like you're shagging your son/daughter or dad/mum then yes, age gap relationships are frowned upon by the swinging and non swinging community.
I don't think it is, it happens every day in the clubs and I've never heard anyone make a comment on age difference
That's because people don't make public comment and it's more acceptable in clubs, but in general it is frowned upon and just because some don't think it isn't doesn't make it so.
Those of a more predatory* disposition will obviously go on about age only being a number and meaning nothing but obviously it does.
*not all, but some."
Wild to call it predatory behaviour!
Different people like different things and it’s not fair to yuck someone else’s yum so long as there was no foul play and it’s all legal and consensual!
There is 12 years between myself and my partner. He likes older women and I prefer my guys younger with more stamina! It is what it is! |
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"I love relationships with younger women, the energy & attitudes, but I’d be cautious of NSA for say under 25 , I expect that’s what’s happening with you it’s not frowned upon so much as maybe unwise,22 is extremely young to be introduced to others
I was 22 and in an age-gap relationship when I started swinging so I'm not sure I'd agree that it's very young."
You don’t have to agree for it to be right.
This is why they have challenge 25 for alcohol. Young girls will often lie about their age to get with older men. Plus someone with very limited independent life experiences away from their parents is not someone I want to have NSA sex with. |
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Age does play a big part on fab mostly. That being said my last meeting was a mere 30 years old and I was 66 and that lasted almost a year. So there are people out there who prefer the older single male. |
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"It’s not frowned upon but you’ll probably find that many on Fab will be uncomfortable playing with young women or men who are the around the same age as their own children, myself included. "
Agreed, we only have a small age gap but we get messages from men and men in couples who are old enough to be Florence's father. |
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Haven't had any issues with our age gap yet. But we don't feel it. We just get on like a house on fire.
Do find it a bit odd when single guys say that have a "young" friend who wants to play. Something of a turn off as they often have no personal dynamic with this person and simply using it as an access point to couples. |
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Don't worry about what others think. My fwb is much older than me and we're both happy. When out together, people often say to me "it's nice that you're taking your mother out". We just find it amusing. |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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Don't worry about it, OP. Age gap relationships are nothing new. My FWB has had such a tough life he looks about 75, even though he's nearly six years younger than me. A hot grandad... Think Paul Newman in his 70s. It's not all bad. |
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"I got loads of abuse, I'm now 58 she is 35. We held a joint party my 40th birthday and our 5th anniversary, the abuse was shocking.
Abuse from guests you invited to your party ? How awful. "
Awful? Maybe. Warranted? Perhaps. If he's telling the truth he would have had his 17 year old girlfriend at his 40th birthday party. The fact he's saying he was also celebrating their 5th anniversary means he was with her since she was 12. I doubt this is all factual but...🤷🏾♂️ |
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"I got loads of abuse, I'm now 58 she is 35. We held a joint party my 40th birthday and our 5th anniversary, the abuse was shocking.
Abuse from guests you invited to your party ? How awful.
Awful? Maybe. Warranted? Perhaps. If he's telling the truth he would have had his 17 year old girlfriend at his 40th birthday party. The fact he's saying he was also celebrating their 5th anniversary means he was with her since she was 12. I doubt this is all factual but...🤷🏾♂️"
I think his joke has been missed |
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"I got loads of abuse, I'm now 58 she is 35. We held a joint party my 40th birthday and our 5th anniversary, the abuse was shocking.
Abuse from guests you invited to your party ? How awful.
Awful? Maybe. Warranted? Perhaps. If he's telling the truth he would have had his 17 year old girlfriend at his 40th birthday party. The fact he's saying he was also celebrating their 5th anniversary means he was with her since she was 12. I doubt this is all factual but...🤷🏾♂️
I think his joke has been missed"
Ahhhh, ok. |
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Possibly by some people. You're also looking for the more sought after demographic like bisexual women who meet couples which isn't easy.
There will always be someone that has an issue, you can't please everyone. |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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"Hello All, I’m 46 and straight, my GF is 22 bisexual. She’s wanting a couple or female to join us, it’s hard work! Is the age difference frowned upon? "
If two adults of legal age decide that they like each other then its nobody else's business. Good luck to them and well played I say  |
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If two adults of legal age decide that they like each other then its nobody else's business. Good luck to them and well played I say "
It is a problem if one is in a position of trust over the other eg GP, therapist, prison officer etc |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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Every lovely person I care deeply for in a romantic way is older than me. And I don’t give a fuck what anyone else thinks about my love. It’s not their business. |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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If two adults of legal age decide that they like each other then its nobody else's business. Good luck to them and well played I say
It is a problem if one is in a position of trust over the other eg GP, therapist, prison officer etc"
Well yes, there are some exceptions of course but that's stating the obvious  |
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I am seeing an amazing younger woman and i don't think it's a big deal. Apart from the fact she is trying to kill me😈
Hours feel like minutes we just click so age has no influence it it at all.
If ye get in what difference does it make. And who cares what others think.
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