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Can you explain what sapiosexual means?
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Are we defining things based on what they mean? Or their common usage?
In common usage, I'd say it means pretentiousness. People who weren't out the back smoking during their GCSEs and thinking that means they're a professor in something. Looking for people who have similarly crawled up their own arses. |
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By *WANDTGCouple 23 weeks ago
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People who love intelligence over physical attraction
On that assumption, they should choose; Stephen Hawking , Albert Einstein or Rowan Atkinson over Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp or Steve McQueen.
Obviously there are handsome clever men out there as well. |
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By *eliWoman 23 weeks ago
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It means next to nothing because it's more often than not incorrectly used.
You like people who are "intelligent"? Fantastic. If their physical features still factor in, are more important, you have a list of requirements for aesthetics and you want someone who's not stupid? You're not sapiosexual, you're just misusing a word. Wanting stimulating conversation does not make you sapio. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 23 weeks ago
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"It means next to nothing because it's more often than not incorrectly used.
You like people who are "intelligent"? Fantastic. If their physical features still factor in, are more important, you have a list of requirements for aesthetics and you want someone who's not stupid? You're not sapiosexual, you're just misusing a word. Wanting stimulating conversation does not make you sapio."
Literally my favourite thing is that people say they’re sapio but the person still has to be hot. I’m attracted to intelligent hot people. I’m not attracted to intelligence.
No but seriously I’m interested to know what it means to different people   |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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A word people use to think they’re better than others
Define intelligence?
A degree. A doctorate. Or no formal education but is outstanding in what they do |
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"It means next to nothing because it's more often than not incorrectly used.
You like people who are "intelligent"? Fantastic. If their physical features still factor in, are more important, you have a list of requirements for aesthetics and you want someone who's not stupid? You're not sapiosexual, you're just misusing a word. Wanting stimulating conversation does not make you sapio."
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I agree with this.
It's a boilerplate of pretentiousness, sometimes found on profiles as an inference to erudition for no purpose whatsoever. It's like having a product that's made in China but festooned with a badge that says "Designed in Paris".
I've spoken to women who had sapiosexual on their profiles but after a little dialogue it was clear they were more sap and a lot less sexual. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 23 weeks ago
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"People who love intelligence over physical attraction
On that assumption, they should choose; Stephen Hawking , Albert Einstein or Rowan Atkinson over Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp or Steve McQueen.
Obviously there are handsome clever men out there as well. "
I’ve definitely found myself attracted to not traditionally attractive people because of their intelligence. But I’m definitely not sapiosexual. I am a shallow shallow man |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 23 weeks ago
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"I wonder if it's like metrosexual.
"I bathe but no homo"
"I read but no homo""
Metrosexuality has always been defined by more than that. Like moisturising. |
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"I wonder if it's like metrosexual.
"I bathe but no homo"
"I read but no homo""
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I'm metrosexual and proud of it. I can prove it too: the price tag far exceeds the quality of (some) of my skincare products. 😘 |
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"I wonder if it's like metrosexual.
"I bathe but no homo"
"I read but no homo"
Metrosexuality has always been defined by more than that. Like moisturising. "
Well yeah.
I bathe, I moisturise, I do my hair, I use products other than an all in one, I care somewhat about appearance. also NO HOMO |
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"I wonder if it's like metrosexual.
"I bathe but no homo"
"I read but no homo"
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I'm metrosexual and proud of it. I can prove it too: the price tag far exceeds the quality of (some) of my skincare products. 😘"
you're just posh |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 23 weeks ago
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"I wonder if it's like metrosexual.
"I bathe but no homo"
"I read but no homo"
Metrosexuality has always been defined by more than that. Like moisturising.
Well yeah.
I bathe, I moisturise, I do my hair, I use products other than an all in one, I care somewhat about appearance. also NO HOMO"
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"I wonder if it's like metrosexual.
"I bathe but no homo"
"I read but no homo"
Metrosexuality has always been defined by more than that. Like moisturising.
Well yeah.
I bathe, I moisturise, I do my hair, I use products other than an all in one, I care somewhat about appearance. also NO HOMO
Pause. "
I lived through it. I tell you, "no homo" was the major characteristic  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 23 weeks ago
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"I wonder if it's like metrosexual.
"I bathe but no homo"
"I read but no homo"
Metrosexuality has always been defined by more than that. Like moisturising.
Well yeah.
I bathe, I moisturise, I do my hair, I use products other than an all in one, I care somewhat about appearance. also NO HOMO
Pause.
I lived through it. I tell you, "no homo" was the major characteristic "
Yeah but the kids started saying ‘pause’ instead I think
Well my brother’s generation did anyway |
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Once upon a long ago, I gave in to a colleague's regular pleas and accompanied her to a barbecue. So? So, it was the monthly social of the local branch of Mensa, of which she was a member.
I have had business meetings with a manufacturer of traffic cones - yes, literally true - which were more interesting. |
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I believe the number of genuinely sapiosexual people is significantly smaller than those who claim to be. Just liking your date to have an IQ higher than 100 and be able to hold a conversation, as one of many attributes, doesn't mean make you sapiosexual. It's just become a trendy/fashionable buzzword. |
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By *vaRoseWoman 23 weeks ago
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I think it’s a term misappropriated by those who think that not wanting to fuck someone who is vain and shallow makes them sapiosexual. I’ve also seen it used by those who will exclude anyone without a degree. Sadly that misappropriation means if I see it used I roll my eyes and think pretentious twat…. Despite me being very attracted to people’s minds.
It really depends on what people define as intelligence.
Academic qualifications are one thing but intelligence to me is so much more than that. Their career is irrelevant.
A sharp inquisitive mind that’s always questioning and examining (including challenging themselves and others), a lust for learning (I don’t care if it’s a new recipe, a knitting pattern or you’re completing your masters in neuroscience), a clever wit that doesn’t punch down and finally emotional intelligence and maturity count for a lot.
Does that exclude physical attraction? No of course not. It means I want both.
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"I think it’s a term misappropriated by those who think that not wanting to fuck someone who is vain and shallow makes them sapiosexual. I’ve also seen it used by those who will exclude anyone without a degree. Sadly that misappropriation means if I see it used I roll my eyes and think pretentious twat…. Despite me being very attracted to people’s minds.
It really depends on what people define as intelligence.
Academic qualifications are one thing but intelligence to me is so much more than that. Their career is irrelevant.
A sharp inquisitive mind that’s always questioning and examining (including challenging themselves and others), a lust for learning (I don’t care if it’s a new recipe, a knitting pattern or you’re completing your masters in neuroscience), a clever wit that doesn’t punch down and finally emotional intelligence and maturity count for a lot.
Does that exclude physical attraction? No of course not. It means I want both.
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"I wonder if it's like metrosexual.
"I bathe but no homo"
"I read but no homo"
Metrosexuality has always been defined by more than that. Like moisturising.
Well yeah.
I bathe, I moisturise, I do my hair, I use products other than an all in one, I care somewhat about appearance. also NO HOMO
Pause.
I lived through it. I tell you, "no homo" was the major characteristic
Yeah but the kids started saying ‘pause’ instead I think
Well my brother’s generation did anyway"
Abe Simpson, cloud, onion, belt. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 23 weeks ago
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"I wonder if it's like metrosexual.
"I bathe but no homo"
"I read but no homo"
Metrosexuality has always been defined by more than that. Like moisturising.
Well yeah.
I bathe, I moisturise, I do my hair, I use products other than an all in one, I care somewhat about appearance. also NO HOMO
Pause.
I lived through it. I tell you, "no homo" was the major characteristic
Yeah but the kids started saying ‘pause’ instead I think
Well my brother’s generation did anyway
Abe Simpson, cloud, onion, belt."
You want the belt do you   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 23 weeks ago
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"It means you fancy Einstein 
I thought it just meant that I could, theoretically, fancy Einstein
Or you may or may not fancy Schrodinger but wouldn't know until you opened the box ."
In all honesty I’m not likely to Schrodinger dead or alive. Because he’s a man. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 23 weeks ago
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"It means you fancy Einstein
I thought it just meant that I could, theoretically, fancy Einstein
Or you may or may not fancy Schrodinger but wouldn't know until you opened the box .
In all honesty I’m not likely to Schrodinger dead or alive. Because he’s a man. "
Wait? Is he dead? |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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"It means you fancy Einstein
I thought it just meant that I could, theoretically, fancy Einstein
Or you may or may not fancy Schrodinger but wouldn't know until you opened the box .
In all honesty I’m not likely to Schrodinger dead or alive. Because he’s a man.
Wait? Is he dead? "
You'll have to open the coffin to find out |
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"I wonder if it's like metrosexual.
"I bathe but no homo"
"I read but no homo"
Metrosexuality has always been defined by more than that. Like moisturising.
Well yeah.
I bathe, I moisturise, I do my hair, I use products other than an all in one, I care somewhat about appearance. also NO HOMO
Pause.
I lived through it. I tell you, "no homo" was the major characteristic
Yeah but the kids started saying ‘pause’ instead I think
Well my brother’s generation did anyway
Abe Simpson, cloud, onion, belt.
You want the belt do you "
Only with an onion on it, as was the style at the time. |
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Sure thing Steve...it's a term pseudo intellectuals have coined that allow them to justify sex with Ugs as that's all they can get, and they claim they're attracted to personality rather than looks. 🥪 |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 23 weeks ago
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"Sure thing Steve...it's a term pseudo intellectuals have coined that allow them to justify sex with Ugs as that's all they can get, and they claim they're attracted to personality rather than looks. 🥪"
can’t justify sex with ugs.
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By (user no longer on site) OP 23 weeks ago
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"I wonder if it's like metrosexual.
"I bathe but no homo"
"I read but no homo"
Metrosexuality has always been defined by more than that. Like moisturising.
Well yeah.
I bathe, I moisturise, I do my hair, I use products other than an all in one, I care somewhat about appearance. also NO HOMO
Pause.
I lived through it. I tell you, "no homo" was the major characteristic
Yeah but the kids started saying ‘pause’ instead I think
Well my brother’s generation did anyway
Abe Simpson, cloud, onion, belt.
You want the belt do you
Only with an onion on it, as was the style at the time."
You bet grandma |
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"Sure thing Steve...it's a term pseudo intellectuals have coined that allow them to justify sex with Ugs as that's all they can get, and they claim they're attracted to personality rather than looks. 🥪 can’t justify sex with ugs. "
as if sex with socks wasn't bad enough |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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"A word people use to think they’re better than others
Define intelligence?
A degree. A doctorate. Or no formal education but is outstanding in what they do "
There are different types of intelligence. My favourite is emotional intelligence! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 23 weeks ago
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"Sure thing Steve...it's a term pseudo intellectuals have coined that allow them to justify sex with Ugs as that's all they can get, and they claim they're attracted to personality rather than looks. 🥪 can’t justify sex with ugs.
as if sex with socks wasn't bad enough"
Socks are soft and warm 😈 |
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"Sure thing Steve...it's a term pseudo intellectuals have coined that allow them to justify sex with Ugs as that's all they can get, and they claim they're attracted to personality rather than looks. 🥪 can’t justify sex with ugs.
as if sex with socks wasn't bad enough
Socks are soft and warm 😈"
sheepskin boots are worse! |
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"If you were to replace the word ”sapiosexual“ with “homosexual” I wonder if folks would be so rude and or ignorant.
If your not sure what it means, just google it but let’s try and be nice "
Don't water your energy, they wouldn't understand. |
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"It means next to nothing because it's more often than not incorrectly used.
You like people who are "intelligent"? Fantastic. If their physical features still factor in, are more important, you have a list of requirements for aesthetics and you want someone who's not stupid? You're not sapiosexual, you're just misusing a word. Wanting stimulating conversation does not make you sapio."
Well, you learn something new every day! 😳
I'm now off to re-evaluate and probably re-write my pretentious, up my own arse, profile! 🤣 In my defence, it does blatantly show my misunderstanding of the word. |
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It’s funny how there’s a lot of people that consider themselves intelligent to be punching down on this…
Yes, sapiosexual is often considered to be an ableist concept, one that is problematic and often misunderstood or misused. I’m going to give it a big old gallic shrug and just go ahead and find people that I like. |
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"It’s funny how there’s a lot of people that consider themselves intelligent to be punching down on this…
Yes, sapiosexual is often considered to be an ableist concept, one that is problematic and often misunderstood or misused. I’m going to give it a big old gallic shrug and just go ahead and find people that I like. "
Some of us were just larking about and playing with words after the craziest day possibly ever, tbh 🤷🏻♀️ |
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