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fellas be honest do you get disheartened after a while when you do not get a reply?
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By (user no longer on site) OP 27 weeks ago
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now i understand purely from a female pov that they are swamped with messages, however question is to guys do you get a bit down or disheartened if you send thoughtful messages and it is left on unread or read and no reply or deleted? |
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I don't send many messages out, but the ones I do, that haven't been replied too. I don't get disheartened. I understand people have a life, I may send another one later on but if they doesn't get a reply, I usually don't bother again. Not one to be pushy or pester.
My tips: deep breaths, chill out and move on with your day. |
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Been on the scene for over a decade and I'd say no. I've had plenty of amazing experiences, it just takes time and patience, if I have 2 meets a year and 3 or 4 good club nights I'm more than happy with that. |
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All you can do as a single guy is give yourself the best opportunity for a reply.
A decent profile, nice enticing pics and a good message and it’ll help with getting a response.
I never looked at my sent box when I was on as a single as that is the height of madness doing that!
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By *ityguyMan 27 weeks ago
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I do send the odd message but they very rarely get read and if they do get read I'm not lucky enough to get a reply so I delete unread messages after a while as most women get swamped so I'm told.
I tend to wink more these days as I'm well out of most ladies age range but winking also doesn't seem to work  |
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Nø. Not at all.
I don't send the first message, unless it's on the back of a forum thread, question, game or challenge.
If it's an ongoing conversation, say, instigated by a woman, then I just assume they are no longer interested. |
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The last introductory message I sent on here was in January 2020 so I can't remember if it was replied to or not.
When I was sending messages I had a 50 percent success rate with replies but then again I wasn't sending a lot of messages. At most maybe 2 or 3 a month and I deleted them as soon as I sent them so I didn't feel inclined to check if they were read or not.
As far as receiving new messages I used to average one a month but now that's more like one every 3 or 4 months.
I did get a bit disheartened in the very early days but haven't in a long time because I'm in full control of my fab experience and don't rely on advice or input from anyone else. |
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"now i understand purely from a female pov that they are swamped with messages, however question is to guys do you get a bit down or disheartened if you send thoughtful messages and it is left on unread or read and no reply or deleted? "
You can’t afford to feel disheartened or the site will eat your soul imo
Have no expectations of replies etc and if you get one it’s a bonus |
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Yes.
I know I shouldn't, I know how "the game is played" but when you take the time to tailor a message to a profile (especially as I may only message one profile a month...)
If I didn't get "downhearted" if I don't get a reply then what was the point of messaging, because I would it message if the profile resonates with me. |
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