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When a conversation starts to feel dry. Do you try to restart it or just let it run its course?
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I'm not currently meeting and haven't been for a few years so if a conversation starts to go dry I just let it fizzle out.
I've carried enough conversations over the years so if they aren't feeling it enough to make an effort I'm not going to either. |
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I do tend to match energy - if I can't keep a conversation going then I let it fade out rather than drag it out on my own.
There are other great conversations that just come to a natural conclusion and I will pop a "how's it going" type message to people I've enjoyed chatting with. |
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Sometimes I get a bit frustrated with the need to constantly keep chat going. I think the best friendships are the ones where it’s okay to let a conversation end. Another one will come along when it’s ready. |
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We don’t like conversations when people feel the need for almost daily contact. It’s monotonous.
If we’re meeting then we are pretty responsive on the approach.
I don’t care what you got up to last weekend or what you’re cooking tonight and yes, we’re fine. |
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I never force anything in a conversation. I like things to flow and I enjoy the to and fro that feels natural and wanted. If it frizzles out, I'll leave it frazzled. 🙂 |
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Some come, some go, some fade then come back. Then fade again. Returning to Fab chat. Ones that are meant to be and you wish to meet in any capacity tend to stay, where there is chemistry and humour. I think that is the bond. If both of those aren't present they will fade.
I am truly blessed at the moment because of the hotness and hilarity of those that haven't faded that I talk to. Some amazingly funny people out there that brighten my day. |
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If the conversation is passive, as in they're not asking me anything or the chat is non-reciprocal, then I let it fizzle out.
It really does depend though and I have to guage the demeanour of that person to see if they are shy or (like me) a slow burn. I've had a few occasions where women have told me I'm not assertive enough and that I give up too quickly and that I need to persevere. That's all very well, and I'm happy to do so, but I won't be putting in ALL the effort.
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I like dipping in and out - i find it draining to make conversation every day, plus you know working FT, hobbies, friends + family life ... there's not much free time left and I really don't want to engage in war +peace and heavy convo when I'm trying to relax!
Make me laugh, tell me a joke, send me a meme if you were thinking of me... Let it ebb and flow
If a date is in the diary you can expect more engagement  |
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"I like dipping in and out - i find it draining to make conversation every day, plus you know working FT, hobbies, friends + family life ... there's not much free time left and I really don't want to engage in war +peace and heavy convo when I'm trying to relax!
Make me laugh, tell me a joke, send me a meme if you were thinking of me... Let it ebb and flow
If a date is in the diary you can expect more engagement "
Memes are always great. Sadly I tend to get a lot of "saw this and thought of you" with the most unhinged shite imaginable attached - why exactly does that make someone think of me?  |
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"Depends on how much I enjoyed the original conversation or how into the person I already am. "
This pretty much! I don't think you need to have a constant stream of conversation going all the time, but if I try and reignite a convo and they're giving me nothing back then I let it die. |
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"Directed towards no one in particular, just in general. I usually try to restart the convo if it feels dry and going nowhere. But if it starts to get dry again, I just let it run its course. "
I like catching up, especially if I get on with that person, life gets busy... I'm not going to hound people for a reply.. |
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If it starts to go dry I may try and restart at another time even if it's not right away. People have lives and life get busy etc or someone else may peak their interest that bit more at that time. That's just fab. |
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So if I’m really into the person physically, then I will let it taper off & do a social, people are often very different in person. Some women are absolutely amazing in person, but just don’t have the time or energy for messaging. |
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"I'm not currently meeting and haven't been for a few years so if a conversation starts to go dry I just let it fizzle out.
I've carried enough conversations over the years so if they aren't feeling it enough to make an effort I'm not going to either. "
Totally agree. |
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"I’m not going to force something. If a conversation isn’t flowing naturally and I feel like I’m doing all the work to keep it going, I’ll just let it die.
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Can I be the one to say - I’d love to make yours wet!….  |
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It normally starts with me sending two to three paragraphs as an introduction; if I get a reply, it'll be a sentence or two, I reply with two to three sentences, I get a sentence back, I reply with two to three sentences, they reply with "lol"; it's at this point that I normally sense that it's not going anywhere and I move on however, on the very rare occasion that I'm still feeling a spark, I persevere and sometimes manage to arrange a meeting. |
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"It normally starts with me sending two to three paragraphs as an introduction; if I get a reply, it'll be a sentence or two, I reply with two to three sentences, I get a sentence back, I reply with two to three sentences, they reply with "lol"; it's at this point that I normally sense that it's not going anywhere and I move on however, on the very rare occasion that I'm still feeling a spark, I persevere and sometimes manage to arrange a meeting."
Haha the old emoji escape clause. Brilliant. 😂 |
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I believe we can each feel it instinctively! We may benefit from stepping back for a short period to allow our intuition to provide us with the answer “restart” or “let it run its course”
Some may be worth it, others may not be! |
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