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By *spenfalls OP Man 25 weeks ago
Northamptonshire |
...got out of the Friendzone?
You've been parked there by someone you would actually love to mean more to. They like and respect you and you both get along fine in fact. But they have wheel-clamped you in the damn FZ.
Did anyone ever escape to Romance Town? |
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"...got out of the Friendzone?
You've been parked there by someone you would actually love to mean more to. They like and respect you and you both get along fine in fact. But they have wheel-clamped you in the damn FZ.
Did anyone ever escape to Romance Town? "
I'm perplexed that friendship is described here like it's some sort of curse. |
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Yeah I have. I've deduced it's there for a reason. It was fun but you can't really go anywhere after as you will always think you're an afterthought and doubt things. Just gotta consentrate on being a good friend and be grateful for what you do have rather than reaching for what you don't. |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"Nah. You’re in the friend zone because they are not attracted to you. Let them go.
Why not go all out, confirm the woman's feeling that her friendship is not enough, and lose that as well?"
If you’re going to wish you were more than a friend with a friend, you have to let them go. I hear your point, but a friendship built on that is not healthy. |
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"Nah. You’re in the friend zone because they are not attracted to you. Let them go.
Why not go all out, confirm the woman's feeling that her friendship is not enough, and lose that as well?
If you’re going to wish you were more than a friend with a friend, you have to let them go. I hear your point, but a friendship built on that is not healthy. "
I've had luck with suppressing my feelings, but it isn't easy.
On the other side of the coin, I've had friends where I become aware they're pushing for something more. It's often insulting, almost like my friendship is a means to an end. Friendship is incredibly important in its own right. |
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By *inkShyWoman 25 weeks ago
near Windsor |
"...got out of the Friendzone?
You've been parked there by someone you would actually love to mean more to. They like and respect you and you both get along fine in fact. But they have wheel-clamped you in the damn FZ.
Did anyone ever escape to Romance Town? "
If they like and respect you, respect their choice to have you as a friend, and not a lover.
Good friends are hard to come by. Value the friendship, stay in your lane, and if it's meant to be then it will happen naturally and not by some Houdini escapades.
I'm probably friend zoned by someone, and I probably have friend zoned somebody, but not intentionally. |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"Nah. You’re in the friend zone because they are not attracted to you. Let them go.
Why not go all out, confirm the woman's feeling that her friendship is not enough, and lose that as well?
If you’re going to wish you were more than a friend with a friend, you have to let them go. I hear your point, but a friendship built on that is not healthy.
I've had luck with suppressing my feelings, but it isn't easy.
On the other side of the coin, I've had friends where I become aware they're pushing for something more. It's often insulting, almost like my friendship is a means to an end. Friendship is incredibly important in its own right."
It [friendship] is. And so are their feelings imo. The friendship may mean a great deal to them also, doesn’t mean they should hurt themselves to maintain it. Protecting yourself is valid. |
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By *enelope2UWoman 25 weeks ago
Doesn't matter cant block distances |
No..... If I'm attracted to them they aren't friends they will be fuck buddies or I'll remove myself from the distraction.
I don't have male best friends that I haven't fucked unless they are gay or Bi
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"Nah. You’re in the friend zone because they are not attracted to you. Let them go.
Why not go all out, confirm the woman's feeling that her friendship is not enough, and lose that as well?
If you’re going to wish you were more than a friend with a friend, you have to let them go. I hear your point, but a friendship built on that is not healthy.
I've had luck with suppressing my feelings, but it isn't easy.
On the other side of the coin, I've had friends where I become aware they're pushing for something more. It's often insulting, almost like my friendship is a means to an end. Friendship is incredibly important in its own right.
It [friendship] is. And so are their feelings imo. The friendship may mean a great deal to them also, doesn’t mean they should hurt themselves to maintain it. Protecting yourself is valid. "
Oh yeah, it's difficult.
I think it's worth asking and respecting the answer.
But that's where I often have a problem. The whole "respecting the answer". Sometimes resentment creeps up, like I owe them because they've given me friendship. They've given me friendship, I've given them friendship. And even if I were transactional (I am not), that seems sort of equal, no? |
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By *spenfalls OP Man 25 weeks ago
Northamptonshire |
"i have plenty of female friends that are great friends. what is the problem? ? ?"
Nothing per se. I have several female friends, who I'm close to and have been for many years. They include ex-GFs that have stayed in touch with me , so I'm clearly not an asshole. I value them all and it's great to have a female ear or perspective to confide in occasionally.
But my transistion from interesting new acquaintance to harmless mate has been a swift and well-trodden path... I sometimes think I must have 'Nice but not really naughty enough' , tattooed on my forehead in invisible ink. 🤣🤣 |
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"i have plenty of female friends that are great friends. what is the problem? ? ?
Nothing per se. I have several female friends, who I'm close to and have been for many years. They include ex-GFs that have stayed in touch with me , so I'm clearly not an asshole. I value them all and it's great to have a female ear or perspective to confide in occasionally.
But my transistion from interesting new acquaintance to harmless mate has been a swift and well-trodden path... I sometimes think I must have 'Nice but not really naughty enough' , tattooed on my forehead in invisible ink. 🤣🤣 "
It literally is that they're not attracted to you sexually. It's nothing to do with being nice or not naughty enough. |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"Nah. You’re in the friend zone because they are not attracted to you. Let them go.
Why not go all out, confirm the woman's feeling that her friendship is not enough, and lose that as well?
If you’re going to wish you were more than a friend with a friend, you have to let them go. I hear your point, but a friendship built on that is not healthy.
I've had luck with suppressing my feelings, but it isn't easy.
On the other side of the coin, I've had friends where I become aware they're pushing for something more. It's often insulting, almost like my friendship is a means to an end. Friendship is incredibly important in its own right.
It [friendship] is. And so are their feelings imo. The friendship may mean a great deal to them also, doesn’t mean they should hurt themselves to maintain it. Protecting yourself is valid.
Oh yeah, it's difficult.
I think it's worth asking and respecting the answer.
But that's where I often have a problem. The whole "respecting the answer". Sometimes resentment creeps up, like I owe them because they've given me friendship. They've given me friendship, I've given them friendship. And even if I were transactional (I am not), that seems sort of equal, no?"
I hear you. But it’s taken me 27 years to realise that in this situation, if you’re the one who wants more than friends, walk away if the answer isn’t what you want. |
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By *inkShyWoman 25 weeks ago
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"But what if she's secretly hoping for a relationship with him?
She can open the zone up 😊
Is it up to women to do that? "
He said SHE has friendzoned HIM. So, if she has put the friendzone in place then I believe it's up to her as she's put a boundary in place.
It isn't up to any particular sex to remove the zone, it's the choice of whoever has put the boundary in place. |
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"But what if she's secretly hoping for a relationship with him?
She can open the zone up 😊
Is it up to women to do that?
He said SHE has friendzoned HIM. So, if she has put the friendzone in place then I believe it's up to her as she's put a boundary in place.
It isn't up to any particular sex to remove the zone, it's the choice of whoever has put the boundary in place."
Ah right I understand.
It's all very complicated and I'm glad I'm not involved in all that nowadays. |
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By *spenfalls OP Man 25 weeks ago
Northamptonshire |
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It literally is that they're not attracted to you sexually. It's nothing to do with being nice or not naughty enough. "
Yup. Seems so. I'll take it as a positive that my good qualities outweigh my enduring lack of sex appeal, I guess. LOL 🙄 xx |
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By *inkShyWoman 25 weeks ago
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"But what if she's secretly hoping for a relationship with him?
She can open the zone up 😊
Is it up to women to do that?
He said SHE has friendzoned HIM. So, if she has put the friendzone in place then I believe it's up to her as she's put a boundary in place.
It isn't up to any particular sex to remove the zone, it's the choice of whoever has put the boundary in place.
Ah right I understand.
It's all very complicated and I'm glad I'm not involved in all that nowadays. "
Likewise! It's probably far more complicated than we can dicuss at midnight on a forum! 🙂 |
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"Nah. You’re in the friend zone because they are not attracted to you. Let them go.
Why not go all out, confirm the woman's feeling that her friendship is not enough, and lose that as well?
If you’re going to wish you were more than a friend with a friend, you have to let them go. I hear your point, but a friendship built on that is not healthy.
I've had luck with suppressing my feelings, but it isn't easy.
On the other side of the coin, I've had friends where I become aware they're pushing for something more. It's often insulting, almost like my friendship is a means to an end. Friendship is incredibly important in its own right.
It [friendship] is. And so are their feelings imo. The friendship may mean a great deal to them also, doesn’t mean they should hurt themselves to maintain it. Protecting yourself is valid.
Oh yeah, it's difficult.
I think it's worth asking and respecting the answer.
But that's where I often have a problem. The whole "respecting the answer". Sometimes resentment creeps up, like I owe them because they've given me friendship. They've given me friendship, I've given them friendship. And even if I were transactional (I am not), that seems sort of equal, no?
I hear you. But it’s taken me 27 years to realise that in this situation, if you’re the one who wants more than friends, walk away if the answer isn’t what you want. "
That usually is the right answer. Not always. A lot of people can't square that circle. |
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By *mf123Man 25 weeks ago
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Yep got out of the friendzone id say iv learned people have lives to get on with and i tend to stop that from happening suppose im too distracting so not of real need for that part |
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By *mf123Man 25 weeks ago
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"Yep got out of the friendzone id say iv learned people have lives to get on with and i tend to stop that from happening suppose im too distracting so not of real need for that part "
im not complaining at that btw what iv learned is keep everyone at arms length then its easier to not care either way what zone your in
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By *JandCMCouple 25 weeks ago
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Was in the friend zone for a few years with a girl, she knew my girlfriends n got on with them, I knew the guys she went out with.
Then one night when d*unk we went home together, married within a few months n now nearly 34 years on still together. |
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"Was in the friend zone for a few years with a girl, she knew my girlfriends n got on with them, I knew the guys she went out with.
Then one night when d*unk we went home together, married within a few months n now nearly 34 years on still together."
is that who's in your pics |
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