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What tips would you give newbies on here?
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"Something I've just thought about.
I think one tip I'd give is don't constantly pester people for meets. Otherwise you will end up pushing the other person away. "
And don't message repeatedly if your first one isn't responded to! |
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By (user no longer on site) 18 weeks ago
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Not too bother!
Seriously though, to not be desperate and stick to their self worth. Don't pander to people, if they want face pics, phone number, snapchat etc and you don't want to give it out the don't.
But just have a wank, its far easier, less hassle and the end result is the same - you cum! |
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"Not too bother!
Seriously though, to not be desperate and stick to their self worth. Don't pander to people, if they want face pics, phone number, snapchat etc and you don't want to give it out the don't.
But just have a wank, its far easier, less hassle and the end result is the same - you cum!"
Having a wank before you hit send should be a site rule. If you'd still hit send in that moment of post-nut clarity then go for it, otherwise delete the draft  |
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By (user no longer on site) 18 weeks ago
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"A no reply is a reply "
It makes me laugh when I read this. Acutally, it isn't. Imagine trying to get away with that at work when your manager sends you an email and you don't reply, try and claim not replying was a reply. Its not, its ignoring the message or email in my example.
However, it should of course be interpreted as not interested. This is whether the message shows as read by the recipient and they choose not to reply, or it stays in their Inbox and remains unread.
But a reply it ain't! |
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Use this site for 2 things; identify socials/club nights. Then to stay in touch with people you’ve met.
Identify what you add to the lifestyle and put this ahead of what you want out of it
Put in the leg work at socials/clubs and be known for being a decent player
That’s it. We’ve met some great people who employ this approach. Met zero people who take a ‘fancy a fuck’ approach |
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By *EAT..85Woman 18 weeks ago
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"Don't send any introductory messages or - at the very least - limit them to a dozen per year if you feel compelled.
Instead, wait for them to message you first.
That approach has served me well."
Do you just bread crumb them in the forums instead? |
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Can't give advice to the women on here ,BUT ..
Guys , firstly take your right hand and feel your testicle roll it around a little when you realise you have a full set ...stop asking your wife if you h can buy stuff ....   |
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Take a few good photos, not necessarily naked, but good lighting, teasing poses etc. and make sure you know what you want from the site and reflect that in your bio. Focus on whether your own profile is the best it can be before you even consider sending any messages out |
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"Don't send any introductory messages or - at the very least - limit them to a dozen per year if you feel compelled.
Instead, wait for them to message you first.
That approach has served me well.
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Do you just bread crumb them in the forums instead? "
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PM me and I shall tell you. ❣️💐 |
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By *for77Man 18 weeks ago
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"Be polite and respectful, don’t expect too much. Advice for women especially: Use your filters, browse in ninja mode.
How do you browse in Ninja Mode?? I need this Intel "
Check privacy settings. You can turn off “don’t show up in who’s viewed me” |
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"Be polite and respectful, don’t expect too much. Advice for women especially: Use your filters, browse in ninja mode.
How do you browse in Ninja Mode?? I need this Intel "
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Account ➡️ Privacy Settings ➡️ "Hide on looked at me". ✖️ |
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"Be polite and respectful, don’t expect too much. Advice for women especially: Use your filters, browse in ninja mode.
How do you browse in Ninja Mode?? I need this Intel
Check privacy settings. You can turn off “don’t show up in who’s viewed me”"
Great, she's now going to go on the biggest perving spree Fab has ever seen  |
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"Be polite and respectful, don’t expect too much. Advice for women especially: Use your filters, browse in ninja mode.
How do you browse in Ninja Mode?? I need this Intel "
It is invaluable! 😄 Go to Account ➡️ Privacy Settings ➡️ Hide on looked at me
Then you won’t get endless messages saying ‘Not your type?’ when you have noseyed on their profile 😂 |
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"Read your own profile and any messages you send out loud to yourself,see if what you write actually sounds like it makes sense and wasnt written by Yoda
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Read aloud your words must you, or like mine, sound they will. |
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Women - set message filters to block everyone and search for profiles you feel you're compatible with. Be clear in your intentions and unambiguous but polite in rejection.
Men - only message profiles you're sure you're compatible with. Be clear in your intentions and polite if rejected.
Couples - see above.
Everyone - don't be an arse. |
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"Be polite and respectful, don’t expect too much. Advice for women especially: Use your filters, browse in ninja mode.
How do you browse in Ninja Mode?? I need this Intel
Check privacy settings. You can turn off “don’t show up in who’s viewed me”
Great, she's now going to go on the biggest perving spree Fab has ever seen "
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"Be polite and respectful, don’t expect too much. Advice for women especially: Use your filters, browse in ninja mode."
When someone first mentioned Ninja mode on here, I thought they were on about the Ninja Warrior show 😂😂 |
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By *for77Man 18 weeks ago
Adlington |
"Be polite and respectful, don’t expect too much. Advice for women especially: Use your filters, browse in ninja mode.
How do you browse in Ninja Mode?? I need this Intel
Check privacy settings. You can turn off “don’t show up in who’s viewed me”
Great, she's now going to go on the biggest perving spree Fab has ever seen "
Ha ha ha!! |
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"Be polite and respectful, don’t expect too much. Advice for women especially: Use your filters, browse in ninja mode.
How do you browse in Ninja Mode?? I need this Intel
Check privacy settings. You can turn off “don’t show up in who’s viewed me”
Great, she's now going to go on the biggest perving spree Fab has ever seen "
Abso-freaking-lutely |
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A serious reply. Value yourself, your energy and time highly and invest them carefully. Many people here will waste your time and energy - don't let them. Don't ever lower your standards, and if it's really not working for you, move on. |
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Keep your expectations low, and your risks minimal. I don't mean like, risk of being hurt, although that too.
If I agree to meet X in a pub and they don't show up, I'll have agreed to a pub local to me, so that I don't waste a lot of time. |
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"Something I've just thought about.
I think one tip I'd give is don't constantly pester people for meets. Otherwise you will end up pushing the other person away.
Noted 
😂😂😂😂
Pester away "
If you insist  |
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By *eliWoman 18 weeks ago
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Don't get angry when someone doesn't want to see your dick pic. It doesn't make them suddenly unattractive/not poly.
Actually, don't send nudes out unless you're certain the other ones to see it. Far easier. |
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By *for77Man 18 weeks ago
Adlington |
"Be polite and respectful, don’t expect too much. Advice for women especially: Use your filters, browse in ninja mode.
How do you browse in Ninja Mode?? I need this Intel
Check privacy settings. You can turn off “don’t show up in who’s viewed me”
Great, she's now going to go on the biggest perving spree Fab has ever seen
Abso-freaking-lutely "
brilliant! |
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By (user no longer on site) 18 weeks ago
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"Guys -
Only one brain works at once. If the lower brain is doing the thinking - don’t send messages. They’re never any good 🤣🤣🤣 hgfdssdcbh "
i just typed that with my penis. |
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By (user no longer on site) 18 weeks ago
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"If she messages you first, RUN.
Really?!
I love being predator over prey.
So.. I can’t eat you?
Dammit. You've got me there "
How do you like to be … nvm nvm |
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By (user no longer on site) 18 weeks ago
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"Guys -
Only one brain works at once. If the lower brain is doing the thinking - don’t send messages. They’re never any good 🤣🤣🤣 hgfdssdcbh i just typed that with my penis. "
I’m surprised the keyboard survived |
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By (user no longer on site) 18 weeks ago
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"Guys -
Only one brain works at once. If the lower brain is doing the thinking - don’t send messages. They’re never any good 🤣🤣🤣 hgfdssdcbh i just typed that with my penis.
I’m surprised the keyboard survived "
you’re such a flirt |
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Main tips for blokes:
- Get circumcised
- Don't get circumcised
- Get a gym bod
- Get a dad bod
- Be well-hung
- Be averagely-hung
- Have dick pics
- Don't have dick pics
The blueprint is infallible. |
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Shouldn't have to say this. But no means no.
If I don't want to chat, or decide to end a chat, accept it. It's not a tactic for you to convince me. All that will do is convince me more never to be alone with you. It's not cute, or endearing, or sexy. It's crazy, it's manipulative and it's creepy |
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It’s hard to pick just one thing, so I’m gonna go with my top 2….
Read profiles fully
Don’t leave your profile blank, fill in later is not an appealing tagline and not having pics on display means people will just ask for them. |
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As a woman what would be the ideal message because I’ve tried pick up lines, I’ve tried making a joke, being nice being rude, I’ve tried it all and nothing works, I send a face pic every time and honestly I am an attractive man, but I’m not arrogant about it either |
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"As a woman what would be the ideal message because I’ve tried pick up lines, I’ve tried making a joke, being nice being rude, I’ve tried it all and nothing works, I send a face pic every time and honestly I am an attractive man, but I’m not arrogant about it either "
maybe make your profile more interesting & add a profile pic no one takes no notice of a silhouette profile 🤷🏻♀️
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Women and couples: use the filter to block men and search for them yourselves if they’re who you’re looking for. Moaning about crap messages is futile when there’s tools to use to prevent getting them.
Men: Set your expectations VERY low in terms of responses to your messages. Combine going out to clubs, parties and socials with messaging if you want to meet people. |
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"Women and couples: use the filter to block men and search for them yourselves if they’re who you’re looking for. Moaning about crap messages is futile when there’s tools to use to prevent getting them.
Men: Set your expectations VERY low in terms of responses to your messages. Combine going out to clubs, parties and socials with messaging if you want to meet people. "
Great advice mate |
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I would tell single men not to put all their eggs in this basket and use other methods of meeting women.
I'd tell them if they have negative experiences or feel ignored that this website isn't a mark or you're true value offline.
So don't get upset about it because if women here aren't into you it's because of ratios rather than you personally.
It's not the best place to be a single man so don't take it to heart.
You would get more luck on dating sites or offline by joining things like community charity groups and martial arts. |
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"Something I've just thought about.
I think one tip I'd give is don't constantly pester people for meets. Otherwise you will end up pushing the other person away. "
Put that your a lioness looking for your young prey! It works ... apparently 🤣🤷♀️ |
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