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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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When you fancy someone and you pluck up the courage to tell them, do they usually reciprocate?
If you already have a friendship or something, does it make it awkward? |
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50/50 I think. We're not all for everyone are we.
I have a friend who I am completely besotted with. She knows now, doesn't feel the same. It's a bit shit like but she's a good person, and I'd rather keep her in my life than lose her because it'll never be anymore. |
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By *llie AssMan
over a year ago
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"When you fancy someone and you pluck up the courage to tell them, do they usually reciprocate?
If you already have a friendship or something, does it make it awkward? "
On here? No, constantly reaching for the moon! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"50/50 I think. We're not all for everyone are we.
I have a friend who I am completely besotted with. She knows now, doesn't feel the same. It's a bit shit like but she's a good person, and I'd rather keep her in my life than lose her because it'll never be anymore."
Hope your friendship remains strong ❤️ |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When you fancy someone and you pluck up the courage to tell them, do they usually reciprocate?
If you already have a friendship or something, does it make it awkward?
On here? No, constantly reaching for the moon!"
Shoot for the stars so if you fall you land on a cloud |
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"50/50 I think. We're not all for everyone are we.
I have a friend who I am completely besotted with. She knows now, doesn't feel the same. It's a bit shit like but she's a good person, and I'd rather keep her in my life than lose her because it'll never be anymore.
Hope your friendship remains strong ❤️"
So far it has. Never easy putting yourself out there like that. But hey ho. We only get one trip don't we.
Fab world. I'm usually fancied back once I'm given the chance of a social weirdly. It's getting to the social first is the issue 😂 |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"50/50 I think. We're not all for everyone are we.
I have a friend who I am completely besotted with. She knows now, doesn't feel the same. It's a bit shit like but she's a good person, and I'd rather keep her in my life than lose her because it'll never be anymore.
Hope your friendship remains strong ❤️
So far it has. Never easy putting yourself out there like that. But hey ho. We only get one trip don't we.
Fab world. I'm usually fancied back once I'm given the chance of a social weirdly. It's getting to the social first is the issue 😂"
Getting initial interest is hard but it’s so good that you’re easily liked by others in person |
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I can be very reserved and pretty much wait for them to indicate that they fancy me before I say it back. I'm quite shielded like that and hate the feeling of being hurt so avoid it where I can.
I've probably missed out by not being brave enough it's something I want to do more of |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I can be very reserved and pretty much wait for them to indicate that they fancy me before I say it back. I'm quite shielded like that and hate the feeling of being hurt so avoid it where I can.
I've probably missed out by not being brave enough it's something I want to do more of "
Real.
This is your year though. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't think I've ever fancied a friend like that!
As to whether people I fancy always fancy me back...eh, but we always live in hope  "
It’s the hope that kills us  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't think I've ever fancied a friend like that!
As to whether people I fancy always fancy me back...eh, but we always live in hope
It’s the hope that kills us
Oh THANKS Pickle 😭"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Nope, I'm usually so off on picking up cues and vibes. So I just ignore it now and assume they don't. Until it's blatant attention I'm oblivious cos I used to read too much into it "
very interesting
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Who knows, I’ve never made the first move due to the crippling fear of rejection.
I’m also not very good at telling when people are interested. "
hear that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m pretty akward in general so no lol
A just say and if it s no move on , don’t see point a being friends with someone you fancy either no point to it "
agree about the friends bit. But it’s not always that easy to lose friendships. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"To be honest I think most ignore as they get swamped with same old compliments and then some just can't take a compliment for what it is "
I think compliments simply just don’t mean much to some people. |
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"It's different for me because I'm reciprosexual. So that removes the element of rejection from my side. it’s really interesting"
Working just from the miniscule pool of people that might find me sexually attractive ... it is rare that I fancy them back  |
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"I can be very reserved and pretty much wait for them to indicate that they fancy me before I say it back. I'm quite shielded like that and hate the feeling of being hurt so avoid it where I can.
I've probably missed out by not being brave enough it's something I want to do more of
Real.
This is your year though. "
I've said that for the last few years too |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's different for me because I'm reciprosexual. So that removes the element of rejection from my side. it’s really interesting
Working just from the miniscule pool of people that might find me sexually attractive ... it is rare that I fancy them back "
I find a lot of people sexually attractive and it’s rare that they fancy me back.
But it is what it is |
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I never approach people first so I don't have this awkward situation 😅 I was friendzoned so many times in my 20s I gave up. If someone is interested in me they can come tell me, otherwise I am happy living my life  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I can be very reserved and pretty much wait for them to indicate that they fancy me before I say it back. I'm quite shielded like that and hate the feeling of being hurt so avoid it where I can.
I've probably missed out by not being brave enough it's something I want to do more of
Real.
This is your year though.
I've said that for the last few years too "
About United. Not about yourself  |
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People I am friends with first I don’t tend to expect anything more from. I wouldn’t want to change the friendship if they didn’t feel the same way so they would need to very direct that they fancied me for me to do anything about it.
Kx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m pretty akward in general so no lol
A just say and if it s no move on , don’t see point a being friends with someone you fancy either no point to it agree about the friends bit. But it’s not always that easy to lose friendships. "
Depends better friendless than the guy living in friend zone |
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"When you fancy someone and you pluck up the courage to tell them, do they usually reciprocate?
If you already have a friendship or something, does it make it awkward? "
usually if its a woman I fins the reply is ,, I like you as and you are pretty but I just couldn't date a trans person . |
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"I can be very reserved and pretty much wait for them to indicate that they fancy me before I say it back. I'm quite shielded like that and hate the feeling of being hurt so avoid it where I can.
I've probably missed out by not being brave enough it's something I want to do more of
Real.
This is your year though.
I've said that for the last few years too
About United. Not about yourself "
Mate, 3 good signings and we're there. I swear! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"People I am friends with first I don’t tend to expect anything more from. I wouldn’t want to change the friendship if they didn’t feel the same way so they would need to very direct that they fancied me for me to do anything about it.
Kx"
Makes sense |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m pretty akward in general so no lol
A just say and if it s no move on , don’t see point a being friends with someone you fancy either no point to it agree about the friends bit. But it’s not always that easy to lose friendships.
Depends better friendless than the guy living in friend zone"
It’s only a friend zone if you don’t imagine yourself ever being nothing more than friends |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m not afraid to make the first move, but it’s rarely been reciprocated. It did make a few work friendships awkward  "
work crushes are the worst in that sense |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When you fancy someone and you pluck up the courage to tell them, do they usually reciprocate?
If you already have a friendship or something, does it make it awkward?
usually if its a woman I fins the reply is ,, I like you as and you are pretty but I just couldn't date a trans person . "
So that’s a bit shit |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not always. I'm a doubly acquired taste.
1, they have to be into Tgirls
2, they have to be into Tgirls with reasonable sized boobs
Not for everyone "
Reasonable sized |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I can be very reserved and pretty much wait for them to indicate that they fancy me before I say it back. I'm quite shielded like that and hate the feeling of being hurt so avoid it where I can.
I've probably missed out by not being brave enough it's something I want to do more of
Real.
This is your year though.
I've said that for the last few years too
About United. Not about yourself
Mate, 3 good signings and we're there. I swear!"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Is a 50-50 situation OP but just for your peace of mind and you will get that urge someday. So say what you have to say it’s better in the long run for you
By all means it’s not easy "
I always tell them if I have feelings❤️ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah, I tell 'em.
Sometimes they reciprocate, sometimes they don't. I've usually met them in person at a social event or for a coffee before I know if I fancy them, though. I don't send any first messages knowing that I fancy anybody. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"When you fancy someone and you pluck up the courage to tell them, do they usually reciprocate?
If you already have a friendship or something, does it make it awkward? "
Usually yes.
If I have a friendship or something already, I think I would’ve made it a little bit obvious from the beginning.
I think if you have a platonic friend and then all of a sudden you tell them you fancy them, that would be seen as a red flag either you’re playing games with that person or not being honest. Of course occasionally attraction it slowly overtime, but you can still be transparent about that as it’s happening. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You’re a Good looking guy! I’d keep that friendship strong. If you were going to make a move it should’ve been done at the beginning, because once you’re in the friend zone it’s very hard to get out! |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"When you fancy someone and you pluck up the courage to tell them, do they usually reciprocate?
If you already have a friendship or something, does it make it awkward? "
Yes. I've never really been turned down. That's not because I'm truly stunning or anything like that, I just don't usually say anything unless I'm fairly certain it'll be reciprocated to some extent.
It's never made a friendship awkward. I normally don't find people attractive unless there's a friendship already there so... it works for me. Actually no, it's ruined a friendship a couple of times after it's gone tits up and that's awkward. Not for me so much
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Nope. I wait to see if they like me, before I let slip that I'm attracted to them 🫣 Probably not the best approach, but it's working for us 🤣 Tbf, on here, everyone I've liked (and messaged with) have liked me back. Idk if it'd be the same meeting someone away from Fab 🤷♀️ |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When you fancy someone and you pluck up the courage to tell them, do they usually reciprocate?
If you already have a friendship or something, does it make it awkward?
Yes. I've never really been turned down. That's not because I'm truly stunning or anything like that, I just don't usually say anything unless I'm fairly certain it'll be reciprocated to some extent.
It's never made a friendship awkward. I normally don't find people attractive unless there's a friendship already there so... it works for me. Actually no, it's ruined a friendship a couple of times after it's gone tits up and that's awkward. Not for me so much
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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago
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I'd say no they don't, more than yes they do. But I don't have the personality to spend forever messaging people, I'd rather meet them and let them judge me in person. People that meet me generally want to see me again. People that I message are hit and miss because I don't want to spend my life on my phone building an online connection. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Interesting that women are generally saying they wouldn’t admit feelings because of fear of rejection. But like whoever admits it to you has to face that fear of rejection too? |
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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago
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"Interesting that women are generally saying they wouldn’t admit feelings because of fear of rejection. But like whoever admits it to you has to face that fear of rejection too?"
Women are notoriously shit and reserved in this area. But then take umbrage when the wrong men make the first move  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Of course they reciprocate. Have you seen me!???
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Friends on the other hand would normally remain that. If my feelings towards them changed I'm sure i would say something. It doesn't need to be awkward as I wouldn't expect them to feel the same way, but I'd feel awkward if I wasn't honest with them. I think. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Of course they reciprocate. Have you seen me!???
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Friends on the other hand would normally remain that. If my feelings towards them changed I'm sure i would say something. It doesn't need to be awkward as I wouldn't expect them to feel the same way, but I'd feel awkward if I wasn't honest with them. I think. "
I’ve seen a picture of you yes |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'd say no they don't, more than yes they do. But I don't have the personality to spend forever messaging people, I'd rather meet them and let them judge me in person. People that meet me generally want to see me again. People that I message are hit and miss because I don't want to spend my life on my phone building an online connection. "
Ok so meet me then. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Interesting that women are generally saying they wouldn’t admit feelings because of fear of rejection. But like whoever admits it to you has to face that fear of rejection too?
Women are notoriously shit and reserved in this area. But then take umbrage when the wrong men make the first move "
I’m not gonna lie, I agree on this.
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"When you fancy someone and you pluck up the courage to tell them, do they usually reciprocate?
If you already have a friendship or something, does it make it awkward? "
In a nutshell, no they don’t.
If they are already a friend I don’t say anything to avoid it becoming awkward |
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I'll answer this from within the confines of Fab, as opposed to real life.
It's not easy because the majority of people I chat to are so geographically dispersed that it's nigh on impossible to just come out and tell them that I fancy them across the ether. A perfectly harmonious conversation can go horribly wrong if I'm upfront about my attractions towards them.
Instead I rely on wordplay, textual nuances and ruffling of my plumage to see if they pick up on my roundabout way of telling them that — "y'know, I quite fancy you..." sort of thing.
And if they don't fancy me back...I just whitewash the messaging until the conversation becomes just friendly. It's a wonderfully spineless way of testing the waters of acceptance and rejection. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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As I only approach them face to face, and I'm pretty good at reading body language. Yes.
Online I have a literal mind and often misread a situation, so its easier if I like him, to arrange a social asap to gauge his attraction to me.
With friends it's normally been a testing snog, sometimes the chemistry is there, sometimes it's not, I've never lost a friendship from that though  |
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"When you fancy someone and you pluck up the courage to tell them, do they usually reciprocate?
If you already have a friendship or something, does it make it awkward? "
I’ve only made my feelings known a couple of times and I’ve always been rejected so never really bother now 😂 |
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By *elloWoman
over a year ago
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"When you fancy someone and you pluck up the courage to tell them, do they usually reciprocate?
If you already have a friendship or something, does it make it awkward? "
People fancy my friends not me, however in the past when I left a company I told two staff members 'goodbye and I really fancied you' and apparently if they had known then they would have done something about it.
So me and my low self-esteem reckons this means I'm not fanciable but they'll take one for the team of they know I'm a dead cert.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"As I only approach them face to face, and I'm pretty good at reading body language. Yes.
Online I have a literal mind and often misread a situation, so its easier if I like him, to arrange a social asap to gauge his attraction to me.
With friends it's normally been a testing snog, sometimes the chemistry is there, sometimes it's not, I've never lost a friendship from that though "
When do I get a testing snog |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve told people I fancy them it’s not been a mutual thing. I don’t mind, I’m not naive enough to think that everyone I fancy will fancy me in return.
Those that do, result.
Those that don’t, no drama. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lots of past rejection on here. Recently less so but that's mainly because we've not bothered
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Pressed send too soon.
Recent compatibility has been limited to me and one person. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not usually. Certainly not these days. Maybe when you’re more active on the forums it’s a different story. 🤷"
I’m active in this bastard place- still nobody fancies me.
‘I like you, just not in THAT way’ |
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Me & the Mrs are always casually looking for talent when we are out & about & we reckon we are only attracted to a maximum of about 5% of people that we see.
So if this is typical, you can see how hard it is for two couples to match up. |
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By *TWboyMan
over a year ago
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"50/50 I think. We're not all for everyone are we.
I have a friend who I am completely besotted with. She knows now, doesn't feel the same. It's a bit shit like but she's a good person, and I'd rather keep her in my life than lose her because it'll never be anymore."
Let it go matey - I’ve been there and it never ends well. 🙁 |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not usually. Certainly not these days. Maybe when you’re more active on the forums it’s a different story. 🤷
I’m active in this bastard place- still nobody fancies me.
‘I like you, just not in THAT way’"
I think some people fancy you. Dunno who though 🤔 |
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