Sorry for the long question but was in a relationship with someone who wanted to try swinging which at first i werent comfortable with and she arranged at meet with a guy in Nottingham which i did not like fast forward a year i got talking to someone to arrange something for the future and she dumped me for cheating this was a few months ago did i do wrong? |
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By *bi HaiveMan 23 weeks ago
Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Sorry for the long question but was in a relationship with someone who wanted to try swinging which at first i werent comfortable with and she arranged at meet with a guy in Nottingham which i did not like fast forward a year i got talking to someone to arrange something for the future and she dumped me for cheating this was a few months ago did i do wrong?"
Sorry, I'm struggling to follow this.
If you were in a relationship with someone that wanted to try swinging and they met someone else (or planned to) and who then dumped you because you did the same - then no. You did nothing wrong, bar probably not talk to your partner enough to establish boundaries, rules and agreements on what you did together or apart.
If you were in a relationship and didn't tell them and did it behind their back, then yes. You're in the wrong. 🤷♂️ |
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"I dont want to put blame i just want to know what i can do to be better
Communicate. 🤷♂️
If you tap 'reply+quote' it'll also be easier to see which comments you're replying to. "
ok thank you for the help |
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"Sounds to me like she wanted to cheat, but without the repercussions and labelled it as swinging.
To add, you did nothing wrong "
i understand that and in some way i do feel like my mistakes lead to it but as i said i just want to do better |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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"Sounds to me like she wanted to cheat, but without the repercussions and labelled it as swinging.
To add, you did nothing wrong i understand that and in some way i do feel like my mistakes lead to it but as i said i just want to do better"
As others have said, clearer communication and setting boundaries  good luck OP! |
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"Sounds to me like she wanted to cheat, but without the repercussions and labelled it as swinging.
To add, you did nothing wrong i understand that and in some way i do feel like my mistakes lead to it but as i said i just want to do better
As others have said, clearer communication and setting boundaries good luck OP! "
thank you very much |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS 23 weeks ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
"Sounds to me like she wanted to cheat, but without the repercussions and labelled it as swinging.
Have to agree with this... seen it many times i see but what can i do to stop it happening again"
Considering that you're no longer together and are now single, I shouldn't worry about it.
Move on with your life  |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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"I do get that i didnt communicate more and spoke to her more i did own up to my mistakes in this especially the contacting someone else. "
Well you were in the wrong, going behind her back isnt what swinging is about |
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"I do get that i didnt communicate more and spoke to her more i did own up to my mistakes in this especially the contacting someone else.
Well you were in the wrong, going behind her back isnt what swinging is about "
fair enough should of been more open then |
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"I dont want to put blame i just want to know what i can do to be better
I'd say don't accept bad behaviour in others in future, believe their actions over their words. "
thank you i think that correct way to do it |
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