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Good folks:
How confident would you rate yourself to be?
For elucidation purposes, I refer to general confidence as opposed to confidence in sexual matters/procuring sexual partners.
I realise that the above question is somewhat ambiguous, as one can be highly confident in some areas of life yet sorely wanting in others, but indulge me nonetheless because I’m offering biscuits 👍🏻 |
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"What sort of biscuits?
Ginger Nuts AND Chocolate Digestives; it’s a prize of some fine note 😜"
Ooh OK then...
I'd say it depends on the day. Can range from a 3 to a 6. But I can fake an 8 or even a 9 when required 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Very partial to a ginger nut, partial to a bit of biccy bribery too, so…
I’ve gotten more confident since hitting my 50s. I’ve found myself asserting my self interest in environments where I would have just kept quiet, tbh I suprised myself. |
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As someone already said, quietly confident is how I would describe myself.
I don't like being the centre of attention but I don't struggle to talk to people or in most situations.
I have met people though who are enormously confident in their chosen career but their private life is an absolute shambles.
In public they are in charge while in private they have zero control. |
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A solid 10, I'm a classic over achiever, frequently to my detriment, In all aspects of my life. I find it really hard not to be one. That was from being told I am 'not good enough' every damn day. so I strive everyday to have the attitue of 'yes I am'  |
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Thank you for your answers everyone 😃
Another quickie question if I may? (For some Rich Tea biscuits this time around)
For those of you who lack in confidence, do you find yourselves drawn more to (or possibly consciously seek out) partners richer in said quality by way of compensation?
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"Thank you for your answers everyone 😃
Another quickie question if I may? (For some Rich Tea biscuits this time around)
For those of you who lack in confidence, do you find yourselves drawn more to (or possibly consciously seek out) partners richer in said quality by way of compensation?
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Reel us in with ginger nuts and chocolate digestives, then bait n switch to rich tea?
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"Thank you for your answers everyone 😃
Another quickie question if I may? (For some Rich Tea biscuits this time around)
For those of you who lack in confidence, do you find yourselves drawn more to (or possibly consciously seek out) partners richer in said quality by way of compensation?
Reel us in with ginger nuts and chocolate digestives, then bait n switch to rich tea?
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Yeah I'm out 
Gonna have to do better 😪 |
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"Thank you for your answers everyone 😃
Another quickie question if I may? (For some Rich Tea biscuits this time around)
For those of you who lack in confidence, do you find yourselves drawn more to (or possibly consciously seek out) partners richer in said quality by way of compensation?
Reel us in with ginger nuts and chocolate digestives, then bait n switch to rich tea?
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😂😂 Wait to witness my next ingenious stratagem of rolling out the big guns: Jammy Dodgers.… 😜👍🏻 |
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"Thank you for your answers everyone 😃
Another quickie question if I may? (For some Rich Tea biscuits this time around)
For those of you who lack in confidence, do you find yourselves drawn more to (or possibly consciously seek out) partners richer in said quality by way of compensation?
Reel us in with ginger nuts and chocolate digestives, then bait n switch to rich tea?
Yeah I'm out
Gonna have to do better 😪 "
☹️ *Searching cupboard in desperation for more enticing confectionery ammo* 😜 |
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☹️ *Searching cupboard in desperation for more enticing confectionery ammo* 😜
Pink wafers. The things I'd do for pink wafers.
That might be the diet speaking though..."
Ah ha! I have some of those 😃😃
Side story: I tried to dunk one in my coffee once….
It did not end well… 😵💫😵💫😜 |
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Confidence in terms of believing in myself is 100%. Well, what I mean is, I know if I put my mind to something I can achieve it (within reason).
I couldn't walk on water though, and neither could Jesus..or could he??
Confidence in my sexual attractiveness is subjective. Do I think I'm sexy, sometimes. Do other people fancy me? Some, yes.
Does it mean, I'm always attractive, all the time, to all the people? Coz that's a bit weird to me to feel that. Although its not far off 😉😆
Sexy for me, is a state of mind rather than appearance.
Although, if I try, I can appear sexy.
Does that answer the question? |
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"Confidence in terms of believing in myself is 100%. Well, what I mean is, I know if I put my mind to something I can achieve it (within reason).
I couldn't walk on water though, and neither could Jesus..or could he??
Confidence in my sexual attractiveness is subjective. Do I think I'm sexy, sometimes. Do other people fancy me? Some, yes.
Does it mean, I'm always attractive, all the time, to all the people? Coz that's a bit weird to me to feel that. Although its not far off 😉😆
Sexy for me, is a state of mind rather than appearance.
Although, if I try, I can appear sexy.
Does that answer the question?"
It’s a very good answer in fact 👍🏻😃😃
Self belief is a truly wonderful thing to hold.
….Jesus flew didn’t he? Or was that Kal-El? 😜 |
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I am generally happy to back myself. I also know when I am getting out of my depth and have no issue calling for backup - this means I am generally more confident to start something because I know have a plan B if it is wrong. |
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Confidence in my sexual attractiveness is subjective. Do I think I'm sexy, sometimes. Do other people fancy me? Some, yes. "
Yeah, I can FEEL sexy. Do other people fancy me? They have every reason not to.
It's hard for me to convert other people's attraction into believing they might actually take it further. To that point my confidence is very low.
I've had hands between my legs - consensually - and still found myself assuming they're not interested. |
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"Confidence in terms of believing in myself is 100%. Well, what I mean is, I know if I put my mind to something I can achieve it (within reason).
I couldn't walk on water though, and neither could Jesus..or could he??
Confidence in my sexual attractiveness is subjective. Do I think I'm sexy, sometimes. Do other people fancy me? Some, yes.
Does it mean, I'm always attractive, all the time, to all the people? Coz that's a bit weird to me to feel that. Although its not far off 😉😆
Sexy for me, is a state of mind rather than appearance.
Although, if I try, I can appear sexy.
Does that answer the question?"
This for sure!!! I'm much more confident now. Life is too short worrying about other people opinion etc.
I am who I am if you don't like my unquieish step aside for the others who will be in stitches of laughter.
Now please can I have a chocolate covered ginger biscuits. Yum yummy!! 😀
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….And yet another question (for a glorious Hob Nob this time)
At what point does confidence transmogrify into arrogance?
Certainly, whilst I am very much allured by the former, the latter is most repellent.
So many questions….so few biscuits left 😜 |
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"Hob nob you say…
They’re depleting really fast though (I was feeling a bit peckish…) 😜"
Ok I answered but accidentally deleted my answer.But it deserves a hob nob right? Surrrrreeeeely. . |
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"Hob nob you say…
They’re depleting really fast though (I was feeling a bit peckish…) 😜
Ok I answered but accidentally deleted my answer.But it deserves a hob nob right? Surrrrreeeeely. . "
😂 Of course; I received your well thought out answer via my psychical abilities/spidey-biscuit sense 😜 |
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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago
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I'm fairly confident throughout most areas of my life. But I attract even more confident people than myself as friends and lovers.
You can keep the rich tea though, you've truly disappointed me there SL  |
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"I'm fairly confident throughout most areas of my life. But I attract even more confident people than myself as friends and lovers.
You can keep the rich tea though, you've truly disappointed me there SL "
🙁🙁 Even my trusty pooch looks decidedly indignant whenever I offer her one as a treat 😵💫😵💫😜 |
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"Any more biccies left?
Let me see…..
Ah ha! Custard creams are now very much up for grabs 👍🏻👍🏻"
Now you're talking!
I'm generally very confident. Unless it's about how I look.
Now, about the custard creams.... |
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"Any more biccies left?
Let me see…..
Ah ha! Custard creams are now very much up for grabs 👍🏻👍🏻
Now you're talking!
I'm generally very confident. Unless it's about how I look.
Now, about the custard creams.... "
Let’s prolong the pleasure with my exclusive, patented technique of taking off the top layer and licking the cream before gormandising both biscuits 😜👍🏻 |
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"Any more biccies left?
Let me see…..
Ah ha! Custard creams are now very much up for grabs 👍🏻👍🏻
Now you're talking!
I'm generally very confident. Unless it's about how I look.
Now, about the custard creams....
Let’s prolong the pleasure with my exclusive, patented technique of taking off the top layer and licking the cream before gormandising both biscuits 😜👍🏻"
It's certainly special, but not exclusive |
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By (user no longer on site)
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In general I'm quite a confident person in social situations and meeting new people which I attribute to years of training in martial arts.
Work wise I was very confident untill i took a drastic change in career path. Suddenly saw myself making mistakes and needing help from others a lot more than I was used to. That certainly took its toll on me. 3yrs in now and only just starting to get that confidence back to an extent.
Any hob nobs on offer?
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"In general I'm quite a confident person in social situations and meeting new people which I attribute to years of training in martial arts.
Work wise I was very confident untill i took a drastic change in career path. Suddenly saw myself making mistakes and needing help from others a lot more than I was used to. That certainly took its toll on me. 3yrs in now and only just starting to get that confidence back to an extent.
Any hob nobs on offer?
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Eeee the Hob Nobs have sadly been thoroughly pillaged ☹️
But….great news! - I have just found some chocolate chip cookies 😃😃 |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In general I'm quite a confident person in social situations and meeting new people which I attribute to years of training in martial arts.
Work wise I was very confident untill i took a drastic change in career path. Suddenly saw myself making mistakes and needing help from others a lot more than I was used to. That certainly took its toll on me. 3yrs in now and only just starting to get that confidence back to an extent.
Any hob nobs on offer?
Eeee the Hob Nobs have sadly been thoroughly pillaged ☹️
But….great news! - I have just found some chocolate chip cookies 😃😃"
Any tunnocks caramel logs? |
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"In general I'm quite a confident person in social situations and meeting new people which I attribute to years of training in martial arts.
Work wise I was very confident untill i took a drastic change in career path. Suddenly saw myself making mistakes and needing help from others a lot more than I was used to. That certainly took its toll on me. 3yrs in now and only just starting to get that confidence back to an extent.
Any hob nobs on offer?
Eeee the Hob Nobs have sadly been thoroughly pillaged ☹️
But….great news! - I have just found some chocolate chip cookies 😃😃
Any tunnocks caramel logs? "
Sadly not….but Tunnocks Tea Cakes - I can supply 👍🏻👍🏻😃😃 |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In general I'm quite a confident person in social situations and meeting new people which I attribute to years of training in martial arts.
Work wise I was very confident untill i took a drastic change in career path. Suddenly saw myself making mistakes and needing help from others a lot more than I was used to. That certainly took its toll on me. 3yrs in now and only just starting to get that confidence back to an extent.
Any hob nobs on offer?
Eeee the Hob Nobs have sadly been thoroughly pillaged ☹️
But….great news! - I have just found some chocolate chip cookies 😃😃
Any tunnocks caramel logs?
Sadly not….but Tunnocks Tea Cakes - I can supply 👍🏻👍🏻😃😃"
Buggers can't be choosers i suppose. Pass one over please |
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I would describe myself as being quite upbeat and confident in general life, even if I have to fake it until I make it sometimes. Being positive never does anyone any harm.
There are certain situations that make all my confidence instantly evaporate though, one of them being public speaking. Posting on these forums sort of feels like that sometimes.  |
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By *ojanMan
over a year ago
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I think I used to be as i get older now I tend to think before I talk but chatting on here sometimes feels like a one way conversation so it’s deflating sometimes but you still gotta keep going |
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I am very confident. I can chat to most people and years of professional networking has left me with no fear of working a room full of strangers to find the people on my wavelength.
Work-wise I'm confident though my imposter syndrome does a number on me at times. I have to remind myself that ex-bosses have tried to poach me several times, so I must be OK at the job if they know my performance level and still want to hire me!
Sexually... nope. Very little confidence. Otherwise yes, I know who I am and I'm confident in myself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely no confidence atall in pretty much anything.
If you imagine in Forumla 1, the teams are the back are just there to make up the numbers. They've not going to win, they just exist. This is me entirely.
I even had a co-worker female tell me should could smell my lack of confidence! |
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