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Does it happen to anyone else to not make the first move or send the first message because some profiles look so good that you think there's little chance they'll reply?
Ps: Even if is a civilised message and face pic attached.
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"Does it happen to anyone else to not make the first move or send the first message because some profiles look so good that you think there's little chance they'll reply?
Ps: Even if is a civilised message and face pic attached.
If I made any grammatical mistakes, I apologize."
The chances of a reply on here for me personally have been a solid 0.5 percent successful so generally I just can't be assed these days to try and perve silently like the voyeur I am 😘 |
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"What do have to lose? Maybe you’re their type. "
You maybe wright, but if they don't reply I'm asking my self questions like What can be the problem, what did I do wrong etc.
Maybe sounds weird guys and I sorry |
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In my experience everyone has a thing that they are looking for and it is always different - you can never tell what someone is actually into until you ask. You will often find you are that thing. Just because someone takes a good photo and is “hot” doesn’t mean that they wouldn’t want you. |
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Some profiles on here are fucking stunning. Model or pornstar qualities.
If i cinsider them out of my league, i dont even bother messaging them. Got mor chance of winning the lottery that I don't play, than get a reply. |
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If I like the look of the profile, I will message first, I've nothing to lose in doing so. To stop yourself wondering after you've sent the message, delete your sent box..that way you won't know if they've read it or not x |
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By (user no longer on site) 14 weeks ago
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I don’t message first anymore, simply because I don’t have the energy to write out a message and it get lost amongst 100+ other messages.
So just stick around in the forums. |
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I enjoy writing (Ailsa doesn’t) and the occasional first message we send is always on me to write. I see it as a challenge - and it’s quite fun to figure what to say based on a profile. It doesn’t make a huge difference if we don’t get a response - mostly we don’t. |
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Couple of points here, if I may.
- I (Mash) have always tried to punch above my weight. I learnt in my mid teens that the best looking girls were often not chatted up, as every lad thought that the girl was out of their league. Consequently, they appreciated any attention, even from a twat like myself. I carried this on into adult life, with similar positive results.
- You will be surprised how few messages people receive. (Some on here might receive hundreds a day, most do not). If you craft a message that shows you have read and understood the recipient’s profile, and you have something that will meet their stated requirements, you will have a better chance of a response. This seems like stating the obvious, you’d be surprised how many of the people sending messages don’t understand this.
- Most importantly, if someone thinks they are “above you”, then they are not worth knowing, no matter how physically attractive they might be.
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"Does it happen to anyone else to not make the first move or send the first message because some profiles look so good that you think there's little chance they'll reply?
Ps: Even if is a civilised message and face pic attached.
If I made any grammatical mistakes, I apologize."
I've never subscribed to anyone being "too good for me" or "out of my league" mantra.
If I like a profile, I will reach out and contact them. They'll either respond or ignore/delete the message.
Some people will not find you attractive and that's okay. Life goes on. |
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"Infind most women set the bar so high it's impossible. Still message now and again but don't really expect a reply.
And when they do 99% of the time theybare running a scam"
What's classed as setting the bar high? Most women just want attraction.
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By (user no longer on site) 14 weeks ago
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"Does it happen to anyone else to not make the first move or send the first message because some profiles look so good that you think there's little chance they'll reply?
Ps: Even if is a civilised message and face pic attached.
If I made any grammatical mistakes, I apologize."
If you don't send a message do you honestly think she's gonna send one ?... Maybe some do but in the big picture l'd say they don't , they're too busy with the rest of the messages |
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"Couple of points here, if I may.
- I (Mash) have always tried to punch above my weight. I learnt in my mid teens that the best looking girls were often not chatted up, as every lad thought that the girl was out of their league. Consequently, they appreciated any attention, even from a twat like myself. I carried this on into adult life, with similar positive results.
- You will be surprised how few messages people receive. (Some on here might receive hundreds a day, most do not). If you craft a message that shows you have read and understood the recipient’s profile, and you have something that will meet their stated requirements, you will have a better chance of a response. This seems like stating the obvious, you’d be surprised how many of the people sending messages don’t understand this.
- Most importantly, if someone thinks they are “above you”, then they are not worth knowing, no matter how physically attractive they might be.
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This is true even if is not me. I always read profiles to bottom because I thing this is the first way to know them better and always my messages were civilised and no organs pics just face. Maybe I have some issues on my English grammar but I do my best to improve as English is not my first language. |
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By (user no longer on site) 14 weeks ago
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I don’t think there’s anyone on fab I would not message because I think- ‘oh they’re too attractive to be into me.’
But there are people I think- ‘there’s no chance I’m their type.’ I still message them though. Because clearly I enjoy rejection. |
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"Nobody is ‘out of my league’, and anyone who thought that they were, would put them ‘out of my interest’. "
quite right, but still doesn't stop us looking at someone and thinking "jeez, they're one of the beautiful people"! Tbh, that'd almost certainly mean they'd be put of our interest too
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By *tr8MrEMan 14 weeks ago
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Nowadays I message with the intent of not getting a reply...I've gone beyond being unconfident and truly believe that pretty much every woman on here has had there reply button replaced with delete |
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"Nobody is ‘out of my league’, and anyone who thought that they were, would put them ‘out of my interest’. quite right, but still doesn't stop us looking at someone and thinking "jeez, they're one of the beautiful people"! Tbh, that'd almost certainly mean they'd be put of our interest too"
out, not put!
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"Do you approach anybody? I always wonder when people say they won't contact profiles that look really good, what their opinion is of the people they are willing to approach 🤔.
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I did approach and I was approached, I didn't say I never did it. Regarding my opinion about really good profiles- maybe because of my submissive makes me think like- Gosh she/he/they look so beautiful I don't think someone like me can be the cup of tea that they like.
Maybe I should stop writing so I don't end up embarrassing myself."
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"Does it happen to anyone else to not make the first move or send the first message because some profiles look so good that you think there's little chance they'll reply?
Ps: Even if is a civilised message and face pic attached.
If I made any grammatical mistakes, I apologize.
I've never subscribed to anyone being "too good for me" or "out of my league" mantra.
If I like a profile, I will reach out and contact them. They'll either respond or ignore/delete the message.
Some people will not find you attractive and that's okay. Life goes on."
Agree |
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By (user no longer on site) 14 weeks ago
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"Does it happen to anyone else to not make the first move or send the first message because some profiles look so good that you think there's little chance they'll reply?
Ps: Even if is a civilised message and face pic attached.
If I made any grammatical mistakes, I apologize."
I think most people would reply to a well written first message and it doesn’t need to be a novel. And if they don’t reply just block them so you don’t waste your time messaging them again I wouldn’t say anyone looks to good to message tho |
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"Does it happen to anyone else to not make the first move or send the first message because some profiles look so good that you think there's little chance they'll reply?
Ps: Even if is a civilised message and face pic attached.
If I made any grammatical mistakes, I apologize.
I think most people would reply to a well written first message and it doesn’t need to be a novel. And if they don’t reply just block them so you don’t waste your time messaging them again I wouldn’t say anyone looks to good to message tho "
I have to say that I have some gaps in my English but you are 100% wright. |
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"Oh C'mon Vince. I don't think for one minute that you worry yourself witless...... 
I know I shouldn't but I do and maybe I should stop thinking like that "
Maybe this isn't the right place for you then. |
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"Nowadays I message with the intent of not getting a reply...I've gone beyond being unconfident and truly believe that pretty much every woman on here has had there reply button replaced with delete"
Probably because the first thing you say is you've lied about your age to circumnavigate filters. Would be a straight delete and block from me |
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