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"I was thinking how much better the forums had started to get again. More people joining in. Was one suspect thread today but that was fun to watch.
Guess we see what we want to see"
I guess we all have our own interpretations (be boring if we all thought the same)
Yes saw that thread....it's funny how a topic can turn so quickly on it's head x |
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i have been on fabs a few years and i never really get involved in the forums for the reason you say it so often doesn tstay on topic and how often do you see a huge comment followed by user has left site! Too many time wasters and fantatsists on here theses days |
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By (user no longer on site) 14 weeks ago
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I don’t think it’s been any different in the 10 years I’ve been on and off them. I remember when I first joined seeing threads about how they used to be better. |
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"I don’t think it’s been any different in the 10 years I’ve been on and off them. I remember when I first joined seeing threads about how they used to be better. "
Pretty much this. They ebb and flow, people come and go, you like some and you don’t like others. If I’m not enjoying it I take a step back.
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"I don’t think it’s been any different in the 10 years I’ve been on and off them. I remember when I first joined seeing threads about how they used to be better. "
Nostalgia’s not what it used to be though, right? |
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I’ve been on here a few years now
And I’ve only just started to use it
It’s nice to kinda chat/ text
As a man at least I get a reply on a forum,
When I message someone I mostly get ignored
Or most probably the amount of message ladies get mine gets lost in the pile or deleted as a block without a look
It’s nice to talk x |
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By (user no longer on site) 14 weeks ago
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I’ve been here about 8 months and find I definitely join in less.
They are quite boring and repetitive and I’m going to say it - cliquey.
Also a lot of the people who purport to be all happy and shiny and nicely in public are anything but behind the scenes.
Like you say OP a thread quite often is hijacked by the usual protagonists. |
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"I’ve been on here a few years now
And I’ve only just started to use it
It’s nice to kinda chat/ text
As a man at least I get a reply on a forum,
When I message someone I mostly get ignored
Or most probably the amount of message ladies get mine gets lost in the pile or deleted as a block without a look
It’s nice to talk x"
Welcome 
Mrs TMN x |
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"I was thinking how much better the forums had started to get again. More people joining in. Was one suspect thread today but that was fun to watch.
Guess we see what we want to see"
I agree with this too … there has been more of a buzz the past few days. I’ve also noticed more new names popping up and their interaction which I had not seen for a little while. |
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By (user no longer on site) 14 weeks ago
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"These days on here, the forums seem to be turning into a playground.
Gone are the days where a topic remained on point 
It's no wonder new people don't get involved......sad times!"
Might just be me, but the forums have felt a bit … off, it’s not easy to interact when you’re worried about having your hand bitten off or one slight faux-pas |
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I agree with op, some of the forums/threads need to stay on subject,instead of being turned into a joke, I tend to keep it on point in other forums/threads, however I use the lounge for a giggle and a laugh with others. |
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Isn't the 'staying on point' concept a bit subjective?
Sometimes it feels a bit playground when a thread doesn't go the way someone wanted or expected and they metaphorically stamp their feet and say that's it I am going and I am taking my ball home.
I think sometimes what we consider mature or adult is really just a more convoluted expression of the same fundamental emotions we wore on our sleeves as children. |
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By *B..Woman 14 weeks ago
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I think it’s always been the same, your not always going to like everybody and little groups do form but many forget it’s just an online forum and meant to be fun, not taken personally. |
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"These days on here, the forums seem to be turning into a playground.
Gone are the days where a topic remained on point
It's no wonder new people don't get involved......sad times!"
(Blows raspberry) 😋 |
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"I’ve been here about 8 months and find I definitely join in less.
They are quite boring and repetitive and I’m going to say it - cliquey.
Also a lot of the people who purport to be all happy and shiny and nicely in public are anything but behind the scenes.
Like you say OP a thread quite often is hijacked by the usual protagonists. "
Always the same 7-10 people replying amongst them… 🥱 🥱 🥱
But it’s always been like that. Difference is that the cl…group of 7-10 changes with time. |
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Forum regulars, cliques, the usual suspects are totally a normal thing in any forum.
The difference I find is in the level of inclusivity and how newbies are received and encouraged. Even on fab it varies wildly from section to section.
I think sometimes some people forget that not every thread is a chat room in the lounge.
It's all swinging and roundabouts though. Getting over invested in an online forum probably isn't good for the head whether you feel like your in or your out. |
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"Yet here you are op joining in with the derailing of a thread 
?????Hottest girl on fab thread
Oh I see best keep it zipped from now on then 🫢"
I just can't see how you can complain about something your doing yourself |
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"Yet here you are op joining in with the derailing of a thread
?????Hottest girl on fab thread
Oh I see best keep it zipped from now on then 🫢I just can't see how you can complain about something your doing yourself"
Problem sorted, I've apologised and got back on track |
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"I was thinking how much better the forums had started to get again. More people joining in. Was one suspect thread today but that was fun to watch.
Guess we see what we want to see
I guess we all have our own interpretations (be boring if we all thought the same)
Yes saw that thread....it's funny how a topic can turn so quickly on it's head x"
Now I feel driven to know what I've missed  . But please don't tell me, if it's likely to be sickening in any way  |
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"I was thinking how much better the forums had started to get again. More people joining in. Was one suspect thread today but that was fun to watch.
Guess we see what we want to see
I guess we all have our own interpretations (be boring if we all thought the same)
Yes saw that thread....it's funny how a topic can turn so quickly on it's head x
Now I feel driven to know what I've missed . But please don't tell me, if it's likely to be sickening in any way "
It was just a squabble Sophie between a few but jt was funny to watch from the sidelines. Bad person that I am |
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"i have been on fabs a few years and i never really get involved in the forums for the reason you say it so often doesn tstay on topic and how often do you see a huge comment followed by user has left site! Too many time wasters and fantatsists on here theses days"
correct and you have more chance of pulling on face ache than some of the loudest on here.
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"These days on here, the forums seem to be turning into a playground.
Gone are the days where a topic remained on point
It's no wonder new people don't get involved......sad times!"
I don’t mind the topics will drift. Sometimes it’s funny, and we could all do with more play time in our lives x |
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By (user no longer on site) 14 weeks ago
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the forums will only go one way as more and more men flood in and thats the wanky way..
add in those who think the forums is theirs and wont ollow others opinions then no wonder so few couples or women get involved i belive most the couples on the forums are male led too ..
but for me the forums are by far the least important area of fab as its is with most its a tiny tiny % that use it so tiny it really means zero to most ..and of course there feels like their are less women and couples on fan now and indeed the scene thats being filled by men that want port and wanking fantasies because they cant swing..
and no im far from anti men as im only on fab for guys .. if can find the ones i like
#justmyopinion
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By (user no longer on site) 14 weeks ago
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"It's all mens fault
I'm not anti men
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no im not saying that as such its just the site has attracted many many more men than couples and women and with it being so one sided that its bound to have changed but its that change that is putting off women and couples from the scene ..
if your a swinger you have to navigate to avoid all those non swingers and the facts are most are men ...most of the forum post are men the forums are reparenting the majority and that is men its just the way its is so many wanting the very little looking look at all the moany post 99% men ... so no noty picking on men its just what it is
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I comment on posts I want to comment on and then leave - I used to get completely caught up in the forums but mostly it’s just like pissing in the wind…
There aren’t many threads to comment on now though and I just avoid the people or threads that I find tedious.
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