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why do so many men put they are straight on their bio but are clearly either gay or bi?
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By *elloWoman 11 weeks ago
alpha centauri |
"why not just put gay or bio on your bio? i dont get it "
 interesting question, can't believe it isn't asked weekly 
Why do you have to get what other people put on their profile, it's their profile. You don't like or agree with it then move on |
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"Maybe they don’t see themselves as gay or bi.
I'm neither straight or bi..... I'm basically a slut.
Now if fab had that as a section for men I'd be happy and save so much confusion I think. "
I think a lot of men would be ok with this section |
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I have ‘bi curious’ on my profile as am happy to fondle a willy (and that’s as far as it goes) in a mixed-gender group. However, I’m absolutely NOT interested in anything that involves only another guy or guys. |
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I think some so called straight guys like to go with tv/CD as they feel they are not questioning their own sexuality. I am a gay guy who is only interested in men, love women but not sexually. These men will happily play with my dick while fucking me but if I was just myself as a gay man they would run a mile. Each to their own as long as they treat people with respect |
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"Tbh - it doesn't matter what you put.....
My profile says I'm 'straight straight, not Fab straight' and I still get messages from guys asking for a meet.  "
If it was straight on your profile,I would take you as staight.
I have guys message me wanting fun and because it is straight on profile I am not interested as what else could they lie about if they can not even get a profile right. |
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Gay men have a fascination with straight guys
Bi guys prefer other bi guys over gay guys
So, by stating you are gay you severely reduce your audience
As an example, I have always made no secret of my bi-sexuality
I have always been open about the fact I am not single
I have always, when asked, disclosed that my life partner is male
I would say 8 (possibly 9) times out of 10, guys will lose interest pretty much immediately on that disclosure
Like suddenly, I'm not bi enough
Almost as if you can only be bi if you have a female partner - or shag more women than men
I could point out somewhere between 75 & 100 blokes on here who live fully gay lives yet are listed as bi - or even straight
There is a mix here of
- denial
- internalised homophobia
- outward homophobia
- kiddology
- role play / acting
And when I talk about the 'phobes' I point my finger at many a gay bloke who won't let a simple tick box option get in the way of how much cock he might attract
I think that truly straight people are way less phobic than their bi and gay counterparts
So, that's why! |
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"It’s the same as not having a transgender woman on their profile when they’ve been with them they think that a hot woman’s gonna be put off "
But you've got straight on your profile and you're looking for men 🤔 |
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"Tbh - it doesn't matter what you put.....
My profile says I'm 'straight straight, not Fab straight' and I still get messages from guys asking for a meet. "
Block single guys from messaging you in your filters 👍🏻 |
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"I think some so called straight guys like to go with tv/CD as they feel they are not questioning their own sexuality."
I mean, you say that, but as a transitioning woman who has changed my legal gender everywhere I can, the struggle to be accepted as a woman by the men who want to hook up it's exhausting.
If they're trying not to question their sexuality, why do they reply to "I'm a woman" with "yeah ok"?
And let's not even get into the private forum replies..... |
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By *_Mia_XTV/TS 11 weeks ago
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"I think some so called straight guys like to go with tv/CD as they feel they are not questioning their own sexuality.
I mean, you say that, but as a transitioning woman who has changed my legal gender everywhere I can, the struggle to be accepted as a woman by the men who want to hook up it's exhausting.
If they're trying not to question their sexuality, why do they reply to "I'm a woman" with "yeah ok"?
And let's not even get into the private forum replies....."
This like the number of people who have asked that would hooking up with them make them gay is a lot. Obviously not |
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Some day straight so it doesn't put women or couples off.
Also judging by the threads I've seen, some don't see themselves as bi, even if they do regularly engage in sexual acts with the same sex,because they don't fancy men or have relationships with them. |
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"I think some so called straight guys like to go with tv/CD as they feel they are not questioning their own sexuality.
I mean, you say that, but as a transitioning woman who has changed my legal gender everywhere I can, the struggle to be accepted as a woman by the men who want to hook up it's exhausting.
If they're trying not to question their sexuality, why do they reply to "I'm a woman" with "yeah ok"?
And let's not even get into the private forum replies....."
Just because you see yourself as something doesn't mean everyone else has to join in with the deception. Just accept that some will always see you as a trans woman, not a woman, and engaging with any sexual act with you is not heterosexual. |
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It's up to everyone to use their profile how they wish.
You can also block messages from any group male/tv etc that you don't want to contact you.
Or you can just leave the filters off and complain about it in the forums x |
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By *edSirenWoman 11 weeks ago
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It’s a shame that we still feel the need to label our sexuality. I get labels can help with self identity, but I can’t help but feel that they’re being used to discriminate against those who either don’t give a shit to put one on themselves, aren’t ready to publicly confirm it, or are genuinely not sure what they are.
Maybe there should be a category for ‘confused’ or ‘non specific’… or better yet, just make them non mandatory on a profile 🤷🏻♀️ time wasters will be time wasters regardless of what their profile labels them as. |
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"It’s a shame that we still feel the need to label our sexuality. I get labels can help with self identity, but I can’t help but feel that they’re being used to discriminate against those who either don’t give a shit to put one on themselves, aren’t ready to publicly confirm it, or are genuinely not sure what they are.
Maybe there should be a category for ‘confused’ or ‘non specific’… or better yet, just make them non mandatory on a profile 🤷🏻♀️ time wasters will be time wasters regardless of what their profile labels them as."
So out of the labels that are available on here wouldn’t bi curious fit than then? |
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By *edSirenWoman 11 weeks ago
magic mountain |
"It’s a shame that we still feel the need to label our sexuality. I get labels can help with self identity, but I can’t help but feel that they’re being used to discriminate against those who either don’t give a shit to put one on themselves, aren’t ready to publicly confirm it, or are genuinely not sure what they are.
Maybe there should be a category for ‘confused’ or ‘non specific’… or better yet, just make them non mandatory on a profile 🤷🏻♀️ time wasters will be time wasters regardless of what their profile labels them as.
So out of the labels that are available on here wouldn’t bi curious fit than then?"
If there’s still some confusion then maybe not 🤷🏻♀️ especially when it’s someone who is maybe still coming to terms with it internally doesn’t want to advertise something they’re not even sure about. |
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"I think some so called straight guys like to go with tv/CD as they feel they are not questioning their own sexuality.
I mean, you say that, but as a transitioning woman who has changed my legal gender everywhere I can, the struggle to be accepted as a woman by the men who want to hook up it's exhausting.
If they're trying not to question their sexuality, why do they reply to "I'm a woman" with "yeah ok"?
And let's not even get into the private forum replies.....
Just because you see yourself as something doesn't mean everyone else has to join in with the deception. Just accept that some will always see you as a trans woman, not a woman, and engaging with any sexual act with you is not heterosexual."
Trans women are women. Trans men are men.  |
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"I think some so called straight guys like to go with tv/CD as they feel they are not questioning their own sexuality.
I mean, you say that, but as a transitioning woman who has changed my legal gender everywhere I can, the struggle to be accepted as a woman by the men who want to hook up it's exhausting.
If they're trying not to question their sexuality, why do they reply to "I'm a woman" with "yeah ok"?
And let's not even get into the private forum replies.....
Just because you see yourself as something doesn't mean everyone else has to join in with the deception. Just accept that some will always see you as a trans woman, not a woman, and engaging with any sexual act with you is not heterosexual.
Trans women are women. Trans men are men. "
Trans women are trans women and trans men are trans men. Men are men, women are women. |
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I am a trans woman but the majority of people Perceive me as a woman. So that’s on them not me to worry about how one defines their sexuality.
For me it’s simple. I am a trans woman but I live in affect as a generic woman Passport / driving / paperwork etc other than my birth certificate which well frankly I am hardly using for anything |
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By *irsSubCouple 11 weeks ago
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We flat out refuse to meet with guys who have straight on their profile and then claim to be bi. We do it for 2 reasons:
1, a lot of them are clearly happy to receive oral off a guy if it means getting some pussy (big turn off)
2, if we are going to be inviting someone into our relationship we need to trust them so not being on your profile is a massive red flag.
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