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Communicate what you think you need and what you would like her to join you in doing..
If you can't even speak to her about something that's led you to open a profile with her knowing that's not healthy..
If you do discuss it and she doesn't want to then respect her choice..
Sharing fantasies can be very fulfilling and enjoyable for you both, you'll never know till you try .. |
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"Haha came here for support I don't know how to bring it up when she's d*unk she's up for it but not sober"
This is the stupidest and immoral idea ever.
Talk. To. Your. Wife. When you're both sober! |
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"Haha came here for support I don't know how to bring it up when she's d*unk she's up for it but not sober"
Bring it up sober. Get her real feelings. If she says no, decide whether to choose swinging or her. |
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"Might delete this thread would never force the idea on my wife or go behind her back just wondered best way to bring it up "
It's a hard thing to bring up. People on here will assume you're cheating or trying to cheat, because many people do.
But no matter what your intentions, a sober conversation about your fantasies is the best way to start. |
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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago
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"I'm scared incase she thinks I'm strange lol"
Maybe take a step back and think about why you feel like you can’t be open with her about what you want. In a healthy relationship, you should be able to talk openly about things, even if you don’t end up wanting the same stuff. |
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"Might delete this thread would never force the idea on my wife or go behind her back just wondered best way to bring it up "
We were together over 20 years before we talked about it and then another 18 months before we decided to have a venture..
Watching a film together and a certain scene gives an opportunity etc.. |
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"Hey the thought of sharing my wife drives me crazy but she's very vanilla and I'm scared to suggest it "
Talk, talk and talk some more, then talk, do some more talking and then talk even more than you did the last time you talked, reassure her, listen to her, talk to her, let her talk to you
When my hubby suggested us doing 'this' I was devastated, tears, arguing, uncertainty. 3yrs on and I'm living my best life!!
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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago
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"We're a very happy couple get on great just wanted to spice things up lol thanks for the reply "
I think that was in reply to my comment?
If you’re a very happy couple who gets on great, why not trust that you can talk to her openly about this? A secret profile looking for "discreet fun" doesn’t really line up with that. No judgment, just an observation. I hope all goes well.
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I'll give the same advice I give every man who starts this type of thread.
You know her better than we do and surely have some idea if it would be for her or not.
Talk to her, have that Frank conversation, but be prepared it might not be for her. If she says no, drop it. |
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By *batMan 11 weeks ago
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What do you talk about when you have sex with her?
Have you talked about swinging and if so, does it turn her on?
If you don't talk before/during/after sex, I doubt getting a few extra cocks involved is going to be a great success.
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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago
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I really need to strongly advise that you need to understand psychology or talk to someone highly experienced and knowledgeable to assess the situation to decide if it's a good idea. The fact she isn't up for it sober but she is when she's d*unk tells me there's some internal conflicts that she needs to address because this won't go too well for you if you try discussing it and introducing her into the lifestyle without knowing what you're getting into. It could cause a rift in your marriage that will be difficult to repair. |
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By *batMan 11 weeks ago
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"It could cause a rift in your marriage that will be difficult to repair."
As could discussing your wife's sex life here, without her knowledge or consent.
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You've asked how to get your wife in to swinging. Not 'how can I discuss my fantasies with my wife more easily?' or 'how can I encourage my wife to be more adventurous?'.
This tells me that your main thoughts
are centred around what you want and how to get your wife to do it. You've already started without her.
Until or unless you can talk to her when she's *sober* about the direction you'd like your sex life to take you won't get anywhere.
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