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What annoys you most on here?
This happened today, and it really annoys me. It’s happened once before.
Chatting to someone for a couple of months, finally arranged to meet at 1pm today. I rearranged a doctors appointment. Ran about sorting a few things this morning. Gave the house a quick tidy. Put the heating up. Sent message with address and directions, and where to park. Even switched on outside light to make it easier to find my house. Showered, shaved and put clean clothes on. Put the cat outside. Received a message at 12.30 saying looking forward to meet. I replied, me too. Gave them my phone number in case they got lost, or if they had to cancel last moment. And…yes. You’ve guessed it, they didn’t turn up. Did I receive a text message or phone call explaining why they couldn’t come? Nope. But four hours later they blocked me! How rude. If you decide you don’t want to meet at the last moment, have the decency and politeness to either message on here, or text. |
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By *olo180Man 12 weeks ago
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"What annoys you most on here?
This happened today, and it really annoys me. It’s happened once before.
Chatting to someone for a couple of months, finally arranged to meet at 1pm today. I rearranged a doctors appointment. Ran about sorting a few things this morning. Gave the house a quick tidy. Put the heating up. Sent message with address and directions, and where to park. Even switched on outside light to make it easier to find my house. Showered, shaved and put clean clothes on. Put the cat outside. Received a message at 12.30 saying looking forward to meet. I replied, me too. Gave them my phone number in case they got lost, or if they had to cancel last moment. And…yes. You’ve guessed it, they didn’t turn up. Did I receive a text message or phone call explaining why they couldn’t come? Nope. But four hours later they blocked me! How rude. If you decide you don’t want to meet at the last moment, have the decency and politeness to either message on here, or text."
Shitty behaviour.. sorry man
Makes you think why bother with this site hey?! |
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I always look at these things contextually
Your are in a warm and tidy house
Your cat has had some springtime adventures
You're in a better position than many
Admittedly frustrating when you're looking forward to something, but chalk it up to experience
I think most of us have been led a merry dance at some point |
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By *a LunaWoman 12 weeks ago
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Sometimes I’d like to log on and browse the forums without getting inundated by folk messaging me because I’m showing as online. Sometimes I’m just not feeling chatty. Totally me and not them.
It would be nice to have a “online/offline” indicator where you can mark yourself as offline, instead of having to hide profile.
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"What annoys you most on here?
This happened today, and it really annoys me. It’s happened once before.
Chatting to someone for a couple of months, finally arranged to meet at 1pm today. I rearranged a doctors appointment. Ran about sorting a few things this morning. Gave the house a quick tidy. Put the heating up. Sent message with address and directions, and where to park. Even switched on outside light to make it easier to find my house. Showered, shaved and put clean clothes on. Put the cat outside. Received a message at 12.30 saying looking forward to meet. I replied, me too. Gave them my phone number in case they got lost, or if they had to cancel last moment. And…yes. You’ve guessed it, they didn’t turn up. Did I receive a text message or phone call explaining why they couldn’t come? Nope. But four hours later they blocked me! How rude. If you decide you don’t want to meet at the last moment, have the decency and politeness to either message on here, or text.
Shitty behaviour.. sorry man
Makes you think why bother with this site hey?! "
Yes it does, thank you for your sympathy and message |
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"I always look at these things contextually
Your are in a warm and tidy house
Your cat has had some springtime adventures
You're in a better position than many
Admittedly frustrating when you're looking forward to something, but chalk it up to experience
I think most of us have been led a merry dance at some point "
Yes, good way to see it, thank you |
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"Sometimes I’d like to log on and browse the forums without getting inundated by folk messaging me because I’m showing as online. Sometimes I’m just not feeling chatty. Totally me and not them.
It would be nice to have a “online/offline” indicator where you can mark yourself as offline, instead of having to hide profile.
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That’s a brilliant idea. You should put it forward. |
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"That is a shit way to be treated OP. Really don’t understand why people either get off on it or don’t just say they have gotten cold feet!
What gets on my nerves currently is distance. "
Thanks curves. Just respect if you are going to pull out to the other person. Distance? As in people very far away? |
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"Sometimes I’d like to log on and browse the forums without getting inundated by folk messaging me because I’m showing as online. Sometimes I’m just not feeling chatty. Totally me and not them.
It would be nice to have a “online/offline” indicator where you can mark yourself as offline, instead of having to hide profile.
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THIS!!!
I've literally just updated my status to say ***On forums***
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"Sometimes I’d like to log on and browse the forums without getting inundated by folk messaging me because I’m showing as online. Sometimes I’m just not feeling chatty. Totally me and not them.
It would be nice to have a “online/offline” indicator where you can mark yourself as offline, instead of having to hide profile.
THIS!!!
I've literally just updated my status to say ***On forums***
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Yes, I can see that is annoying. |
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"What annoys you most on here?
This happened today, and it really annoys me. It’s happened once before.
Chatting to someone for a couple of months, finally arranged to meet at 1pm today. I rearranged a doctors appointment. Ran about sorting a few things this morning. Gave the house a quick tidy. Put the heating up. Sent message with address and directions, and where to park. Even switched on outside light to make it easier to find my house. Showered, shaved and put clean clothes on. Put the cat outside. Received a message at 12.30 saying looking forward to meet. I replied, me too. Gave them my phone number in case they got lost, or if they had to cancel last moment. And…yes. You’ve guessed it, they didn’t turn up. Did I receive a text message or phone call explaining why they couldn’t come? Nope. But four hours later they blocked me! How rude. If you decide you don’t want to meet at the last moment, have the decency and politeness to either message on here, or text."
Infinity percent to this. Feeling fucked off with very similar situations! Both from here and on dating apps. Turning me incredibly cynical and that's not me by nature  |
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"What annoys you most on here?
This happened today, and it really annoys me. It’s happened once before.
Chatting to someone for a couple of months, finally arranged to meet at 1pm today. I rearranged a doctors appointment. Ran about sorting a few things this morning. Gave the house a quick tidy. Put the heating up. Sent message with address and directions, and where to park. Even switched on outside light to make it easier to find my house. Showered, shaved and put clean clothes on. Put the cat outside. Received a message at 12.30 saying looking forward to meet. I replied, me too. Gave them my phone number in case they got lost, or if they had to cancel last moment. And…yes. You’ve guessed it, they didn’t turn up. Did I receive a text message or phone call explaining why they couldn’t come? Nope. But four hours later they blocked me! How rude. If you decide you don’t want to meet at the last moment, have the decency and politeness to either message on here, or text.
Infinity percent to this. Feeling fucked off with very similar situations! Both from here and on dating apps. Turning me incredibly cynical and that's not me by nature "
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"What annoys you most on here?
This happened today, and it really annoys me. It’s happened once before.
Chatting to someone for a couple of months, finally arranged to meet at 1pm today. I rearranged a doctors appointment. Ran about sorting a few things this morning. Gave the house a quick tidy. Put the heating up. Sent message with address and directions, and where to park. Even switched on outside light to make it easier to find my house. Showered, shaved and put clean clothes on. Put the cat outside. Received a message at 12.30 saying looking forward to meet. I replied, me too. Gave them my phone number in case they got lost, or if they had to cancel last moment. And…yes. You’ve guessed it, they didn’t turn up. Did I receive a text message or phone call explaining why they couldn’t come? Nope. But four hours later they blocked me! How rude. If you decide you don’t want to meet at the last moment, have the decency and politeness to either message on here, or text.
Infinity percent to this. Feeling fucked off with very similar situations! Both from here and on dating apps. Turning me incredibly cynical and that's not me by nature "
Oh sorry to hear that. Seems to happen quite frequently. |
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By *B..Woman 12 weeks ago
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"Sometimes I’d like to log on and browse the forums without getting inundated by folk messaging me because I’m showing as online. Sometimes I’m just not feeling chatty. Totally me and not them.
It would be nice to have a “online/offline” indicator where you can mark yourself as offline, instead of having to hide profile.
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I’ve said the same before, so annoying when trying to clear out your inbox and as many come is as your deleting |
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"What annoys you most on here?
This happened today, and it really annoys me. It’s happened once before.
Chatting to someone for a couple of months, finally arranged to meet at 1pm today. I rearranged a doctors appointment. Ran about sorting a few things this morning. Gave the house a quick tidy. Put the heating up. Sent message with address and directions, and where to park. Even switched on outside light to make it easier to find my house. Showered, shaved and put clean clothes on. Put the cat outside. Received a message at 12.30 saying looking forward to meet. I replied, me too. Gave them my phone number in case they got lost, or if they had to cancel last moment. And…yes. You’ve guessed it, they didn’t turn up. Did I receive a text message or phone call explaining why they couldn’t come? Nope. But four hours later they blocked me! How rude. If you decide you don’t want to meet at the last moment, have the decency and politeness to either message on here, or text."
And you even thrown out the poor moggy cat.... How very dare they!!😠
You are quite understandably annoyed op. I understand, probably like you that things may happen, go wrong, change if mind even there could if been an emergency. It just ruins the ethos of the site to be honest. Sorry to hear that op... Hope cat is ok 😺👍 |
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"Sometimes I’d like to log on and browse the forums without getting inundated by folk messaging me because I’m showing as online. Sometimes I’m just not feeling chatty. Totally me and not them.
It would be nice to have a “online/offline” indicator where you can mark yourself as offline, instead of having to hide profile.
I’ve said the same before, so annoying when trying to clear out your inbox and as many come is as your deleting "
I suspect most women on here have that problem. As you said, off line indicator would be a good idea. |
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"What annoys you most on here?
This happened today, and it really annoys me. It’s happened once before.
Chatting to someone for a couple of months, finally arranged to meet at 1pm today. I rearranged a doctors appointment. Ran about sorting a few things this morning. Gave the house a quick tidy. Put the heating up. Sent message with address and directions, and where to park. Even switched on outside light to make it easier to find my house. Showered, shaved and put clean clothes on. Put the cat outside. Received a message at 12.30 saying looking forward to meet. I replied, me too. Gave them my phone number in case they got lost, or if they had to cancel last moment. And…yes. You’ve guessed it, they didn’t turn up. Did I receive a text message or phone call explaining why they couldn’t come? Nope. But four hours later they blocked me! How rude. If you decide you don’t want to meet at the last moment, have the decency and politeness to either message on here, or text.
And you even thrown out the poor moggy cat.... How very dare they!!😠
You are quite understandably annoyed op. I understand, probably like you that things may happen, go wrong, change if mind even there could if been an emergency. It just ruins the ethos of the site to be honest. Sorry to hear that op... Hope cat is ok 😺👍"
Lol thank you dynamite. The cat is fine, a real hunter, she loves being outside so she doesn’t mind. And be rest assured, she’s never thrown out, lol, placed her on the garden bench in the sun. Yes I agree, things can go wrong, but send a message, don’t just block four hours later. Thinking about it I think it was cold feet, any other reason they would have sent a message and not block. I suppose the fact they’d joined a year ago and had no verifications should have been a red flag. |
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People that put answers to opening message questions on their profile eg. DONT ASK ME - "How are you? - I'm fine for the 300th time today" " You look great - I'm aware" "How's your day been? - Fantastic". Anyone with half a brain cell should realise that in an opening message, if someone is asking how you are or how your day has been is not a personal attack and it's not them going out of their way to waste your time. I wouldn't even say it's a copy and paste. It's an act of kindness and you should return the question. Crazy behaviour for me.. |
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"People that put answers to opening message questions on their profile eg. DONT ASK ME - "How are you? - I'm fine for the 300th time today" " You look great - I'm aware" "How's your day been? - Fantastic". Anyone with half a brain cell should realise that in an opening message, if someone is asking how you are or how your day has been is not a personal attack and it's not them going out of their way to waste your time. I wouldn't even say it's a copy and paste. It's an act of kindness and you should return the question. Crazy behaviour for me.."
I agree |
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"That's absolute crap behaviour op, sorry you had that, there are some knobs on here who get off doing this it seems.
Please report them, as they may have done it to others. "
Thank you. I have reported them. Let's hope they don't do it again. |
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"That's absolute crap behaviour op, sorry you had that, there are some knobs on here who get off doing this it seems.
Please report them, as they may have done it to others.
Thank you. I have reported them. Let's hope they don't do it again."
Oh, does reporting them actually do anything? I wouldn't have thought it to be a reportable offence. |
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"What annoys you most on here?
This happened today, and it really annoys me. It’s happened once before.
Chatting to someone for a couple of months, finally arranged to meet at 1pm today. I rearranged a doctors appointment. Ran about sorting a few things this morning. Gave the house a quick tidy. Put the heating up. Sent message with address and directions, and where to park. Even switched on outside light to make it easier to find my house. Showered, shaved and put clean clothes on. Put the cat outside. Received a message at 12.30 saying looking forward to meet. I replied, me too. Gave them my phone number in case they got lost, or if they had to cancel last moment. And…yes. You’ve guessed it, they didn’t turn up. Did I receive a text message or phone call explaining why they couldn’t come? Nope. But four hours later they blocked me! How rude. If you decide you don’t want to meet at the last moment, have the decency and politeness to either message on here, or text."
This has happened to me twice at the cost of a hotel room!! It's disgusting behaviour, I get anyone can have something happen or cold feet, but just send a message and be honest, it takes seconds! |
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"That's absolute crap behaviour op, sorry you had that, there are some knobs on here who get off doing this it seems.
Please report them, as they may have done it to others.
Thank you. I have reported them. Let's hope they don't do it again.
Oh, does reporting them actually do anything? I wouldn't have thought it to be a reportable offence. "
You are probably right |
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"What annoys you most on here?
This happened today, and it really annoys me. It’s happened once before.
Chatting to someone for a couple of months, finally arranged to meet at 1pm today. I rearranged a doctors appointment. Ran about sorting a few things this morning. Gave the house a quick tidy. Put the heating up. Sent message with address and directions, and where to park. Even switched on outside light to make it easier to find my house. Showered, shaved and put clean clothes on. Put the cat outside. Received a message at 12.30 saying looking forward to meet. I replied, me too. Gave them my phone number in case they got lost, or if they had to cancel last moment. And…yes. You’ve guessed it, they didn’t turn up. Did I receive a text message or phone call explaining why they couldn’t come? Nope. But four hours later they blocked me! How rude. If you decide you don’t want to meet at the last moment, have the decency and politeness to either message on here, or text. This has happened to me twice at the cost of a hotel room!! It's disgusting behaviour, I get anyone can have something happen or cold feet, but just send a message and be honest, it takes seconds! "
Totally agree |
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"Yeah I've had that OP. It wasn't months of messaging though. It was my first and only arranged meet so far. It's annoying but what can you do about it.
Lol, keep trying."
I am. Although I've had a cold for the last couple of months so not meeting is kind of on me. I am really sorry they wasted your time though. Others may be completely put off the site by having such experiences. |
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"What annoys you most on here?
This happened today, and it really annoys me. It’s happened once before.
Chatting to someone for a couple of months, finally arranged to meet at 1pm today. I rearranged a doctors appointment. Ran about sorting a few things this morning. Gave the house a quick tidy. Put the heating up. Sent message with address and directions, and where to park. Even switched on outside light to make it easier to find my house. Showered, shaved and put clean clothes on. Put the cat outside. Received a message at 12.30 saying looking forward to meet. I replied, me too. Gave them my phone number in case they got lost, or if they had to cancel last moment. And…yes. You’ve guessed it, they didn’t turn up. Did I receive a text message or phone call explaining why they couldn’t come? Nope. But four hours later they blocked me! How rude. If you decide you don’t want to meet at the last moment, have the decency and politeness to either message on here, or text."
What?
You sent your address to a stranger, without ever having even talked to them on the phone...?!?
Ye gawds. |
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"Yeah I've had that OP. It wasn't months of messaging though. It was my first and only arranged meet so far. It's annoying but what can you do about it.
Lol, keep trying.
I am. Although I've had a cold for the last couple of months so not meeting is kind of on me. I am really sorry they wasted your time though. Others may be completely put off the site by having such experiences."
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"What annoys you most on here?
This happened today, and it really annoys me. It’s happened once before.
Chatting to someone for a couple of months, finally arranged to meet at 1pm today. I rearranged a doctors appointment. Ran about sorting a few things this morning. Gave the house a quick tidy. Put the heating up. Sent message with address and directions, and where to park. Even switched on outside light to make it easier to find my house. Showered, shaved and put clean clothes on. Put the cat outside. Received a message at 12.30 saying looking forward to meet. I replied, me too. Gave them my phone number in case they got lost, or if they had to cancel last moment. And…yes. You’ve guessed it, they didn’t turn up. Did I receive a text message or phone call explaining why they couldn’t come? Nope. But four hours later they blocked me! How rude. If you decide you don’t want to meet at the last moment, have the decency and politeness to either message on here, or text.
What?
You sent your address to a stranger, without ever having even talked to them on the phone...?!?
Ye gawds."
I know, but to arrange a meet, at some point you have to give your address. |
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