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What is one thing or a few things actually that took you a while to get used too on this site?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I think for me it was having my messages at the start unread or deleted, I thought how rude and anti-social are people on here. Obviously I realised and read the FAQS to know what the score is on here.
Also ninja mode, I didn't even know that was a thing until I saw someone mention it on the forums. |
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The liars and the dirty dirty dogs... |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
Was the site in general given amount on it, I didn't know or didn't familiarise myself given amount of options to click and take note
Didn't find the forums until 2 years in on the site 😂🤣 |
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"The liars and the dirty dirty dogs..."
New to the internet and contact sites I take when you joined  |
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By *eys00Man
over a year ago
have boots will travel |
"I think for me it was having my messages at the start unread or deleted, I thought how rude and anti-social are people on here. Obviously I realised and read the FAQS to know what the score is on here.
Also ninja mode, I didn't even know that was a thing until I saw someone mention it on the forums. "
Exact same, used to be confused about why a message wasn’t opened at the least! Never dawned on me that I was just one of hundreds and that lady I messaged was probably inundated 😂 |
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Seeing so many people into watersports, it's a real eye opener. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seeing so many people into watersports, it's a real eye opener."
Never keep your eyes open, you could use goggles though if you must |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seeing so many people into watersports, it's a real eye opener."
I'd keep your eyes shut |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seeing so many people into watersports, it's a real eye opener.
Never keep your eyes open, you could use goggles though if you must"
You're too fast for me, DD🫡 |
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I think this site should be split in two first half should be for the people who do one off hook ups the other for actual swingers. I think it would cut the bs |
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The rejection rate. I thought I'd log in a d my inbox would be off the scale women and cpls galore all baying for my attention ? But unfortunately it was majority of men single gay bi and tvts. 🤔 |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What’s ninja mode?"
You can go
“Hide on who looked at me”
Means you don’t show up when looking at someone’s profile |
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Didn’t really appreciate the ratio on here of men to women  |
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All of the Fanny pictures I get sent on the daily |
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The sycophancy and outright lies. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The sheer volume of men messaging that makes you feel like an object |
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By *enaiWoman
over a year ago
worcester |
Not understanding why British men are voyers but never take it further |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Didn’t really appreciate the ratio on here of men to women "
The Sirens of fab draw sailors in from afare with their charms. |
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By *viatrixCouple
over a year ago
Gatwick |
"Not understanding why British men are voyers but never take it further"
A friend and I were discussing this the other day as it seems there are many more no-shows now than in the past… or chats that never follow through to meeting.
It seems that many are just after the wankety-wank, hahaha we exploded in fits of laughter because “wank” is such a funny word for me. Once the wank is done, they disappear. |
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By *eys00Man
over a year ago
have boots will travel |
Everyone move to Ireland, no such problems here 😉😂 |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Having to constantly refresh the page🔄 |
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"Not understanding why British men are voyers but never take it further
A friend and I were discussing this the other day as it seems there are many more no-shows now than in the past… or chats that never follow through to meeting.
It seems that many are just after the wankety-wank, hahaha we exploded in fits of laughter because “wank” is such a funny word for me. Once the wank is done, they disappear. "
Yep I find this hugely with most of single female profiles that message me. On 12 months 4 materialised .
Couples pretty much the bulk of them just wanted male to meet or just ongoing chit chat.
I like to meet fast within 2 weeks socially it club etc as after that it just falls away into most likely not happening in my experience |
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Ppls ability to be offended by the slightest little thing. 🤷 |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That there lot of Men that whinge and men are very bitchy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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First joining in with the forum and seeing the volume of 'we are going to a club/have a meet/have several meets' posts on a Friday while I was going to be completely unoccupied |
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Seeing naked bodies this site isn’t for the faint hearted |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
How many guys are into Tgirls |
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How in a place which is all about freedom of sexual activity, quite a number of people can be so intolerant about freedom of gender expression... |
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"The genuine lack of women"
It’s over populated by men. That’s the issue and must women are attached |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hadn’t realised my inbox would be so constantly overstuffed. Ladies, please. There’s only so much of me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The jealousy. Worse than in conventional dating imo. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ppls ability to be offended by the slightest little thing. 🤷"
How dare you say such a thing 😂 |
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The amount of desperate men who would fuck anything and delusional women who put "curvy" as there body type 🤣. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How fake shallow lot people are and tell lies |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The lack of emojis. A lot of my messages/statuses had ???????? In
Then that changed
🥹🥰🤩 😻💄💋👑🦄🪼 |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"That there lot of Men that whinge and men are very bitchy "
Does seem like there are a lot of guys lately on the forums moaning because they can't get meets |
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By *eys00Man
over a year ago
have boots will travel |
"The lack of emojis. A lot of my messages/statuses had ???????? In
Then that changed
🥹🥰🤩 😻💄💋👑🦄🪼"
I was always wondering what you were so curious about 😂 |
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That straight people are often vilified. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The lack of emojis. A lot of my messages/statuses had ???????? In
Then that changed
🥹🥰🤩 😻💄💋👑🦄🪼"
Oh it used to make me laugh. I'd put a status up, use emoji and then I'd see ?????
It proper confused me at first |
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How much the majority of men are whiny little bitches.
The mr |
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"The jealousy. Worse than in conventional dating imo."
In what way Bloomsy? Lamp post pissing "she slept with him but won't sleep with me" type (applicable the other way of course but less likely). |
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WHEN THEY FLIPPED ORDER - THE PUBLIC VIDEOS APPEARED ABOVE PUBLIC PHOTOS. 🤬😡
WTF!! Why they messin’
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Realising that age would be quite a limiting factor at the time because of what looked like the typical age demographic of the site |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Also. Fab hot is real. I know, I know. Lots of people claim they get the same attention away from fab but I don’t have 50 people tell me they find me attractive everyday. That was weird to get used to |
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How certain behaviours are criticised in men but applauded in women |
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The double standards and closed mindedness of people. God forbid you be a straight woman or bi man in the swinging community lol |
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Also how fucking socially inept some people are - especially single men. The complete lack of self awareness and an overestimation of self.
Taking shite pictures, endless pics of their ugly cocks and then wondering why women aren’t falling over themselves to get in touch. |
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"Also. Fab hot is real. I know, I know. Lots of people claim they get the same attention away from fab but I don’t have 50 people tell me they find me attractive everyday. That was weird to get used to "
Dying of thirst watching others drown |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The jealousy. Worse than in conventional dating imo.
In what way Bloomsy? Lamp post pissing "she slept with him but won't sleep with me" type (applicable the other way of course but less likely). "
More the behind the scenes stuff, which does spill onto Forum. |
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By *yeguy123Man
over a year ago
Kidderminster |
The number of "straight" guys who want sex with other men. |
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"The jealousy. Worse than in conventional dating imo.
In what way Bloomsy? Lamp post pissing "she slept with him but won't sleep with me" type (applicable the other way of course but less likely).
More the behind the scenes stuff, which does spill onto Forum. "
Ah, Roger that Ghostrider. Getcha |
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"The jealousy. Worse than in conventional dating imo.
In what way Bloomsy? Lamp post pissing "she slept with him but won't sleep with me" type (applicable the other way of course but less likely).
More the behind the scenes stuff, which does spill onto Forum. "
I hate it when it spills into the forums and then the Chinese whispers start and it gives credence to the "Clique" claims that go around. Absolute secondary school bullshit. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Also how fucking socially inept some people are - especially single men. The complete lack of self awareness and an overestimation of self.
Taking shite pictures, endless pics of their ugly cocks and then wondering why women aren’t falling over themselves to get in touch."
I totally agree I been looking for social meet for months carnt seem to get one on here no more it's change on here |
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The amount of men trying to fuck me who wouldn't look twice at me "in the wild" 😂
The amount of vagina close ups on people's profiles
How many men don't know how to take a decent photo
How small the swing/club scene is. Most people have fucked someone who knows someone else you've fucked etc etc and it can get a bit messy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The number of "straight" guys who want sex with other men."
🤣🤣
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"WHEN THEY FLIPPED ORDER - THE PUBLIC VIDEOS APPEARED ABOVE PUBLIC PHOTOS. 🤬😡
WTF!! Why they messin’
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Fuck sake. I honestly thought it was me that got that wrong. That cucumber and vag vid cannot be unseen |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The amount of men trying to fuck me who wouldn't look twice at me "in the wild" 😂
The amount of vagina close ups on people's profiles
How many men don't know how to take a decent photo
How small the swing/club scene is. Most people have fucked someone who knows someone else you've fucked etc etc and it can get a bit messy "
🤣 thats why I don't attend clubs Much no more it's same people |
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How intolerant and judgemental quite a lot of swingers are for such a marginalised lifestyle they lead
How much poly people, kinky people and swingers can judge eachother. |
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How much effort I would need to put into my profile to gain any sort of attention to it. Especially the quality of photos which weren't necessarily just dick pics, but actually well taken photos. |
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The abuse I would get for saying “no thanks” |
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How small the swing/club scene is. Most people have fucked someone who knows someone else you've fucked etc etc and it can get a bit messy "
This is such a good one |
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"The abuse I would get for saying “no thanks” "
Probably pales into insignificance the amount of abuse you get when you ignore! |
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It still amazes me how many people are here happily playing away from home, I never quite get past the surprise of that. It has actually jaded me a lot regarding relationships; while I'm not looking to date anyway, I'd definitely think about it extra hard if I was. So many folk apparently will cheat instead of just leaving, or communicating better. I'm not sure how well I will ever trust someone again because of fab.
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"The amount of men trying to fuck me who wouldn't look twice at me "in the wild" 😂
The amount of vagina close ups on people's profiles
How many men don't know how to take a decent photo
How small the swing/club scene is. Most people have fucked someone who knows someone else you've fucked etc etc and it can get a bit messy 🤣 thats why I don't attend clubs Much no more it's same people "
This is why I try to vary the clubs/events is attend as it can get very cliquey and you get regulars who just like having sex with the same people. I like variety and no drama |
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"How intolerant and judgemental quite a lot of swingers are for such a marginalised lifestyle they lead
How much poly people, kinky people and swingers can judge eachother. "
...not just each other but anyone that doesn't fit in their circle of moral stance. But woe betide anyone outside that circle judge them for theirs. That, "how dare they critique my lifestyle choices, they don't know me" contradiction. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The abuse I would get for saying “no thanks” "
I've never understood the abuse really. Is it hurt egos? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Oh and one thing that was an eye opener is the amount of people on here without their wives or husbands knowing about it. Made me feel uneasy actually. |
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How small the swing/club scene is. Most people have fucked someone who knows someone else you've fucked etc etc and it can get a bit messy
This is such a good one"
This is a good one…..once you start looking through the veris it’s like six degrees of separation . It’s a busy but quite a small scene in Wales xx 😄 |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The amount of men trying to fuck me who wouldn't look twice at me "in the wild" 😂
The amount of vagina close ups on people's profiles
How many men don't know how to take a decent photo
How small the swing/club scene is. Most people have fucked someone who knows someone else you've fucked etc etc and it can get a bit messy 🤣 thats why I don't attend clubs Much no more it's same people
This is why I try to vary the clubs/events is attend as it can get very cliquey and you get regulars who just like having sex with the same people. I like variety and no drama "
I not been for a year |
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How small the swing/club scene is. Most people have fucked someone who knows someone else you've fucked etc etc and it can get a bit messy
This is such a good one
This is a good one…..once you start looking through the veris it’s like six degrees of separation . It’s a busy but quite a small scene in Wales xx 😄"
Same could be said for the forums 👀 |
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"How intolerant and judgemental quite a lot of swingers are for such a marginalised lifestyle they lead
How much poly people, kinky people and swingers can judge eachother.
...not just each other but anyone that doesn't fit in their circle of moral stance. But woe betide anyone outside that circle judge them for theirs. That, "how dare they critique my lifestyle choices, they don't know me" contradiction. "
100%! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The amount of people who think I’m not real!🤣 |
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How small the swing/club scene is. Most people have fucked someone who knows someone else you've fucked etc etc and it can get a bit messy
This is such a good one
This is a good one…..once you start looking through the veris it’s like six degrees of separation . It’s a busy but quite a small scene in Wales xx 😄
Same could be said for the forums 👀"
Since using them more regularly I have noticed a bit of this it's like an interesting social experiment |
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How small the swing/club scene is. Most people have fucked someone who knows someone else you've fucked etc etc and it can get a bit messy
This is such a good one
This is a good one…..once you start looking through the veris it’s like six degrees of separation . It’s a busy but quite a small scene in Wales xx 😄"
And given the high degree of inbreeding down in West Englandshire you are very likely to end up shagging your cousin, who is also your parent and possibly sibling. If that actually works out. Anyway. 1 degree of separation.
*I'll grab my helmet and shield. Give me 2 minutes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How small the swing/club scene is. Most people have fucked someone who knows someone else you've fucked etc etc and it can get a bit messy
This is such a good one
This is a good one…..once you start looking through the veris it’s like six degrees of separation . It’s a busy but quite a small scene in Wales xx 😄
And given the high degree of inbreeding down in West Englandshire you are very likely to end up shagging your cousin, who is also your parent and possibly sibling. If that actually works out. Anyway. 1 degree of separation.
*I'll grab my helmet and shield. Give me 2 minutes."
Omg😭🤣🤣 |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That there is not many 2 men profiles no more 😒 there used to be loads of them that's why I joined because I love having two men at same time bring back MM 🤣 |
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How small the swing/club scene is. Most people have fucked someone who knows someone else you've fucked etc etc and it can get a bit messy
This is such a good one
This is a good one…..once you start looking through the veris it’s like six degrees of separation . It’s a busy but quite a small scene in Wales xx 😄
Same could be said for the forums 👀
Since using them more regularly I have noticed a bit of this it's like an interesting social experiment "
I haven’t noticed too much yet but I’m new(ish) to the forums xx 😄 |
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Straight doesn’t mean straight. |
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"The abuse I would get for saying “no thanks”
I've never understood the abuse really. Is it hurt egos? "
I think it’s more of the fact…cause you’re on here, they think you are “game” with whoever |
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Actions and Words are often contradictory. |
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"The amount of people who think I’m not real!🤣 "
That’s kind of fab law, if you don’t find a profile attractive, you’re fake.
The mr |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The amount of people who think I’m not real!🤣
That’s kind of fab law, if you don’t find a profile attractive, you’re fake.
The mr "
Or if you get ignored, it must be because the account isn't real |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The abuse I would get for saying “no thanks”
I've never understood the abuse really. Is it hurt egos?
I think it’s more of the fact…cause you’re on here, they think you are “game” with whoever "
Ahhhh I've gotcha. Well nothing wrong with having standards I say. If some can't understand that, then that's on them |
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How small the swing/club scene is. Most people have fucked someone who knows someone else you've fucked etc etc and it can get a bit messy
This is such a good one
This is a good one…..once you start looking through the veris it’s like six degrees of separation . It’s a busy but quite a small scene in Wales xx 😄"
Even in London and the South east it's surprisingly small so can only imagine |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh and one thing that was an eye opener is the amount of people on here without their wives or husbands knowing about it. Made me feel uneasy actually. "
I bet your wife's not thrilled either!
(*joke) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Oh and one thing that was an eye opener is the amount of people on here without their wives or husbands knowing about it. Made me feel uneasy actually.
I bet your wife's not thrilled either!
(*joke)"
Told you not to tell anyone
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh and one thing that was an eye opener is the amount of people on here without their wives or husbands knowing about it. Made me feel uneasy actually.
I bet your wife's not thrilled either!
(*joke)
Told you not to tell anyone
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"Actions and Words are often contradictory."
This  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Actions and Words are often contradictory.
This "
Yes, and actions are pretty much all that counts. |
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The amount of men who think you will just meet now because they are in the area |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How many platonic friends I would make.
There’s every chance I’m not doing this fab thing correctly 🤣 |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not understanding why British men are voyers but never take it further
A friend and I were discussing this the other day as it seems there are many more no-shows now than in the past… or chats that never follow through to meeting.
It seems that many are just after the wankety-wank, hahaha we exploded in fits of laughter because “wank” is such a funny word for me. Once the wank is done, they disappear. "
Equally so there are many women that don’t actually meet I would say at least 50%. So many profiles where the last veri was well over a year ago gets my alarm bells ringing unless they are returning and finally the ladies who like to give one word answers and then wonder why us guys quickly go off the boil. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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By *vaRoseWoman
over a year ago
Ankh-Morpork |
The sheer entitlement and presumption that if I’m online I must be gagging for a quick fuck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not understanding why British men are voyers but never take it further
A friend and I were discussing this the other day as it seems there are many more no-shows now than in the past… or chats that never follow through to meeting.
It seems that many are just after the wankety-wank, hahaha we exploded in fits of laughter because “wank” is such a funny word for me. Once the wank is done, they disappear.
Equally so there are many women that don’t actually meet I would say at least 50%. So many profiles where the last veri was well over a year ago gets my alarm bells ringing unless they are returning and finally the ladies who like to give one word answers and then wonder why us guys quickly go off the boil. "
I have met men and asked them not to do veris because I don't want what I get upto on here all time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It took me a bit of getting used to being blocked by those you've never interacted with.
It also took a bit of getting used to how many don't look like their pictures |
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Curvy is because there isn’t an option for fat (speaking for myself not anyone else) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It took me a bit of getting used to being blocked by those you've never interacted with.
It also took a bit of getting used to how many don't look like their pictures "
I'm still blocked by people I've never interacted with. I don't get it. But each to their own I guess |
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"It took me a bit of getting used to being blocked by those you've never interacted with.
It also took a bit of getting used to how many don't look like their pictures
I'm still blocked by people I've never interacted with. I don't get it. But each to their own I guess "
I've had that before as well. Then I green arrow then and go "oh yeah, that's probably why" 🤷♂️ |
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I discovered after looking at people's profiles to have a nosey when the "forum awards" thread was going that I'm blocked by an alarming number of people I have never interacted with 😅 that was quite funny! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being ghosted, or the long chats that seem to be going well, just to be blocked out of the blue with no clue as to why. I'd rather be told to foxtrot Oscar than just ghosted. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I discovered after looking at people's profiles to have a nosey when the "forum awards" thread was going that I'm blocked by an alarming number of people I have never interacted with 😅 that was quite funny! "
Me too!!! |
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The amount of people that ask to meet me solo…….in the first message, when I don’t even know them and our bio says I don’t meet solo! Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It took me a bit of getting used to being blocked by those you've never interacted with.
It also took a bit of getting used to how many don't look like their pictures
I'm still blocked by people I've never interacted with. I don't get it. But each to their own I guess
I've had that before as well. Then I green arrow then and go "oh yeah, that's probably why" 🤷♂️"
It's just annoying having to log into your couples account to see their pictures 🤷♂️ |
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"It took me a bit of getting used to being blocked by those you've never interacted with.
It also took a bit of getting used to how many don't look like their pictures
I'm still blocked by people I've never interacted with. I don't get it. But each to their own I guess
I've had that before as well. Then I green arrow then and go "oh yeah, that's probably why" 🤷♂️
It's just annoying having to log into your couples account to see their pictures 🤷♂️"
That's a workaround about to set off a lot of paranoia 😂 |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The amount of people that ask to meet me solo…….in the first message, when I don’t even know them and our bio says I don’t meet solo! Xx "
Just goes to show most people don't read bios |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I discovered after looking at people's profiles to have a nosey when the "forum awards" thread was going that I'm blocked by an alarming number of people I have never interacted with 😅 that was quite funny! "
Why would anyone block you though. That is just bizarre |
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By *oughmanMan
over a year ago
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"That there lot of Men that whinge and men are very bitchy
Does seem like there are a lot of guys lately on the forums moaning because they can't get meets "
Not realising that that they can't get meets because they're whiny bitches. It's like they've never been told no before. |
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"I discovered after looking at people's profiles to have a nosey when the "forum awards" thread was going that I'm blocked by an alarming number of people I have never interacted with 😅 that was quite funny!
Why would anyone block you though. That is just bizarre "
Fuck knows, I'm hardly controversial. Maybe they just think I'm munting and don't want to look at me it was a mix of men, women and couples as well. Odd 🤷🏻♀️ |
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Probably the replies you get for saying no, or not replying.
I remember a man saying I was obviously frigid for turning him down, obvs I wasn't allowed to not find him attractive.
Now if I say no ta, I block. Same with the slightest hint of pushiness. |
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By *oughmanMan
over a year ago
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"It still amazes me how many people are here happily playing away from home, I never quite get past the surprise of that. It has actually jaded me a lot regarding relationships; while I'm not looking to date anyway, I'd definitely think about it extra hard if I was. So many folk apparently will cheat instead of just leaving, or communicating better. I'm not sure how well I will ever trust someone again because of fab.
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Well I've got to admit that made me a bit sad to hear about. But I understand how trust can a very fragile thing. It may not have been fab but, yeah do understand it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The amount of men trying to fuck me who wouldn't look twice at me "in the wild" 😂
The amount of vagina close ups on people's profiles
How many men don't know how to take a decent photo
How small the swing/club scene is. Most people have fucked someone who knows someone else you've fucked etc etc and it can get a bit messy "
Not sure why you’d think that there’s absolutely nothing wrong with the way you look (mr) and no I’m not saying that because I want to fuck you .we’re not interested in meeting single females |
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"Not sure why you’d think that there’s absolutely nothing wrong with the way you look (mr) and no I’m not saying that because I want to fuck you .we’re not interested in meeting single females "
Just my experience. But thank you, that's kind of you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How needy you men can be! |
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How to Fab as an added extra to and not an essential part of my life. |
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For us it was the amount of people that seem to completely ignore Jack on messages or talk to us like I'm on here as a single woman. The amount of people that don't read our profile shocked us at first, but by far it was the amount of people that seem so against bi men and the random abuse and ignorance we come across is staggering still to this day in that regard.
But it's not all doom and gloom that's for sure! |
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"How needy you men can be! "
How needy you women can be! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The plethora of seemingly mentally unstable duplicitous people ! |
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By *ilbzMan
over a year ago
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The whole message thing, not read and deleted. Then i got a female friend to create an account…..wow, the ‘ink’ wasn’t even dry and the messages poured in. I do feel for the lovely ladies on fab. I make a point of being polite, yeah it might make the conversation a bit dry to start with and i have no doubt some just delete the messages because they are too ‘nice’, but i see no point in being rude or blunt. I don’t send D pics unless asked. |
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I hadn't realised when I first started using the forums that it's pretty much the same 30-50-100 people mostly.
So (I'm not very observant!) I didn't notice people's names kept reappearing until very recently. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How needy you men can be!
How needy you women can be!"
Just sssssh and bring your penis here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you read “our” profile, its very clear its written from a female perspective, and a female author.
Yet the amount of messages i get whereby men lead with “your wife is” or telling him what they would like to do to me is mind boggling.
Like I’m a possession to be loaned out. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How needy you men can be! "
Sorry 😞 |
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"The amount of desperate men who would fuck anything and delusional women who put "curvy" as there body type 🤣."
Had to put curvy as there isn't a fat or chubby option |
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"Just sssssh and bring your penis here. "
Help! I’m being objectified!
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(Okay. 🤐🍆) |
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Also forgot, the amount of people who message /wink from 200+ miles away. |
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Definitely the amount of people playing without permission(guys in my experience but just due to my preference).
I've learned to spot them better over my time here but surprises me the risk they are taking especially with public pics and sharing face pics when they don't know if that person knows their unknowing partner |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Also forgot, the amount of people who message /wink from 200+ miles away. "
I had a couple message me from Toronto once. I thought. I will just get in my private jet shall I and fly over to Canada 😂 |
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By *sWyldWoman
over a year ago
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An alarming number of people don't check the background of their photos |
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"The amount of desperate men who would fuck anything and delusional women who put "curvy" as there body type 🤣.
Had to put curvy as there isn't a fat or chubby option "
I had to say that to someone the other day x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's looks that get you laid on Fab. Most of what people say about 'chemistry' or 'personality' can be safely ignored, which took me a while to figure out.🤦♂️ |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's looks that get you laid on Fab. Most of what people say about 'chemistry' or 'personality' can be safely ignored, which took me a while to figure out.🤦♂️"
I see physical attraction and chemistry/personality as a bit like the yin and the yang on here. It can't work without the other. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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The level of expectancy some have simply because they spent a short while setting up an online profile on the Internet, as if that was all that was needed to find someone willing to have sex with them.
That's not something that took me a while to get used to. I never will. 🤷♂️ |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The level of expectancy some have simply because they spent a short while setting up an online profile on the Internet, as if that was all that was needed to find someone willing to have sex with them.
That's not something that took me a while to get used to. I never will. 🤷♂️"
I feel like a lot of people see it as too much effort to get talking to someone or arrange a social beforehand. So they go for the lazy option and expect being on here guarantees them instant sex. Or maybe I'm completely wrong. I don't know. |
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I was amazed how many men of different ages, shapes and sizes dressed up in female underwear. That was a real eye opener to me. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Cheeseville, Somerset |
"The level of expectancy some have simply because they spent a short while setting up an online profile on the Internet, as if that was all that was needed to find someone willing to have sex with them.
That's not something that took me a while to get used to. I never will. 🤷♂️
I feel like a lot of people see it as too much effort to get talking to someone or arrange a social beforehand. So they go for the lazy option and expect being on here guarantees them instant sex. Or maybe I'm completely wrong. I don't know. "
Nope.
I think you're spot on. It's a common misconception for sure. It does tend to be more prominent in a certain gender too.
In 17 years I've never had a 'are you free now/tonight' message from a woman or couple. 🤔
Not one I believed to be a genuine woman or couple anyway.....🤷♂️ |
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By *enaiWoman
over a year ago
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"The amount of desperate men who would fuck anything and delusional women who put "curvy" as there body type 🤣."
Ain't that so.
There's me thinking I'm a chunkier, and I look around and see I'm anorexic in comparison |
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By *enaiWoman
over a year ago
worcester |
The fact there is a *report* button but not a like button tells me how too many people take offence but no way to praise others |
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"The amount of desperate men who would fuck anything and delusional women who put "curvy" as there body type 🤣.
Ain't that so.
There's me thinking I'm a chunkier, and I look around and see I'm anorexic in comparison "
Sorry there's no "fat as fuck" body type option 🤷🏻♀️ |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Cheeseville, Somerset |
"The fact there is a *report* button but not a like button tells me how too many people take offence but no way to praise others"
The report button is there to use when necessary due to abuse or rule breaking, not because someone has simply taken 'offence' to something they've seen/read.
And you can easily message someone with praise or a compliment. It's your opinion that they're worth it though, so not really relevant to other users. If you've actually met them then that's what verifications can be used for of course. |
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By *enaiWoman
over a year ago
worcester |
How most men think their dick pic will be their representative, to illustrate to the world who and what they are.
Yup, it speaks volumes to me about you.
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By *enaiWoman
over a year ago
worcester |
I'm well aware what a report button does.
A public thank you is true praise.
A private one cannot be shared |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I first joined I found it a lot easier to chat to ladies and have that banter, since having an extended break from here, it has changed dramatically which I struggled to get my head round first of all. As the OP said the unread and deleted messages made me think that people were rude and ignorant. But reading the forums made me realise the reason why..
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That people ain’t as genuine as us  |
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"The fact there is a *report* button but not a like button tells me how too many people take offence but no way to praise others"
Most of the judgy forumites need the report button though, it helps them get through their day on Fab |
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By *avexxMan
over a year ago
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with me being a bit of an oldie... never heard of half of the sex words being used on the forums,, thank god for google |
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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago
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Never EVER ask publicly on the forums what something means. Actually I learnt that lesson pretty quickly after asking what a tribute picture was, my inbox 😱 |
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The amount of people who think their blank avatar/profile/action shots/cock pics are the exception, when we say on our profile don’t waste all of our time messaging 😱
How some people present themselves in an attempt to try and meet people 😬
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How confident and ballsy some people come across as on here.... yet when you actually meet them, you find they are quite timid... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Took me a while to get used to others kinks and interests.
Shocked me a bit when I first joined. Now I’ve learned to be less judgemental |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All the tits and pussy lol. Im gay and on here to perv at you fit straight guys haha |
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"How confident and ballsy some people come across as on here.... yet when you actually meet them, you find they are quite timid... "
I feel seen!!!  |
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The amount of time wasters / men pretending to be couples.
The amount of women who suck cock, like anal but who wont meat a bicurious guy
Fab Straight guys... probably get more messages from straight guys asking me to suck thier cocks than i do from women and couples |
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How many people do not have a smidgen of self awareness and are genuinely confused as to why no-one will meet them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How many people do not have a smidgen of self awareness and are genuinely confused as to why no-one will meet them."
You mean cock pics next to sky remote and lynx cans don't work? Where have I been going wrong? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How many people do not have a smidgen of self awareness and are genuinely confused as to why no-one will meet them.
You mean cock pics next to sky remote and lynx cans don't work? Where have I been going wrong? "
Should have used a can of sure ✔️ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How many people do not have a smidgen of self awareness and are genuinely confused as to why no-one will meet them.
You mean cock pics next to sky remote and lynx cans don't work? Where have I been going wrong? "
Ha - speaking of cock pics. I think there’s a strange double standard there.
I’m forever reading that nobody likes to see dick pics, yet when I had it as my profile pic my cock pic had 1000’s of fabs and my inbox is never empty.
So I don’t believe that cock pics are unpopular.
Though I do agree they may be distasteful, which is why I’ve temporarily put mine away. Consider it an experiment.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The term fab straight and spaghetti
Kink!! I was such a vanilla freak when I joined
That Fab has its own geographical map
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Initial Messages of 5 or less words that say the minimal, or those who get abusive or aggressive if you say no!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How confident and ballsy some people come across as on here.... yet when you actually meet them, you find they are quite timid... "
Ohhh this is me! 🙈
Although I do confess to being all talk....I blame it on my alter ego, split personality & introversy 😬 |
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How many rude idiots are on the site |
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Took me a bit to work out that it works better on my smart phone rather than laptop or iPad..
The number of fake ads ... |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"How many people do not have a smidgen of self awareness and are genuinely confused as to why no-one will meet them.
You mean cock pics next to sky remote and lynx cans don't work? Where have I been going wrong?
Ha - speaking of cock pics. I think there’s a strange double standard there.
I’m forever reading that nobody likes to see dick pics, yet when I had it as my profile pic my cock pic had 1000’s of fabs and my inbox is never empty.
So I don’t believe that cock pics are unpopular.
Though I do agree they may be distasteful, which is why I’ve temporarily put mine away. Consider it an experiment. "
Thousands? 🤔 |
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"I think for me it was having my messages at the start unread or deleted, I thought how rude and anti-social are people on here. Obviously I realised and read the FAQS to know what the score is on here.
Also ninja mode, I didn't even know that was a thing until I saw someone mention it on the forums. "
Rejection |
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For me it is the sheer volume of unwanted interest from men and the lack of interest from single ladies - would be nice to be able to block my images from men. Also the fact that for those of us in East Anglia we are forced to use East Midlands for selecting Meets Geo |
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That so many people think this is a dating site. |
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The man-bashing and the misandry, in addition to the lack of male solidarity on here. |
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Rejection only joking, it is what it is |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How mean people can be. Just because I’m not someone’s type or what they are looking for, doesn’t mean I deserve a slagging off before blocking me. |
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I haven't read the other posts yet.
But for me after 19 years the one thing I still can't get used to is people's lack of common sense. Just when you think youve seen it all something else pops up |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How mean people can be. Just because I’m not someone’s type or what they are looking for, doesn’t mean I deserve a slagging off before blocking me."
this !!!!! |
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