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Can a single guy have too many verifications?
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As someone who enjoys going to clubs and knows how many social verifications you can get from a single club night or a group social I don't let the number of verifications put me off someone. I've had people make comments about mine. The content of verifications might be a different issue, depending on what I'm looking for. But numbers don't mean so much. |
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"Recently a single female and also a couple have replied to my first message by saying I’ve too many verifications and it’s put them off talking too me.
Can a single guy have too many?
Thoughts. "
It's all a bit subjective OP.
Whatever you do or say will be not what someone wants.
It's just about filtering down to the right people for you.
People who think you have too many verifications, probably not the right people for you 💜 |
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"I think I’d blink at the number… but then, a lot of people have a lot of social verifications so no I wouldn’t be put off by it
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A lot of mine are from hosting not even played with half of them. I love a good veri makes me feel happy people have had a good time at my event. |
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"I think I’d blink at the number… but then, a lot of people have a lot of social verifications so no I wouldn’t be put off by it
A lot of mine are from hosting not even played with half of them. I love a good veri makes me feel happy people have had a good time at my event. "
verifications make a person feel good… out of my Veris only 1 is someone I’ve been intimate with… the rest are social which is really nice to have 🤷🏻♀️ |
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"I think I’d blink at the number… but then, a lot of people have a lot of social verifications so no I wouldn’t be put off by it
A lot of mine are from hosting not even played with half of them. I love a good veri makes me feel happy people have had a good time at my event.
verifications make a person feel good… out of my Veris only 1 is someone I’ve been intimate with… the rest are social which is really nice to have 🤷🏻♀️"
Sometimes when I have a bad day I read through my veris and it makes me feel better, some meets been out of this world and some not so. |
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"Recently a single female and also a couple have replied to my first message by saying I’ve too many verifications and it’s put them off talking too me.
Can a single guy have too many?
Thoughts. "
If it puts them off, you are not compatible.... plenty of people will see it as a positive. X |
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312 veris... That is a bit excessive for me. But I think one of the posters above said you're a host so that would make sense, I guess. Otherwise we'll be sending all the single guys struggling to get even one veri to a training course with you! Lol. |
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Large numbers of verifications do put me off but only because it shows that the other person is either a lot more into the social scene than I am or is more interested in multiple playmates than I am.
Therefore we wouldn't be compatible. |
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"Recently a single female and also a couple have replied to my first message by saying I’ve too many verifications and it’s put them off talking too me.
Can a single guy have too many?
Thoughts. "
No not at all .... it's just fab and veris dont mean people fuxk etc many are just social meets etc |
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"Recently a single female and also a couple have replied to my first message by saying I’ve too many verifications..."
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You're not compatible is the straightforward answer. In regards to verifications — how many, too few, just about right, none at all...is irrelevant. There is no singleton answer. |
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By *G74Woman 7 weeks ago
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I didn't like veris to begin with as seen them a bit like trip adviser reviews 🙈 "clean and accommodating would defiantly again" or "A bit used and run down but was alright for the night"
But now see them as a compliment, nice to feel like you've made an impression, some of mine are from the same people who I've met several times at clubs though not played with.
I'd be more inclined to meet with a guy who has loads of positive veris even if they are mostly socials than someone with only a few or worse none!! |
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By (user no longer on site) 7 weeks ago
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no ... if anyone is put off by numbers then they fail to understand what swinging is and that the longer your in this lifestyle the more you get ... ive benn swinging with hubs 30+++ years you'd never guess by my profile but then i no longer want veri's as there are sad women and men who like to play cuntish games behind your back..
also no one really knows anyone or how many sexual partners they've had as real swingers dont put all there eggs in one basket hence clubs dogging private parties ..
so no numbers dont matter ///who you been with may do tho again not that anyone will really know .. |
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"I think fab should also show how many years profiles have been active. I’ve been on for around 5 years and been hosting for 3. "
Of someone can't be bothered to take that all into account are they really your type of person
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Every interaction is 50/50. It works or it doesn't. There's no need to read any further into it, I won't change and I wouldn't have the expectation for anyone else to either. Have your own journey and see where it leads  |
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"Every interaction is 50/50. It works or it doesn't. There's no need to read any further into it, I won't change and I wouldn't have the expectation for anyone else to either. Have your own journey and see where it leads "
Totally agree fella |
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It all comes down to what they do for a person. Why they choose to swap them at all. Why they choose to display them.
If you want folk to see you active, liked, busy busy, in demand.
You must like what's said in them or you'd not display them.
Folk like the badges. Ding ding ding winner winner winner 
If you wanted them simply to show that you're a safe verified male and not a threat or to give a taste of your likes then you'd only need to display a small curated selection.
If you want to impress folk with how popular/active/liked/*insert adjective* that you are then show them all and display the total number that you've earned.
It's not verifiable proof of anything. People lie and embellish in them.
Just another filter for those who think differently about their journey.
Equally there's nothing to be trusted from having few/none of them either. People meet and don't veri. People veri and don't display. Having few/none is proof of nothing. |
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"It all comes down to what they do for a person. Why they choose to swap them at all. Why they choose to display them.
If you want folk to see you active, liked, busy busy, in demand.
You must like what's said in them or you'd not display them.
Folk like the badges. Ding ding ding winner winner winner
If you wanted them simply to show that you're a safe verified male and not a threat or to give a taste of your likes then you'd only need to display a small curated selection.
If you want to impress folk with how popular/active/liked/*insert adjective* that you are then show them all and display the total number that you've earned.
It's not verifiable proof of anything. People lie and embellish in them.
Just another filter for those who think differently about their journey.
Equally there's nothing to be trusted from having few/none of them either. People meet and don't veri. People veri and don't display. Having few/none is proof of nothing."
My main reason why I display them is for people to see what people have said about my parties, I’m no sex god and have the body of a Buddha 😂 |
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Which is a slightly different scenario to most.
If it is causing you to miss out on introductions or opportunities to make acquaintances then perhaps making a bigger mention of your social/event hosting on your profile would give them a different context and perspective.
Some might linger longer, some might still skip on. |
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"Recently a single female and also a couple have replied to my first message by saying I’ve too many verifications and it’s put them off talking too me.
Can a single guy have too many?
Thoughts. "
do not display them all maybe just the last 6-10 or spread them out over picking veri's from the last year,,,  |
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"Which is a slightly different scenario to most.
If it is causing you to miss out on introductions or opportunities to make acquaintances then perhaps making a bigger mention of your social/event hosting on your profile would give them a different context and perspective.
My profile does state that I’m a party host, the whole point of this forum thread was to see what other people thought. I’m not arsed what people think and I will continue to show my verifications. I’m proud of my swinging journey so far. Xx
Some might linger longer, some might still skip on."
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"Recently a single female and also a couple have replied to my first message by saying I’ve too many verifications and it’s put them off talking too me.
Can a single guy have too many?
Thoughts. do not display them all maybe just the last 6-10 or spread them out over picking veri's from the last year,,, "
I will continue to show them all I was just curious of what people thought. |
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but then what about the folk that don't leave one?!?