For me, someone making a thing about looking for an fwb is off-putting. I'm not even going to consider the idea of meeting someone again/regularly, when I haven't even met them once.
Getting inundated with men...your username might be giving off the wrong signals.
Also just an FYI, I think you've tried to use emojis on your profile but they don't work so there's a lot of question marks instead. |
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I don't understand threads looking for fwbs.
175 different people could post on a thread like that and say they are looking for one but apart from that may have nothing in common with the other 174.
Finding a fwb is a long process that requires patience and a willingness to get to know someone over a period of time.
That's the only way of determining if you are both compatible and on the same page.
Friends with benefits put as much if not more emphasis on the friendship as they do on the benefits and it's not just a matter of saying on a profile or a thread that you are seeking one.
Too many people give up on the friendship once the benefits aren't there. |
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Ditch your pics and start again, they say alot about you.
Remember this is not Facebook or plenty of fish, it's a sex site, if you are lucky you will find a relationship, but that's not the aim of the site, it's to get fucked, in the nicest possibly way. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 7 weeks ago
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"As a single guy, it’s really difficult to get a reply from any female! 😩😩
Inundated with men, where the women at? 😩"
If you're straight and not interested in men then just use the filter to stop them messaging you. The tool is there. 🤷♂️
And looking for a FWB is like trying to choose lottery numbers. The more you try the more disappointing life will be. Just look to meet people and let anything that may develop do so naturally and organically. You can't force any form of relationship. If its going to happen it will. 🤷♂️ |
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By *andTWoman 7 weeks ago
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"I don't understand threads looking for fwbs.
175 different people could post on a thread like that and say they are looking for one but apart from that may have nothing in common with the other 174.
Finding a fwb is a long process that requires patience and a willingness to get to know someone over a period of time.
That's the only way of determining if you are both compatible and on the same page.
Friends with benefits put as much if not more emphasis on the friendship as they do on the benefits and it's not just a matter of saying on a profile or a thread that you are seeking one.
Too many people give up on the friendship once the benefits aren't there."
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Would love a regular FWB from Blackpool. I'm super genuine and open and chill but it just seems impossible.
They seem to want the gym going 9ft guy with 12 inches. I'm just ya average man with a passion for eating it ha |
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"Would love a regular FWB from Blackpool. I'm super genuine and open and chill but it just seems impossible.
They seem to want the gym going 9ft guy with 12 inches. I'm just ya average man with a passion for eating it ha "
Ngl think you’re overthinking it or look at your approach of how you’re trying to get a fwb |
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It took me ages to trust my fwb before I'd let him do the things he does to me now, it would take me a long time again to trust anyone to do the same, that's because I have really bad trust issues, that will never change but what I have learnt in that time is sometimes taking time to get to know someone is much better than jumping in head first n getting hurt |
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By *jonesMan 6 weeks ago
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"I don't understand threads looking for fwbs.
175 different people could post on a thread like that and say they are looking for one but apart from that may have nothing in common with the other 174.
Finding a fwb is a long process that requires patience and a willingness to get to know someone over a period of time.
That's the only way of determining if you are both compatible and on the same page.
Friends with benefits put as much if not more emphasis on the friendship as they do on the benefits and it's not just a matter of saying on a profile or a thread that you are seeking one.
Too many people give up on the friendship once the benefits aren't there.
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I agree with what you have said tho you have to start somewhere, so posting on a thread and potentially chatting to someone who is looking for similar seems a good start.Thats not to say it's a long process .
I'm looking for a festival partner , someone to do cultural stuff ..and someone to have a laugh with ... |
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"I don't understand threads looking for fwbs.
175 different people could post on a thread like that and say they are looking for one but apart from that may have nothing in common with the other 174.
Finding a fwb is a long process that requires patience and a willingness to get to know someone over a period of time.
That's the only way of determining if you are both compatible and on the same page.
Friends with benefits put as much if not more emphasis on the friendship as they do on the benefits and it's not just a matter of saying on a profile or a thread that you are seeking one.
Too many people give up on the friendship once the benefits aren't there."
Whilst I agree with most of this. There’s a need (for me anyway) to know if someone is potentially open to it. There’s absolutely no point in me meeting someone who is going to be meeting loads of others. Would be a total waste of time. So whilst I agree you can’t meet someone knowing they’ll be a FWB there has to be potential to be. If that makes sense! |
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By *jonesMan 6 weeks ago
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"I don't understand threads looking for fwbs.
175 different people could post on a thread like that and say they are looking for one but apart from that may have nothing in common with the other 174.
Finding a fwb is a long process that requires patience and a willingness to get to know someone over a period of time.
That's the only way of determining if you are both compatible and on the same page.
Friends with benefits put as much if not more emphasis on the friendship as they do on the benefits and it's not just a matter of saying on a profile or a thread that you are seeking one.
Too many people give up on the friendship once the benefits aren't there.
Whilst I agree with most of this. There’s a need (for me anyway) to know if someone is potentially open to it. There’s absolutely no point in me meeting someone who is going to be meeting loads of others. Would be a total waste of time. So whilst I agree you can’t meet someone knowing they’ll be a FWB there has to be potential to be. If that makes sense! "
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"I don't understand threads looking for fwbs.
175 different people could post on a thread like that and say they are looking for one but apart from that may have nothing in common with the other 174.
Finding a fwb is a long process that requires patience and a willingness to get to know someone over a period of time.
That's the only way of determining if you are both compatible and on the same page.
Friends with benefits put as much if not more emphasis on the friendship as they do on the benefits and it's not just a matter of saying on a profile or a thread that you are seeking one.
Too many people give up on the friendship once the benefits aren't there.
Whilst I agree with most of this. There’s a need (for me anyway) to know if someone is potentially open to it. There’s absolutely no point in me meeting someone who is going to be meeting loads of others. Would be a total waste of time. So whilst I agree you can’t meet someone knowing they’ll be a FWB there has to be potential to be. If that makes sense! "
That makes sense and I get the whole potential thing.
The point I was making was that some don't understand the dynamics or the effort required from both parties.
Years ago I met someone through fab and on our very first social meeting she said she had no interest in being exclusive because she had 3 or 4 guys she enjoyed meeting regularly.
That was fine with me because I had no interest in that type of arrangement either especially as she lived 3½ hours away.
A couple of months later after only having met 3 or 4 times she said she wanted exclusivity and when I asked what had changed her mind because I still wasn't interested, she said she hadn't changed anything.
She only wanted me to be exclusive to her and she would continue meeting all the other guys.
I said no for numerous reasons but had to leave fab for a year because of the drama every time I met someone else.
My best friend on fab and I are now fwbs but that took almost 2 years of meeting and finding we were on the same page.
If either of us had suggested a fwb arrangement early on or said we were only interested in that type of agreement it probably would have changed the dynamic and it wouldn't have happened organically or maybe not at all.
Some don't understand the friend part and are only looking to partner up to access clubs and socials or parties so while I agree that you have to start somewhere I still can't see that really happening through a forum thread.
Logistics and a specific mindset play a big part in developing a friendship especially one that includes benefits. |
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By (user no longer on site) 6 weeks ago
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From what I’ve seen on fab lots of people seem to say they want this because they think people want them to say it, when in reality they just want to put their thing in someone else’s thing. But yes, I’d love a fwb!    |
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It looks like some think FWB means exclusive, i don't.
To me a friend is someone you spend time with, drop by to help with something, lend a fiver to even go on holiday with, the benefits, is bed. Than does not mean we do not have others that we bed.
It takes time to develop friendship and mostly the sex has come first. |
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